In GDG's cross talk, there is a particularly classic line: "Don't be nervous, I'm not a good person." This has gradually become my mantra when interacting with people.

If 10 years ago, I would have liked to pull someone's ear and say, "I'm a good person!" "But after so many years of experience, I suddenly realized that it would be so tiring not to expect to be a good person, at least not to be a good person that people recognize.

Let's notice what are the definitions of good and bad in life? There seems to be no clear boundaries, which is quite normal, after all, there are no such pure good guys and bad guys, one is dedicated to our respect and worship, and the other is for us to spit on and despise. Human nature is selfish, which means that "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" is a code in our genes, and it is not something we can easily get rid of. Therefore, when we define the things around us, there is too much subjectivity, we are the center of our own small universe, everything revolves around our needs.

Uncle Zhang is kind, every time he goes downstairs to say hello, he is smiling, very kind, his presence makes me feel that I am very close to the neighborhood, I like this feeling, so Uncle Zhang is a good person; Uncle Liu's legs and feet are inconvenient, I once saw him on the road in a wheelchair struggling to climb the slope, so I pushed him to the top of the slope in the past, Uncle Liu has a very good personality, and he said when he met people, so I became a good guy in their mouths, this sense of vanity made me very comfortable, so I think Uncle Liu is also a good person, and I will help him if I have the opportunity; Sister Zhang is also good, once there was a mobile blood donation vehicle in the community, she enthusiastically went to donate blood, because the body is not particularly strong, the body is a little weak after the blood, and then sat on the side of the road to rest for a while, and then left, and later in the community honor list, posted a photo taken secretly by someone else......

The children of the Lao Li family at the mouth of the alley are unrestrained and cause trouble everywhere, and they are often found by other neighbors to complain at home, so the nearby people all warn the children to stay away from the children of the Lao Li family; There was also an outsider who rented a house here, and later heard that he had a history of stealing, and the neighborhood began to isolate him, and later moved away; A village ruffian in the next village broke into a house and robbed the owner of the house, and sentenced him to several years in prison......

At some point, the term "moral kidnapping" began to appear in our field of vision, and people erected defensive thorns like hedgehogs, and raised eyebrows against the rightly vulnerable. I didn't want to be on any team and chose neutrality. I like to be free and don't want to be bound by the rules and regulations of trends. When I give up my seat to the elderly, I hate to hear the praise of "respecting the old and loving the young", and I also hate to hear the excuse that "giving up my seat is my love, and not giving up my seat is my duty".

I'm not a good person, I do what I want, I act according to my own rules of conduct, I can do it willfully, as long as I don't cause trouble to others. I will not make my behavior purposeful in order to get a good evaluation, or work hard to please others, nor will I be obsessed with it because there is no return for my efforts, and I will not make myself well-behaved and sleek in front of others in order to avoid bad evaluations, but gnash my teeth behind my back.

I'm not a good person, it's not enough to praise the good, it's not enough to be a role model. In fact, I really want to be a gentleman whose behavior is not missing, but looking at it, all the people who are still alive in this world, as long as they dare to stand up and say that they are gentlemen, good people, and role models, have lived up to the expectations of the world, so as long as I have the opportunity, I will definitely do the opposite and tell the world that I am not a good person, I am just self-conscious every day, and strive to do things without merit and without merit. Don't be nervous, don't be intimidated by one of my good deeds, and don't look for a stain on me as an example of a "bad guy". I'm not a good person, I don't need you to put in the effort to prove it, and I'm not a good person until I die.