"Daddy. I want to be an official. ”

"Hmm."

"I told my mother about my ideals, but my mother actually said that I was too rude and not an official. I asked her what it was to be rude, and she brought out what I had said about what I had done before. But that's really not what she meant me. ”

"Hmm." Zhao Jiaren was happy in his heart, but he was very calm. To help his beloved daughter do psychological correction, Zhao Jiaren felt that he had to be cautious and cautious.

"Dad, can you tell me how rude I am."

"I'm not sure what your mother means, I can only tell you what I think. First of all, I don't think there's anything wrong with you being rude. Because no matter how rudeness you are, you can't make me waver in the slightest, and you won't let me change my decision. If you go too far, I'm going to beat you up. So, most of the time, I think you're pretty cute. ”

In the Great Song Dynasty, corporal punishment of children was not uncommon at all. From a psychological point of view, non-venting corporal punishment is actually very useful. It is true that there are a group of people who fall into the wrong path of being soulful in psychology, but most people don't think so. If there really is a soul, there is no reason for antidepressants to exist.

Zhao Jiaren is a proponent of the neuronal connection hypothesis, arguing that all human brain memories and physical memories are materialistic, and they are traces left by electrical signals. Based on this cognition, when a bear child commits a bear, he needs to be beaten. Being beaten can leave a strong signal. Human beings themselves are analogous to the point that they fall blindly, and their bodies will classify this strong signal as 'the behavior is wrong'. A beating after committing a bear can have the same effect.

A positive example of this is 'no hit, no shot'. A negative example is that children who have been abused by their parents since childhood can easily fall into the wrong judgment of 'it's my fault' and let their lives develop badly.

Looking at his daughter's somewhat embarrassed expression, Zhao Jiaren felt that this child had lingering palpitations about the outcome of the bear crime. That's probably a good thing. Poured a cup of tea for her daughter, watched her take a sip, and slowly calmed down, Zhao Jiaren continued: "Many times it is actually our body that feels uncomfortable, and we are not happy at this time. When we happen to meet someone, we make it difficult for the other person, or simply try to suppress the other person, and when we see that the other person is uncomfortable, we feel that we have the ability to make the other person uncomfortable, and thus think that we are the stronger party. This stronger self-awareness will increase our tolerance for discomfort, and even suppress this discomfort for a certain period of time. ”

If it was before, Zhao Min would shout after hearing this: "It's annoying to say so much!" However, this time Zhao Min actually listened carefully, and even considered it. Zhao Jiaren had to think that Zhao Min might really want to be an official.

After thinking for a while, Zhao Min suddenly said in frustration: "Dad, are you saying that I am actually not a good person?" ”

"Can you tell me your definition of a good person?" Zhao Jiaren asked rhetorically.

"Well...... I think my mother is a good person."

"There is no standard for good people. For example, the Song people, who I rescued from the butcher's knife of the Mongols, probably thought I was a good person. However, the relatives of the Mongols who were killed in the process of saving the Song people thought that I was a heinous villain. If I fall into their hands, I will be brutally killed. So, do you think I'm a good guy or a bad guy? ”

"What about ......, friend and foe?" Zhao Min tried to find a reason again.

"Logically, the two are not equivalent. Or, by definition, the two are not equivalent. Generally speaking, we define an enemy as an antagonist based on interests, while a friend is defined as a person with whom he or she has a psychological identity. ”

"How do you define that?"

"It's more appropriate to use our side and the opposing side." Zhao Jiaren gave his daughter a clear answer.

Hearing this, Zhao Min suddenly realized and said, "Dad." Isn't it that many times, you and my mother are on the opposite side of me. ”

"Many times this term is used well, I hope you can keep in mind that everything has its timeliness, you are our baby, and your mother and I have always supported you. The reason why we sometimes stand on the opposite side of you is because we can't accept the ideas you have at that time. It's not that we can't accept you as a person. ”

It can be seen that Zhao Jiaren's words are completely beyond Zhao Min's imagination, she looked at Zhao Jiaren dumbfounded, but her eyes obviously have no special focus, obviously trying to accept such a mode of thinking. Two minutes later, Zhao Min gave up, and she asked again, "What about that...... My mother said I was rude, what did my father think? ”

"My evaluation of brutality is based on physical stimulation, and I choose non-logical and non-continuous behavior."

"That'...... How can I get better? ”

"Hmm. Since you want to be an official, I think if this is really your ideal, then you can be saved. Work hard first, have a healthy body, and at the same time learn logic and have the tools to use your brainpower. I'm not kidding, I really think you can change. People are not afraid of defects, but they are afraid of not having ideals. Come on. ”

Sending away his daughter, who was looking at him in a delusion, Zhao Jiaren continued to read his report. As a front-line work unit, Qianzhuang has done a very good job of information on the circulation of banknotes, and Zhao Jiaren is overjoyed. The stability of the money was not as bad as he had feared. If the issuance of denominations that can be used by the public, at least there should be ample room for the payment of banknotes in the city.

was looking happily, and as soon as the door of the study opened, Zhao Jiaren's wife came in. After coming in, she closed the door, and then asked in a very serious tone, "What did you say to the eldest lady?" ”

"She wants to be an official, and she is angry about the rude evaluation you give her. I'll tell her what it means to be brutal. Zhao Jiaren said as he pulled a chair for his wife and poured water.

After Qin Yuzhen sat down, she immediately said with some worry: "But what you told the eldest lady is all things that need to be realized. I think it's better for you to tell her some self-enlightenment, and telling these things to the eldest mother is different from putting a knife in her hand. You are holding a knife to cut through thorns and thorns, I am afraid that she will kill people with a knife. ”

"Hey, don't be so scary, okay?" Zhao Jiaren was really a little frightened by his wife's words. Although Qin Yuzhen has never taken classes in a university in the 21st century, the Jinshi family's accumulation in many things cannot be underestimated. It was an experience accumulated through blood and tears.

"San Lang, you are well mannered. Before we got married, you wrote a post and said: Today I know that I am me! You were twenty years old. Auntie doesn't have the talent and epiphany you had at that time, if you teach her indiscriminately, you will probably only teach a bandit who doesn't cultivate good results in his life, and only loves to kill people and set fires. ”

Seeing the anxiety that Mrs. said, Zhao Jiaren nodded after thinking about it, "Bandits and incompetents, I'd rather raise a bandit." I took responsibility for these things. Let my aunt follow me as a secretary first, let me see her heart first. After all, she was born to you, that is, she is only half as good as you, and it is also white and slightly flawed, which can be of great use. ”