At a time when books were not circulating on the streets and alleys, and mobile phones did not become a mainstream product for everyone, our experience was mainly passed on by word of mouth.

The older generation turns their experiences into hearsay stories to tell to the children around them, either to explain them when their children are in trouble, or to tell their life experiences one by one.

In this way, there is a legacy.

It is precisely because of the inheritance that we can have such a cultural heritage, the stone statues and stories of the twenty-four filial piety still stand in some parks and mountain roads, and the wooden table corners and the pulp on the walnuts are recording these histories, although they have been dusty for a long time, but they also have a unique taste.

Many people think that raising children is a very difficult thing to do, and this is exactly what happened.

When the child is young, coax, beat, teach, feel that in the blink of an eye, the child will grow up.

Then began to rebel, began to be disobedient, between father and son, between mother and son, there were always many contradictions, life became unhappy, and the firewood, rice, oil and salt of life had an accompaniment called quarrels.

Why is this happening?

Many people don't understand, and many parents think, I am for the good of my child, but this child is still working against me everywhere! This is where the debt is collected.

Is it feasible for them to use the experience passed down from the older generation to teach the next generation?

Some are feasible and some are not, because many people will become results-oriented after experiencing the baptism of society, but raising children is a process.

Psychology is no longer limited to the psychological problems of adults, and the psychological problems of children have also become a categorical topic, and slowly some people began to pay attention to the psychological situation of children, and the idea of filial piety under the stick began to be spurned.

Actually, this is a bit of a generalization.

There is such a phenomenon that will be remembered by many people, that is, in school, many students and teachers seem to have a good relationship, but those bad students, students who have been severely punished by teachers when they are in school, still maintain a very good relationship with teachers after graduation, and even give New Year's gifts to teachers during holidays.

And those good students will forget about the teacher and stop contacting them after many years have passed after they have left the school.

Some people say that bad students are more hearted, and some people say that good students become less simple after experiencing the baptism of society.

But in fact, people are the same, when they go to school, whether they are good students or bad students, they are just children, and when they enter the society, they may have different educational backgrounds, but sometimes the starting point is indeed the same.

We can see many examples, some bad students drop out of school early and do not continue their studies, while those good students go to university, go to graduate school, and then graduate with a high diploma, and finally come to work under the classmates who did not finish their studies before.

At this time, some people began to say that it was useless to go to college, and in the end, no one mixed well.

But even if you don't go to school and drop out with others, can you really mix with them?

Not necessarily.

Therefore, whether it is a good student or a bad student, the starting point for entering the society is, to a certain extent, the same, one studies on campus, and the other hones in the university of society.

But why is there such a big difference in their attitude towards teachers?

This is the difference between giving charcoal in the snow and icing on the cake, the teacher's education is either a little violent, or warm as a spring breeze, which may be very disgusting to students at the time.

But it still depends on the heart.

Childhood is always rebellious, if you don't rebel, it seems that something will be missing, bad students are actually children who have gone astray, they need someone to guide, someone to beat and scold, so that they can wake up and understand what they want.

Confucius said that there is no class in teaching, but in fact, it already contains a lot of psychological knowledge.

The humiliation at that time, the angry scolding at that time, may have passed for many years, and when they enter the society, they will slowly find out that the teacher was really for their good at that time, so they will be grateful, and they will feel guilty for their actions at that time, and this guilt mixed with gratitude will only make the gratitude stronger.

Then I think about returning, many people are buried in their hearts with gratitude, not to say that the grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated, but they will recognize each other as their elders, because they know from the bottom of their hearts that everything they did was for their own good.

And those good students, in fact, are not unaware of gratitude, but the truth taught by the teacher, to them, is just the icing on the cake, they are obedient, they learn, they exchange the rules for the truth of life, the teacher will praise them because of good grades and obedience.

They don't feel that there is anything wrong with it, and they are definitely grateful, but this gratitude does not last forever, and sooner or later it will slowly fade away.

Because there is no deep memory between the two, when there are many things experienced, the teacher has just become a passerby in life, and occasionally at class reunions, everyone gets together to talk about the mistakes they made back then, the troubles, and some things that can leave a trace in everyone's memory.

Who studied well, who had good grades, and who was the most obedient at that time, in the hearts of these people who have experienced a lot of things, there is actually no deep impression.

The teacher teaches not only a certain student, but also a person does not just have a teacher, in the complicated life, too many things need us to remember, without a deep impression, then this person has no special need to remember.

We don't remember passing by an ordinary-looking and ordinary-dressed person on a certain road on a certain day, nor do we remember what the bus driver looked like the day before, nor do we remember how tall the little girl standing next to us was when we bought souvenirs on the last trip.

One layer of memory is overlaid on top of another, and the trivial things of time and life will make many people gradually forget a lot.

For those bad students, the teacher's words at that time may be his guiding light, and at some point later, let him completely out of the fog, but good students may have to face one teacher after another, as well as those strict parents.

They follow the rules, they make them by the school, they make them by their parents, they make them by society, they smooth out the edges and corners at some point, and then they slowly become mediocre.

Life always needs to be rebellious, sooner or later, early may just be because of confusion, because of the need for attention, and late rebellion, most of them are for ideals, for ambitions, in order to step into the society and then break out of their own world.

At this time, the rules of the past have become a big net, which does not allow you to break through and rebellious.

At this time, some parents have become the mountains in front of you, and some rules have become a gap that you can't cross, what should you do at this time?

I don't know, because it's a mistake to choose.

Filial piety is easy, but obedience is difficult.

Many people are parents for the first time, and many more are children for the first time, all for the first time, and everyone has no experience and needs to understand, but it is difficult to understand.

Life is full of contradictions, some of which can be solved, and some of which cannot be solved at all.

Years and age are insurmountable gaps, older people have social experience that we are currently incomparable, and we also have ideas that they cannot understand, and society is constantly developing, faster and faster.

The generation gap between the two generations will gradually widen in the process, and how to choose, how to do it, whether to listen to your parents, or stick to your own ideals and ambitions, is not an easy question to come up with.

Rashly participating in the child's affairs, will it make the child better, or will the child become a person who, like you, has no pursuits, no ideas, and is forced to turn over, to think about what people live for.

Or can you really make the so-called for your good become really good?

Life, as always, is difficult to explain.