Volume 1: Theory Chapter 22: Self-Confidence and Low Self-Esteem 1
Before recounting the main text of this chapter, the author still wants to tell readers a story: there is a boy who is very, very good, and incomparably good, and Long Aotian and Tom Su have to bow down to him when they see him; There is a girl, she is very, very beautiful (I don't know why when talking about girls, I have to talk about appearance first), and she is incredibly beautiful, so beautiful that she can't describe it in words.
Then, the storyline is very simple, that is, this boy loves this girl, and this girl also loves this boy, and if this boy can be a little brave and take the initiative a little bit, this girl will throw himself into his arms. However, this boy has a serious stubborn and unreasonable inferiority, he has always thought that he is absolutely unworthy of that girl, he has always thought that he must not look at that girl, and he can't even think about that girl - even for a nanosecond.
When facing the girl who is like a beautiful girl, this boy does not have the slightest confidence, he thinks that he has no hope of winning the favor of the other party, although the other party has made a clear hint to him, he still can't believe that he can hold the beauty.
As a result, he has been so seriously inferior, and it is a vicious circle of inferiority, even if he lowers his goal and chases other girls - in fact, it is not worthy of his girls, but he can't catch up. As a result, he further inferiority to the point of thinking that he would never be liked by a girl, and in the end, he even had the desire to be a pure-hearted boy who would never have contact with girls.
After the story is finished, readers may have to ask, what do the "very good boys", "very beautiful girls" and "other girls" represent in this story?
In this story: 'Very good boys' represent Chinese football, 'Very Beautiful Girls' represent 'supreme football prowess', or 'the level of football empire', or 'football strength that can compete with the whole of Europe and America', and 'Other Girls' represents 'Chinese football rushing out of Asia'.
In fact, Chinese football can be 'able to compete with the whole of Europe and America', but almost no one in the Chinese football circle - including the administrative department, the national football association, football experts, national fans, and non-fans dare to think this way (I hope the author is not the only one who thinks so), just like the 'very good boy' in the story, he can't think about the 'very beautiful girl', but he doesn't know that the 'very beautiful girl' is favored by him.
The 'very good boy' in the story, he didn't dare to think that he could get the favor of the 'very beautiful girl', so he retreated to the second, he pursued 'other girls', but he couldn't catch up, which is equivalent to Chinese football, taking 'rushing out of Asia' as the goal, but he always can't rush out.
Readers and friends may say that Chinese football can't even rush out of Asia, you let Chinese football go to the ambition of a bigger goal, you let Chinese football go to the ambition to be able to compete with the whole of Europe and America, isn't that a fool's dream?
You must know that I can't believe that I can compete with the whole of Europe and America, and only dare to take rushing out of Asia as the goal, which is the fundamental reason why Chinese football can't break out of Asia.
In fact, in real life, we can often encounter the same example, for example, the very good Xiao Ming has a crush on the school flower, and the school flower also has a crush on the very good Xiao Ming, but Xiao Ming has extremely low self-esteem and extreme lack of self-confidence, he can't believe that the school flower can look at himself, he can't believe that his strength is enough for him to get the favor of the school flower, so Xiao Ming retreated to the second, he went to pursue the class flower, but the class flower didn't even look at him.
At this time, if you ask Xiao Ming, "Xiao Ming, why don't you chase the school flower?"
Xiao Ming will definitely look at you like a fool: "I can't catch up with the class flower, you let me chase the school flower?" Don't you think that's hilarious! Don't you think you're stupid? You know, between the class flower and the school flower, there is still a yard flower and a department flower! ”
Xiao Ming and Chinese football both made the same mistake - setting goals that were far below their own potential strength. Xiao Ming was originally able to hold hands with the school flower, as long as he mustered up the courage to be able to hug the beauty, but he was extremely inferior, he couldn't believe that he had the strength to catch up with the school flower, his tragedy was that he had no self-confidence, that is, he did not recognize his potential strength.
For a person or a team, he or they must recognize their true potential strength and set goals that match their potential strength, and most of the time, human beings should 'take the lead' to pursue goals that match their potential strength, rather than lowering them.
Some people or some teams always think like this - 'I can't do it, I can't do it, I'm weak, I'm weak, I'm weak, I'm weak, so, somewhere, I'd better lower my goals, and when I lower my goals, I should be able to succeed more easily'. However, in fact, the result of lowering the goal is often not success, but complete failure, and this kind of example is too many in human history and real life to be countless, and Chinese football is a living example.
And why should a person, a team, or a collective, or a country, when doing certain things, set goals that do not match their potential strength? Of course, we're talking about lowering the target.
The reason is that it is not confident enough in itself, or it is caused by the inferiority complex, so to speak, the reason why Chinese football is so degenerate, the fundamental reason, the ultimate reason, and the substantive reason, there are only two words - 'inferiority', add a few more words, that is, 'national inferiority mentality', or 'collective unconscious inferiority mentality of private capital'.
Perhaps readers should ask again: "The root, ultimate and substantive reasons for the degeneration of Chinese football are actually the 'national inferiority mentality'?" Is the author making too much of a fuss? Isn't it just a football, as for rising to the level of 'collective unconscious national inferiority mentality'? ”
In fact, it is indeed the 'collective unconscious national inferiority mentality' that has fundamentally led to the degeneration of Chinese football. In the previous ten chapters, the author has repeatedly emphasized that the key reason for the degeneration of Chinese football is the low number of professional teams and the low demand for professional players, but this is only the "key reason" of Chinese football's degeneration, not the "root cause".
So, what's the difference between these two reasons?
Readers can think like this - if the key reason for the degeneration of Chinese football is the low number of professional teams and the demand for professional players, then what is the reason for the 'low number of professional teams and professional players in China'?
As we all know, China is a 'large cultural circle' whose geographical strength can be compared with the whole of Europe or Latin America, or China is a 'continent-level country', in terms of geographical strength, China alone can compete with the whole of Europe, and in terms of population size, China is roughly the same as the whole of Europe and America, so why does China only regard itself as the size of an ordinary country in Europe when developing football? Why does China not dare to see itself as about the same size as Europe and the United States when developing football? Britain, France, Germany, Italy, Spain, Japan, South Korea and Argentina are all just the equivalent of China's provinces, but why don't we dare to let our provinces imitate these countries?
Even if Europe aside, there is an example of Brazil to learn from the development of football, and if we learn from Brazil's state league model and develop a provincial league model in China, then at least the number of professional teams and the demand for professional players in China can be greatly increased. However, when developing football, China also does not dare to see itself as roughly the same size as Brazil, we are only very timid to see ourselves as the size of a small country in Europe or South America, and the vast majority of Chinese do not think that China can match a small country in Europe and the United States in terms of football.
Although China's economic power has made tremendous progress in recent decades, the vast majority of people in China today – whether fans or non-fans – think so: to develop the economy, one Chinese can top ten Brazilians or ten Argentines; But when it comes to developing football, a Brazilian or an Argentine can top at least a thousand Chinese.
That is to say, in the eyes of the vast majority of Chinese, although China has a population of 1.4 billion, in football, China is only equivalent to 1.4 million people, and may even have an excessive population of 1.4 million, and many people believe that in football, China is only equivalent to 140,000 people.
This is an extremely serious national inferiority complex.
Of course, readers may want to say - 'Our Chinese national team can't even win the national team of Syria in the midst of war, author, you make us confident, where do we get our confidence?' When it comes to football, we can only feel inferior! ’
In fact, this is a typical 'vicious circle' of national inferiority mentality.
If you want to discuss the relationship between Chinese football and national inferiority mentality, or start with modern history, readers may think that when the author discusses football, he will talk about history, geography, culture, economy, etc., etc., isn't this a bit off?
In fact, readers can think about why football has become the number one sport in the world (the most popular football in the United States can be considered a variant of football)? Why does football attract the most fans and followers? Why can football create such a large industry? Why does football make so many people crazy? Why is football considered a sport that transcends life and death?
Isn't it because football is also a culture? Isn't it because football is most closely linked to history, geography, culture and economy?
Therefore, if you want to see the problems of football, you must look at the problems of history, geography, culture and economy.