We need to spare some space here on the topic of women.

I believe that friends who have watched "The Second Sex" will know that Madame de Beauvoir has elaborated on the stages of a woman's life. Each stage will have a different outlook on life and values, or a different social mentality. That's because her roles are changing, her circumstances are changing, and a lot of external environments are pressing, forcing her to adapt to the external environment, so as to adjust her inner psychological state.

In the process of growing up, men are encouraged and expected in many cases, but women's growth is sometimes accompanied by a state of terror and weightlessness, and they slowly adapt to it.

Of course, these are not the areas I want to focus on, so I won't go into them here. If you want to know more, you can go and read the above books, which must be shocked.

What I want to say is that the social meaning of "woman" in society, by the way, is the special social meaning of the title of woman. Of course, this woman does not refer to a woman in a specific concept, not a foreign language WOMEN, it is a general term, like MAN, which refers to men in general, and even human beings.

I am referring to the social discrimination that is implied behind the term woman, which is hidden in men and also in the ontology of women.

It's as if some husbands say when they abuse their wives in public: You woman—

It's like a man who says to somebody, "Hey, woman—

That kind of contempt and discrimination, frivolity, disrespect, or contempt is really blatant.

The husband's initial disrespect or contempt for his wife begins with the title. When you are like glue, he will never call you a woman directly, but will replace it with a variety of affectionate titles, and even have some special references to each other: baby, Mimi, etc.

When suddenly one day, he is too lazy to use a nickname, or begins to pay no attention to what to call you, I believe that your position in his heart is at least no longer the supreme favorite.

It's not that he doesn't love you, or that he doesn't empathize with you, it's just that he's used to the fact that you're a woman, and once he does, he doesn't feel the need to treat you like a pet anymore.

Sometimes the title is also a means of discrimination. In life, a man's direct address to a woman's gender, rather than politely calling each other by her first name, usually implies disrespect and contempt.

Becoming a woman will secretly reveal some kind of obscure humiliation. It's as if in the upbringing of both sexes, the growth of a boy into a man, which indicates maturity, strength, and majesty, but the opposite is true for girls.

The reality is still so cruel: when a boy is told, you are no longer a boy. He will be inspired. The sensation gives the power instantly, the power of the man.

But if a girl is told: you are not a girl anymore. This was undoubtedly a blow to her, suggesting that she had lost some of her initial value in life. This is why the virginity complex has been prevalent in society to the devil.

The virginity complex, by its origin, is not a pure membrane, but because she knows nothing about the male world, ignorance, fear, fear, trembling. The helplessness of the first night, the withdrawal, the pain. It's not like a woman who copes with it, and even knows how to enjoy it. As long as you have experienced a man, it is clear that there are no secrets in the world of men for you, and there is no special glory in front of you.

Those men want to be the first man you meet. He wants to see the kind of fear, cringe, timidity that you show when you face his body, panicked like a lamb that has stepped into a pack of wolves.

You know, all those exhibitionists love to see you scared and scared. If you walk calmly in front of him, he will immediately lose his courage and even become weak and embarrassed.

In fact, most men with virgin complexes, once married, will quickly withdraw all the spoiling for you. At this time, the relationship between the two will be reversed, and the woman begins to curry favor with the man who dotes on her in order to gain his favor, but that night, never to return.

The subtext of many men is: I'm like that to girls, you're all my woman, why should I be like that?

Let's talk about princess disease.

All girls with princess disease have a basic probability, that is, girls. Girls have the right to suffer from princess disease, and if any woman still suffers from princess disease, she will be ridiculed or criticized behind her back.

In fact, if the woman is still suffering from princess disease, it undoubtedly means that she is married to a really good man.

The girl can say softly: Oh, I can't lift it.

The man will be diligent to help.

If a woman is like this, she will be considered hypocritical and contrived.

The man laughed at her sarcastically: Don't pretend, why can't you mention it? I think you have a lot of strength.

You see those girls who are on a blind date, you can sit there and say casually: I want to find a daddy-type boyfriend to spoil me.

I guess no woman would say that, that's obviously a kind of brazenness.

This is also after marriage, many women suddenly find that the man next to them does not love them at all. Actually, it's not that I don't love you, it's just that you've passed the stage where I need to spoil you and respect you. You're already a woman, you should know what to do, why do you have to rely on me for everything?

Girls can be weak and dependent, and princesses need princes to rescue. The prince will also rush to your side in desperation.

The queen is not needed, and when necessary, she needs to stand up and stand by the king's side, and face the enemy and danger with the sword together. The queen needs to share the weal and sorrow with the king, and bear it together.

Finally, let's talk about the issue of how women treat women. In fact, this is the most critical problem, and it is also the most cruel problem.

Because of becoming a woman, her social mentality and social character will begin to change, and she will naturally have pressure, complaints, and losses. But these will never be repaired, and will only become some kind of deep grudge. This is the root of the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law also came from a girl back then, and after years of repeated rubbing, she has now become an old woman, not taken seriously, no one spoils her, and it can be said that her sorrow is only known to herself. But she wants to see another girl, a woman like her, and the process makes her happy.

It is undeniable that the worst pleasure of human nature is based on the pain of others, and it is eternal and unchanging.

She will take advantage of no one to remind you again and again and warn you: You are now a woman in our family, don't pretend to be a young lady, in a few years, you will not be the same as me? Don't think we're any different, it's the same. I think you can still be tender for a few years?

The most unbearable thing for my mother-in-law is that she became a woman in such a humiliating way back then, working hard for this family, why can you be different.

She just wants you to be like her, to go through everything she's endured, all over again.

All of this is a metaphor for a woman's scrutiny of a woman, and a woman's judgment of the subordination of another woman.

I have to talk about butterflies, she is a woman with an extremely serious princess disease, because of her father's exclusive pet when she was a child, after meeting Fan Fan, she experienced Fan Fan's special pet.

After separating from Fan Fan, she almost lost herself for a while, and almost lost some kind of self-confidence, the trembling princess castle had long been crumbling in the wind and rain, but it had not collapsed for the time being.

That meeting with the mother diving bird was not so much unpleasant as a sudden hurricane that blew down her princess's castle. Overnight she felt humble, and overnight she realized that the transformation she was about to face, the most despicable transformation she had ever been, the kind of person she had ever hated the most.

This is something that butterflies have rejected all their lives.

And that's exactly what butterflies are afraid of.