Hearing that Ye'er's mother agreed so readily to me and Ye'er's marriage, I didn't seem to be ecstatic as I imagined, but there was always an indescribable feeling in my heart.

When I got home, I told my mother that Ye'er's mother agreed to our marriage on National Day, of course, I didn't tell my mother about the letter, but my mother said happily: "It just so happens that you are also going on summer vacation soon, use the holiday to clean up the house at home, and then discuss with her family to see if the two families need to buy some furniture together." After the mother finished speaking, she said a little angrily: "I don't know what her family thinks, last time I didn't agree to your National Day marriage, why did you agree so quickly this time?" One moment an idea. "I said how do I know, maybe Ye'er is often urging her mother behind her back. The mother suddenly seemed to have a sudden realization and asked excitedly, "Is Ye'er pregnant?" Ye'er hasn't come for so long, I don't know if it's because Ye'er is pregnant? "Mother is always so surprised." I don't know, when Ye'er comes next time, you can ask Ye'er yourself. I said to my mother angrily.

On Saturday, I still came to Ye'er's house early, and after a week, the last time I was unhappy because of that letter had been forgotten and disappeared because of our reunion. When you fall in love with someone, you often just think about her beauty and hope for your future, your mind becomes dull, and you often ignore some essential things, and you don't know how to turn back until you hit the south wall. Some people don't know how to turn back even if they hit the south wall, and in the end they are hurt by sadness, and even martyred。。。。。。

I talked to Ye'er's mother about the things we needed to prepare for our marriage, including the dowry. Ye'er's mother said that they have raised four children for so many years, it is not easy, her daughter marries without a dowry, and she doesn't want any dowry, as long as she buys a few clothes, shoes and socks for Ye'er at that time, if you are rich, you can consider buying some jewelry for Ye'er, and there is no excessive etiquette for the rest, "Good women don't wear wedding clothes, good men don't eat family meals", and you still have to fight for your own life in the future.

Yes, in this era of relatively poor material life, everyone's life is tight. When I went home and told my mother about the specific requirements of Ye'er's mother about our marriage, my mother said, then let's buy a wedding according to their family's requirements, as for their family's dowry, "endless daughters, endless years", as our mother-in-law's family, we shouldn't have asked others or anything, people have raised a girl for 20 years, it is not easy, as long as you get married, the days will be long.

I know that our family's life is not rich, and my salary of only about 300 a month is really pitiful, this is an era of inverted brain and body income, and it is also an era of rapid changes in the economy. Because of the economic development everywhere, I had to study hard to be admitted to the normal school, and only then did I have an enviable job and a city household register, but almost overnight, all my efforts were in vain.

We belong to the urban-rural area here, and economic development has turned the land of our locals into factories, and we locals have also turned into urban hukou and resettled jobs in the name of "land leading people" and "rural to non-farming".

The most hateful and angry are my classmates in elementary school, whenever our classmates get together, they always make fun of me and always laugh at me. When they were in a class in a primary school with me, these people were almost a mess of learning, whenever the teacher asked them to answer questions in class, their faces were always flushed, and they didn't hold back a fart for a long time, even if they answered the teacher's questions, they also stammered and answered the questions that were not asked, which caused the whole class to laugh, and the teacher always left me with hope, and I lived up to the teacher's expectations, and was always able to answer the teacher's questions loudly and fluently and accurately, at this time the teacher always took me as their example. I want them to learn from me.

However, it was just a few people, but they completely subverted my cognition almost overnight, they changed their household registration, became the enviable city people at that time, and they were all placed to work, because there is no culture, so these people were placed in the same unit "Municipal Garden Management Office" to work. They said, don't look at you as a teacher, it seems to sound better in name, but with so much effort you put in at the beginning, we caught up overnight, and we were better than you! We are also a city hukou, although we don't sit in the office like your teachers, but we work easily, there are not so many students who make us angry every day, we just sweep the road and cut flowers and grass, but our current monthly salary is more than 700, more than twice as much as yours, and I won't let my children study hard in the future.

It was a terrible idea, but it was a real phenomenon at the time.

Yes, for so many years, I have also been thinking about the question, that is, what is the relationship between individual efforts and the arrangement of fate? Does it matter? Even now, when I think of this proposition, I still feel foggy.

There is a retired teacher in our unit, he always says that he has never taught for a few years in his life, but he enjoys a relatively high salary for retired teachers, and sometimes he feels ashamed. It turned out that his ancestors were rich landowners, and when he was young, he worked as a primary school teacher for a few years, and then because of a movement, his class composition was not good, and he was sent to the countryside for labor reform. Because of the more than ten years of labor reform in the countryside, his body fell into many diseases, and he was old, and it was impossible to return to the classroom to teach the children, so the school had to arrange for him to do some logistics chores, so he reached retirement age after a few years of work.

Retired, an old teacher who really hadn't taught for a few years retired.

The world is impermanent, and sometimes it is really unclear in this life.