65, Zhang Lili's exchange (5)

I stared at Zhang Lili intently, there was a question that had been lingering in my heart, and at this moment I unconsciously blurted out, "Lili, you are a person with such a broad perspective, observing the world is such a theory, observing problems is so sharp, and thinking about problems is so deep." I have always lived in my own small circle, in addition to the study of the incomparably serious, what I have is the passion for creation, my works are very simple from the ideological point of view, I live a very simple life, like you as a thoughtful and assertive young man, how can you be willing to do such in-depth exchanges and exchanges with a little girl like me like a glass of boiled water? ”

Zhang Lili looked at me affectionately and said, "Bang Bang, from the first time I saw you, I knew that the two of us should be good sisters, although we have different perspectives on the world, and the depth of the problem is not the same, but we are destined to be the best sisters, because you are too innocent, you are a beautiful angel in my heart, every poem of yours is from the heart, not only artistically good, good in literature, better in thought, our complex society, our chaotic world, We need your simplicity so much, this kind of innocent poetry will purify a person's psychology, and let us yearn for the beauty of kindness and a better tomorrow. Although many of your thoughts are almost naïve, it is your innocence that makes me see hope for all of us, because we have in our hearts a quest for innocence, a desire for goodness, a celebration of beauty. ”

I was embarrassed to ask Zhang Lili, "My dear, with such a person with profound thoughts, with such a person with a world vision, a person with lofty ideals and ambitions like you, facing me who lives in my own small circle, is very comfortable, a person who feels good about self-centeredness, a person who weaves dreams every day and cheers for dreams, don't you feel monotonous?" Don't you think it's ridiculous? ”

Zhang Lili looked at my mind full of questions, especially doubts about the relationship between the two of us, she said to me very seriously, "Our discipline is a discipline with a huge world view, it is a social discipline, so we look at the problem from the angle, our world view, our ideas are different, the discipline you are studying is a discipline that improves both artistry and literature, and the angle you stand on to consider the problem is full of literary dreams, not everyone can reach your kind of realm. Not everyone can compile your ideal literary dream, so who am I to think you are monotonous? Why don't I appreciate it and think it's ridiculous? ”

Hearing Zhang Lili's rhetorical question, I felt ashamed of my own paranoia, and I felt ashamed of my sisterhood, and I would even ask such a naïve question, "I understand, why are you so good to me?" It is precisely because of the complementary ideas of our two disciplines that you look at my literature and artistry with an appreciative eye, and I now have an understanding of your thoughts, and I look at your world pattern and society with an appreciative eye and an envious eye, which is the unity and difference that our Confucian culture pays attention to, and it is precisely because of this difference between our sisters that we can continue to be good forever, and the friendship between our sisters will become deeper and deeper. ”

Zhang Lili said, "Bang Bang, it's not surprising that you have this kind of thought, in fact, the interaction between people and people is social, sociality is a very complex problem, there are many different ways to deal with social issues, different concepts are easy to disagree, as friends, some people come together because of like-mindedness, they have similar ideas, the same ideals, and the path they choose is also common, these people will be good friends for life, and some people are because of emotional factors, in society, in the family, There are common feelings in the world view, forming a common emotional atmosphere, gradually becoming good friends, feelings are getting deeper and deeper, pouring out each other in mutual understanding, forming a community of feelings, and some people are like us, although they do not grow up in the same environment, but have complementary sociality, you have your advantages, I have my strengths, learn from each other's strengths, form complementary advantages, such people can also be more and more assimilated, more and more consistent, because of mutual nourishment, complement each other, Learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses and become like-minded friends. ”

I really admire Zhang Lili's eloquence, all questions can be turned into his academic expression, the relationship between people is also a friend relationship, in fact, it is a very simple problem, if you get together, you will be together, and if you don't get along, you will be separated, and in his words and conversations, there are several situations in the definition of friends, and what he said is still so reasonable, whether it is a career community with the goal of career, or the kind of emotional community based on emotional atmosphere, including a complementary community like me and himThis kind of theoretical friend defines me as a complete layman, and although it sounds plausible in theory, I rarely use my brain to think about these issues.

In fact, thinking about the relationship between people, it is in response to the old Chinese saying, people have no long-term worries, if people want to have long-term and continuous contact with each other, the relationship is getting better and better, and the relationship is getting closer and closer, we must consider some deep-seated problems, in terms of ideology, in dealing with people, in terms of principle, we have mutual understanding, so that we can get to each other's feelings, each other's concerns, and we can continue to communicate for a long time. The ancients said that only by knowing each other and not doubting each other can we get along for a long time. This is not only a way of dealing with the world, but also a skill for the world, without a deep understanding of a person, no real trust in a person, how to imagine getting along with this person for a long time?

Friends often discuss the relationship between each other, is a trick for friends to interact with each other, deepen understanding, deepen friendship, as two young girls, for young people who still have a long road of life, to explore the view of life, the view of the world, especially the view of dealing with people, or particularly necessary, in these views you can experience the principle of life, the principle of doing things, you can understand the pattern of the other party, the principle of the other party, the bottom line of the other party, Take care of the other person's concerns as you do things.

The communication between people is because of the relationship of time, will understand more and more deeply between people, because of the exchange to deepen, friends in the process of communication to explore each other, confide in each other to be able to open their inner world to each other, people who open their hearts to each other, people who can be honest with each other can be able to communicate for a long time, friends need true feelings, then it is more necessary to be sincere, the road is far away to know the horsepower, see the hearts of the people for a long time, only the hearts of the people for the hearts of the people can be exchanged for the true feelings of the world.

Zhang Lili and I were at first sight from the beginning, in the training class of tutor training, the two of us met in Pingshui, at that time I just sent Liu Qianqian away, a person to think quietly about personal problems, Zhang Lili's appearance let me open a window, Zhang Lili, the two of us were together for two days, he used what he saw to give me a life enlightenment lesson, he said those examples, are far away from home and wandering away from home should be learned, How can such a person not be worthy of associating with others when they can share these experiences with others as soon as they meet?

In the process of being a tutor, Wang Wenli's English has a problem, with my personal ability can not solve these professional knowledge, Zhang Lili has become the object of my player, received my player, Zhang Lili did her best to tutor, Wang Wenli Jinger is Yang Jiajia, and also helped Dong Chunjiao, in the process of communication, we saw each other's strength, but also realized that sisters, common cause, common pursuit, common efforts, let us become a pair of young people who love sisters.

During the New Year's Day holiday, I made a special trip to him for an in-depth exchange, learned about his life circle, learning environment and his family background, in-depth understanding, his personal charm, more attracted me, in our cooperation with Li Dong Chunjiao, showed his superhuman wisdom, broad mind, and a kind heart.

The friends around him also made me change my concept, I was originally a very quiet person, in my literary world full of dreams, full of fantasy, full of romance, Liu Mary and Butterfly, two foreign student friends, let me understand their ideas in the contemporary world youth, understand their world view, let me open my eyes to improve the perspective of observing the world, since then the road of life has become wider and wider.

Recently, the contacts have gradually become closer, and in the face of major tasks, I am really a little confused, Xu Fengqin's series of education made me suddenly open the spear, let me know the historical significance and practical significance of this commemorative event, in the world pattern, our country to hold such a major event, for this nation, for this country, for the whole world, how timely.

As a young girl born in the 90s, she lacks understanding of the world, lacks understanding of the country, and lacks understanding of history, and Zhang Lili explained to me the pattern of the world in simple terms, which is our country. Our nation is in a hundred years of great changes have not been seen at a moment, for myself to undertake this task more sense of mission, if Xu Fengqin's explanations touched me, then Zhang Lili's personal experience of the words are more deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, not only the specific explanation of Xu Fengqin's big perspective and pattern, but also from a person's point of view, a girl's perspective to explain the world, to observe the world, to get their own inner world conclusions.

We live in this world, I am telling students every day to observe life, from the subtleties to find out the bits and pieces of our life, it is from the perspective of observation to improve the level of our writing, if you don't know how to write an article, then in-depth and detailed observation of every point of life, not macro, but micro meticulous, without missing a trace, it must be a good observation diary, detailed observation of life can allow you to have something to write, some to say, can turn your um, stomach empty words into something to say, and can allow you to write an excellent journal of observations.

And I myself forgot that in addition to the subtle observations, there is also a lack of macroscopic observations of the world. If careful observation can allow you to write a good article, then macro observation will definitely open up another wonderful life for you, will definitely change your world view, will definitely let you have a new understanding of the world, have a new positioning of yourself, in the future world, there is a position you hope for, there is your right way on the road in the future, in your development process will definitely improve your grade, so that you can achieve a magnificent life.

It seems that people living in this world need to be carefully observed, in addition to the truthful record in the observation process, we also need to think seriously, the angle of thinking can be different, you can think from a nuanced angle, dig deep into every bit of the event, you can also expand your thoughts, let you observe the world from a macro perspective, observe the country, observe the process of events, let you find out the law, let you find hope, let you out of a better pace of life.

Whether it is a detailed observation, or a macro observation, we must take ourselves as a role, put ourselves in the pilot, put yourself in the shoes of the observation to be able to have experience, to have thoughts, to be able to weave dreams, to be able to shape a beautiful role, observation should be the theme of life, from our innocence to observe any wonderful problem, to our adult to observe life, to observe work, to observe society, to observe the world, every time you observe you will be surprised, Discovering that these discoveries may be microscopic and will make you pay attention to all the details, and these observations may also be macroscopic, making you more open-minded and full of passion to face all setbacks and difficulties and make unremitting efforts.

My life experience is destined to be simple, but the simple and innocent girl is not lacking in thinking, no matter who it is, no matter what it is, no matter where it is, to think seriously on the basis of observation, is an attitude towards life. The development of any thing has its social background, external reasons and internal factors, as long as you are good at thinking and digging these things out, it will enlighten you, these revelations come from reality, from nature, and from the depths of your heart.

In fact, in our life, everyone consciously or unconsciously, are completing this process, but some of us are conscious, some people are unconscious, but the effect is the same, in this process from observation and thinking, is the harvest of your life, the meticulous observation, the depth of thinking, your harvest will be greater, the observation and thinking of some key people and key things are deeper, you will have unexpected gains.

In the process of interacting with Zhang Lili, mutual communication is my biggest gain. Because of the different disciplines, Zhang Lili's research object is the whole society, and his social research is a real inspiration to me. Originally, my observation and thinking of problems were centered on my own personal thoughts, and I seldom put things into a social environment to examine, and my conclusions about my individual-centered thinking may be biased or a little narrow.

It is precisely because Zhang Lili taught me social investigation, I put these things in the social background to observe and think, and the conclusion I came to is epoch-making, no longer to use my own small circle to reduce the fate, but to use social standards to use universal moral standards to measure this person, measure these things, and come to a completely different conclusion, as a literary newcomer, as a person with literary dreams, if his dream is social, do you say this is a huge leap?

Thinking of this, I said to Zhang Lili, "Lili, you said that our exchanges are aimless, although we are talking about world events, and national events may have little impact on us personally, but after the talks, why are we open-minded and open to thinking about problems?" ”

Zhang Lili said thoughtfully, "Bang Bang, our life is too small and short for the big pattern of the world, for the occasion of history, you can't experience everything, you can't learn all the history, and what you have been exposed to must be very limited, we tell each other about our cognition in our interactions, and the other party's cognition is digested into our own cognition, this kind of learning may be more practical than we read books." Some of the truth is like this, I am in the classroom teacher to tell us, then it is a bit too official, you accept at the same time there is resistance, you will selectively accept, friends talk to each other about these is different, because the relationship is good, the emotional atmosphere is good, so you accept the knowledge in full, and even some more rigid and harsh questions, you don't understand, through the friend to you to explain, you also understand, this is the power between friends, this is the reason for the love of sisters. ”

I thoughtfully said to Zhang Lili, "Oh, so that's the case, I have a lot of questions that I am familiar with, I don't know on which occasions I have heard others discuss, in which links have been explained, but in my mind has never touched my heart, today listening to you say this, I know the reason, because our relationship is good, because of our close relationship, so the things you say, the degree of trust is higher in my place, so it touches my heart even more, and these problems are integrated into my consciousness." ”

Zhang Lili looked at me and said with a smile, "So when we were in ancient times, we described people and things differently, there is an old saying that a lover's eyes are full of Xi Shi." Why is it in the eyes of lovers in people's hearts? It's not because your lover is really so good-looking, but because there is a relationship between you, and you have a beautiful hallucinatory emotion for him, so in the eyes of the lover, you are as beautiful as Shih Tzu no matter what you look like. The same is true between friends, the more friends have a good relationship, the more suggestive they are to each other, and what friends say will naturally touch your heart and cause your feelings to resonate. ”

I nodded deeply and said, "Lili, what you said is really in-depth and simple, I completely agree with your point of view, so when the two countries are inseparable, they often play the emotional card, and such examples abound in history, if Jiang Gan and Zhou Yu did not have a relationship, he would not have stolen the letter, and finally buried Cai Mao and Zhang Yun, this is the cunning Zhou Yu, using Jiang Gan's cleverness, and finally talking about the officer, being smart but being clever and mistaken, let this big traitor Cao Cao also be fooled." ”

Zhang Lili heard me talk about this classical classic example, and laughed, "Your mind is too broad, an ordinary joke between the two of us, you actually thought of the classic stories in the Three Kingdoms, your literary skills are really incomparable to me, if you give a lecture to students, this kind of large-span example will definitely attract students and make students worship you more." ”

I also smiled and said to Zhang Lili, "As best friends, the two of us have to talk so much today, from the world pattern to the relationship between the two friends, the discussion is both in-depth and specific, and opening up shows that the two of us are rare bosom friends, don't you say that the relationship between people is like this?" As long as the relationship with each other is particularly good and you open your heart, what other world can not be embraced? I'm a bit simple, and you're very happy when you talk about it, so the topic is also dragging around, east and west, don't be surprised. ”

Zhang Lili pretended to be angry and said, "If the two of us are not such good girlfriends, I suspect that you are sent by our mentor to investigate our major, and the questions you raised today are really nonsensical, from the world pattern to the lives of the people, how broad and extensive the topic you say, aren't you a test of my sociological problems?" If it weren't for my quick response, I wouldn't have been able to answer your questions a long time ago, and you, a high-level literary talent, are so sharp in asking questions about life, it is indeed a bit difficult for me to fight hard, but I am very happy, our communication has always been open-minded, I can say whatever I think in my heart, and we have a common reflection on what is wrong after speaking. ”

Seeing Zhang Lili so excited and answering me so sharply, I also had a feeling in my heart, "Don't blame me, Lili, we are so young, our hearts are indeed too simple, we don't understand the world, we don't know everything around us, we don't know about people and things outside, we want to break into this world again, you know how much fear you have in your heart, when you meet a bosom friend like you, of course you have to ask questions, the answers you give me are all mentors of life, In the future, I will be mentally prepared for any problems I encounter on the road of life, I will repeatedly observe, think repeatedly, put it on the social side and weigh it carefully, avoid making mistakes, and avoid making mistakes because of me, how much you say it means to me. ”

Zhang Lili smiled a little out of breath, "Bang Bang, say that you are a simple person, you are really getting more and more simple, you didn't talk to me today, you are also very steady and careful, you are very principled in front of the big right and wrong, and you also pay special attention to details when doing things, have I given you this life lesson, your life will be magnificent, you wear so many high hats for me, aren't you afraid of tiring me?" We are good friends, we are good friends who are like sisters, we have formed a cross on the road of life, we will go all the way together, don't give me a high hat in the future, I am too tired, I also did not give you a high hat, since it is a good friend, tell the truth, you should praise the place to praise, should point out the shortcomings to point out to you, this is a good friend with a common heart. ”

In front of Zhang Lili, I am more and more like a primary school student, he is talking eloquently in the hanging river, I am there to think carefully and listen, what a wonderful world it is, it is he who gave me a key to understand the world, society, and life.

When a person understands the world, life, and his own life from another angle, another height and another level, he has undoubtedly discovered a new continent, everything is so curious, everything is so colorful, and everything is full of hopeful whimsy.

Communicating with Zhang Lili, I was in such a state, accustomed to looking at the world in a simple way, to look at people and things, and suddenly I had a social ruler in my hand, the background of the world pattern, do you think I don't think the world is more wonderful?

Hearing Zhang Lili look at our discussion so casually, I really can't guess how big her heart is, how broad her pattern is, but in her life, she must be indomitable how many difficulties she encounters, and how many setbacks she will move forward bravely.

The communication between people is like a key that opens up the wonderful world and allows you to make more and better discoveries.