Lately, butterflies have been dreaming that they are riding in a huge boat. The ship was just about to leave the harbor, and there was no idea where it was heading, but it was clearly a long and long voyage.

Because, from the moment they got on the boat, the butterfly felt faintly uneasy and confused.

She wasn't sure why she was on this ship.

I'm not sure if I have a valid ticket.

Because she had somehow boarded the ship, she was afraid of two things: first, whether people would throw her overboard because she didn't have a ticket.

Second, the place where the boat is going is not where she wants to go.

So she has been hesitating and hesitating.

Suddenly, the ship opened in an instant.

Her heart suddenly became impatient, and at this time, all the worries in front of her were gone, and she had a thought: I must get off the boat! She had to get off the boat anyway, because the unknown and uncertainty ahead made her tremble.

She was afraid that if she didn't get off the boat, she might never be able to get off again.

So, like crazy, she went around the boat and asked, where can I get off the boat?

She was told that there was a docking ahead of her, and if you really wanted to get off the boat, just get off there.

Suddenly, the butterfly woke up.

When she woke up, she thought, "Oh, thank goodness, I got off the boat anyway."

However, this dream has been appearing in the dream recently, which makes the butterfly a little uneasy, and she knows that this is a certain pressure point in her heart, and she has not been released for a long time.

In fact, it is not surprising that Butterfly has such pressure, because when she was born, the whole era was changing dramatically, and her education and various ideologies were already undergoing earth-shaking changes.

Women of her generation, from birth to growth, have been endowed with more cultivation, attention and expectations, and the kind of self-confidence and self-affirmation that has grown up naturally and subconsciously makes them more self-conscious, more independent, and more reluctant to be constrained, especially from family.

The outlook on marriage and family has begun to differ from that of earlier women. A woman is no longer an appendage of the whole family, much less an appendage of a man. In the past, the pattern of male dominance and female dominance is no longer acceptable. It is even more unacceptable that a woman served her husband, children, mother-in-law's family, and had no self at all. When you're out and about, my dear, I'm out and about.

We are also creating all the value for this home.

So, my dear, don't wait for me to be at home and wait for me to have to prepare a hot dinner for you every day, or for all your dirty clothes to be washed for you one by one, and not for the morning when I am in the kitchen ready for you and the whole family to have a fragrant breakfast...... Because, like you, I am a person who belongs to society.

The pressure you have at work, I am also under it, so don't come at me with all your complaints, because I have a lot of complaints too.

The marriage I can accept is to treat each other together, you respect me an inch, I respect you back a foot, if you have an inch, I will not accept it silently. After marriage, my dear, we should care for each other and be considerate of each other like a pair of very good, very good, wonderful friends. If I can't do it, I'd rather not have this kind of marriage.

Butterfly has always believed that marriage is an equal choice for both parties, without any strings attached, and the same is naturally true after marriage, and there should be no unequal treatment, any unequal treatment, or even discrimination.

The reason why we are together is because we love each other, and we can live because we are in harmony with each other, which is very important. If the scales are tipped, our relationship will be questioned.

And you, as a husband, are not tall, not adoring, not majestic, but a shoulder on which we can lean on each other.

It is we who have walked through countless stations in life together, station after stop, when we feel tired, you rely on me, I rely on you, feel each other's body temperature, listen to each other and confide. Let the two lonely hearts, in the cold starry night, in the long lonely station, not be lonely, not afraid, not dazed.

You shouldn't have caused me stress and unhappiness from family life. This is contrary to the basic purpose of marriage.

So before entering this family, it is definitely not like applying for a job and being left to your choice and judgment. After entering this family, you should not be evaluated.

For the mother-in-law, this character has always been a paradoxical image in traditional Chinese life. The history of human processes has never given her a beautiful outward image. There is an ancient saying that can be called a quatrain: a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law.

It is estimated that it is the most poignant description of this traditional mother-in-law and daughter-in-law life. The daughter-in-law naturally suffers from iniquity, and the day she becomes a mother-in-law, she can turn over and become the master, and then transfer all the anger she has suffered, all the unbearable days to the next one. And, it seems to be a matter of course.

The key is that she must give birth to a son, which has become the crux of the idea of male superiority and inferiority.

Butterflies naturally do not fail to consider this issue at all. If you want to be with diving birds, you will inevitably encounter this problem.

She felt that two people should be like friends, even the kind of friends who are not very close, with a little distance, so that they can maintain a superficial respect and humility for each other, and most importantly, maintain the necessary space and distance between each other.

It's just this relationship. It's a bit like the way she and Gao Ruohan have been in for so many years, not intimate, but not too estranged, but estrangement is necessary. If the other party directly acts as a mother or an elder above his head and judges himself domineeringly, this will inevitably produce a sense of pressure and psychological loss.

At that time, Yuan Mei parachuted directly as an elder, just like most traditional Chinese parents, the superiors reviewed the subordinates, scrutinized, and judged whether the butterfly was suitable to be their daughter-in-law.

Never know how harmful this approach is potentially harmful?

Rather than just being a friend, simply getting to know each other, talking to each other, casually, politely. Chinese parents need to learn that it is crucial to become friends with new members. Don't expect to become a close relative, it's impossible, it can only be a friend, and it's not easy to maintain a good relationship.

But the situation at that time immediately stimulated the butterfly's defensive mentality.

The butterflies' only option is to escape.

Now, another reason for the stress is that the problem seems to be back in front of the butterfly. What the hell did she want to do? Continue to flee, or are you ready to submit?

The relationship between her and the diving bird is unclear and has not yet been pierced, but there has always been some ambiguous relationship.

She wanted to refuse in her heart, but the reality was a little powerless.

I can't tell why, anyway, she naturally rejected all this in her heart.

She subconsciously just wanted to run away as quickly as possible, to dodge, just like when she hastily disappeared from the world of diving birds. Only by fleeing can you protect yourself.

But she found that she couldn't, and that this power came not only from herself, but also from the outside. Whether you turn in or out, the result is that you are either entangled in yourself or entangled by external forces.

Once she calmed down, she also realized another important question: what is she doing with diving birds for? What is the reason for getting closer to him little by little and slowly stepping into his life?

Whether I didn't realize it, or I was deliberately avoiding this explicit question.

Why did you jump into this pit again after going around and around for so many years?

In order to force herself not to dwell on these things, Butterfly deliberately avoided the diving bird for a while, she didn't want to see him, she didn't want to receive a call from him, she wanted to make herself think about it and make a decision.