At this time, Chen Guogang took off the sleeves and apron, pointed to these two things and said: "The easiest thing to get dirty when cooking is the cuffs and placket, these two places are protected, and the clothes don't have to be washed too often, without these two things, the clothes will have to be washed in a week, and no matter how diligent Dad is, he can't get to this point." But with the addition of these two things, the outer clothes can be washed once every half a month. The labor force at home is limited, so you have to think of some clever way, right? As long as you grasp the main contradiction in doing things, you can always get twice the result with half the effort. ”

"Dad, didn't you tell me when you were a child, 'A gentleman is far away from cooking'? Why are you teaching me how to cook again now? ”

When Chen Guogang heard this, he couldn't help but shake his head and said: "What I am most afraid of in school is that I don't know anything about it, when did I say that 'a gentleman is far away from cooking' means that men can't enter the kitchen?" It seems that you still can't get home after researching, so let's talk about the origin of 'Gentleman Yuan Cook'. ”

Chen Jie has read this sentence in many places, and the first thing he thought of was a poem in the Song Dynasty, so he said: "What I can think of is Du Zheng's "Three Songs of Fu Zhang Yuanzhou Yinzhai", which is not a sentence 'The gentleman is far away from the kitchen, and the husband is not evil'?" ”

"This poem is from the Song Dynasty, it's too late! Think again, think to the roots. ”

Chen Jie frowned and thought for a moment, then said: "That is the 'gentleman is far away from the kitchen, and everything with flesh and blood is practiced' in the chapter of "The Book of Rites: Yuzao". ”

"This sentence can basically explain the true meaning of 'gentleman is far away from cooking', but from the perspective of evidence, it's still almost, this book is compiled by Dai Shengsuo, a ritual scholar in the Western Han Dynasty, it's still a little late, think about it further."

Chen Jie secretly complained in his heart, he didn't expect that eating a bowl of noodles would cause so much trouble, so he simply replied impatiently: "I really can't think of it." ”

"When I was a child, I always asked you to read the Four Books and the Five Classics, and when you remember the content of the Pentateuch, you can't remember the content of the Four Books? What does it say in "Mencius: Liang Hui Wang Chapter 1"? 'A gentleman is to a beast, and when he sees his life, he cannot bear to see his death; Hearing its voice, I can't bear to eat its flesh. This book was written in the Warring States Period, earlier than the Western Han Dynasty, and if you want to talk about the evidence, of course, it is subject to the explanation of this book. Mencius believed that you should not kill anything that has flesh, and what he admired was the heart of forbearance, so that the gentleman should not commit murder. The purpose was to exhort King Qi Xuan to practice benevolence. I just made you a bowl of somen noodles, why can't men go down to the kitchen? ”

Chen Jie recalled the past through his father's words, but all the meat eaten at home is indeed cooked food bought directly from outside, and the only ingredient that Chen Guogang can see in the years when he has been cooking with meat is eggs, it seems that his father's unity of knowledge and action is quite in place.

However, Chen Jie is now 15 years old after all, so he naturally has his own opinions, so he replied: "But I still think that girls are more likely to live a life when they cook, and they have to live at home a little bit of fireworks. ”

Chen Guogang held up the grievances for the majority of women, and said: "Modern women also have their own jobs, why do they have to take on so much housework when they go home?" ”

"No, no, no, that's not what I meant." Chen Jie felt that there might be a lot of discussion with his father next, but if he didn't eat this noodle, it would be a mess, so he buried his head first and pulled up the noodles in the bowl.

After spending about half a minute cleaning up the battlefield, Chen Jie simply wiped the oil on his mouth with the back of his hand and couldn't wait to open his mouth: "It's like an assembly line, the most efficient way is for a worker to only do one type of work, for example, the person in charge of screwing only lets him screw, so that once he becomes a skilled worker, the efficiency will become very high." The efficiency of two workers who have to put on the screws and fold the packaging box is definitely lower than that of a worker who specializes in screwing and folding the packaging box. If you want to give full play to the synergy efficiency of the husband and wife, and want to live a little fireworks, the division of labor and cooperation is still very necessary. ”

Seeing that his father did not interrupt him, Chen Jie continued: "So the marriage model in my heart is that men are responsible for working outside the home, and women are responsible for taking care of the family. But the premise is that the man should realize the importance of running a house, and it is not easier to keep a family in order than a man to make money outside the home, so don't always say things like 'I don't earn all the money you spend'. At the same time, women's psychology should also be sound enough, because once contemporary women are at home full-time, it is easy to become insecure, and then it becomes a monitor that knows the whereabouts of the man 24 hours a day, and men can't stand it for a long time. ”

Chen Jie saw that his father still didn't interrupt him, so he continued: "In a marriage like today, the woman has to work and be responsible for a lot of housework. But men have indeed worked all day, especially men are burdened by their natural responsibilities, and their anxiety is generally stronger than that of women, so they often have some hobbies of smoking, drinking or playing games to empty themselves, and they don't let people smoke or drink, and even play two games and their ears can't fall into silence, which doesn't make people live?! On the surface, both sides are right, but in the end, no one is happy. ”

When Chen Guogang heard this, he nodded calmly and said: "There is some truth in the analysis, but you must know that contemporary life is very stressful, and the income of a single worker is still a little tight to support the family. ”

I think there is something wrong with this sentence, is it really that tight? I think that a large part of the consumption of many people is for the sake of comparison and consumption in front of others, just to satisfy their vanity. There are also some people who have a little money, so they try their best to show their wealth to get rid of the revenge consumption of the poverty hat, in fact, this point is seen, and some consumption is unnecessary. For low-income people, if there is really a bit of a tightness, then the working age of men should be advanced, so that when they reach marriageable age, the pressure will not be too great. ”

Chen Guogang seemed to hear the meaning of Chen Jie's words, and asked, "This is the fundamental reason why you don't plan to go to college?" ”

Chen Jie smiled and replied: "I can't talk about the word 'fundamentally', I just don't want to let our family's life pattern repeat itself on me." ”

Chen Guogang began to feel a little uncomfortable when he heard this, he asked himself that in order not to cause a psychological shadow to Chen Jie's growth, he had always been cautious in handling the relationship with Lu Guoping, and he never thought that Chen Jie still cared about this matter in the end, he asked tentatively: "You mean the matter between me and your mother?" ”

"Hmm." Chen Jie nodded slightly, his voice was so small that only the father and son could barely hear it, "You have always said that my mother is away all the year round because of her work location in the south. In fact, I can see that the two of you are separated in the de facto sense, but considering that my relationship is not divorced. ”

"Considering your feelings is one reason, but there is also a relationship between me and your mother, your mother is a good person, the old husband and wife have been for so many years, and they can't get to the point of divorce, they still have feelings."

"Then why don't you let my mom move in? It's strange to me that with your current situation of 'not lacking money', it doesn't matter if my mom doesn't work. But my mom doesn't seem to know your actual situation now, and she doesn't even know about your charity. If you tell her all these things, she will definitely make a difference about you. ”

"You don't understand, Dad's generation is actually an experiment, in the era when no one listens to the words of the ancestors and blindly believes in the words of foreigners, so there is a lot of chaos, your * mother's mind is the concept of modern urbanites, and she admires the 'romantic' set, and there will always be a fantasy of Prince Charming in your head."

"Even if what Dad does looks commendable to outsiders, as long as it doesn't fit the Prince Charming in your mother's mind, she won't recognize it. Dad's temperament is arrogant in his bones, and at the same time he pursues freedom, your mother thinks that many normal things are something I don't care to do at all, and when you don't remember, Dad and she have communicated with her many times, but she always thinks that her set is right, and always wants to change me. ”

"And you also know your mother, her mouth is too damaged, and her speech hurts her self-esteem, if you continue to live together, Dad's temper must be uncontrollable. It's not good for your physical and mental health to let you watch the two of us quarrel every day, so your mother and I chose to separate as a last resort. ”

Chen Jie didn't understand the whole thing until today, he nodded thoughtfully, and said, "Dad, I'm older now, I actually want you two to be together in your old age, can't you?" ”

"Dad's work is ready, now it's up to your mother, maybe by chance, one day she suddenly found that the prince charming in her mind doesn't exist at all, if she can return to reality, it's a good thing for the two of them to live together, otherwise this partner still doesn't do well, Dad would rather stay alone."

"What's the two of you can't talk about? What's the point of competing with each other? ”

"You take this too seriously, say it over and over again, twice, three times or four times, and then you get tired of talking about people, so you don't want to say it anymore, you haven't experienced it, you don't understand. But your mother is a good person, in fact, she is also a victim, created by the times, she accepted some concepts that seem to be beautiful but are actually very poisonous during the shaping period of her personality, which has led to her failure to pull it out to this day. ”

"But what you mean, you're trying to change her?"

"It's not that I want to change her, it's not true, it's really fake, time will always give her the answer......"