It was almost noon when Bao Dai and the two returned to Xiaoxiang Pavilion hand in hand, so they passed that they had lunch and ate with Daiyu in Xiaoxiang Pavilion. Since the marriage, Baoyu has always insisted on getting up and sitting with Daiyu whenever he has the opportunity, which is called to cultivate "husband and wife".

When she said this reason at that time, Daiyu almost didn't laugh, and after Baoyu turned over the "crooked theory" to justify, Daiyu understood the deep meaning of Baoyu's translation, and she was very moved, and she actively cooperated and stopped laughing at him.

After the two finished lunch, they took the tea from Zijuan and sat down to talk. Baoyu said with a smile: "Even my uncle praised my sister for being a talented girl, and my sister must be able to come back with a top prize like my aunt." ”

Daiyu listened to Baoyu praise her, and she was happy in her heart, but she had always known that Baoyu had never been interested in the imperial examination Bagu articles and the like, and suddenly brought up this topic, the smart Daiyu was familiar with Baoyu's old routine, this was just foreshadowing, and the next words were the main topic, so she glanced at Baoyu and said: "Hmph, you must be playing some kind of ghost idea again, come and listen to it, otherwise you will be good-looking." ”

"Ahem, we seem to be really smart, and the little caution in my heart has never escaped my sister's discerning eyes. Since the poetry club was started in the garden, almost all of my sister has taken the lead, but I am willing to bow down to this poem. As the saying goes: 'Poetry and words, words convey the heart, civilization and reason', today I am not ready to ask my sister for advice on the way of debate with you, a talented woman, can my sister be interested? Baoyu sneered.

After hearing this, Daiyu couldn't help but smile and said, "Second brother, don't be presumptuous, don't know, I still don't understand?" Your attainments in poetry are not low, but because you don't like the constraints of the limited title, format, and rhyme of the poems when you start the society, you are just perfunctory every time you start the society.

When I first entered the park, the second brother's poems about the four o'clock events were copied by everyone in Beijing and praised everywhere. However, what kind of argument you are talking about is quite interesting, but let's listen to it. ”

When it came to the main topic, Baoyu pretended to be a serious person: "I heard that the Hanlin Academy will hold a debate on a topic every month. Why don't we follow suit? If you want to talk about the way of poetry, the garden has set up a poetry club; As for the way of debate, we will hold a forum today. Poetry is pleasant, polemics are reasonable, sister, do you think this can be made? ”

Daiyu glanced at Baoyu, and saw Baoyu's evil smile like a big bad wolf seducing the little lamb, and couldn't help but smile and said, "I think you have already made up your mind, right?" After talking a lot of words, I just want to wait for me to drill in. You start by saying a charter and looking at it. ”

was exposed by Daiyu in person, with the cheeky skin that has been practiced for a long time, Baoyu didn't care about it: "I just had a preliminary idea, the poetry club has three presidents and vice presidents to make questions, preside over and comment, this forum also has to be the chairman and deputy head of the three people, comment, it is a polemic, there must be two sides, both sides can each set up a main general, a number of deputy generals, only the number of people is the same, there is no limit to the number of people." Good sister, do you have any good ideas? ”

Daiyu tilted her head and thought for a while: "It sounds a bit interesting, since there are many people on both sides, this division of labor must be clear, the order of appearance must also be considered, and the time limit must be made." But the first lord will show his own views to the main general, and make a discussion, and the duration is limited to two sticks of incense; After that, the two sides will find each other's loopholes to refute and fight, and the duration can be determined according to the situation; Finally, the two sides will make a final summary and discussion, and the duration is limited to one stick of incense. Second brother, do you think this is good? ”

Listening to Daiyu's arrangement, Baoyu couldn't help clapping her hands, stood up, bowed down and said with a smile: "The lady is really talented!" Not only is he meticulous and thoughtful, but the setting of this second melee is a secret way of the art of war, which is really admired by the husband. It's no wonder that even a person like my uncle who is above the top praises the lady for being a talented woman, what a tiger mother without a dog! Daiyu glanced at him helplessly, and said coquettishly: "Bah, bah, all the confusion, is there anyone who compares a woman to a tiger?" ”

Seeing that Daiyu was in high spirits, Baoyu hurriedly hit the railway while it was hot: "It's better to choose a day than to hit the day, or our husband and wife will have a debate today." I've got the title in mind......" Without waiting for Baoyu to finish speaking, Daiyu looked at Baoyu with a smile and interrupted: "Hmph, I'll just say, are you ready to come to fight with me today?" "On weekdays, Baoyu was bullied by Daiyu, but now she is led by Baoyu's nose, Daiyu always has a feeling of being calculated, and she is a little unhappy in her heart.

Baoyu hurriedly took out her usual tiredness, pulled Daiyu's soft pair and explained with a coquettish smile: "The lady is a hundred times smarter than me, and the husband is calculating, and where is the opponent of the lady." The sisters who live in the garden are all ladies who have not yet left the cabinet, how can the topic I prepared be brought to the hall to be debated by the public? I don't care, but the sisters can't accept it for a while, and it's okay for the two of us to talk in private. ”

Hearing Baoyu say this, Daiyu knew that Baoyu had always been a little tricky and eccentric, and thought for a while: "You talk about the topic first, since the topic is yours, then the pros and cons have to be chosen by me, and there are only two people today, so let's make an impromptu debate, okay?" ”

When Baoyu heard Daiyu agree, she was happy in her heart, and said with a smile: "The lady is reasonable. Then please listen to the lady, the topic of our debate today is: 'Marriage should obey the orders of the parents, and the words of the matchmaker?' ', does the lady choose the positive side or the negative side? Sure enough, as Baoyu expected, Daiyu chose the right side.

Daiyu is everyone's best girl, although she doesn't care much about those false courtesies like Baoyu on weekdays, but after all, she is not as rebellious as Baoyu in temperament, and she is not as open as Baoyu, and it is already rare to agree to mess around with Baoyu.

Daiyu said:

"Marriage matters should obey the orders of their parents, and the words of the matchmaker. As early as the pre-Qin period, the Celestial Empire determined that "the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker" were the basis for marriage, as evidenced by a large number of poems in the Book of Songs:

"National Style, Qi Wind, Nanshan" cloud: "What is the hemp? Weigh from its acres. What about taking a wife? Tell your parents".

"Poetry, Wind, Vake" said: "How is Vake? Bandit axe is not restrained. How about taking a wife? Bandit media are not allowed".

There is also "Mencius Tengwen Gongxia" said: "If you don't wait for your parents' orders and the words of matchmakers, you will peep through the holes and follow each other over the wall, and your parents and people will be cheap."

In the subsequent dynasties, it was mostly regulated in the form of law.

For example, the "Da Ming Law" says: "The marriage is presided over by the grandparents, and if the grandparents have no parents, the marriage is from the parent, and if the husband dies and the daughter is suitable, the daughter is married from the mother." ”

It can be seen that "the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker" is an ancient precept, which conforms to the law of etiquette and has its own rationality.

First, most of the women who have not left the cabinet are raised in the boudoir and rarely have contact with men.

Second, most men and women of appropriate age are not yet mentally mature and have little experience, so it is difficult to distinguish between good and good.

Third, pity the hearts of parents all over the world, which parents don't want their children to have a good marriage? Parents are experienced and self-considerate.

Fourth, since ancient times, benevolence, righteousness, etiquette and filial piety have been said: children should obey the arrangements of their parents, which is filial piety.

To sum up, marriage should obey the orders of parents and matchmakers, which is in line with the law of etiquette and conforms to the way of heaven.

Baoyu retorted:

"Marriage events must not blindly obey the orders of parents and matchmakers. Since ancient times, how many infatuated men and women have complained, and how many tragedies have been caused by blind obedience to the orders of their parents and the words of matchmakers.

First, since ancient times, there has been no shortage of parents who have taken their children's lifelong events as climbing the dragon and the phoenix and seeking money. The list goes on. Presumably, Zhu Yingtai's father had to marry his daughter to Ma Wencai, and disregarded his daughter's happiness, but he also took a fancy to the wealth of the Ma family! It is not only Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai who suffer from "the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker".

Tang Dynasty Luoyang City woman Bu Feiyan, talent and appearance, according to the order of her parents to marry Henan Fu Gong Cao Shenwu Gongye as a wife, this person has an upright temperament, rough and irritable, only knows how to dance knives and axes, Bu Feiyan's talent to him is completely to the cow to play the piano. Although he was very fond of Bu Feiyan, Bu was still a red apricot out of the wall, and later the matter was revealed and he was whipped to death by Wu Gongye. It can be seen that this system has its own extremely serious drawbacks.

Second, matchmakers make a living as matchmakers, and there is no lack of businessmen's true colors, valuing profit over righteousness, and in order to match marriages, they will say that white is black, and what is wrong is true, how to trust. If there is no matchmaker in the world, there must be a lot less crazy men and women.

Thirdly, this system deprives men and women of the right to choose their beloved. In the sea of love and hatred, how many of them are truly in love with each other, the reason is that parents impose their preferences on their children. Since ancient times, I don't know how many human feelings have been hurt. There are countless examples of this, among which the love tragedy of Lu You and Tang Wan's "thin world, evil human feelings, and easy to fall when the rain sends dusk flowers" is even more well-known.

To sum up, in the event of marriage, we must not blindly obey the orders of our parents, and parents should not force marriage against the will of their children with filial piety, thus causing human tragedy.

After listening to Daiyu's speech, Baoyu couldn't hold back, and couldn't help but point to Daiyu's helpless expression and smiled: "I found that the lady's appearance just now is becoming more and more like Sister Bao's style, opening and closing her mouth to quote scriptures, full of etiquette and shame The way of the saint, I doubt that she said those things, can she convince herself?" "Baoyu's derogatory hairpin coaxing Dai Dafa has been tried and tested repeatedly.

Daiyu glanced at him, and couldn't help but say angrily: "What do you still say, it's not all broken by you!" I finally went out to go crazy with you, and you still have to make fun of people. However, I think what you said is right, and thanks to your aunt's words, otherwise we wouldn't be where we are today. ”

Baoyu couldn't help but smile and leaned over, and said with a smug smile: "In this polemic, does the lady admit defeat?" Finally won our talented girl once, haha-hey, lady, I was wrong, tap ......" "It's out, you, hum! It's just a coincidence. Daiyu glanced at Baoyu and said angrily.