Chen Jie said slowly at this time:

"My wish is actually very simple, the national fortune is now here, this kind of pressure can not be escaped, but I hope that individuals can be happier in their daily work and life."

"Even if it is difficult to be happy, it is good to be calm, only when everyone's mentality is calm, national rejuvenation can be sustainable, and individuals can truly feel the meaning of national rejuvenation. I always want everyone to live happily. ”

"But if you want others to be happy, you first have to make yourself happy."

"How to be happy is a big proposition, which requires time and energy to summarize and sort out, I know that the pressure of the enterprise is very high now, if I devote myself to the normal system, the daily work schedule alone is likely to make me busy and out of breath, how can I have the energy to study these? But without the protection of the system, what can I do to survive? You have to solve the problem of survival first, right? ”

Gao Geli suddenly realized at this time: "Oh, that's why you chose to speculate in stocks?" But you can also enter a state-owned enterprise, many positions in state-owned enterprises are actually very easy, and the reason why my dad is tired is because he works in a private company. ”

Chen Guogang came out of the system, Chen Jie understood too much the thoughts of those people in state-owned enterprises, so he replied: "Many positions in state-owned enterprises are indeed easy, but their mental energy is used outside of work, and every day they are full of thoughts about how to sharpen their heads and climb up." But I don't like this kind of culture, doing things against my will makes me unhappy, which in itself is contrary to my original intention. ”

"You can be yourself in a state-owned enterprise, why do you have to learn from those people?"

Chen Jie thought of Lu Guoping again at this time, and when she remembered her attitude towards her father, she suddenly sneered and said: "But I always want to start a family in the future, even if you don't want to use some cleverness to climb up, your wife is not happy!" When the same group of people are in important positions and you are still in the same place, how to solve family conflicts? ”

These words couldn't help but remind Gao Geli of the reality of today's society and the strength of comparison, and shook his head with a wry smile, but he still didn't admit defeat, and continued: "Why do you have to rely on cleverness? You can also go up with your real skills. ”

Chen Jie glanced at Gao Geli at this time, and said in his heart, am I too idealistic or are you too idealistic? So he replied: "With real ability to go up, you have to have Bole, whether you can meet it depends on the chance, at least before the negative feedback mechanism of state-owned enterprises is not perfect, I will not gamble." ”

Gao Geli thought about it, but his father just felt that the sycophants of state-owned enterprises were too heavy, and he earned little before he went to private enterprises.

Gao Geli didn't expect that Chen Jie was only a freshman in high school, and he would already be able to analyze each of his paths properly, so what else did he have to persuade. But there is always a risk in stock speculation, so he couldn't help but say: "It's just that the risk of stock speculation is always greater...... but when he said this, Gao Geli's tone was obviously much more relaxed than before.

"Life is originally a 28 phenomenon, and you want to be the 20% of people and don't want to take risks, how can there be such a cheap thing in this world?"

Gao Geli was completely persuaded by Chen Jie at this time, and said with a smile: "Since this is the case, then I can only wish you good luck." Then he suddenly became sad, "When it comes to happiness just now, I used to be quite optimistic, but in the past two years, I have also felt this way, and I always feel that happiness seems to be getting harder and harder." ”

Although Gao Geli is a little sad about this, in Chen Jie's opinion, this is normal, he said: "There is nothing to be sad about, just like people have a period of voice change in their physiology, and there is also a transition period in people's psychology, and the reason why you feel that happiness is getting harder and harder now is because you are in the transition period of the happiness mechanism." Children are carefree, and happiness is mostly obtained through dopamine, and once people mature, with responsibility and pressure, dopamine is not so easy to obtain, and then it is necessary to rely on endorphins to bring happiness, which are two different happiness mechanisms. ”

Gao Geli had another question mark on his face at this time, and sighed: "Why can you always say some new terms, what dopamine endorphins, what do you mean?" ”

In the final analysis, human life is a picture of happiness, and there are many ways to realize happiness.

Chen Jie said:

"The dopamine mechanism is a reward mechanism, for children, the companionship and encouragement of parents, the praise of teachers, eating sweets, playing games, these can promote the secretion of dopamine, dopamine is a hormone, it can make people feel happy, but this pleasure is characterized by easy to come but go quickly."

"You said that you were happy before, which means that your endocrine system is normal, and it also shows that you grew up in a loving childhood environment."

"And once a person becomes an adult, as the competition intensifies, people have more burden and pressure, and then the secretion level of dopamine will decline, and if you want to feel happy, you often have to rely on the hormone endorphin. Especially in the current high-pressure social environment, it is more difficult for adults to obtain dopamine. ”

"Endorphins are also hormones that make people feel happy, but they need to be obtained through hard work, and they are secreted only when the goals they strive for are achieved."

"So the endorphins mechanism is also called the compensation mechanism, and in layman's terms, you have to get a slap in the face in order to get a piece of sugar. The thrill of running, the sense of accomplishment after breaking through a problem, and the satisfaction after achieving a mission all fall into this category. ”

"But what I'm saying is that it's normal for everyone to go through a transition period of happiness mechanics, but not necessarily everyone will make a successful transition."

"Because endorphins are more difficult to obtain than dopamine, for people with weak willpower, many times they give up before the arrival of endorphins. If endorphins are not obtained, the transition to the happiness mechanism will fail. ”

"And from what I've observed, the failure rate of this happiness transition is getting higher and higher."

"The causes of transition failure are complex," he says.

"The pressure of social competition is too high, resulting in the increasing cost of obtaining endorphins; There is also the lack of dopamine provided by the original family, and a person who grows up in a lack of care and does not even taste enough dopamine, how can he have the motivation to pursue endorphins?! Then there is the personality of the person, a person who is too demanding of himself is not easy to get endorphins. ”

"The last major reason is that most of our generation are pampered, and their willpower is generally weak, and they have given up before the arrival of endorphins. From this point of view, it is actually very reasonable for the ancestors to say that it is necessary to endure hardships as soon as possible. ”

"And once the transition fails, people fall back into the dopamine happiness mechanism, but for adults, this mechanism is risky."

"If a person's spiritual world is very empty, and real life is not stimulated by endorphins because of unsatisfactory conditions, then you can only be happy with dopamine, and the lower risk is food, games, the Internet, smoking, and alcohol.

And because dopamine itself is a hormone that comes and goes quickly, once dopamine becomes the only source of happiness, in order to feel happy, it is necessary to repeat the same behavior over and over again, and once the dependence on dopamine is formed, it is extremely easy to become addicted. At this point, it was too late to intervene, which is why I didn't want to be a psychiatrist. ”

After pondering for a while, Gao Geli sighed: "Dopamine is easy to addiction, and endorphins are not easy to obtain, is it already so difficult to be happy in our age?" ”

"Most people's emotional trajectory is an electrocardiogram pattern, once the mood falls into a trough, it often needs hormone stimulation, but if you can jump out of this emotional trajectory, you can unlock the third happiness mode, this happiness mode does not need hormone stimulation, it is normalized happiness." Speaking of this, Chen Jie suddenly stopped talking.

Seeing this, Gao Geli urged: "Don't sell it, hurry up." ”

Chen Jie said again:

"I can only feel this happy pattern occasionally, so I can't explain it very carefully."

"My feeling is that once a person enters this state, the emotional trajectory is more like a straight line, but it is not numbness, it is a very bland joy."

"It's not as manic as hormone-stimulated pleasure, but rather a pleasure that comes naturally from the inside out, similar to what you feel after emptying. I don't know how it works, but I just know that it's easier to feel this kind of happiness when I'm alone. ”

The reason why Chen Jie's feelings about this pattern of happiness are vague is because this kind of happiness that does not occur in the ancient well without waves is not generated by himself. Its origin is actually in Chen Guogang, Chen Jie has only been influenced by Chen Guogang's ears and eyes, and it is precisely because of Chen Guogang's influence on his state of mind that Chen Jie can feel this happiness very early.

"And what do you do when you're alone?"

"Maybe I'm reading a book, or maybe I'm just sitting quietly."

Gao Geli muttered, "Maybe this is something that can only be felt by people with a very full spiritual world......

The short road out of school became infinitely long in the discussion of happiness between the two people, and when they came back to their senses, they found that they had not even walked out of the campus, Chen Jie saw that it was too late, so he urged Gao Geli to speed up the pace.

Out of the school gate, the two walked on the established route as usual, Gao Geli's curiosity has been at a strong level for a long time, so he always likes to look around when he walks, and his mood is naturally not as stable as Chen Jie.

As he walked, Gao Geli suddenly found that there was a figure in the alley on the left that was particularly familiar, he patted Chen Jie and asked, "Hey, don't you see that portrait like Feng Shinan?" ”