Many people have lofty ideals when they are young, believing that no matter what they do, they must be outstanding and different: if they become soldiers, they should be generals; If you are a scientist, you should be on a par with Einstein; If you become a writer, you should win the Nobel Prize for Literature...... In short, he should be a genius and should be admired by everyone.

After many years have passed, we will find that we are just a small person, when we discover this, maybe we will be difficult to accept this reality for a while, but we must realize: there are indeed many opportunities in this world, but compared with the number of people, it is still pitiful, and the final winner in the crowd of living beings must be only a small part, ninety-nine percent of people, destined to be ordinary little people all their lives.

After accepting this somewhat "cruel" reality, we must understand that it is not bad to be a small person. Although life is full of ups and downs, spicy and salty, we live a down-to-earth life, although it is not perfect, it has its own meaning, a meaning that can only be said by experiencing it firsthand.

There is a saying: "At the age of 20, we worry about what others think of us; At the age of 40, we don't pay attention to what others think of us; At the age of 60, we find that others don't think of us at all. "It's not negative, it's a philosophy of life – learn to look down on yourself so you can travel light.

Everyone has a strong desire to pursue success, but when your ability is not enough and the time for success is not yet ripe, don't force it to pursue. The ancients said, "Troubles are caused by strength." "My ability is not enough, I can't meet the requirements of success, and I am easy to incur failure; The time is not yet ripe, and it is easy to attract the exclusion of others, and it is easier to incur failure.

No matter how good the subjective assumptions are, they are also false. Only objectively achieved success is real. A person can't do wishful thinking, just what he wants to do subjectively is still not enough. Many things in the world are unattainable, and if the desire to ask is too strong, the greater the suffering, often asking for trouble.

A young man applied for a job at a well-known company, and the examiner asked, "What position do you think you can hold in the company with your own ability?" ”

The young man asked himself that he still lacked a lot of personality, experience, and ability, and that he was not qualified to give orders to others, so he answered very honestly: "Ordinary staff." ”

All other applicants, without exception, answered "general manager", citing the influence of a famous Napoleonic quote: "A soldier who does not want to be a general is not a good soldier." The young man thought that if he was the only one who "didn't want to be a general manager", the examiner would think that he was "not a good employee", and it seemed that there was no hope of being admitted. However, he was the first to be admitted! The examiner said: "We interviewed all the candidates and found that there are more than 30 'general managers' here, so we decided to hire you first, because more than 30 'general managers' need at least one 'general staff'!" ”

We need to remember to narrow down our expectations. Narrow down the "expectations" and lower your expectations. In life, keep reminding yourself not to expect too much. If there is a big gap between your expectations and reality, and you still hold on to the same expectations and are unwilling to make any changes to reduce it, your heart will soon be filled with disappointment, and you will be enraged yourself.

In life, we need to have the wisdom to do what we can. Doing what you can is really a university question. To learn to relax yourself, not only to make your mood lively and cheerful, but also to always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude of enterprising, sometimes you really need to do what you can.

There is a reptile in nature that uses its back to carry food when it goes out to forage for food. It has the characteristic that as it crawls, it carries on its back whatever it likes. It didn't take long for it to be overwhelmed by what it was carrying. However, even so, it still does not give up, and when it encounters something it likes, it still tries in every possible way to get it on its back, and as a result, it is so tired that it can no longer climb forward. At this time, other small animals that usually dare not argue with it will come up and grab the things on its back when they see this, and it wants to drive it away but has more than enough strength to do so, and as a result, the back will immediately become empty again, and it will work hard in vain. However, it is like this, after resting for a while, it will repeat what seems to us to be stupid and ridiculous as it crawls forward.

The mistake of this animal is that it can't do what it can, and it stops in moderation.

We must remember that everything we do will be affected and constrained by our own personal intellectual, physical, financial and other factors, and if we do not take these factors into account, but only rely on our personal likes and dislikes, and rely on our subjective desires to do things that we cannot do at that time, we will suffer the pain of failure and make ourselves discouraged. In fact, this is to find yourself a hard time.

Doing what we can is not to advocate a conservative philosophy, not to be forceful, but to advocate a pragmatic and rational spirit. If the goals you have set are still far from your own abilities and conditions, and you cannot achieve them despite your efforts, you should revise your goals and don't set them so high. Although the goal is ambitious, it is empty if it cannot be achieved. It makes much more sense to set goals that are realistic but not too ambitious than to be ambitious and unrealistic.

When encountering things, it can make you feel like a fish in water in life, swim with ease, become bright, open your mind, and make your mind younger.

When looking forward to the future, many people always blindly think about the good and completely expand their imagination, the imagination is beautiful, and the reality is cruel.

If a person always puts himself in a position too high, he is prone to get angry and express strong dissatisfaction with others when something unexpected happens. And if you can face yourself squarely and look at everything that happens to you with a calm mind, your troubles will disappear.