None of Suni's relatives have ever studied psychology. However, whether intentionally or unintentionally, they are very good at using emotions to make a fuss, which even seems to be a skill carved from the bones.

Moreover, they should be well aware that emotions must be rendered again and again in order to exert their "toxic effect".

Therefore, when I first inquired, Suni was now unemployed, so they "adapted measures to local conditions" and dropped a "anxiety urgency bomb" for the first time, and then, within two weeks, Suni's aunt and aunt went further, under the banner of "for your sake", and carried out a second wave of emotional attacks-

"Edge sinking method".

Specifically, here's how it works:

Suni's aunt or aunt called again on a sunny weekend. Picked up by Suni's mother. They will first pull all kinds of household chores, and talk about some innocuous topics that can go around to the center, so as to alleviate the doubts of the parties:

The daughter of the Ah San family got married and found a husband who works at the airport; The son of Ah Er's family is not angry, and he lost a house in gambling, wait, wait.

Following the conversation, sometimes it is more blunt, in fact, the context connection, it seems very abrupt - but anyway, it is just turned around.

They began to ask, "Do you want to go to the airport to work?" ”

Once Suni's mother replied: "She studied social work, and there is no job at the airport suitable for her." ”

The convenience began to guide: "It doesn't have to be a professional counterpart. How many of them are professional counterparts now? Everyone is professionally matched, and so many students graduate every year, how can there be those positions for them?!

Besides, it's okay to find a job to do first, and then plan slowly. Children who have just graduated should accumulate more social experience, and they will change jobs after they have experience. Oh, you don't even have experience, which means you don't know anything, how are you qualified to pick and choose?! ”

After saying this, for a while, I may also think that my tone is a little heavy, and I am afraid that the person concerned will be annoyed. So, in a hurry, he will be "kind" to help: "Huh? Or go and find Ah Da's son? I heard that his son is in the middle of a tech company. Go and ask him, do you want the little girl at the front desk? Logistics, answering the phone, you can do it!

If you can't do it again, you can either learn to drive! It's also a matter to get a driver's license and open a taxi! ”

Let's go, let's go, let's go.

In short, the "edge sinking method" has a characteristic: it is not to compare the excellence of the people around you with the poor strength of the parties. It is to use the garbage of inconsequential people to analogy one of the parties who do not seek progress, in order to subtly associate the parties with the "garbage".

And all the purposes of setting up "good people" are nothing more than to further persecute and intensify the eagerness and anxiety of Suni's parents. Following them, their wish will be fulfilled, so that Suni's parents can successfully transfer their emotions to Suni.

So at dinner on this day, Suni's mother really mentioned it again, asking Suni to take the preschool education qualification certificate.

Before, because she wanted to upgrade to a college and prepare for the English level 4 exam, Suni had always been just perfunctory, and now, she has no "small goals" in the near future, so this matter is not unavoidable?

Suni's mother said, "You must take out the preschool education qualification certificate for me this year!" During the summer vacation, find a time to go to your sister Zhang Lan's house first, listen to what she has to say, and let her give you guidance and guidance. ”

Suni didn't answer, but asked, "Mom, can't I really do business?" ”

Suni's mother was stunned, and as soon as she put the chopsticks down, her temper came up - I don't know why, in the past two years, Suni's mother's fire has always been uncontrollable.

She exclaimed, "Why are you still thinking about this?!" You just can't listen to what I say, do you? You say, you're a kid, why are you so uneasy? Are you good at learning Yiling? Look at other people, follow your brother, how windy and prosperous are they? They even found such a rich boyfriend!

I don't expect you to be as good as Yiling. But you shouldn't be too far behind, right? You grew up with her, if you were thrown a few streets away by her, what would the people outside say about you? You still don't let your mother go out to meet people?! ”

Suni is completely stunned! For a long time, she looked at her mother as if she didn't know her, and said, "Mom, you weren't like this before. It was you who taught me since I was a child that I should not be compared. Why are you now, now, but yourself, changing your original intention?

Besides, Yiling's boyfriend, what do you know?! You just see that people are rich, what kind of person he is, do you know? ”

"How did I not know?! I commute to and from work with Yiling's mother every day, and she tells me everything. said that her prospective son-in-law, during the New Year's holidays, would buy things to honor their husband and wife. Just this year, he gave two wild ginseng! Yiling's mother ate it, slept better at night, her face was ruddy, and even people gained weight! ”

Suni rolled her eyes unbearably: "Are you an immortal medicine?" Cure all diseases? How can it be seen that it is a real wild ginseng? Yiling's mother watched him with her own eyes and went to Changbai Mountain to dig? ”

"You strong hooves...... Suni's mother picked up a pair of chopsticks and was about to hit Suni.

was stopped by her father and said, "Just eat, what are you doing?" Tell her well, isn't that the end of it? ”

Suni's mother still wanted to argue, but Suni hurriedly said: "Mom, since Yiling's mother has already regarded that man as a quasi-son-in-law, then, have you heard her mention Yiling's marriage to him?" ”

Suni's mother said: "This is not in a hurry, Yiling is still young." ”

"Yiling is still young, but that man is not small."

"What are men afraid of?! Men can still have children when they are 80 years old! They must be taking advantage of the present to play for a few more years! ”

Suni was speechless. She suddenly found that people seem to be like this, picking what they want to believe and what they want to hear.

Suni's mother is like this, Suni herself, once upon a time, why wasn't it like this? It seems to be an afterthought, and you have to wait until something happens and hits the south wall, and then look back, and you can still find all kinds of reasons for yourself, to explain, to prevaricate, and to round.

It seems that if you don't do this, it won't be enough to reduce the psychological burden.

So, human beings are actually incomplete, right?

For the first time, Suni had such a feeling and awareness.

Everyone's psyche has flaws of one kind or another. Just like a computer, even though it is well-made, powerfully designed, complex in its functions, and incredibly fast in learning, it still can't get rid of it, and there are still some backdoors for people with bad intentions to exploit loopholes.

People's psychology and cognition are the same, people who are not strong will always have a gap and be hit. Suni didn't know, what was waiting for her next......