Twelve years ago, I wanted to write a novel that was both good and dry. But after writing about 30,000 or 40,000 words, he was deflated, and he couldn't write anymore, and he couldn't get up the interest in writing for a while, so he had to put it on the shelf.

Ten years have passed, and although I have hardly touched a pen in the past ten years, my own experience has been accumulating materials. The obsession with writing by myself has changed from strong to weak, and gradually from weak to strong.

In 2018, I finally couldn't help but buy myself a box of 4A printing paper and hundreds of signature pen refills. Set aside a fixed amount of time every day to grab a refill and write whatever you want on the printer paper. Daily perceptions, daily memorization, daily observations, and miscellaneous things are all scribbled. The purpose is to develop the habit of writing every day and find the feeling of writing.

I often joke to myself: If you finish writing this box of paper, then even if you have practiced kung fu at home, you will naturally be able to write a novel.

With less than 500 pieces of printing paper handwritten, I drove from my hometown in Guangdong to Beijing. During the period of rest in an apartment in Yanjiao, I met O again when I had nothing to do

e's call for papers, and the opportunity to write this book was sparked. Eighty percent of the first draft was completed in Yanjiao.

By 2020, the new crown epidemic was effectively controlled in China, and I drove back to the south, and the remaining 20% was completed during the period of rest and recuperation in Zhumadian. It can really be said that I wrote from Hebei to Henan, and there was an unusual year in the middle!

After I started writing and uploading this book, my experience and understanding of "it is better to believe in a book than to have no book" has become more profound.

I know very well that there are several very real and overly explicit descriptions in this book, all of which have been deleted because they could not pass the review. For the sake of the completeness of the story and the continuity of the plot, many places are described in series through their own imagination.

What cannot happen in reality, in the book can be reimagined and the conditions can be created to make it happen. People who can't deal with in real life can easily write into their own books......

For all the above reasons, a novel is destined to not be completely true to reality. Even if the author tries his best to restore reality, it may inevitably cause deviations due to the author's emotional likes and dislikes, the ability to observe and perceive, and the ability to express the narrative.

Therefore, when reading novels, don't sit in the right seat, and be extremely serious. Otherwise, you may be misled and led astray, causing irreparable tragedy to your own life!

I felt that the dry goods were not enough, so I had to use my long-term accumulated insights to make up. State Set Addendum:

If you can't correct your thoughts, you can't control your emotions, you can't overcome your inertia, you can't get out of your bad situation! If you can't get out of your bad situation, you can't have a good life!

Since it is difficult to change a person, you might as well try to understand them, respect them, let them play their due role, and let them see their own value and their own responsibilities. Only by discovering and sincerely appreciating the advantages of TA can we use the advantages of TA. If you only focus on their shortcomings, then these shortcomings of their will often just jump out and block you all the time. If we can't understand and respect each other and deny their value, then why should they be responsible for you and change for you!

There are some things that some people are better to let stay in their dreams, not to stay in their waking minds. Because when you are awake, all these become unreasonable desires, and you have to eliminate them in the face of reality, otherwise, you will be burdened by them and cause yourself to be empty! I don't want to give up and I don't want to just dream, so I have to find an intersection between what I can and what I want, and then I can solve it......

If you can't communicate and exchange smoothly, if you continue like this for a long time, it means that you will die. If it is really excellent, it will naturally continue to be inherited and grown. This is true of people, and so is culture!

In the New Year, there was a "one worship, two gatherings and three visits". Worship your parents and loved ones; Brothers get together, friends get together; Visit the benefactor, visit the teacher, visit the talent. If you can do this every year, who will you be?

If the family lacks respect, understanding, trust and support, then the worst situation is naturally that there will be no peace in the family; If you're lucky, the whole family will have to go their own way!

If you want to show off, you have to have something first, and if you don't really have it, you can't call it showing off, but it becomes a deception. You already have it, so why show it off? This is because it is likely that this possession is not acquired by one's own ability, but by factors such as luck and loved ones. It's really owned by one's own ability, and it's already satisfied in the process of getting it through one's own actions, and it's generally too lazy to show off. Therefore, I personally think that showing off is not equal to deception, not equal to nothing, but a kind of anesthetic satisfaction for one's own lack of strength!

If you're not interesting, don't blame others for not saying anything to you. If you're good for nothing, then don't blame others for ignoring you. If you are lazy and lazy in everything, then half of your life will be ruined. Being able to devote oneself and do what you do to the best is an effective way to reflect your self-worth.

Three questions for personal career navigation: 1. What kind of people are willing and able to provide high-quality services? Second, what do you want to control and control? Third, which industry do you want to see most of the big people you meet?

No matter how angry you are, the person who should be greeted still has to be greeted, the covenant that should be kept must be kept, and the things that should be done still have to be done.

Staying at home makes it easier to find out what you are; Going out is conducive to breaking your own limitations. Long-term excessive comfort at home will inevitably weaken the individual's adaptability to society; Overcoping with the complexities of society can easily lead to individuals losing their true nature. So it's important to find a balance between staying home and going out.

To engage in an industry is to have the temperament of the industry, and it is difficult to get the recognition of customers and the career is difficult to succeed. The person who sells the coffin is a doctor, and he looks like he is looking forward to someone else's death soon, so the ghost is willing to come to see a doctor. Or because of greed and enter a certain industry, it is like a hungry wolf waiting for a fat sheep to come to the door to be slaughtered, although the sheep is not fat, it does not mean stupid, it is too late to hide!

Knowing the timing, being willing to give, and being willing to act, everything is possible.

What does it mean to be a friend? At least we've taken a photo together! What does it mean to be a partner? At least we've had dinner together!

Whether it is manpower, material resources, money, strategy, time, and words, it can be used to help a person. Among them, the most ideal effect of helping people is to teach people to fish, and the most special form of helping people is to help nothing is to help.

When the opportunity comes, you can seize it, discard it, miss it, but you can't force it. The more you complain, the farther away you want; The more grateful you are, the closer you want to be. Resentment and jealousy are always the most draining of one's inner energy; Love and ambition are the ones that bring out the energy within you the most.

Where you are needed and where you are willing to pay, it is easiest to reflect your own value; Only by embodying one's own value can one truly have the dignity of being a human being; With the dignity of being a human being, it is easiest to gain the trust of others; Only by being trusted by others can we get in-depth cooperation, and in-depth cooperation creates greater brilliance for you!

If nothing has been done together, the relationship can be said to be equal to zero.

If it is really for the good of the family, then you must continue to pursue progress, there is no excuse! Common things should not always be done according to one's own preferences, and family members should not be deprived of the right to participate, and their enthusiasm for participation should not be discouraged. There's nothing wrong with being outside, and you can't say you're at home......

Don't treat people with all the negativity, unless you want to turn them into your enemies!

If you don't do things, where does the ability come from! If you don't take responsibility, where does maturity come from!

There is a kind of behavior pattern of death, which is what should be done or things that should not be ignored, but because you don't like it, you don't like it, you don't want to do it or ignore it, and you can't help but feel pain or hang on in the end! Self-preference and willfulness can only be controlled within a safe range, otherwise it is death!

If a person is very stupid, but very stubborn, and never knows how to learn, then it is just like: if you die, you must be stupid, not stupid to death, not happy!

Those who can play to their strengths and avoid their weaknesses are very good! If you can turn the short into the long, it is even better!

There is a reason for giving up, not that I really can't persevere, but that I don't know how long I have to persevere! The realization of dreams is only pinned on other people's bodies, and often turns into a fantasy in the end!

Some people and things, in their own rationality, feel that they should not love them, but in their own sensibility, they just can't stop loving them; Or, in my own reason, I feel that I shouldn't hate him, but in my own emotion, I just can't stop hating him. These two models will make the production of cups very large-scale and high-speed, and in a short period of time, there is no problem in making the cups produced by people circle the earth for more than ten or twenty times!

If you miss the starting point, you have to grasp the inflection point!

There is no safer and more reliable way to get what you want than to properly obtain it through your own efforts!

It seems that Beijing will not lack funds and talents, but may lack a hardcore team with an ordinary and great idea in mind, and will do everything to realize this idea!

Avoid letting people who don't matter affect our own big picture; If you can't eliminate your own unreasonable desires, you can only be led by the nose, and finally fall into the quagmire of regret and can't extricate yourself!

Love is supposed to serve life and life, and if one turns them around, problems will come like a flood!

It is one's own temperament, thoughts, and actions that together dominate a person's final life!

Family happiness depends on the harmony of husband and wife, and family prosperity depends on brotherly unity. Those who can't make long-term plans for their own children and grandchildren, their ancestors don't bless, and God doesn't bless them!

All national education naturally has its political purpose, and it depends on the students themselves whether the education they can give full play to their own personal and social effects in the future.

In reality, they like to certify someone through someone else or another organization, rather than through their own certification! Is it because of laziness or because you don't have confidence in your own judgment?

A simple thing, but as long as I am lazy and unwilling to give, I choose to avoid passivity. Gradually, it could become a beast that could overwhelm me.

When you're not capable, it's best not to let others expect too much from you. Otherwise, it's easy to disappoint and completely lose confidence in you. After you really have the ability, no one else wants to trust you!

As long as the person is wrong, no matter what you do, it will inevitably end up unhappy or tragic!

Under the same forces, the failure to attack at one time may be caused by improper command or wrong strategy, which can be self-adjusted to carry out a new round of attack. However, it can not be attacked several times, that is caused by insufficient troops and unfavorable situation, which has to accumulate more troops to wait for a favorable situation to arrive before a new round of offensive can be carried out!

The courtesy of the same person should be increased, and the taboo should be decreased, that is, the taboo will be respectful first and then disrespectful!

If you dare to go high but don't dare to go low, it is not really high; If you dare to be brave but don't dare to be cowardly, you are not truly brave!

When you get married, you won't be lonely, you'll just get angry!

If you are a few levels higher than yourself, the harvest is far greater than that of the same level as yourself, and the risk may not be greater than that of the same level as yourself!

Don't throw all your resources into the unknown of the future at once! Because this often leads to extreme embarrassment and even destruction at present!

Sometimes it's just a small bad habit that you can get into your most exciting life!

The scariest thing in the world is the look of fear or disgust you give me!

Only when you really rely on yourself and have the strength of a stable foreign aid can you be truly strong!

The rangers who always avoid mentioning or never mention the situation at home are mostly because the situation at home is nothing commendable or because the people on the other side of the family are extremely unoptimistic about him!

In a group, those who are in a position are angry with those who are in a position at every turn, and those who are in a position of power bully those who are in position at every turn. How can this group cry out for so long!

Children born to a couple who do not love each other and do not get along often have a lot of ups and downs on the road of love. They are more likely to have more or less severe physical, psychological, and behavioral deficits. This will lead them to always want to pursue the ideal partner, and their patience may need to be improved!

If it is a whale, it should swim into the endless sea, if it nests in the ravine, it will be over, it is better than a small shrimp!

The world is unpredictable, and what was unsightly in the past has become your strong support one day!

It doesn't matter if it's good news or bad news, as long as you can resist the news and change your original intention!

When others are forced to do something they hate, don't go up and ask this or that.

If you can't accommodate what you don't want, you often can't get what you want!

If a man decides to buy a car or a car shortly after arriving in a new place, it probably means that he has made plans to stay in that place for a long time.

Always refusing to forget the past, most likely because of not being able to adapt well to the present!

If you can't use the sad mood, then you will be hungry for a few meals, and you will naturally be able to turn over the river and the sea, full of the power of sorrow. Victories in vicious battles often end up on the side that has been hungry for a long time.

Only when a person has skillful and effective communication with the external environment can it be possible to mobilize the resources of the external environment. The stronger this ability to communicate, the more resources it can mobilize and the stronger it will be to survive and adapt. This is probably the basic principle of why people who are good at communication are easy to get married and have children.

If there are not a few real laymen left around the elegant people, then how can they live!

Generally speaking, it takes some time to get into the best state of doing something, so don't cut it too far apart without time, and concentrate as much as possible to find and get into the best state of doing something.

Talking on the phone in an environment where loud noises are generated from time to time (e.g. the door is constantly banged by the wind) can easily lead to serious quarrels.

Whatever you want to know will eventually let you know, and the answers are often hidden at your fingertips!

It seems that many strange fates in the world are drawn by a certain state or habit of oneself.

God doesn't bless the infatuated man, just because he is useless, it is a sign of low adaptability!

If it is related to the interests of others, even if it is a small matter, it should not be careless and forgetful and cause losses. Otherwise, others will think that you are greedy, which will make it difficult for you to win the trust of others!

I came to Peking University to study love, went to Tsinghua University to practice and make decisions, and went out of Paris to study nightlife.

If you are always lacking in work ability, you are either in the wrong industry or you have insufficient experience. If you're embarrassed to say what you do, change careers or improve yourself.

It also depends on the situation to help, don't come casually, especially to help those "men" who are sensitive by nature. If you want to help, you can help others who have no time to take care of, and others are not good at it. As for what others are good at or what others think is within their own responsibility, don't act rashly. If you don't do it, the more you help, the more you help; If it had been done better, the consequences would have been even more serious – it would have seriously swept people's faces!

I want to be the fresh air around you, so that I can enter your heart, into every cell of yours, and we can't leave it for a moment......

Obviously, it is impossible for all the treasures in the world to be found in the same place, because the conditions required for the generation of each treasure will be different. However, many treasures in the world can be gathered in the same place through a cornucopia, and whether the treasures gathered together are still the glory of the past can only be seen and seen. As for the generation, aggregation and utility of various talents; I think it's the same!

If something is awkward because of unfamiliarity, try to bring it to a familiar situation to complete.

Not being able to carry the love of giving birth to offspring is ultimately a tragedy.

There are times when you don't need to, but you have to accept it, in case you don't! When you don't need it, give it to you; When you need it, you won't give it to you. This has happened many times.