The melon juice flowed into his mouth, but a question rose in Zhen Zhen's heart: Most of the people here have no emotional foundation before they get married, how did they maintain their marriage for decades?

Zhen Zhen thought of his previous life again, few people could tolerate splitting their legs, but men here generally had three wives and four concubines, and it was so difficult to do it without house fighting.

For example, the Zhen family, the top and bottom are quite harmonious, what happened between the father's wife and two concubines made them safe?

Zhen Zhen has studied the legal provisions related to marriage in the Daning Dynasty. Here, a man can divorce his wife for seven reasons: disobedience to his parents, childlessness, adultery, jealousy, ill disease, excessive speech, and theft.

But there are still three no-outs: the wife has no maiden home to return to; She has mourned for her in-laws for three years and her husband was poor and rich after that.

Although the wife can file for divorce on the basis of "the husband and wife are not in harmony and the divorced person is not guilty", the vast majority of women will not take the initiative to divorce because they do not have independent financial ability.

So the crux of the matter is independent economic capacity. How can a woman who can only rely on men to support her have the right to make irresponsible remarks about her concubine? A "lot of words", a "jealousy" will be taken home by a man.

If economic stress is just an external factor, what about internal factors? What is it that makes so many women able or willing to stay in marriage?

Also, it is said that people in previous lives were free to love, but the divorce rate is still high. It can be seen that having love before marriage does not guarantee the longevity of marriage. So how should the two get along in order to maintain the integrity of a family?

Zhen Zhen had already finished eating the melon, and sat in a daze, her mind was full of questions, it turned out that she didn't care about these, but now she knew that figuring out these problems would at least help her deal with her relationship with Feng Hanzhao, as well as the other women around him in the future.

In this family, Zhen Zhen has the best relationship with her sister-in-law. In the past, they had also discussed the issue of concubinage. But the eldest brother does not have a concubine, and the sister-in-law will definitely not be able to communicate with her on how to get along with the concubine. She didn't want to ask her mother this question right away, she wanted to take a break. Zhen Zhen thought of a person, Chen.

The next day, Zhen Zhen finished teaching the children and said to Chen: "Madam, Zhen Zhen has something unclear, you know a lot of people, I want to ask you for advice." Zhen Zhen didn't hide it, she said what she thought in her heart one by one, and finally she asked: "Madam, what do you think is the most important thing in the way to get along between husband and wife, so as to maintain a long-term relationship between the two."

Chen looked Zhen Zhen up and down, and said with a smile: "Yes!" Three days of not seeing each other, should be impressive. Don't think about how to coax children to play, think about the way of husband and wife! That's a good question, I'll tell you too. I think family background is the most important thing. With a matching family background, a wife can give her husband a lot of help. Grandpa Guo has seen more Yingying Yanyan, but no one can compete with me, just because my surname is Chen. ”

Chen said with a smile on his eyebrows: "To tell you the truth, the Guogong Mansion is so big, and the little money given by the imperial court is not enough at all, and it all depends on operating one-third of one-third of an acre of land to support a large family." Grandpa Guo has no real power, if it weren't for the help of my grandfather Jingzhao Mansion, how could there be so much convenience? After a long time, Grandpa Guo naturally understood my importance. Anyone who has a crush on any girl, even if she plays outside, she won't bring it back to the house for me to block. Where is there any trouble with wives and concubines competing for favor? As for the one given by the emperor, he said that he wanted to teach me not to be jealous and to be tolerant. She is also a sensible person, and she accompanies Grandpa Guo for two days every month, and I open one eye and close one eye, and it will pass. ”

Zhen Zhen has come to the Luguo Mansion so many times, but he has never seen Mrs. Ru, and her daughter has not seen her, and her sense of existence is indeed very low. Thinking about it again, the emperor's kind of person who even guards against his own son, insists on stuffing a person in between other husbands and wives, I'm afraid there are other purposes---- such as surveillance or something. That's why the lady is so low-key.

However, Zhen Zhen was interested in other questions: "Did Mrs. meet Grandpa Guo before she got married?"

"Of course I did. When he came to visit my house, he quietly saw it through the cracks in the screen. I also listened to his conversation, and I felt satisfied before I settled the family matter. ”

is similar to what Zhen Zhen expected, it is impossible for the couple to have an emotional foundation before marriage. So she asked again: "Two people who were very strangers suddenly became relatives and lived together, will they feel awkward?" How to solve it? ”

Chen is a married woman, and many topics are not taboo, but when she heard such words come out of a little girl's mouth, she is still a little surprised and a little funny: "Don't worry, when you get married, your mother will definitely tell you everything about the candle night in the cave room."

Rao is Zhen Zhen is completely asking questions with the attitude of academic research, and she was still blushed by Chen's misunderstanding, and she couldn't say that she knew all those things, so she could only stammer and defend: "I, I, didn't say that...... What I'm talking about is, it's usual, when you're not familiar with it, how to solve the conflict? ”

"Then you have to endure it. He endured me an inch, and I respected him a foot. I endured him for a foot, and he respected me. Mutual understanding and mutual concession, slowly get along and have feelings. ”

While the two were talking, a maid came over and whispered a few words to Chen, and Chen apologized to Zhen Zhen with a smile: "There are some things at home, I have to go and see." We'll talk about that later. I'll have someone send you. ”

Zhen Zhen sat in the carriage and said to Hongyun: "I understand, what Mrs. Chen said is to get married first, and then fall in love." Originally, the purpose of falling in love was to let the other party have a good impression of him, to package himself as well as possible, to do what he liked, and to attract the other party. This often masks a lot of problems and can lead to high expectations for marriage. Once the trivialities of marriage are revealed, and they cannot tolerate each other, they will inevitably lead to the dissolution of marriage. But if the tolerance is higher and the expectations of each other are lower, then the problems between the two will not be too acute. ”

Hongyun was used to Zhen Zhen often saying things she didn't understand, but she knew that Zhen Zhen didn't need her to understand, she just needed to provide her ears to be an audience.

Zhen Zhen smiled knowingly at Hongyun and reflected on himself in his heart: I have believed from the beginning that marriage must have love, and there will be no happiness without love, but in fact, this is a biased view. I can't dismiss marriage because of a single flaw. If you resist because you are married to someone you don't love, thinking that the other party must be unsuitable for you, and you will do everything, then the two will definitely not be able to live happily together, let alone fall in love with each other. Why not give yourself a chance, and also give the other party a chance, maybe fate is the best. Everything in front of you is the best arrangement. Why not take marriage as the starting point of love, and at this starting point, the two go further together.

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