Although what Wu Yuhui said was a sick sentence, I believe that several people present understood it.

I was also very curious, in fact, when I was in school, I knew about the custom of "walking marriage", and the fifth and sixth children in the dormitory were still clamoring to go to the Tujia family to "be guests" and experience the fun of walking marriage.

Marriage is a custom of the Mosuo people, an ethnic minority in Yunnan and Sichuan provinces, and the Mosuo people basically have no marriage system except for a few who marry wives or sons-in-law because they want to increase the number of family workers.

Marriage is a way for men and women who are in love to marry through men to women's homes, maintain their relationship and give birth to the next generation.

Since women are in charge of matrilineal societies, children born to their mothers are raised by their mothers, and the biological fathers will hold a public feast on the full moon to acknowledge their blood relationship and avoid the occurrence of paternal confusion.

Men call their female lovers "Axia", and women call their male lovers "Azhu".

Marriage is an important part of the "matrilineal" family. The "marriage" of adult men is a way to pass on the family line and reproduce their descendants, but it is different from other ethnic couples who have lived together for many years.

They gather at dusk, return at dawn, and go at dusk.

It is said that there are two ways for the Mosuo people to get married: one is called "Ah Zhu" settlement marriage; One is called "Axia" long-lived marriage.

Of course, there is also a more "free" way of getting married.

If a Mosuo man has a crush on a girl and she is in love, the man will ride to her window at night and spend the night with her.

However, due to the development of today's society, the way of walking is now adopted, as long as the woman loves the man, the man will be allowed to climb in through the window, and hang a hat in front of the window to indicate that no one is allowed to disturb him during the date.

It needs to be explained here that girls who have reached the age of marriage and childbearing have their rooms on the second or third floor of the stilted building.

Even if a girl likes a boy, she can't let him in through the main entrance, but has to climb the window.

This is also to test the boy's physique, and set up a level for the health of the offspring!

The next day, the man had to leave the woman's room before dawn, and it would be disrespectful to the elders if they hadn't left after they got up.

Before the elders woke up, the man's departure could be swaggered out from the main entrance.

If a child is born, only the woman will raise it and follow the mother's surname as the child of her own family, so that the situation of the same father can be avoided.

Regardless of the kind of marriage custom, an ancient ceremony called "Zangbala" is held, which means: worship the Bodhisattva of the Stove and worship the ancestors.

This ceremony is held at the woman's house, usually in the middle of the night, and no guests or gifts are given, and friends do not participate.

This etiquette is for the man's family to invite a witness to lead the suitor to the woman's house, of course, the young men and women have already had feelings, and there is no matchmaker's words, and the mother's uncle's life.

According to their own financial situation, the man's family will bring gifts on the platform of the pot pile above the fire pond and on the altar in the prayer hall according to the rules, bow to the ancestors, bow to the pot pile, and then bow to the elders, mother, uncle, and sister, and then accept the blessings of the elders and sisters.

The gifts sent are one for the elderly, the old and the young. Your sweetheart "Asha" must massage the shuttle decorated and carefully dressed from head to toe. The man will get the woman to carefully weave a flower belt with Mosuo characteristics from Mosuo linen cloth by herself.

The woman's family will never give money or goods to the man's family.

They believe that the love between men and women is equal, more important than anything else, and affection is an important factor in the "marriage" of Mosuo people.

When the witnesses confessed to the mother and uncles of "Ah Xia", the men and women became public, and the "Ah Xia Marriage" did not invite guests or do it, this ancient custom was frugal and trouble-free, and the whole ceremony could be completed in an hour. Clouds

There is always a saying in the outside world that a marriage is a one-night stand, but this is a completely wrong statement.

The Mosuo people are a very conservative and simple people, and there is actually only a paper difference between a walking marriage and our marriage.

Marriage is based on the understanding and love of both men and women. Marriage is not a momentary passion and impulse. After the 13-year-old coming-of-age ceremony, Mosuo people enjoy the qualification of marriage, but under normal circumstances, even if they have a favorite object, they will not be officially married after 3 years or even more of eyebrow flirting and singing.

In a sense, walking marriage is a kind of marriage that is romantic and romantic for a lifetime, although there is no paper constraint, but it is also about responsibility and love.

As far as I know, the real custom of walking marriage, which occurred before the 80s of the last century, is essentially a kind of romantic behavior with a very regional color, but later it was partially used indiscriminately, made up indiscriminately, changed its taste, and became ambiguous and even evil.

Do Miao people also have wedding activities? How I've never heard of it!

The middle-aged man smiled at Wu Yuhui: "The two ladies can't participate in the wedding month activities, this is the village rule." ”

Xiao He waved his hand: "No! We're not interested either! ”

Unexpectedly, Hao Minyuan seemed to be very interested and asked a lot of things in the village.

At this time, I suddenly realized that Hao Minyuan understood the witchcraft of the Miao people, and it was estimated that it was the task given by Liu Liwei before departure, and he also revealed to me that he suspected that the real mastermind behind the Yellow River Pharmaceutical Factory and Bohai Pharmaceutical Factory was a person who understood witchcraft.

Hao Minyuan took advantage of the time to go to the toilet and quietly reminded me that I must follow the local customs, as long as it is not too outrageous, I will do what they ask.

Next, the grandmother called for a dozen girls, each carrying the robes and clothes unique to the village and gold and silver jewelry.

The first step is to change your clothes.

I was dragged into a room by four young girls.

There is a large bronze mirror in the room, and on the table are several small wooden boxes carved with various strange symbols, each with a faint fragrance.

The girl didn't speak, and went straight to undressing me.

It made my face instantly red to the root of my ears, and I quickly took the initiative to take off my coat and handed it over.

The four girls were unimpressed, one of them took the clothes, and the other leaned over to take them off.

There's only one left! I hurriedly grabbed it with both hands: "This is not necessary!" ”

Finally changed their clothes, several people got together again, and after looking at each other for two or three seconds, they all couldn't help laughing.

"Master, first take you to the banquet, the wedding month activities, tonight officially begins!"

Banquet?

In my understanding, all banquets in China are about eating and drinking, and I am quite looking forward to it, and I am eager to try the special food of Miao Village.

followed the middle-aged man to another large courtyard, and as soon as he entered the gate, he saw that the courtyard was full of tables and hundreds of people were crowded.

When my eyes swept over the food on the metal plate on the table, I felt a tumbling stomach.