Chapter Seventy-Three: If You Want a Divorce, You Want Yourself
Yang Sinan's case is actually not an isolated case, neither the first to be discovered, nor the last.
The bride price is a traditional wedding custom, but in recent years, the situation in big cities is relatively better, and in rural counties and towns and third- and fourth-tier cities are becoming more and more intense, marrying a daughter-in-law almost exhausts the family's savings to buy a house and a car, not to mention, the gift money is less than 100,000 yuan, more than hundreds of thousands, and the paying attention to the family will let their daughter take the gift money away, as a dowry, and it is also the start-up capital for the independent life of the small couple, but some people who are not particular about it, this gift money has become an income of the mother's family.
Yang Sinan herself is cowardly, and because of autism, she is not good at talking, and rarely has contact with the outside world, and because of her illness, the Yang family has a second child and a son, from the time she can work at the age of four or five, she has been doing housework at home, until she is an adult at the age of eighteen, she received a gift of 150,000 yuan and married her, the dowry is just a few quilts and two empty boxes, and the money at the bottom of the box is not a dime.
has neither an emotional foundation nor the support of her mother's family, and Yang Sinan will not "come to trouble", and her life in her mother-in-law's house is extremely sad.
Especially when she accidentally fell and miscarried because she didn't know she was pregnant, and was diagnosed by the doctor as unable to have children, she became a thorn in the side of her in-laws and husband.
In their opinion, the daughter-in-law who spent money to buy can't give birth to children to pass on to their ancestors, and they cut off his family's "incense", which is his family's "sinner", especially the Yang family's non-payment of a penny for marriage, even if they divorce, they will not return the money, and they can't get the second bride price to remarry now, so they vented the fire in their hearts on Yang Sinan even harder.
They didn't even let the Yang family see their daughter, unless they were willing to give the gift money, just for the sake of money The Yang family hadn't seen their daughter for two years, and they didn't know that their daughter had become like this now.
Maybe in their eyes, the 150,000 ꓹ have already sold out their daughter, and life and death have nothing to do with them from now on.
Or the neighbors heard Yang Sinan screaming when he was abused and beaten several times, and he couldn't see it and persuade a few words, if it weren't for this, Yang Sinan was afraid that he wouldn't be able to wait for the day when the Women's Federation came.
Perhaps, women who have had the same experience as her before have just disappeared into the world without waiting for help.
Qi Siyue and Fang Yihua took her to finish the performance, and then went to the hospital to get some medicine for her, and then took her back together.
Fang Zhou waited in the rehabilitation center for most of the day, and when he saw that they actually came back with a woman with a withered character, he was startled at first, and then quickly discovered that something was wrong with this woman. Qi Siyue just briefly told him a few words, and finally said angrily: "The most useless man will do it to a woman, if you let me know that you dare to bully Teacher Xiaofang......"
"How dare I!" Fang Zhou immediately shouted, "Don't say it's you, it's my mother's heart, Yihua's status is higher than mine." What's more, where can I afford ......?"
"Go and go, I'm going to sprinkle dog food and go back to sprinkle, I'll take Nan Nan to rest." Qi Siyue drove away the two of them and took the cautious Yang Sinan to rest. Her injuries are not light, new injuries and old injuries have accumulated, and they have already injured the body at all, and they cannot be healed overnight.
She didn't dare to arrange Yang Sinan in other dormitories, after thinking about it, only there was an empty bed in Fang Yihua's dormitory next door, it turned out that Yu Qing lived there, and later Mu Ju and Yu Qing got married, and the two lived together, and Fang Yihua's side was empty.
Fang Yihua is willing to take care of Yang Sinan, she is soft-hearted, she was also "sold" by her parents, and she was lucky to avoid a catastrophe, Yang Sinan unfortunately fell into the most miserable situation, which made her feel even more touched, extremely sympathetic, and did her best to take care of her.
In this way, the time she spent with Fang Zhou was naturally greatly reduced.
And Fang Zhou had just "chased" her and determined the identity of her boyfriend, when she was suddenly robbed of all her girlfriend's attention and time, so she was naturally unwilling and tried her best to come forward under the banner of helping.
"In which police station was her husband detained? Do you want me to ask them and file for a divorce first? ”
"What do you think?" Qi Siyue was almost angry with him, "You are not small, can you bypass her guardian and help her get a divorce?" She is not a person with full capacity for conduct, and she still has some mental problems, even if you go, the Civil Affairs Bureau will not agree. ”
"Unless her husband initiates a divorce......"
Fang Zhou's eyes rolled, "Okay, I'll go and inquire first, maybe...... And the man agreed! ”
"Go ahead!" Qi Siyue didn't come up with any good way, although the lawyer agreed to provide legal aid to Yang Sinan, but it was limited to cases of abuse and domestic violence, and as a civil dispute, the police and the court generally tried to mediate, and there were very few divorces because of this.
The habitual thinking of Chinese people always attributes domestic violence to husband and wife fighting, bedside fights and bedside fights, and they don't want to participate too much, but they never think about the consequences of conniving again and again.
The people in the ark were wide-ranging, went out for a run, and came back soon, but they were half angry, and drank the tea that Fang Yihua poured for him in one go, and they couldn't swallow that breath.
"Who are these people? It was his daughter, and he refused to divorce her for a few dollars, and asked us to send her back...... If this is sent back, will she still have a way to live? ”
"What's going on?" Fang Yihua asked, "Is her mother's family afraid of spending money to treat her?" ”
"It's not!" Fang Zhou couldn't help but complain: "Her husband said that divorce is okay, and the bride price money will be returned to them, and they will be divorced." He can marry another one, of course, without loss. But the Yang family had already spent the money, so how could they have the money to give them. said that if you don't want money, only Yang Sinan will die...... Listen, is this human language? ”
Fang Yihua couldn't help but shudder, looked at Yang Sinan, who was almost too thin to be human, and shuddered when he thought about himself again.
If her parents were like the Yang family, they did not abandon her, but raised her until she was four or five years old and began to work as a maid, and finally sold her to a high-priced bachelor as a fertility machine...... She didn't have the opportunity to read and study at all, maybe in the confusion, like Yang Sinan, she disappeared into this world silently at some point.
Perhaps, she also has to thank the Zhou family and his wife for their abandonment at the beginning, at least, she has received too much help from well-wishers from the welfare home to Professor Tang, so that she can grow up from the mud and have such a sunny attitude as she is now.
"That'...... Now what? How can we help her? ”
There are less than seven days left, the father and son can come out, and Fang Zhou even heard that they were in the detention center, so they said that they wanted to go back and clean up this bold daughter-in-law, and actually hooked up with outsiders to send her husband and father-in-law to the police station, which is really a lot of fighting......
In their eyes, beating their wives is a matter of course, and those who dare to resist are really "rebellious".
Fang Zhou said indignantly: "I want to find someone to put a sack on them and beat them severely, so that they can also taste the taste of being beaten!" ”
Qi Siyue shook her head and sighed, "Beating people won't solve the problem." I'll contact the Women's Federation to see if they can come forward and think of a solution. They gave us people, so we can't just heal them a little bit and then send them back to be tortured and abused, right? ”
Yang Sinan grabbed her hand, as if she had understood what they were discussing, her eyes were instantly filled with tears, and she shook her head vigorously, but her throat was still not swollen, and she couldn't speak at all.
"You don't want to go back, do you?" Fang Zhou saw it in his eyes and asked, and when he saw her, he immediately nodded, "It seems that you can understand what we say, and you are not stupid...... It's best to heal your throat first, and if you can't speak yourself, we can't speak for you......"
"I ......" Yang Sinan struggled to squeeze out hoarse words from her throat, and every word seemed to exhaust all her strength, "I...... No...... Back to ......"
"Okay, don't say it, drink some more medicine, take a drop pill, and your throat will be more comfortable."
Qi Siyue stopped her and shook her head lightly at Fang Zhou, "Her illness is actually not serious, but her reaction is a little sluggish compared to ordinary people, and repetitive work is no problem for her at all." That family...... They all use her as a nanny, and now without her, life will not be easy. ”
So they won't give her up until they want the bride price back.
Even if she can only be used as a punching bag, a slave, to them, it is their possessions.
Fang Yihua hesitated and said, "Why don't you ...... I gave the money to the family for her first, so that they could divorce first? ”
150,000 is an astronomical amount for Yang Sinan, who lives in the village, but for Fang Yihua, it is not a large number. If she can save a person with 150,000, she thinks it's worth it.
"If only it were that simple." Qi Siyue sighed and said, "I gave the money and got divorced, what about the future?" If her family can sell her once, they can sell her a second time......"
"We still have to find a way to fight for custody."
The mountain on her body is not only her husband and in-laws, but also her original family, the family that should have been her dependence, but together with those who abused her, she was firmly sandwiched between them, leaving no gaps.
Next, several people worked together to run Yang Sinan when the spring break had just passed and there were not many people in the rehabilitation center.
When they rescued Yang Sinan, they sent the father and son to the police station, in addition to detention, they asked them to write a guarantee that they would not abuse Yang Sinan in the future, but they did not expect that they were writing a letter of guarantee, and they still said that they would "discipline" the daughter-in-law well.
If next time, they will abuse Yang Sinan in a more covert way, instead of being as unscrupulous and simple and rude as before, as long as Yang Sinan has no obvious scars on her body and she is not able to speak, then even the Women's Federation and the police station will be powerless.
So they could only find a way to get Yang Sinan out of the family's control in these last few days.
"First of all, we have to find a way to prove that Nan Nan can recover and have a lucid time, during which she has the capacity to act and can take responsibility for the decisions she makes."
"Just because of her illness, she can't be made a commodity in the hands of her parents and a vent for her husband's fists and feet."
"If it really doesn't work, let's go to litigation first, and ask the court to issue a restraining order based on the injury inspection report, so as to ensure Nan Nan's personal safety first, so as not to find the family again."
"I ...... I can! Although Yang Sinan still had a hard time speaking, she still insisted on participating in every discussion between them, and Qi Siyue could even feel her changing day by day, she was not the kind of person with severe autism, she could feel their efforts and care for her, and tried her best to keep up with them.
"I ...... I want, divorce, get married! ”
"Good!" Fang Zhou patted her on the shoulder, "As long as you have the courage and determination, we will definitely help you to the end!" ”
He himself is a psychology student, and his teachers and brothers are all authoritative figures in the psychiatric department, so he took Yang Sinan to it, and quickly did a good examination, from psychological report to psychoanalysis, and did enough homework.
Facts have proved that Yang Sinan is indeed autistic and mildly mentally disordered, if under normal treatment and rehabilitation training, there is a seventy percent chance of returning to normal life, although the learning ability and reaction ability are weaker, but it does not affect her daily life. In the past ten years, whether it is her mother's family or her in-law's family, a large part of the housework has been pressed on her, from morning to night, never endlessly.
She has been accustomed to hearing the lessons of her family since she was a child, "You are a fool, you can't learn anything, if you don't work hard, who will support you if you eat rice." ”
Since she was first diagnosed as autistic and mentally retarded, she has had no chance to learn and be treated, and she has no way to grow, but it doesn't mean that she is really stupid and unconscious.
Especially in the past few days at the Enron Rehabilitation Center, seeing the tacit understanding between Qi Siyue and Lin Xiangyu, the intimacy between Fang Zhou and Fang Yihua, and the love of Mu Ju and Yu Qing helping each other, she realized that not every man can beat his wife, and not every woman must have children.
Yu Qing told her, "Mu Ju and I are ready to adopt Chu Jiu, she is also an orphan, just like us, we will take care of her as our own daughter, and we will not let anyone bully her." Nan Nan, you have to learn to love yourself first! ”
Fang Zhou grabbed Fang Yihua's hand without hesitation and showed her, "Teacher Xiao Fang's hand is holding a paintbrush, I can't even bear to touch the dishwashing water, how can I hit her?" Nan Nan, you are a good woman, even if you don't have a husband or family, you can live with your own hands. ”
Yang Sinan looked at his hands, they were rough, red and swollen, and even two fingers could not be straightened because they had been broken, and they were twisted like chicken feet, compared to Fang Yihua's fair and delicate hands, they were simply impossible to see.
"Give-" Lin Dabao handed her a clay figure, with short hair, pointed chin, and big eyes, looking a little familiar, "Nan Nan!" Pretty! ”
"Dabao is awesome! You can pinch it according to people, and the level is good! Fang Zhou immediately praised Dabao and said to Yang Sinan, "Nannan, look at Dabao, he was also bullied before, and now he can live on his own, aren't you as good as him?" ”
"Is this me?" Yang Sinan took the clay figurine in Dabao's hand, and suddenly felt his heart warm, "It's me, it's good...... I...... Want to ...... too Myself! ”