Fate, I have always believed that it is a variable, but this variable needs to be created by the master of fate; For better or worse, it also needs to be decided by the master of fate.

With a wave of your hand, the air changes; Destiny can also change due to different thoughts and actions. Thoughts and actions create an aura that belongs to this person, and the change of aura pushes different people to go in different directions in life.

There are some things that we may not be able to change, such as our genetic makeup, our family background, and our appearance, these things are determined by nature, and we can accept them calmly.

There are two main factors that can make our destiny better or worse: one is the environment in which we grew up, especially the influence of our parents; One is the state of life we choose for ourselves when we grow up.

The influence of parents on their children can be marked almost for a lifetime, and it also plays a great role in the direction of their children's future destiny. It's a lifetime of luck to meet good parents, because since the beginning of your birth, your parents have been shaping you and sculpting you like sculptors.

If the parents are positive, optimistic, calm, charitable, have good habits, are eager to learn, and cultivate the same habit spirit of the child from an early age, then the child's growth process is red, and when he grows up, he has the basic skills to move forward in life, and the basic fate of the future life will not be too bad despite all kinds of difficulties and obstacles. Of course, whether the parents are qualified or not has nothing to do with the rich and powerful, we have seen too many cases of rich and powerful parents killing their children, and the so-called good people do not necessarily give people a good life.

Except for parents, 80 percent of people's fate is still in their own hands. In other words, no matter what age we are, we can change our destiny at any time. People live in a state of life created by themselves, and we have created a state of life over the years, whether passively or actively, and then unconsciously live in this state of life, which is called fate.

So, what we need to do is to change our life state. Let's first calmly analyze, what is the keyword of the state of life? What's holding us back from getting better? For example, some people always fall into triviality when doing things, and they never know what is most important; Some people never get into the habit of keeping things clean and tidy; Some people are anxious and impatient when encountering problems, and do not know how to think and deal with them calmly; Some people's hearts are full of greed and hatred, and their lives are like a fog. If we are in such a state of life, our fate will not be good.

In fact, a good state of life is the formation of good life habits. Good habits require hard work, and bad habits are effortless, so if we are not careful, we will fall into bad habits, such as being lazy to eat, taking advantage of small things, and venting emotions. However, bad habits do no good to people's state of life and drag people's fate into darkness. So we need to develop good habits.

Developing good habits is painful at the beginning, such as reading and running are things to work, but as long as you persevere, good results will naturally appear, and the final sense of achievement and inner fulfillment, as well as the optimization of destiny, is the best blessing. A person can start with small habit changes, for example, you have always had a straight face, and now you are trying to smile at everyone, and soon you will find that the benefits of smiling are far greater than that of a flat face, and slowly smiling will become your life state. Such a small thing has already changed your fate.

My own state of life is made up of a series of habits that I have developed. My diligence comes from the morning and night of my rural life, my reading comes from the self-encouragement of college and the role models of others, my tidying up comes from my inner pursuit of order, and my team spirit comes from liking to play with my friends since I was a child. This series of habits constitutes the state of my life, which in turn determines the direction of my life.

I am deeply aware of how important it is for a person to develop good habits, so I strive to keep moving closer to positive and healthy habits. When habits become a state of life, joy arises, and pain arises when they do not do it. For example, a person who runs a lot will feel uncomfortable if he doesn't run for a few days, and a person who reads a lot will feel empty if he doesn't read for a few days.

The state of life will eventually recreate your life in turn, which is to reshape your destiny. The so-called "bodhisattvas fear the cause, and sentient beings fear the effect" means that we should change and control our destiny from the source, instead of being helpless and waiting to accept the arrangement of fate.

We've all heard of the butterfly effect: "A butterfly in the Amazon rainforest of South America, with a few occasional flaps of its wings, can cause a tornado in Texas, USA, two weeks later." ”

The same is true for the change of our destiny, a small change in your life and work habits can greatly change your destiny in the long run. Thinking a little more tolerant, treating fame and fortune a little more open-mindedly, tidying yourself up a little more methodically, and using a little bit of time, such bits and pieces will gradually change your destiny, and it will get better and better!

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