I'm almost forgetting that this is the postscript to the first chapter, and this one won't talk about my life, but my classmates' problem - puppy love. It's very good for two classmates who study well to be together, but I've always had some prejudice against early love, and I don't know if they're good or bad together?

(Preferences and exceptions are given to Xiao Zhang) This is the woman's QQ signature, which can be seen not to be perfunctory, but public. I guess something interesting is going to happen after that, hehehe.

Foreword: Puppy love is a very sensitive topic, and hardly—at least I haven't seen it—any middle school student would dare to publish an argumentative essay about puppy love in a magazine or on a formal essay website.

The author advocates one sentence: I want to subvert everything that is worth subverting. Therefore, I would like to be the first or the first batch of middle school students to write about this topic!

I've wanted to write about early love for a long time, but this topic is too sensitive, considering that there are many little brothers and sisters in the blue sky, so I haven't dared to write about it. And the reason why I made such a determination to write this time was because I heard a friend say: "If a high school student doesn't talk about love, his life is incomplete." ”

The author is particularly touched by this sentence, because in another year, the author may become one of the incomplete students. Of course, the reason why the author did not have that opportunity was not because of his parents' permission. My parents are teachers, and they are very open-minded, and my mother and I have talked about this sensitive topic many times, and in the end, we came to the conclusion that as long as it does not affect the body and the future, there is no need to object to high school love.

Naturally, this also involves a high school love that affects learning and physical problems. According to the views of many parents now, early love is equivalent to a decline in grades and an impact on the body. There is an interesting reasoning process here, all parents agree that once you fall in love, you have less energy allocated to study, and the nerves are prone to be in a state of excitement, affecting rest and thus affecting the body. Therefore, in order for children to have a good life in the future, parents and teachers have joined forces to prohibit early love. As a result, in our code of conduct for middle school students, there is a rule: it is forbidden for male and female classmates to have too close a relationship, and it is forbidden to fall in love!

I admit that there are cases of this kind of thing, and it is definitely not in the minority. But aren't there any examples of puppy love promoting grades around us? Of course! And there are not a few! I've seen people cite this argument in other forums, but immediately someone who claims to be a teacher came out to refute it, thinking that the post is a partial generalization! But on the other hand, parents and teachers say that all early love should be forbidden from the adverse effects of early love, so is this also a partial generalization?

In addition, the school divides the concept of puppy love very strangely. This can be seen from the code of conduct for middle school students: the school defines male and female classmates as early love if they are too close! This involves the understanding of the relationship between men and women - is it that if you are too close, you must be in early love, and if you are in too close love, you must be in too close love? This answer is no, there are many male and female classmates who have a very good relationship and have a very close relationship, but they do not have early love; And there are many couples (in the author's opinion, it can be called that) who have not even held hands, but they are still in early love. Therefore, it would be a mistake to equate the two. Moreover, by extension, if you want the grades of boys and girls to be unaffected, you must prohibit boys and girls from having very good friends of the opposite sex. We are all sixteen or seventeen-year-old teenagers, so according to this method, do we all want to become monks and nuns in the future?

Moreover, it is very common in China for schools to openly prohibit students' early love, but abroad, at least in the United States, our foreign teachers have said that schools do not promote, but they will not openly write words such as "prohibit men and women from interacting too closely, and prohibit early love" in school rules.

In addition to the differences between Chinese and Western cultural values, there is also our parents' understanding of the purpose of children's early love.

Chinese parents generally believe that children's early love is a curiosity about adults. It is the search for a sense of excitement, novelty, satisfaction of curiosity and satisfaction of one's own vanity in the interaction with the opposite sex, not real feelings. Parents in the United States, on the other hand, fully respect their children's choices, believing that it is their children's own choices and their own feelings. As a result, the difference between these two understandings has led to two completely different ways of dealing with early love.

I admit that there is indeed that kind of puppy love that arises out of curiosity or vanity.

Last time, I suddenly heard that there were six couples in a class at the same time, and my friend laughed: "Among these six pairs, it would be good if one of them was really in love!" I'm afraid that the others are just showing off! Admittedly, this phenomenon accounts for a large part of the puppy love population.

However, there is also a kind of early love purpose, which is indeed hoping to find someone who can talk to you!

I talked to my mother about the purpose of early love, and at first my mother was very puzzled, we have so many relatives and friends, why do we have early love to find someone who can be considerate. Later, after analysis, my mother smiled: we are in a young and vigorous age, strong and rebellious. The difference between our elders and our own values (we commonly refer to it as the "generation gap") leads us to be reluctant to talk to our elders and think that they cannot understand our feelings. And there are many times when we don't want to show our vulnerable side in front of our friends, so there are many things that we don't want to talk to our friends about. Therefore, we need someone between relatives and friends to vent our hearts, then often a lover is often the best choice. In this way, the two will get to know each other more and more, and their relationship will further develop, and it will become early love. There are not a few early loves developed for this purpose, at least what the author has seen!

Of course, someone once used the example of Ohan Pamuk to refute the author: a person, if he does not have enough financial ability to pay for love, then, even if he falls in love at the age of fifty, it is still early love! In other words, whether you are in love or not depends not on whether you love or not, but whether you have the ability to love.

For this point of view, the author is reluctant to say anything here, because the so-called love here is very different from the meaning of love among our high school students, or in other words, it is different in nature. So, the author omitted to talk about it!

I once saw the TV series "Eighteen-Year-Old Sky" and saw the male protagonist - a high school teacher - said a particularly classic sentence: "Early love is the most beautiful memory in a lifetime, what's wrong?" ”

Puppy love is indeed the most beautiful memory in a person's life. In the author's opinion, although early love should not be promoted, it should not be rejected either. All parents and teachers should be tolerant and understanding of the hazy "love" between boys and girls - of course, we must return to the premise that my mother said - this "love" must not affect our bodies and our future!

Postscript: The author is very embarrassed, I have never had a young love, but I am crooked here. However, as the saying goes: if you haven't eaten pork, haven't you seen a pig run?