My second marriage showed a red light, we decided to divorce, the first marriage ex-wife Ye'er left me an eldest daughter, I was both a father and a mother in those years, and finally brought up my eldest daughter, and now I have graduated from college and worked; My second marriage also left me with a daughter, who was only three years old and very cute. I love children and I want to raise my little daughter for the rest of my life to be as good as her sister and to be a respected surgeon when she grows up.

At noon that day, as soon as I went through the divorce procedures with my current wife, I received a text message from my ex-wife Ye'er: "I want to go home, I know that your second marriage is not happy, and it must not last long, so I have not officially thought about getting married outside." I just wait to go home as soon as possible and live a good life with you and my daughter. ”

Although my ex-wife Ye'er and I have been divorced for more than ten years, because of the eldest daughter, Ye'er always knows my situation very clearly, but I know very little about her situation.

At that time, I read the text message, but I didn't reply to her, thinking about whether to accept her home, and I had to discuss it with my parents and my eldest daughter.

Anyway, it was impossible for my second marriage to continue, so I took advantage of the time I went to my parents' house for dinner and told them about it. Mother said that there are still a few people in the world who are sincere to you, after all, you are married for the first time, and you have been together for more than ten years. As the old saying goes, if she really wants to go home and live with you in peace, you agree to let her go home, maybe what my mother said makes sense, maybe my future life will go on like this.

When my daughter came home on the weekend, when I told my daughter about this idea, I was surprised by what my daughter said: "Dad, you plan to remarry, I have no opinion, I respect your choice." However, I can tell you in advance, don't regret it then, blame me for not reminding you. All compounds are repeating the mistakes of the past, you know? If you don't believe me, you can give it a try, I'm okay with that. ”

Maybe there is really a generation gap, and today's children have not experienced marriage and family life, but they seem to know more than those of us who have come before. I decided to give it a try, and I texted her back: "If you think about it, take care of your own affairs, and then go home as soon as possible, my two daughters and I are waiting for you." ”

"Hmm." Ye Er replied. Unexpectedly, Yeer took the bus home that night.

I haven't seen it for more than ten years, Ye'er is still the same Ye'er, but she is obviously getting older, her face has more vicissitudes of life, there are more wrinkles at the corners of her eyes, she is still dressed like the original personality, she is wearing black nail polish, and her eyes are still showing that kind of fake goodwill, she just entered the house and said that she was tired to death, and then she sat on the sofa while smoking a cigarette, and took out the gift she bought for my little daughter, a Barbie doll, teasing the child.

Seeing this scene, I really felt very warm. Although the baby's mother left her because of the divorce, but a new mother came, I believe that Ye'er's attitude towards the baby is sincere and kind.

However, maybe it's because of more than ten years of marriage, our reunion has no passion, no joy and happiness of reunion after a long absence, and some are just tacit understanding reached between each other for many years, as if they have just gone home from a long trip, and there is no unaccustomed or strange feeling at all.

In the evening, after we had dinner and settled the baby, Ye'er took the initiative to take my hand and motioned for me to sit on the sofa. Yes, it's time for us to have a good talk.

Ye Er said: "We are actually like a pair of friends for many years, don't think that I can't live outside anymore, so I decided to go home to find you, in fact, I am here to help you, I heard my daughter say that you are always deceived by others, this time you are divorced again, and you are left with a child to raise, so this time as soon as I heard the news of your divorce, I decided to come back to help you immediately." Only I'm sincere to you, and the other women of yours are all scamming you out of money. ”

Listening to Ye Er talking to herself about her original intention of going home, this reason is very funny, and it doesn't convince me, are you deceiving me with less money? Because although I don't know the specific situation of her outside for more than ten years, I still know it in general.

Ye Er continued: "Since I quit my job, I went to Nanjing with a few good friends, and mixed in a township below Nanjing for several years, going back and forth between the field, restaurants, and hotels every day. ”

"You don't want to beautify yourself, nine out of ten bets are lost, how can you gamblers have the money to gamble? It's not like swaggering every day! I was not convinced.

"Well, it makes sense, anyway, we people have long cut off ties with relatives, friends, family and relatives, because our money has long been borrowed by us. Several of our friends each had a lot of credit cards and kept swiping cards to withdraw cash, and at first we were able to repay the money on time, but then we couldn't pay it back, so we simply didn't pay it back, and there were online credit loans, and the bank couldn't find us anyway. Ye Er said proudly.

"You're going to go to jail sooner or later. There's one thing I don't understand, you haven't met your love life outside? "I don't believe it, because Ye'er divorced me because of cheating and betrayal, so I don't believe in her self-proof of innocence at all. Ye'er also knew that I didn't believe it, so Ye'er continued: "When I was in Nanjing, we got along, but we didn't get together for the sake of getting married, but for the convenience of playing cards and taking care of each other." ”

Remember, when a person cares more about something, he will often deny or affirm what he is, and I still understand this most basic skill of knowing people. When a person is no longer human, it is useless if you measure her by moral standards. However, after so many years, the original resentment has long been blurred, and some are just indifferent.

Ye Er continued: "Later, the police in Nanjing were very strict in catching gambling, I went to Huai'an for a few years, when I was in Huai'an, I met a person who was really good to me, he used to have several big trucks at home, but then I lost all the cards together, the year before last we decided to go to Chongqing to develop, to Chongqing wanted to open a hot pot restaurant, but Chongqing that place was hot and humid, I was really not used to being there, so we came back, but I couldn't stay in Huai'an, I went to Changzhou again. Ye Er was telling about her wanderings.

"This man is really good to me, he is now at home driving a big truck for other people's families to earn money, and at the same time he has to help me pay back. In Changzhou, I met another person on the field, this person is very good to me, but he is too careful, always control me, even if I joke with others when playing cards, he can't give me a good face when he comes home at night, and we often quarrel about it. When I heard the news of your divorce from my daughter, I decided to leave him and go home. ”

"Dizzy, what is the relationship between these people you know in the field outside?" I asked angrily.

"Don't be so nasty, okay? We are best friends, we are together when we are good, we are separated when we are bad, no one owes anyone, and there is no emotional entanglement. Ye'er actually looked at their relationship like this.

"Do they all have families?" I asked.

"Well, they all have families, but they rarely go home. How can two fun-loving people form a family? Therefore, if it goes on like this, no one owes anyone. ”

"Is that what you mean by feelings? You are acting irresponsibly to yourself. "It's really a scumbag act.

It is said that a man will love a woman three times, and my current attitude may be the third love for a woman, right? The first time it was my favorite, when we were newly married, this time the love was the most sincere and innocent; The second time was when we remarried, but that love had taught me to let go; Now this time maybe it's the third time, is it a compromise on life? Or is it a compromise? Or is it a trade-off? I don't know, I don't know what made me agree so much to her to go home after more than ten years, at that time I thought maybe because I was hit by my marriage, I didn't feel that life brought me much hope, so I wanted to live my life on the way, and this was the third chance for her to go home.

In fact, no matter how heartbreaking and bruised your life is, you must ignite the hope of life and regain the courage to live, so that there will be hope and prosperity in this life. Don't settle for the future, the life that will happen may really make you repeat the mistakes of the past, and make you lose hope for the future life. I felt it vaguely。。。。。。

It was the first night of our reunion as a couple who had been separated for more than a decade, without passion and without honesty. Because through my more or less understanding, I know that Ye'er still has a lot of things that I haven't told me. However, I already have a compassionate attitude towards life, and I seem to be a little numb to this, and I don't want to delve into it anymore.

When I went to bed at night, Ye'er took the initiative to help me and the baby, and her own underwear was scalded with boiling water and then washed by hand. I said, no, my house is washed in a fully automatic washing machine. Ye Er said with disgust at the time: "Whether it is an adult or a baby's underwear, it must be scalded with boiling water first, and then washed by hand, and all clothes in the washing machine are washed, how dirty it is." ”

"But I don't think it's dirty, I've been washing like this for more than ten years since you left, but I'll wash it in different categories." I said.

"That's not okay, if you find it troublesome, then in the future, you and the baby's underwear will be hand-washed by me."

"My family only buys disinfectant every year, which costs me nearly 1,000 yuan, and I have to use laundry detergent, fabric softener, and disinfectant every time I wash clothes. So, I think underwear should really be clean when washed in the washing machine. I explained.

"You're making excuses for your laziness, so you'll leave it to me to wash by hand in the future." Ye Er insisted.

Seeing Ye'er's persistence, the unhappy mood just now turned out to be much better, and it is really a fortunate thing to have a diligent and clean woman at home.

However, this illusion lasted only two days.

The next night, Ye'er insisted on hand-washing our and her underwear, but on the third day, the underwear of me and the baby, as well as her own underwear put on the bathroom washing machine, Ye'er saw it as if she didn't see it, let them stay there quietly, I had to put them together in the washing machine to wash, Ye'er saw it and pretended not to see it, and had long forgotten her promise, in fact, it was not forgetting, but Ye'er was just showing herself at that time.

Yes, it's all an adult world, and there's no need to expose everything, it's better to be confused and know!