In fact, a person's awareness of himself can be divided into several different stages......

Knowing the self itself is actually a relatively long process......

For ordinary people, the closest feeling to the so-called self is actually the so-called desire or dream......

Whether it is a dream or a desire, it is actually a person's most instinctive and heartfelt appeal......

Although many times, desires and dreams do not mean self in the true sense, but for ordinary people, it is the moment when they are away from themselves......

With the growth of people and the maturity of people, the initial dream often encounters practical setbacks, so that they have to be given up again and again, and the initial desire will also have to lower the standard again and again because of the blow of reality......

Even many times, when people grow up and mature, people forget their original dreams and gradually become a person who strives to realize other people's dreams......

Such a person, in a sense, can be said to be far away from the self......

In life, there will always be all kinds of fetters and constraints, and there will always be all kinds of good intentions or malicious constraints......

And no matter what kind of impact it is, in essence, it will make people get lost in these fetters and constraints, and they can't extricate themselves......

Can't find your true self, can't see what you really need?

Many times, when we enter the society, often the initial dream will be involuntarily replaced by the values of the society......

What kind of profession can be recognized by the mainstream of society, we will pursue what kind of career to choose, what kind of job has a higher income, what kind of job we will choose to engage in, what kind of women meet the aesthetics of the public, what kind of partner we will choose......

Over time, our life naturally becomes a standardized life......

What kind of partner to choose, what kind of job to choose, what kind of family to start, how to educate children, everything, will become standardized......

Society will always tell human beings that if they do not plan their lives according to the standards of society, then life will become bleak......

Having enough wealth, having enough healthy body, and having a comfortable enough life is just a universal pursuit, in a sense, it is just a universal pursuit, that is, it is a kind of pursuit that everyone can pursue, but in any case should not use these pursuits to replace their dreams, and to replace their desires with these pursuits......

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Whether it is desire or dream, it is something unique to each person, and different people will have different desires and dreams......

As for power, wealth, or health, in the final analysis, it is nothing more than a tool to pursue desires and realize dreams......

However, in real life, there are always people who put the cart before the horse......

If you forget what you want, what you forget what is truly worth cherishing, you will regret it until you realize your mistakes......

For example, many people are immersed in work, thinking about bringing a comfortable life to their wives and children, but neglecting to care for their wives and children......

In many cases, this is the source of many tragedies......

People feel that what they are doing is good for each other, but the other party does not appreciate it, and this is a difference in values......

Just like for many children, they feel that they work hard so that their parents can afford to live in a good house and live a good life, which is already a filial son, but in the eyes of their parents, what they need may only be the daily companionship of their children......

It is difficult to conclude which is more important, material or spiritual......

But people of different ages, by nature, will have completely different concepts about the two......

Generally speaking, the elderly and young children tend to pay more attention to the satisfaction of spiritual life, while middle-aged people tend to focus on material life......

The reason for this is actually very simple......

Because children themselves have no material pressure and live under the protection of their parents, more often than not, they need only emotional care......

The same is true for the elderly, after they get older, they will have pensions and social insurance, and the cost of living is more than enough, in this state, their pursuit of wealth and status is actually very light, and what they think about is nothing more than in the last journey of life, hoping that their children and grandchildren can accompany themselves more and send themselves on the last journey, that's all......

On the contrary, middle-aged people are the most affected by material pressure at an age stage, the old and the young, and need to repay the mortgage and car loan, plus the physical health is also acceptable, so the desire for material far exceeds the thirst for family affection, in this case, they are often easy to bring their values into their wives, children and even elders, they will feel that they can make money, they can bring happiness to the people around them, and they can make the people around them happy......

This is a typical difference in perception......

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At different stages of life, people's perceptions change......

People's perception of the world will also change......

In this process, people's understanding of self-pursuit will gradually begin to change......

Some of these changes will bring you closer to yourself, while others will make you move away from yourself......

The more one pursues what others pursue, the more one pursues the idea of universal values, the farther away one is from one's true self......

On the contrary, the more a person does what he wants to do, the more he realizes what can really bring happiness to himself, and the more he can get closer to the so-called true self......

In the final analysis, all universal values are just to allow people to have more chips when they pursue their dreams, but many people, in the process of acquiring chips, have forgotten what they want to do with these chips, and just ******** to accumulate these chips, which is a kind of putting the cart before the horse......

People who do this may sound stupid, but in real life, such people abound......

Having power, gaining wealth, having health, everything makes people happy, but this happiness is a happiness that everyone will enjoy, a kind of happiness in the general sense......

Pursuing one's own heart allows one to experience the kind of happiness that is unique to oneself......

Just like some of the older generation of antique collectors, the antique collection obviously has a value of hundreds of thousands or even millions, but they often live a very poor life, the reason is that they do not want to sell any of their collections, they would rather save money to collect expensive antiques, and are not willing to sell antiques in exchange for a comfortable life......

This kind of behavior is certainly a very stupid thing to do in the eyes of ordinary people, but from another angle, it actually touches the edge of the true self, at least they know what is really important to them, at least they know what can make them feel happy and feel at ease and satisfied......

The so-called sub-non-fish knows the joy of fish, in fact, this is the truth......

Such people may be far happier and more satisfied than those high-ranking and rich people......

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Of course, such satisfaction, in a sense, is not actually complete......

Because, to a large extent, such satisfaction is based on the dissatisfaction of family members or friends......

From this point of view, such satisfaction is also based on the pain of one's family......

Just like in the past, there was a person who always insisted on quitting smoking, so he snatched the cigarette butt from the mouth of every person he could see who smoked, and then put it on the ground to extinguish it, he felt that such an act was righteous and could give himself heartfelt satisfaction, so he continued to do this for a long time......

The final result is naturally not too good, whether it is relatives and friends, or family and relatives, or even passers-by on the side of the road, for him this behavior is from the bottom of his heart, quitting smoking itself is a good thing, but in this way, it is really to build their own happiness on the loss of others, is an undesirable behavior to realize their "dreams......

People live in life, all the things they want to pursue, all the paths they want to choose, in fact, in essence, must be based on humanity!

That is to say, they must conform to people's moral concepts and concepts, and once they go beyond the scope of this concept, they will naturally make people disgusted, so this kind of pursuit of self will also fall into a kind of evil way......

People can have pursuits, but their own pursuits cannot become a burden to others, otherwise, this pursuit cannot be regarded as a true pursuit......

On the contrary, the process of pursuing oneself should be a very pleasant experience in itself, because the closer one is to oneself, the more one feels that one's body and soul are in harmony, and the more pleasant it becomes......

In this process, you will inevitably get the support and recognition of others!

And if a person in the process of pursuing himself, not only can not get the support and recognition of others, but also is always rejected and opposed, then it means that the person's pursuit of self has fallen into a wrong way!

Yes, the wrong way!

The same path of pursuing the true self, there is often only one way that can be taken in the true sense......

And many of the roads are full of rugged ......

The so-called true self, in essence, is a kind of self-realization......

Historically, some artists have achieved success while they were alive, while others have only become famous after their deaths......

The former means that they are on the right path, while the latter means that they have gone astray and have not found their true self......

(To be continued.) )