[Please keep in mind the domain name of this site" ", or search in Baidu: Sanlian Literature Network] Sitting in front of a stone tablet, Fang Jie was repairing the durability of the blood knife while thinking about and sorting out his current dating mentality.

Yes, it's the mentality of making friends rather than any upgrade route, and it's not a matter of choosing martial arts.

Maybe this is not worth thinking about and sorting out for ordinary people at all, just go with the flow, why waste time and energy thinking about these things?

But for Fang Jie, for an extreme realist, a person who does not want to suffer losses and never trusts others first, this is a very difficult problem that violates some of his principles, although he does not reject being with "friends" now, but he always feels a little awkward and a little apprehensive in his heart, so he has to calm down and think about it, ask why, only by figuring out this, can he face it calmly.

In just a few days, Fang Jie felt that he suddenly had an obvious change, in the past, he only thought about leveling up alone and experiencing the pleasure of the game by himself, for fear that others would cause him "trouble", but now, on the contrary, he mixes with people every day, and the trouble is a little troublesome, but he has gained a lot of benefits and obtained many unexpected results.

These benefits are not simply how much money you make or what cheats you get, but a very subtle cause and effect relationship, which is not a big deal when viewed individually, but when strung together, it becomes very subtle.

Since there are benefits. That shows that "making friends" has a "use value", and this use value. It is not the kind of "utilization" in the narrow sense, but all-round, including both material and spiritual aspects, and even the kind of cause and effect relationship that cannot be seen and touched but subtly promotes the development of things.

"Then why did you always feel troublesome before......" Fang Jie asked himself, then shook his head and smiled, in fact, this question is very simple, fundamentally speaking, it is because he doesn't trust others. This is not a simple sense of believing, but not believing that others can bring benefits to oneself, in other words, believing too much in one's own ability, feeling that others are of no use to oneself, or that the use value is not high, and it will feel troublesome.

Fang Jie has always believed that the relationship between people is the relationship between using and being used, but is the same between friends? If yes. Then why is his attitude towards Jing Lin and Remnant Sword different from his attitude towards forgetfulness? If it's purely exploitation, why don't you let Forgetfulness help you instantly brush up the conditions of the disguise technique? Is it machismo or self-esteem? Could it be that you have a different idea of forgetfulness? Or do you have masochistic tendencies?

If not, what do friends rely on to maintain their relationship? Feelings? Even love is hard to last, let alone friendship? Could it be that I have a good character, and people Jinglin, Remnant Sword and Forgetfulness just want to help me selflessly? Or are they full of food and have nothing to do to come to see me, a martial arts waste material, and play monkey show? Or is it really like they say I'm a funny guy who wants to be with me? But what's so interesting about me? Is the appearance too comedic, or the character too tragic?

Time. Countless question marks popped up in Fang Jie's head, and some of the questions even he thought were a little funny, and after thinking about it for a while, he gave himself a positive answer. And more clearly describe several "interpersonal utilization theories":

Value needs to be decided. Whether you have value or not depends on what others need for you; Whether others are valuable or not depends on what you need from them. The more you satisfy the needs of others, the greater your value will be. The less satisfied you are with the needs of others, the less valuable you are.

When you can't meet the needs of others, you are a worthless person; When others don't meet your needs, others are worthless people. In other words, only high-value people can get high-value things when they exchange benefits with others. Your needs will be met to a high degree.

Let's say you want to be friends with someone. Or to make some kind of deal with him, then you have to be able to offer some kind of benefit. Satisfy some of his needs. Only by exchanging benefits with each other and satisfying each other's needs can people establish close relations with each other. When you are not able to provide the other person with the benefits he needs, it means that your relationship with him is a "no-touch" relationship.

This is why, in general, it is difficult for rich people and people without money, powerful people and people without power to establish close relationships with each other, and it is difficult to become friends, because one party is too low for the other party to exchange the equivalent of what they need, and there is no basis for interest.

Analyzing this, Fang Jie suddenly realized why he didn't want to let Forgetfulness help him, at first he only thought that letting Forgetfulness help him was cheating, and there was no pleasure, but now it seems that its essence is because he and Forgetfulness are just a "no relationship" relationship, although this "no relationship" relationship was forced by him to use 10,000 taels of gold to mark the price, but in the end, due to the large gap, he felt that he had little value in using Forgetfulness, and it was difficult to form the basis of equivalent exchange with those few words that fooled people. It is also avoided intentionally or unintentionally.

And Jing Lin and Remnant Sword are different, everyone's situation is similar, even if Remnant Sword has learned the sword technique of warding off evil spirits, but because he has no internal strength, he has been sentenced to a teacher, so Fang Jie feels that the three of them can establish an equivalent exchange basis, even if he helps me today, but I may be able to help him tomorrow, and I also have the ability to help him, subconsciously, Fang Jie knows that the relationship between friends can only be long-term and strong if it is based on this kind of equivalent exchange.

Thinking of this, Fang Jie couldn't help but smile, Jing Lin once said that his feelings were too closed, in fact, in essence, he was just looking for a more eternal feeling, whether it was love, friendship or family affection, he wanted to be fixed and stable, or not to talk about feelings, to talk about feelings, he hoped that it would be a lifelong thing, to establish an unbreakable relationship.

After clarifying the "interpersonal utilization theory". Fang Jie deepened and reflected, and clarified his goals.

The so-called "people are divided by groups, and things are gathered by like". People are divided by the value of their barter. In general, an exchange relationship occurs only when the exchange object is of equal value. Those who own high-value barnets will naturally form a close-knit class, and those who own low-value barnets will naturally form a close-knit class. It is difficult for a person who has owned a low-value exchange for a long time to be friends with someone who has owned a high-value exchange for a long time - because there is no basis for mutual interest, and that basis is this: equivalent exchange.

No one wants to barter a high-value thing for a low-value thing. So, the poor don't have rich friends, and the rich don't have poor friends.

This. It's the same in real life and in games. Those masters in the game will only be in contact with the masters, and they are willing to contact with the masters in their hearts, even if they are enemies, defeating each other can at least bring them mental pleasure. It's hard to imagine that a peerless master would become friends with an unknown little person, when Jing Lin was still the first master of the Emei faction, he just felt that Fang Jie was interesting and had a closer relationship with him. But in his heart, he didn't regard Fang Jie as a reliable friend as he did now.

And Fang Jie is also very clear, even now, I'm afraid that Jing Lin and Remnant Jian only think that Fang Jie is a "potential stock", so they will follow him, if they are useless for a long time and their long-term value is too low, I am afraid that these people will gradually centrifuge and throw away this "junk stock" that they misunderstood, of course, in essence. Fang Jie looked at these two people and thought the same way.

Therefore, Fang Jie realized that only by constantly improving his own value was to continuously improve his own value. In order to maintain the relationship between friends for a long time and steadily, and the higher the value, the more friends will definitely be in the future, and the more friends, it means that various needs can be continuously exchanged to achieve the purpose of maximizing the use of resources.

"Helping others and then getting help...... But first of all, you must have the ability and qualifications to help others......" Thinking of this, Fang Jie suddenly remembered the medicine jar. That person is the archetype of the typical. When you help others, you also help yourself. Not only did he quickly rush up his skills, but he also made countless friends, Fang Jie was even sure that the top masters of various factions must have crossed paths with him, if the medicine jar raised his arms, I am afraid that the world would be in chaos.

"Interaction is exchange. If a person does not have anything to exchange with others, he is a worthless person to others, and such a person certainly has no friends. After continuing to deepen, Fang Jie felt a little proud in his heart: "A person who has friends is a valuable person, it seems that I have not yet reached the point where I am useless......

Thinking of this, Fang Jie was still faintly uneasy in his heart, and after careful consideration, he understood that perhaps it was because this kind of interpersonal use theory was too straightforward and naked, which made him feel a bit of a conspiracy theory, after all, no one was not very disgusted with being used by others, and it seemed a great shame to be used.

But after thinking about it, Fang Jie smiled comfortably, in fact, being able to be used by others is a proud capital. Being used by others shows that there is value that can be used, and those who have no value will not be used by others. People who have no use value are pathetic. A person with a value of use is a hundred or even ten thousand times stronger than a person who has no value of interest!

The so-called "mutual benefit" or "mutual help" is actually advocating mutual use, and the value of man and land can only be reflected through the use of others. Therefore, the richer the land, the more friends there are, and the poorer the people, the fewer friends.

Of course, many people think that a friend who has no motive for profit is a true friend, or even a friend.

However, in Fang Jie's view, this is a very naïve and naïve view. There is no friend in the world who does not make friends for the sake of interests, mutual use is the basis of friendship, in fact, you don't have to care about other people's intentions to use you, as long as he has no intention of harming others, then he is not your enemy, as long as he exchanges benefits with you in a way that does not hurt you, then his ambition is sincere - he is sincere in exchanging benefits with you.

If you ask others to give everything to you, and use this as a criterion for whether they are true friends, not only can others do it, but even you yourself can't do it. Such unilateral demands are not only absurd, but also immoral. People who demand selflessness from others are often the most selfish themselves. The loneliest people are also the most selfish people, and it is natural that selfish people cannot find friends.

"I'm still too selfish......" Thinking that he had counted so many friends, Fang Jie smiled self-deprecatingly after reflection. But after thinking about it, with my current strength, even if I want to make more friends, I can't do anything, after all, there is no use value, and I can't always rely on some puzzles to exchange with people, right?

Thinking of this, Fang Jie couldn't help but be stunned, and the secret path was logical. Not to mention making other friends, let's just say that these current people are difficult to maintain, but after these people knew that he was a waste of martial arts, they all said that they wanted to help him, which made people feel a little inexplicable.

After thinking about it carefully, Fang Jie was the first to exclude Jing Lin, after all, at present, his value is obviously higher than that of Jing Lin, who has been regressing in martial arts for half a year, and Jing Lin only has benefits for following him, and there is no harm. So unilaterally, as long as he is willing, the relationship between the two friends can be maintained normally.

And the remnant sword is a little strange, first of all, I have known him for less than two days, and secondly, the remnant sword has learned the swordsmanship of warding off evil spirits, even if he has no internal strength, he is also a very awesome person, as soon as he met, he said that he would help him kill the disciples of the Huashan faction, and he accidentally sentenced the teacher...... Let's believe he was really careless. After judging the teacher, he learned that he was a waste of martial arts, so he immediately said that he wanted to help him, saying that helping him was helping himself? And, in the end, he died again?

What does it mean to help me and help himself? Is it without me? Can't he re-apprentice? Can't do the task? Is my martial arts waste so popular? Inexplicable......

For a while, Fang Jie was a little puzzled, after all, the unilateral payment of the remnant sword was too great, and when he brushed the copy with Shangguan Haoran and the beggar, it was obviously that kind of loyal tone, but since the other party said this, he must have meant something, but he didn't explain it. Let's put that aside for now.

Look back at the forgetfulness. But Fang Jie thought about it, and didn't find any reason to follow him...... Is it just that you think I'm funny? Or do you think my spiritual realm is higher than hers? Or is it really a bit neurotic? That's...... That's right. Is it because you think I'm the one and want to find a spiritual sustenance?

Thinking of this, Fang Jie shook his head, feeling that the last one was the most likely, but even so, he felt that there was no reason to follow him all day long, this kind of following was definitely not the so-called three obedience and four virtues, but following as a bystander, which made Fang Jie unacceptable.

After thinking about it for a long time, but still didn't find a suitable reason, Fang Jie simply put it down for the time being, and fixed the analysis target on the sun...... This person is a wonderful person, maybe he helps others just for the sake of spiritual pleasure in the pure sense, which even he doesn't know, so there is nothing to say, anyway, there is no intersection for the time being.

Next, Fang Jie analyzed Tang Ke, Tang Le, Hu Shuo, Bai Ning and others again, but there is too little intersection with these people at present, that is, there is no exchange, as for blood sincerity, it remains to be seen, so don't mention it.

The last person is the medicine jar. Speaking of knowing the medicine jar, Fang Jie felt that his character seemed to be too good, and he actually met a superb person in Beijing Pharmacy for the first time, and what was even more unbelievable was that he casually said a few formulas for making and detoxifying, and the other party actually said that he wanted to cooperate with him?

Thinking about it, there are some problems with the people of Forgetfulness, Remnant Sword, Medicine Jar, and Blood Sincerity, although they all have their own reasons, but Fang Jie feels that his martial arts waste material does not seem to be so valuable, and some things may not be as simple as imagined.

But in any case, since these people have not lost their own interests, and have even been helping themselves, Fang Jie naturally has no reason to get to the bottom of it, the reason why he sorted out these friends who have intersected with him is just to understand his own value more clearly, to be a person who knows what is good and bad, and a person who is useful to friends.

From afternoon to evening, Fang Jie sat in meditation while thinking about these seemingly unimportant issues that had an important impact on his mentality and future growth, and it was not until late in the evening that he received a reminder text message from the remnant sword, and he came to his senses. "Many friends and many paths, history has proved that it is not right to close off the country, we also have to learn to reform and open up......" Fang Jie chuckled, looked around, looked at the countless players around him, and couldn't help muttering: "One person may not be able to do it, it may take a long time, but with connections, the ultimate goal may not be achieved...... Who said that masters are lonely? Hehehe! ”

Thinking of this, Fang Jie smiled and got up to leave.

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