Gao Geli only found out today that Chen Jie was an idealist, so he mocked: "You are too idealistic, this world is still full of prejudice and discrimination after all." Just like your analogy, people still prefer towering trees, and even aquatic plants themselves often feel inferior because they see big trees. ”

"I'm not idealizing, I'm talking about the state of a benign runtime of the world. In fact, whether it is arrogance, prejudice and discrimination as you say, or even the inferiority of water plants, it is essentially one thing: ignorance. The virus is just that it is often reflected in a different shape by power, wealth, and poverty. Believe me, in a world full of prejudice and discrimination, the big tree's contempt for aquatic plants will one day be counterattacked, and everyone will have a hard time. ”

Gao Geli smacked for a while and replied: "I agree with the ignorance part, but the latter words always feel too mysterious." ”

Chen Jie felt that his words were not mysterious at all, but just used a metaphor. But since Gao Geli said Xuan, Chen Jie could only accommodate him: "I know that some words are difficult for people to accept in the way they are spoken, because many times the truth is not explained, but understood, and it is often easier for people to remember it than to understand." I only hope that when the backlash occurs, those who have the foresight will think in this direction. ”

"I'll go, you've managed to stun me!" Gao Geli always felt that Chen Jie's words had something to say, but he was not interested in delving into it for the time being, after all, Chen Jie's previous question had not been answered, so he said, "Let's talk about your family's affairs, I am now more interested in the life trajectory you have chosen." ”

This time, it was Chen Jie's turn to sigh again, only to hear him sell another pass and say, "Have you heard a word?" Choosing a job is choosing a life. ”

Chen Jie read this sentence in a documentary literature, and the author of this book also made a lot of very subtle life descriptions of this sentence, so Chen Jie would have an early understanding of this sentence at his age.

Although Gao Geli could more or less understand a little from his father's living state, he still couldn't reach the level of understanding that Chen Jie, so he asked, "How do you say this?" ”

"If you choose to be a doctor, you have to work night shifts often, because you have to ensure the safety of patients; The end of each quarter is the busiest time to choose to do accounting, because financial statements need to be issued; If you choose to open a restaurant, you have to get up in the middle of the night every day to prepare breakfast; And like you, if you want to be a programmer in the future, it is probably common to work overtime all night. ”

Gao Geli saw that the examples given by Chen Jie's were all urban occupations, so he thought of things in the countryside again, and recalled: "These occupations do sound very hard, so although farming is a bit dusty, at least it doesn't sound so tiring." ”

In Chen Jie's view, all professions are equal, so he will not criticize Gao Geli's views like those who look down on farming, but just follow him and say: "Even if you think that farming may not be so hard, you will not really do it, because your talent, temperament and growth environment have already delineated a career choice range for you." And farming is not bitter, but you think, the farmer uncle is estimated to have endless bitter water. ”

Chen Jie looked up at the sky, his eyes revealing a depth far beyond his peers, he said: "Every line has the bitterness of every line, but the income or everyone's interest and sense of mission are even helpless to make them accept the sacrifices brought by their careers." ”

"But what I like is a regular life, and it's not just out of habit. People always have to get married, we will all be husbands and fathers in the future, we need time to spend time with our families and the next generation. Only if your role is not out of place, can the family be united and harmonious, the mental health of the next generation can be guaranteed, and the next generation will not become a semi-finished product when they grow up, so career choices need to be extremely deliberate. ”

Gao Geli's eyes widened when he heard this, he stared at Chen Jie and said suspiciously: "Brother, you're thinking too far, aren't you?!" ”

Chen Jie shook his head slowly, and replied lightly: "People have no long-term concerns, but they must have near-term worries." ”

In fact, Chen Jie's thinking has a lot to do with his growth environment. Because Chen Guogang and Lu Guoping have been separated from each other for a long time, Chen Jie has always grown up with Chen Guogang, although this is already the choice of Chen Jie's parents to choose the lesser of harm, but this feeling of lack of family affection still has a certain psychological impact on Chen Jie.

In order to try his best to bridge the negative impact of the separation of husband and wife on Chen Jie, Chen Guogang also attaches great importance to psychological counseling in this area when educating Chen Jie. In order to prevent Chen Jie from touching the scene, he didn't even dare to hang out the family photo at home, saying that he didn't dare, but in fact, he didn't take it at all.

Chen Guogang is okay at home, but every time he goes out to play, he can't do anything. Everyone is a family of three, holding hands and holding small hands, but there is always only one Chen Guogang by Chen Jie's side, and Lu Guoping's position has always been occupied by a cloud of air, don't you lose this feeling? Aren't you sad? Don't fool the ghosts!

Now that Chen Jie's age is older, he has also accepted the reality of life that "things are often unsatisfactory and can be said to others", but the acceptance of reality has gradually made him introverted and more like to be alone.

Fortunately, Chen Jie has Chen Guogang, a father who knows his warmth and coldness, under the care and guidance of Chen Guogang, at least Chen Jie has not broken the jar, has not been cynical, and has still grown up positively, and he now looks at the phenomenon of parental separation more understanding and tolerance.

But this bitter taste Chen Jie has experienced it firsthand, and he doesn't want this kind of family problem to happen to his offspring again, so he will consider these factors in his career choice.

But in Gao Geli's opinion, he felt that although his father usually worked hard and had little time to spend with his family, his mother basically understood his father, so the family atmosphere was okay as a whole, so he said: "The family is run by husband and wife, and when you have a significant other, even if you don't have time to spend with your family, I believe she will understand you." Life comes out step by step, so there's no need to think so carefully in advance, right? ”

Chen Jie shook his head again and replied lightly: "I am pessimistic about whether this understanding can really happen, there will be disappointments if there are expectations, and it is better to ask others to understand than to ask yourself to think about it in advance." ”

Just like Chen Jie heard that Gao Geli was insecure, Gao Geli now heard the pessimistic atmosphere when Chen Jie discussed the family, but he didn't know how to comfort the little friend in front of him, so he could only change the topic and said: "Okay, let's not talk about this, let's talk about the career you chose." ”