I just read Mr. Liang Shiqiu's food essay "The Taste of the World is Qinghuan", and then I know what "cramming" in the "cramming teaching" I heard since I was a child. It turns out that "stuffing duck" refers to a method of forcibly stuffing the duck with food, so that the duck used to make Peking duck quickly fatten, and the person in charge of stuffing the duck will stuff it directly into the duck's stomach very utilitarianly until it can no longer be stuffed.

Today, I also listened to the songs of this famous band in Linkin Park, and I thought they were sincere and simple - I had something to say, and I sang it. I have a fire to fire, and I roar to the fullest.

People usually don't like to be the object of catharsis, but people are curious and appreciative of strong emotions, and are moved by them. When people hear words that can empathize with them, they are also willing to shout them together, so that they can have an outlet to run out of their hearts if they are not speaking or not enjoying themselves, "It turns out that there are people in this world who have the same experience as me" and "What he said is what I want to say."

Today I would like to excerpt a passage written by Maugham in the book "Reading is a Portable Refuge Tower":

"Perhaps it's because when we write about ourselves, we always feel uneasy about the difference between our goals and achievements, and because we are disappointed in ourselves because we didn't take advantage of opportunities, and we present the reader with a depressed and unsatisfactory character. Maybe it's like when we walk down the street, all the fun things seem to be on the other side of the street. Our own experiences are always a bit prosaic to us, so it will be bland. Only other people's experiences are fantastical, romantic, and exciting. ”

This passage of Maugham reminded me that I don't know if it was Dove-or Pantene, it seems to be an advertisement made by Dove-well, I found it in my collection after a WeChat search, it was Dove's "Real Beauty Sketches", Dove's "Real Beauty Sketches" ("Real Beauty Sketches"), Dove's FBI sketch portrait painter specializing in the portrait of criminals, to paint a number of girls, the girls tested themselves to describe themselves to draw a version, and people who just met the girls described the girl to draw a version. It turned out that the portrait based on the stranger's description was more beautiful than the one they themselves described as drawing. And then from this Dauphin wanted to say: You have to be more beautiful than you think you are.

I also thought of a scientific research that I didn't know which seniors talked about when they were debating in the past, that is, we are actually 30% uglier than we think we are. It's that people tend to be narcissistic and see themselves as more beautiful, when in fact we are 30% uglier than we see ourselves in the mirror.

Well, Maugham's words make me think of these two diametrically opposed arguments. In a general sense, whether we human beings ourselves look at ourselves for the better or for the worse, I have not yet found a particularly strong theoretical basis to support these two positions.

Alas, let's not dwell on it, we still believe in Dauphin's "You are more beautiful than you think you are", because it sounds more comfortable. In any case, there is no definite basis to prove that one side is fully established, and the other side has not been overthrown, so why don't we choose a point of view that we are willing to believe and believe?

Today's Lai:

"Sister, I feel like I've done something wrong today," said the little fat man (my brother) as soon as he came home, and in the morning, he went to work with my dad and my uncle and brother, "It rained heavily, so I told my dad to come back first." ”

Me: Is the (uncle) next door back?

"It's back. I only came back when he came back. ”

Me: Did Uncle go today?

"No, my brother went."

Me: That's okay, one strong laborer from one family, two from our family, it's enough for you to come back.

"I just feel very sorry for my father, I left him first" "It's like the kind on the battlefield, say-up"

Me: And then told him to go up and sneak away by himself, didn't he?

"Yes, yes, that's what it feels like."

- So I used a few more jokes to mock the little fat man, and besides, there was another sentence that I didn't say, little fat man, you made me feel proud, because you had the consciousness that it was bad to leave your father, and you admitted your mistakes. I'm so proud of you.

Then, today's Xiaolai also received the certificate of the project that he participated in to conduct online open source collaboration in response to the epidemic. Happy, in fact, I also like to issue certificates when I hold events, because I usually don't get sponsorship, and all I can give is such an electronic file, and I am grateful to my teammates later for thinking of this. I am grateful because now that all the volunteers who contributed have a small memorial, I feel that this project can leave them something, and I can have a thank you and compliment from others for their efforts, but unfortunately the workload of issuing certificates must be very large, and I don't have time to help.

2020.3.4