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This is an article I saw in the text of "Brotherhood of Blood", which touched me very deeply, and I hope to pass it on to all my friends who write books, and those who are reading my books now and are struggling in life! I think it's a positive asset!

This is an article circulating on the Internet, and it is rumored to be a speech by Haier CEO Zhang Ruimin. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 infoThe details have not been verified, but I have read the whole article, and I feel that it still makes sense. The stones of other mountains can be used to attack jade, and there is no harm in reading them.

Maturity and immaturity have nothing to do with age. Whether a person is mature or not is whether you can look at things from the other person's point of view, that is, whether you can turn my world into your world. There are many adults in this society who have not yet detached themselves from childish behavior. Fight over a little thing.

The first characteristic of immaturity is that it is immediately reciprocated.

Understand that only if you sow in the spring, you will reap in the fall. A lot of people do anything, just give a little bit, and they are about to get paid off. (Learning piano, learning English, etc., I found it difficult at the beginning, and when I found that it was not good, I immediately had to give up.) A lot of people do business, they don't get anything at the beginning, they think about giving up, some people give up in a month, some people give up in three months, some people give up in half a year, some people give up in a year, I don't understand why people give up so easily, but I know that giving up is a habit, a typical loser's habit. Therefore, you have to have a vision, you have to look farther, and the vision is used to see the future!

For those who have the habit of giving up in life, there is a sentence that must be given to you: "Those who succeed never give up, and those who give up never succeed". So why do many people give up so easily? Napoleon Hill, the famous American success master, said:

There are two very typical mindsets:

1. Always say "no" to opportunities;

2. Always want to "get rich overnight".

If you put any opportunity in front of him today, he will say "no". Even today, you have opened a very successful restaurant, and you tell your relatives and friends from the bottom of your heart your successful experience of opening a restaurant, so that they can also open a restaurant, can you guarantee that each of them will open a restaurant? Is there still someone who doesn't do it?

So that's a very typical mentality of a poor person, who says, "You can do it, I can't do it!" ”。 The manifestation of getting rich overnight is that if you tell him any business, his first question is "do you make money", you say "make money", he immediately asks the second question "easy is not easy", you say "easy", then he then asks the third question "is it fast", you say "fast"! That's when he said, "Okay, I'll do it!" "Hehe, you see, he's so naïve!

Think about it, is there a kind of "making money again, easy, and fast" in this world, no, even if there is, it will not be our turn, so in life, we must know how to give. So why should you pay? Because you pay to pursue your dreams, people live for hopes and dreams, if a person has no dreams and no pursuits, then there is no meaning in that life!

Whatever you want in life, you have to give first. If you want to get time, you have to give your time first, and if you want to get money, you have to give money first. If you want to have a hobby, you have to sacrifice a hobby first. If you want to spend more time with your family, you have to spend less time with your family first.

However, one thing is clear, you will be doubly rewarded for your efforts in this project. It's like a seed, you plant it, and then you water it, you fertilize it, you hoe it, you kill insects. In the end, what you reap is not dozens of times, hundreds of times the return.

In life, you must know how to pay, you don't want to be so eager for quick success, you want to get a return immediately, there is no free lunch in the world, you can not succeed easily.

You must know how to pay first!

The second characteristic of immaturity is lack of self-discipline.

What are the main manifestations of self-discipline?

1. Reluctance to change oneself:

You have to change the way you think and behave. You have to change your bad habits. In fact, there is not much difference in ability between people, the difference lies in the difference in the way of thinking. When something happens, you ask the winners and the losers, and their answers are different, or even contradictory.

We are not successful today because our way of thinking is not successful. A good formula is: when you plant a seed of thinking, you will have the harvest of action, when you plant action, you will have the harvest of habits, when you plant habits again, you will have the harvest of personality, and when you plant personality again, it will determine your destiny.

But if you plant a seed of failure, you must get failure, and if you plant a seed of success, then you will definitely succeed.

Many people have a lot of bad habits, such as: watching TV, playing mahjong, drinking, going to the dance hall, they also know that such habits are not good, but why are they unwilling to change? Because many people would rather endure those bad lifestyles than the pain of change.

2. Be willing to talk about others behind your back:

If in life, you like to talk about other people's words, one day you will definitely pass it back, there is an old Chinese saying, on the right and wrong of people, must be right and wrong.

3. Negativity, complaining:

Who do you like in your life? Are those who are sad all day long, complaining all day long about which one to complain about, or who like those who are happy all day long. If you are one of those complaining, negative people in your life, you must change the flaws in your personality. If you don't change, it's hard for you to adapt to this society. It's also hard for you to work with others.

In life, you have to know how you treat life, how life will treat you, how you treat others, how others will treat you. So you don't be negative and complain. You have to be positive, always positive, that is the sentence: successful people never complain, complainers never succeed.

The third characteristic of immaturity is that people are often swayed by emotions.

A person's success depends on five factors:

Learn to control your emotions, healthy body, good relationships, time management, financial management, if you want to be successful, you must learn to manage these five factors, why put emotions in the first place? What about putting health second? It's because if you have a strong body, if you are not emotional, it will affect your body, and now 20% of a person's success depends on IQ and 80% on emotional intelligence, so you have to control your emotions, and the impact of emotions on people is very great. Between people, don't be thunderous for a little thing, it's not good.

So what kind of mindset do you have to develop in life? You have to develop "three noes" and "three more":

No criticism, no complaining, no accusation;

More encouragement, more praise, more praise.

You will become a popular person in society. If you want to make your partner better, it's simple, always motivate and praise them.

Even if they do have a problem, what should they do? At this time, should you give them advice, in life you will find that there is such a phenomenon, when someone gives advice to others, others can accept it, but when there is advice, others will be angry. In fact, the most important way to suggest is to "sandwich" praise, suggest, and praise!

Think about it, if you praise several people in a day, some people may think that praise is praise and sycophancy. There is a difference between praise and praise, and praise has four characteristics:

1. It is sincere 2. It is from the heart 3. It is accepted by the public 4. Selfless If you praise it with a strong purpose, it is a sycophant. When you praise someone, you have to say it out loud, and when you want to criticize someone, be sure to bite your tongue!

The fourth characteristic of immaturity is that people are unwilling to learn, self-righteous, and do not have a zero-go mentality.

In fact, there are many similarities between humans and animals, and animals have a stronger sense of self-protection than humans (babies and piglets), but the biggest difference between humans and animals is that people can learn and people can think. People must continue to learn, you must not bury your natural potential, you must learn, you must have an empty cup mentality. Who are we going to learn? It's about learning directly from successful people!

You have to always learn the positive, don't look at it, don't listen to the negative, the negative. Once you absorb those toxic thoughts, it will corrode your mind and life. In this era of knowledge economy, learning is your only passport to the future. In such an era of speed, change, and crisis, you must only keep learning so that you will not be abandoned by this era, and you must have the mentality of learning and returning to zero. Look at everyone's merits, "Threesome, there must be my teacher"!

The fifth characteristic of human immaturity: do things not by faith, but by human words.

We say that belief is the starting point, and perseverance is the end. Many people do things without faith and like to listen to what others have to say. There is no 100% confidence in what you do, belief and belief are two different concepts, belief is visible, belief is invisible.

Belief is an attitude of human beings, but many people do things not by faith, but by listening to what others say, if you want to climb the mountain, you have to ask those who have climbed to the top of the mountain, and you must not ask those who have not climbed the mountain.

This is not to say that you should not listen to other people's advice, you can refer to it, but you have to remember that you are here to do this business to realize your dreams and realize your own value. Other people don't care about your dreams, only you care about your own dreams, only you care about whether you can really succeed. That's all that matters!

As long as your choice is correct, never care what others say, the above five characteristics of immaturity of people, you have to compare with yourself, which one characteristic you have, you must correct it in the shortest possible time, as long as you believe that you can overcome your immaturity, you will gradually grow up, mature, you will get the kind of life you want. You will realize your life dream of time freedom, financial freedom, and spiritual freedom!

Zhan Fuxi: I'd be very happy if you could see this! Because you approve of what I approve! I think this article really went to my heart, and I think the most important sentence is: giving up will become a habit! It's true! But I want to tell everyone that persistence is also a habit! I've been writing for half a year, and writing has become a part of my life! At least for a short time, I won't be able to quit.

I had to rush into the study hall again, and it was 12:30 in the middle of the night, and the critic asked me, "Can you do it?" You can't get a good night's sleep, what's the point of writing about this thing every day? "I was moved and surprised at the time, he was really for my health, because I was really used to writing at night, after all, I had to go to class during the day or something, and I was surprised that I had destroyed the unity of my roommates and made him think that I was "on an errand", in fact, I was overwhelmed, and my roommates, who had only been together for less than half a year, were very supportive of me. I am very touched that I am writing this, on the one hand, I hope that all the friends who write essays can persevere, if success comes too easily, then it will not be so wonderful. In addition, I hope that everyone cares about the people around you who silently support you, they are the ones who truly love you!

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