Ye'er stayed in the hospital for a whole week, seven days, when I supported Ye'er and my mother returned home with the baby in her arms, Ye'er also began her happy life as a first-time mother and my first-time father. Ye Er and I are both taking children for the first time, and we really don't know anything about taking care of children, but fortunately, we live in the same yard as my mother, and my mother comes over from time to time to help guide.

However, some mothers are used to taking children, Ye'er is not used to it, and I am not used to it, and we are not good at mothers, if we want to reduce this contradiction, we can only take care of our babies by ourselves. When the mother washes the baby's fart, she is always so simple and rude, ignoring the baby's crying at all, and only caring about her own quick scrubbing of the baby. The mother always uses her hands that have just finished housework to wipe the baby's nose and saliva without washing。。。。。。 Mother's movements are simple, effective and fast, which can't be blamed on the mother, at that time, almost every household was four or five children, who would have the time to refine a child, when we were young, it was not easy for our father and mother to let us grow up without starvation.

I heard my mother often say that whoever can't afford to raise a child will give the child away; My father also said that some people have many children, they really can't support them, and finally they only need a bag of carrots to sell their children, although adults are reluctant, but at least they can let the children have a way to eat, which is the best explanation for the children. Yes, in the poor society of my parents' generation, the human tragedy of giving away children and selling children is staged almost every day. However, at that time, I just couldn't understand why these parents had so many children if they couldn't support their own children. I asked my mother this question, but she didn't answer my question directly, she just said, what should I do? It's not like the child will be covered with a quilt when he or she is born! It seems to be a joke, but it really expresses the bitterness and blood and tears of the people at that time, or more of a kind of helplessness, a kind of resignation。。。。。。

One of the things that worries me and Ye'er the most is that the baby has been born for many days, but the eyes are not open, we asked the doctor this question when we were in the hospital, and the doctor said that there is no problem with the baby's eyes, and it may take a little time. So how long does it take for our baby to be born with his eyes open like any other child? The doctor didn't give me and Ye'er a clear answer, but just said to wait a few days to see, if you really can't open your eyes, then come to the hospital for a re-examination.

The mother is also very anxious, and Ye'er and I are also worried that if the baby's eyes can't be opened, what a big blow it will be to us! Things finally took a turn for the better, the mother found that the baby has a characteristic, that is, in a well-lit place, the baby always has his eyes closed, but when the mother holds the baby to a dimly lit place, the baby's eyes are so timid to open, although it is a small thin line, but it is enough for me and Ye'er to be very excited, and the worries in our hearts finally disappeared. However, Ye'er and I still don't understand why other people's children are born to be able to open their eyes, but our baby has been born for so many days before opening his eyes, and only opens a thin line in the dim light?

The mother has her own explanation, the mother said that our baby is a dog, and it may really be reincarnated by the dog in the previous life to come to our house, because kittens and puppies are born many days after they open their eyes. Regardless of whether there is a scientific basis for what the mother said, at least the baby's eyes are open, and a stone in the hearts of Ye'er and I has finally fallen to the ground.

I distinctly remember that the summer of the year we had our baby was the hottest summer ever. Summer hasn't fully arrived, the weather is unbearable, and we live in two very small bungalows, cramped and poorly ventilated, and it is even hotter to live in such a house.

Every day during the day, Ye'er takes the baby at home and I go to work. When I get home from work, almost all the furniture, tableware, and bedding that my hands touch are hot, and sometimes I even feel hot when I touch them. At that time, there were already electric fans, and there were absolutely no air conditioners, but the mother said that newborns could not blow electric fans, so even if we had electric fans, we could not use them. Looking back now, I don't even know how we got through that hot summer.

When I got home from work, Ye'er was already tired and sweating, a first-time mother, facing such a small baby, it was really difficult for Ye'er. At first, I didn't dare to hold my baby, it was so small, I was afraid that I would break the baby, but after a long time, I got used to it. At that time, it was really a very hard thing to take a child, because at that time there were no convenient and easy-to-use baby products, no diapers, not so many toys, the biggest difficulty with children at that time was to help the baby change diapers, at that time the diapers used by children were underwear that adults did not wear, or eliminated sheets and quilt covers, etc., tearing them into a rectangular shape, and several pieces must be folded up at a time under the baby's buttocks. However, it will be soiled by the baby after a while, and Ye'er must wash and dry the diapers soiled by the baby in time. Therefore, Ye'er must prepare a lot of diapers a day, and when it rains on a cloudy day and the diapers are not enough, she must put those diapers that cannot be dried by the sun on the stove for baking. If you don't have a diaper that dries in time and stains the sheets and bedding, it will be even more difficult to clean.

We really didn't know how to take children back then, and it's really funny when I think about it now, just because two of us who have never had experience with children actually brought our babies to adulthood. It is said that children like to sleep when they are young, but I think our babies almost do not sleep much, the baby is always tossing, always crying, always like others to hold her back and forth. Now I understand, Ye'er also understands, it turns out that it is not that our baby does not like to sleep in the fetus, but because we did not know at the time, the reason why the baby does not sleep in the fetal sleep is that we did not give the baby enough milk, in fact, as long as the baby is full of food and drink, she will definitely sleep quietly in her fetal sleep.