Soba noodles are ready! ”

Ai Fukuhara walked from the kitchen with a large steaming bowl in both hands, and her loafers made a crisp sound on the floor.

"Oh!"

Shingo Harano yelled cooperatively, and he couldn't stop with a smile on his face.

The soba noodles weren't very tasty, at least to his taste.

But thinking that every time she came home late, she would give herself a bowl of hot soba noodles, and Shingo Harano made such a request when she got home.

Pulling out a chair for her, taking the soba noodles she handed over and placing them in front of her, moving the other side dishes on the table, Shigo Harano smiled, "Are you rusty with your cooking skills in Fukuoka these days?" If it's not delicious, I'll just take a bite. ”

"How so!" Fukuhara Aden retorted, "I also cook a lot over there, and although I also have a maid aunt at home to help with the cooking, I still like to cook my own food." After finishing speaking, he pursed his lips to express his dissatisfaction.

"Okay, then I'll try it reluctantly." Shingo Harano deliberately raised his head and changed his tone to a condescending feeling, but how to look at it, he felt that it was a little deliberately contrived and funny.

Ai Fukuhara laughed angrily at his appearance, and gently twisted his waist.

"Ahh

Shingo Harano let out a painful sigh.

"What's wrong?"

"You, you're pinching me." He showed it very strongly.

Ai Fukuhara's expression was a little stunned, and she felt that she didn't use much force, why did it hurt like this: "Ah, but I didn't use my strength at all, how could it hurt so much?" ”

"I don't know, but it hurts, I can't do it." He was still holding his waist as he spoke, trying to leave two drops of sweat on his forehead, showing a lot of pain.

Ai Fukuhara was a little panicked when she saw this situation, and she looked helpless: "Then, what should I do, could it be that I have touched a very sensitive place in you, so should I call an ambulance, I..."

Shigo Harano said with a "painful" expression while inhaling cool air: "You get closer and see how I'm doing here." He said as he lifted his shirt and motioned for her to take a closer look.

Ai Fukuhara thought it was true, and immediately poked his head forward, but who expected that Shingo Harano hugged her at once, and then hugged her neck tightly with his arms, and his face was tightly pressed against Ai Fukuhara's face, revealing a wicked smile after his success.

"Haha, I got caught."

Fukuhara Ai rang for a moment, her head was empty for a while, and she understood, it turned out that Harano Shingo was lying to her, feeling the heat that kept spraying on her face, she was a little panicked, and pushed Harano Shingo's chest with her little hand, but she didn't push.

"You, why are you like this, I thought you were really hurt." She said a little coquettishly, pouting a little resentful.

I don't pretend to be like a little bit of how you get close to me, besides, you believe that my acting skills are so bad.

Shigo Harano smiled, slowly kissed Ai Fukuhara's lips in her somewhat stunned eyes, and then let go of her, and said solemnly after sitting down: "I call this a kiss before meals, and it is a sign of respect for you." ”

Ai Fukuhara, who was still a little shy, burst out laughing when she saw him like this.

If you want to kiss me, kiss me, and kiss the whole thing, you think it's the Middle Ages.

But if you accept it so gladly, doesn't it seem that the girl is too unreserved, she hesitated for a moment and said: "If Shingo wants to kiss me in the future, you have to tell me in advance, otherwise you will be a bad boy." ”

Shingo Harano smiled, bad boy? I'm not a bad boy, I'm a bad guy even worse than a bad boy!

Taking advantage of her inattention, Shingo Harano quickly kissed her a few more times, causing Ai Fukuhara to scream again and again.

The two of them gathered around and ate the food happily, and in the end, Ai Fukuhara didn't eat a few dishes, but kept watching him finish the dishes on the table with resentful eyes.

Shingo Harano felt that today's meal was the most delicious he had in two months, and he played a large amount of food that he had never used before, and swept away everything on the table—not including the cutlery.

After the meal, the two of them washed the dishes together, and the two of them did their own things in an orderly manner, which seemed unusually warm, and a family atmosphere spread.

In the past, Shingo Harano chatted with colleagues at work, and recently chatted with a few friends, talking about the state that often exists in marriages now, and the fact that he used to be a single dog longed for solitarianism - because he couldn't find a girlfriend.

Also when I get home from work, the man habitually lies on the sofa, the woman is busy cooking, after the meal, the man pushes the dishes and chopsticks, continues to play mobile phone games, and the woman begins to clean up the table, clean, wash clothes, and tutor children with homework.... And the woman who is a housewife is not so easy, and the big and small things in the family have to be taken care of all on her body, even if she is tired to half death, it is considered "making a big fuss" and "taking it for granted", and men are just like ancient masters, just go home and wait to serve.

One of the male friends immediately said: "When I get married, I will definitely help my wife with housework." ”

Many others praised him for being a good husband in the future, but I noticed that one of the older brothers frowned slightly, and did not speak from beginning to end.

Later, Shingo Harano asked him about it, and his answer still impressed me to this day:

"Why do you say that helping your wife with housework, isn't it the joint responsibility of husband and wife to do housework? This sentence sounds very good, but in fact, it is not still the wife as a nanny, thinking that the housework should be done by the wife. ”

A really good man who never helps his wife with housework, and there was a very interesting video on the Internet called "I Never Help My Wife".

Inside is a gentleman's statement: I won't help my wife clean the house, because I also live here, and I have to clean up; I won't help my wife cook, because I want to eat, and I should cook it too; I won't help my wife wash the dishes, because I use those dishes too; I won't help my wife take care of the children, because they are also my children, and my role is to be a father.....

He's not "helping anyone with housework", I'm part of the family, and his wife doesn't need help, she needs a partner.

Regardless of the others, Shigo Harano felt that this sentence was a bit harsh.

A professor in an island country once said to a student: If your boyfriend tells you, "If we get married, I will definitely help with the housework", you should not marry him. Because when he regards housework as "help", then he can enjoy all your efforts with peace of mind, and this marriage relationship is doomed to be unequal from the beginning.

In a relationship, if a woman is willing to dip her fingers into the spring water, it is by no means out of the so-called "woman's mission", but out of love.

And if this love is taken "for granted" by men, it is really a sad thing!

Many people know that Ang Lee worked as a "househusband" for 6 years before he became famous, but many people don't know that to this day, he still insists on buying groceries and cooking at home. And he doesn't feel that this is a shame for a great director, on the contrary, doing these things shows that he is part of the family, and it is his way of earning the respect of his family.

"Just because I'm a father and a gentleman doesn't mean that I can naturally get their respect. You still have to earn their respect every day, you have to meet a standard. This is one of the reasons why I don't slack off. ”

Seriously, the wife really gives a lot in the family, and she definitely gives more than you think, and Shingo Harano has heard such words more than once.

If she doesn't work at home, she will take care of a child, not too idle; Don't you just mop the floor and wash the dishes, and it's annoying to chirp crookedly every day; She is so tired from working every day, can't she be considerate?

But is that really the case? In a marriage, women definitely pay no less than men, especially after becoming a mother, let's take a look at the daily life of a "relaxed" housewife.

On the right is a stay-at-home mother with a baby, from 6 a.m. to 1 a.m. the next day, every hour is full; On the left is the child, who is a little older and also busy from 7 a.m. to 12 p.m.

Do you remember that job advertisement?

There is such a job, you need to be on call 24 hours a day, stand most of the time, understand that communication, finance, medicine and even more... Sometimes you have to stay up late, you have no holidays, and you have to be prepared to give up your life... And I don't get a penny of my salary... This profession is called motherhood.

Some people calculate that the time of a full-time wife's unpaid labor in a year is at least 180,000 yuan if converted into an adult salary. If a man is responsible for the work of the house, and a woman works hard in the workplace, her achievements will not be lower than that of men.

But for a woman, the most desperate thing is not to give birth to a child and raise a child to do housework, but when she is tired and half dead, in exchange for a sentence of "hypocrisy", "I can't do this little thing", "It's really useless"!

Shingo Harano is not the so-called pseudo-feminism, in this era of equal human rights, to be honest, the status of wives in the family is really low, of course, excluding those women who are arrogant and spend money more than they make money.

Shirley Sandberg, known as the "No. 1 Strong Woman in Silicon Valley", has a piece of advice for those who are single:

You should find a man who is willing to be your equal. Such men will think that women should be intelligent, assertive, and ambitious; He values fairness and is prepared to share family responsibilities, even more than willingly. Such men do exist.

Housework is just another job, and like any job in this world, there is no distinction between high and low, and respecting housework is the most basic aspect of respecting your partner.

A TV station filmed a documentary "Mirror", in which a child's confession is still unforgettable:

I am a mirror, my face, a reflection of how faithful I am to my parents, both outwardly and inwardly, and how similar I am to them.

Everyone unconsciously repeats their parents' actions as adults. Previously, there was a short video that exploded the circle of friends: the father went to his daughter's house as a guest and found that his daughter didn't stop for a moment: making coffee while talking on the phone, washing clothes, washing vegetables and cooking, cleaning up toys....

The son-in-law sat on the sofa, enjoying the coffee brought by his wife with peace of mind, ignoring his wife's busyness, as if he was accustomed to it.

The father was extremely distressed, but he didn't know what to say, he clearly saw the shadow of himself and his wife from his daughter and son-in-law, and he sat on the sofa like this for many years, ignoring his wife's hard work. In a letter to his daughter, he wrote:

I'm sorry for his dad, I'm sorry for all the dads who did the wrong thing. It's never too late to make amends. I'll take the initiative to do it, do the housework with your mother, I may not be able to become a chef, but at least I can do all the laundry, I was wrong for so many years, it's time to change it.....

As a father, every time you escape, you are unconsciously drawing a heavy line for the happiness of your children.

I admire the mother in "The Boy Says", when her son complained that she asked her to do housework, she didn't say too much truth, but told her love story:

My mother was 37 years old when she got married, why did I get married? It's because of your father, who brushed the bowl at your grandmother's house for three years.

At that time, my mother was not in good health, and until you were 10 years old, my mother never wiped the floor, why? Because Dad is responsible, he does housework. And when your grandma was sick, your father took care of her in the hospital 24 hours a day, which you witnessed with your own eyes. All of this made my mother very moved, and I have no regrets about marrying your father. I hope that in the future, when you find your other half, she will also say in front of everyone, I have no regrets marrying Fu Xuanang.

The purpose of marriage is to find someone who will spend their lives together, to cherish each other, support each other and grow each other, and no one deserves to be wronged.

As a boy, you are very handsome, but if you can soak in the study, get in the kitchen, be responsible, and have responsibilities in the future, then your future must be very happy, and the people who are with you must also be very happy.

In marriage, no one is high or low, no one is destined to do anything, if she is willing to pay and sacrifice for love, I just hope that you, as a husband, will be more concerned and grateful, and less harsh and ignorant.

When she desperately gives birth to a baby, you can try to be by her side, care for her, make the pain no longer difficult instead of taking care of your own business, take her pain for granted, when she gets up in the morning and gets up sleepy to make breakfast,

Can you say, "Wife, go back to sleep, I'll come." ”

Instead of turning over and pretending not to hear or see anything, continue to sleep.

When she mops the floor and does the laundry to take care of the baby, you can share it with her as much as you can, instead of going home and lying on the couch and ignoring it.

When she is emotionally out of control and falls into a depression, you can hug her, care for her, comfort her, and help her come out. Instead of accusing her of hypocrisy and thinking that she was vexatious;

But when she becomes a mother, you can take on the responsibilities of being a father and a husband.

Please don't live up to this love and expectation, and don't kidnap a relationship in the name of "helping".

Shingo Harano looked sideways at Ai Fukuhara, who was trying to deal with the dishes and chopsticks, and immediately felt that such a girl was worthy of his own consideration and respect in life and other aspects, because she would be his wife.