Angle: From the front, it is a rectangular iron plate, vertically it is an iron ring, and when you look at it obliquely, you will find that it is a cold iron pipe.

Who said this? Interesting.

The food that the family bought last year had been eaten, and Xiao Han had to put on a down jacket and a mask to buy food on the street.

It was deserted, and only the dim street lamps guarded the colorful anticipation.

Turning the corner, a young man leaned on a lamppost and held a cigarette in his mouth. Xiao Han stepped forward and stretched out his hand to pull out the cigarette in his mouth and snuff it out, and then threw it into the trash can on the side of the road.

"Rely on ......" The dick was about to scold the street, Xiao Han took out a mask from his pocket and slapped him on the mouth, "Give it to you!" ”

While eating ham and drinking beer, I was thinking about how to help Zheng Yimin and how to tell Fei Ya. At this time, I found that someone on WeChat added me as a friend.

The other party is a native of Bozhou, Anhui Province, and his online name is "Bingqing".

Xiao Han: Hello, did you see the WeChat account I left on the marriage website?

Bingqing: Yes, I hope you are really engaged in marriage and not in MLM.

Xiao Han: I hate MLMs as much as you do.

Bingqing: Please tell us about your basic situation.

Xiao Han: Everything I fill in on my information is true, and if you want to know, just ask.

Bingqing: It says that you are an architect?

Xiao Han: I've been doing this for almost 10 years.

Bingqing: From a professional point of view, we are more compatible.

Xiao Han: Oh, what kind of profession are you?

Bingqing: I'm a fashion designer!

Xiao Han: That's right, I designed a beautiful house, and you live in beautiful clothes, hehe!

Bingqing: You're humorous, but I don't like to joke!

Xiao Han: Okay, then I'll be serious. How long have you been divorced?

Bingqing: How do you know I'm divorced?

Xiao Han: Isn't it?

Bingqing: I'm 34 years old and I've never been married!

Xiao Han: Oh, I'm sorry, I was wrong.

Bingqing: After all, you are a literate person, please pay attention to what you say in the future!

Xiao Han stuck out his tongue: Thank you for the teaching, I will correct my mistakes.

I've heard that some women have a habit of cleanliness, so they don't start a family.

Bingqing: Do you suspect that I have a habit of cleanliness? You're wrong, my colleague has a cleanliness fetish, and she's divorced.

Xiao Han: I would like to know what kind of woman is considered clean.

Bingqing: This colleague in my office is called Yun Meng, and she is the real cleanliness fetish.

Xiao Han: What's wrong with her?

Bingqing: She loves to be clean and out of line. Have you seen Dream of Red Mansions?

Xiao Han: I've seen it.

Bingqing: She loves cleanness and love more than that Miaoyu in the Dream of Red Mansions.

Xiao Han: Oh, I remember that Miaoyu, when someone else used her tea bowl, she would throw it away.

Bingqing: My colleague Yunmeng, if someone shakes her hand, he will wash for five minutes!

Xiao Han: This is really cleanliness.

Bingqing: Not only does she not let others use her cup, but she also doesn't allow others to sit on her chair, and even if someone else uses the pen she uses, she will immediately change it to a new one.

Xiao Han: This is also a strange thing!

Bingqing: There are even more extreme things. The inside of her car was clean and spotless, and it was easy not to let anyone else sit in her car.

Once, when the leader was in a hurry to borrow her car and drive it out for a while, she went to the car wash to wash the inside and outside of the car, and replaced the cloth cover of the steering wheel with a new one.

Xiao Han: What about her eating or unraveling?

Bingqing: She easily doesn't go to restaurants with others. Before she eats at her home, the dishes and chopsticks must be disinfected with boiling water in addition to cleaning.

Her bathroom is cleaner than someone else's bedroom, and no one is allowed to use her bathroom.

Xiao Han: It's too much for her to do that.

Bingqing: Yes. She's usually like that. As soon as she went indoors, she immediately put on her mask and gloves.

Xiao Han: So how does she interact with people?

Bingqing: She dated me and became my best friend. But even so, she easily refused to let me go to her house, and I was not willing to go.

Xiao Han: Why don't you want to go?

Bingqing: I've only been there once. Her home is too clean and neat. Before she asked me to sit down, she put a white cloth on the sofa, and I guess she would throw it away after I left, but fortunately, I have been best friends with her for a long time and are used to each other.

Xiao Han: She even thinks you're dirty, so what about her former partner?

Bingqing: She used to find a partner and got married, but she divorced after less than a month of marriage.

Xiao Han: Is it because she has a habit of cleanliness?

Bingqing: She told me about her experience, and she admitted that no man could live with her.

Xiao Han: It's because of her cleanliness, right?

Bingqing: Yes. She told me interesting stories about her love and marriage, as well as her divorce.

Xiao Han: Oh, what's interesting?

Bingqing: She and her subject also have flowers before the moon, and they also whisper on the park paths, but when her subject wants to pull her hand, she tucks it into her trouser pocket; When she invited her to sit on the bench, she took out a handkerchief and put it on it; When her partner is about to kiss her......

Xiao Han: How is she?

Bingqing: She later told me that she saw her subject with a spit on his mouth, and she felt so sick that she quickly covered her mouth with her hand.

Xiao Han: Then how did she get married?

Bingqing: She thought she was just talking about hygiene, and thought that after getting married, the two of them would be able to adapt slowly.

She told me: On the wedding night, when she saw her husband enter the bedroom, she was lying on the bed, and when she saw her husband's eyes in Mimi, she panicked and quickly covered her face with a pillow. When she was done, she ran into the bathroom and rinsed herself three times with body soap.

Xiao Han: Damn!

Bingqing: After getting married, she put forward eight regulations to her husband. One is not kissing; Second, you must take a bath and brush your teeth before going to bed; Third, you must use your own toiletries and tableware; Fourth, the clothes must be hung in the wardrobe when they are taken off; Fifth, the supplies must be placed neatly in their original place after use; Sixth, change shoes when you enter the door; Seventh, that kind of thing is at most once a week, and eighth, try not to let guests come to the house, and you can't let your own family come to stay.

Xiao Han: There are a few things that are quite difficult to do.

Bingqing: So she got married for only three days, and her husband couldn't stand it anymore, so the two had a fierce quarrel, and she went back to her parents' house in a fit of anger.

When her husband found her at her parents' house, she thought that her husband was here to ask for a marriage and to take her home, but she didn't expect her husband to hand her a divorce agreement!

Xiao Han: Her husband wants to get rid of it as soon as possible, right?

Bingqing: She calmed down after crying for two days, and felt that she was really not suitable for married life, so she agreed to divorce.

Xiao Han: Did she look for it again in the future?

Bingqing: After her divorce, many people who didn't know that she had a habit of cleanliness pursued her, and she also tried to change herself, but she told me that she couldn't change it, and she was disgusted when she saw a man's face approaching.

Xiao Han: Then you won't be looking for it in the future?

Bingqing: Over time, she lost confidence in herself, and over time, she regarded loneliness as freedom, until now. Maybe until death!

Xiao Han: It's really hard to change people!

Bingqing: That's her self, and she doesn't think there is any need to change.

Xiao Han: Do you also insist on your ego?

Bingqing: I'm not a cleanliness addict, and I don't need to change anything!

Xiao Han: You said that you are 34 years old and have never been married, what is the reason?

Bingqing: I don't know why, maybe it's because fate hasn't arrived!

Xiao Han: Can you tell us? I'll help you break it down.

Bingqing: Yes.

Xiao Han: yes, I don't have time when I get to work.

Bingqing: I'm not a cleanliness addict, and it's not that I don't look for it. From my youth to the present, I have met and gotten along with many men, but I just can't find a suitable man to marry.

Xiao Han: Is your vision too high?

Bingqing: I don't think I'm too demanding.

Xiao Han: Tell me about it.

Bingqing: I myself graduated from a university, and the other party's education can't be lower than mine, right? I'm not married, so the other party must be married for the first time, right? I have more than 500,000 deposits, and the other party can't be lower than me, right? You must have a house of more than 100 square meters in the city, right? Otherwise, where will I live in the future! The car I drove by myself is worth more than 300,000 yuan, and the other party's car must be more high-end than mine, right?

Xiao Han: What else?

Bingqing: My height is 1.72 meters, the model figure, the man's height should be at least 1.8 meters tall, right? Besides, at least the character should be good? The quality should be high, right? Personality should also be okay?

Xiao Han: It's hard to say.

Bingqing: We all know that gambling, alcoholism, and smoking are vices, so it's not okay, right? Do you think I'm too demanding?

Xiao Han: Dear lady, I would like to ask, do you mean that the man you are talking about must have all of the above conditions?

Bingqing: Of course!

Xiao Han: Every one of the requirements you said is not high, but if a man has the above conditions at the same time, then I believe that he must not wait until after the age of 30 to find it! Even if there is, it will be snatched away by women who are younger and better off than you.

Bingqing: Without a proper umbrella, I'd rather get drenched in the rain!

Xiao Han: Of course, this is your right.

What have all the boyfriends you've been with before?

Bingqing: My first boyfriend was a classmate of mine in college, his father was the director, and her mother ran a company. He is tall, handsome, personable, and literary. He chased me for half a year before I agreed to date him.

Xiao Han: That's good.

Bingqing: In his spare time, he sometimes took me to eat Western food, sometimes took me to coffee, and on Sundays he would take me for a ride in his mother's luxury car.

Xiao Han: Does his family have a luxury car?

Bingqing: Yes, and there is more than one.

He also bought me a ruby gold necklace, but I gave it back to him.

Xiao Han: What was the reason for the breakup?

Bingqing: Later, I found out that there was something wrong with his character!

Xiao Han: What's the problem?

Bingqing: He always wants to take advantage of me!

Xiao Han: Cheap?

Bingqing: yes, and it's getting more and more excessive.

At first, he just patted me on the shoulder, then he dared to hug my waist, and then he was even bolder!

Xiao Han: Oh, what did he do?

Bingqing: He thinks about that! As soon as he stretched out his hand, I gave him a big mouth, and I called him a hooligan!

Xiao Han: Good fight! Can? Should it be hit?

Bingqing: You can't be polite to this kind of ill-intentioned guy!

Xiao Han: So?

Bingqing: I gave him back the necklace and told him to get away.

Xiao Han: That's it?

Bingqing: I never wanted to see him again, and I tore up the letter of apology he wrote to me.

When I graduated from college, I even tore up the photo of him because of the class photo.

Xiao Han: Is this just because of his actions?

Bingqing: I have been traditionally educated by my family since I was a child, and I have a minimum moral bottom line. Besides, if he does that, it shows that his character is extremely bad!

Xiao Han: According to what you say, there are no good men in the world, hehe!

Bingqing: Later, after joining the work, an engineer who was five years older than me pursued me.

Xiao Han: How do you pursue it?

Bingqing: At first, I didn't have anything to say, but seeing that I gave him a good face, he began to buy me some snacks that women love to eat, but he was stupid and couldn't see that I was lukewarm to him, and he actually asked our leader to help match this matter.

Xiao Han: He's quite sincere, huh?

Bingqing: He bought two movie tickets, asked the leader to give me one, and asked me to go to the movie after work. For the sake of saving face for the leadership, I went.

Xiao Han: It's time to go.

Bingqing: When I watched the movie, I saw his legs trembling.

I asked him, "How is this boss played by Chow Yun-fat?" ”

He said, "That kid is very poor! ”

Xiao Han: Haha, he's too nervous in front of you, how can he be in the mood to watch a movie.

Bingqing: After watching the movie, he sent me home, and I asked him, "Why is the moon cloudy and sunny?" ”

As a result, he gave me a lesson in astrophysics and physics.

Xiao Han: Haha, nerd!

Bingqing: You said that I can follow such a man who doesn't understand amorous feelings?

Xiao Han: But you know the customs, and you say that the character of the family is not good.

Bingqing: When I was thirty years old, I met a Japanese man who could speak Chinese, named Ichiro Kobayashi.

Xiao Han: Little Japan.

Bingqing: This little Japan is not short, he is 1.85 meters tall. The suit is straight and the hair is shiny. He is well-behaved, has good manners, and speaks very civilly, and does not like to move his hands and feet like other men.

Xiao Han: Really?

Bingqing: Although I have been with him for more than a year, I have always kept a certain distance from him, but I have developed a certain amount of affection.

Once, he took me to a five-star hotel, got down on one leg and put a diamond ring on my finger in front of several of his Chinese friends, and then handed me a bouquet of roses.

Xiao Han: He proposed to you?

Bingqing: I'm quite satisfied with him, but ......

Xiao Han: What's the matter?

Bingqing: A few days later, he took me to Japan to meet her parents.

His father looked condescending when he saw me, and waited for me to pour him wine.

His mother wore a kimono to serve food, and when she was done, she sat cross-legged in front of me and muttered a lot of words.

Ichiro Kobayashi made an interpreter, and he said that his mother said: After I get married, I will no longer be able to go to work, I will have to serve my husband at home, I must cook three meals a day for my husband, and I must keep the house neat and tidy. I also have to give birth to a few children for the Kobayashi family, and so on.

Xiao Han: Can you accept it?

Bingqing: I'll take a hammer! What does his family think of me? Does a nanny add fertility tools?

That night, his family arranged for me to be in a room with Ichiro, but I didn't take off a single piece of clothing all night. Ichiro scolded me angrily in Japanese, and I didn't even pay attention to him!

The next day he bought a plane ticket to take me home.

Xiao Han: It's good to come back.

Bingqing: That's when I realized how important equality between men and women is to women.

Xiao Han: It's very important for women, but from another point of view, equality between men and women is not conducive to the stability of the family in society.

Bingqing: Why? Do you still want to maintain the patriarchal society of the past?

Xiao Han: As far as the family is concerned, if the woman has the same economic income as the man, and the family status is completely equal, then the family is not easy to stabilize. Because a woman no longer needs a man to earn money to support her, that is, no longer depends on a man, then the family can only be maintained by the relationship between husband and wife and the responsibilities of children, and once there is a problem in the relationship, the marriage can easily break down. Fortunately, there are also child responsibilities, otherwise most families will not be able to sustain their marriages.

Bingqing: Is that so?

Xiao Han: Don't you see that the divorce rate is so high now? Isn't it fundamentally the result of women's financial independence? Think about it, if a family has no children and the relationship between husband and wife breaks down, which couple will not divorce?

Objectively, why were the family relationships of the ancients so stable?

Bingqing: According to you, is it wrong to be equal between men and women?

Xiao Han: Men and women have different physiology, and their family responsibilities should also be different. A man is physically strong and does not have some physical troubles of a woman, so he should be responsible for earning money to support the family, while the characteristics of a woman are more suitable for husband and children at home. Men and women playing their own roles and responsibilities in the family does not mean that it is unfair. Our ancestors' concept of family certainly makes sense!

Bingqing: You are a fallacious heresy, and most women will oppose it. For example, you men always let their wives do the housework and treat their wives as nannies who don't spend money.

Xiao Han: This statement of yours is a widely circulated fallacy among modern women, it seems that women become nannies as soon as they do housework, resulting in many women who can't cook after getting married, and don't like to do housework, and their mouths are still vibrant, and the background is that women can also earn money, and the economy will be independent, so why do housework when they are financially independent? Right? But according to this, the grandmother used to cook for the grandfather, is the grandmother the grandfather's nanny? Mom cooks for Dad, why doesn't Mom say she's a nanny? How many of us didn't grow up eating our mother's cooking?

Only our generation and the next generation of young people associate housework with babysitting. To put it mildly, these women's minds are polluted!

Bingqing: Do you have machismo?

Xiao Han: What about machismo, the reality is that there are far more "big feminism" than machismo now!

Bingqing: I didn't expect you to be an architect and even more able to quibble than a literati.

Xiao Han: I'm seeking truth from facts.

Bingqing: Then what was the reason for your divorce?

Xiao Han: No matter what happens, if my ex-wife has no financial income and relies on me to earn money, she will not be able to divorce me! I think the vast majority of divorced families are caused by this underlying factor, but they only look at the superficial reasons.

Bingqing: I think there is another reason for divorce, that is, men are not good enough.

Xiao Han: You're a woman, but you're also very good, so you want to find a better man, right?

Bingqing: Of course! But seriously, I don't really like men from the bottom of my heart!

"Then ......" Xiao Han wanted to ask her about her physiology, but he was too embarrassed to speak.

Bingqing: I also met a man who made me feel tempted two years ago!

Xiao Han: It's not easy.

Bingqing: He is a Chinese teacher who teaches high school, he is 1.86 meters tall, has a big back, has a polite demeanor, speaks in a straightforward manner, and his other conditions also meet my requirements, and he knows how to hurt people.

Xiao Han: So what?

Bingqing: Once I had a cold and fever, he drove me to the hospital for infusion, and accompanied me for three days, asking for warmth every day, and making me food every day.

I really wanted to marry him during that time, but ......

Xiao Han: But what's the matter?

Bingqing: She made the same mistake as other men!

Xiao Han: What's wrong?

Bingqing: Lustful! I asked him to wait for me outside the bedroom that day, and I was changing my clothes inside, but I didn't expect that as soon as I was halfway through the change, he sneaked in and hugged me in the back......

Xiao Han: Don't ask, you're another slap in the face, right?

Bingqing: My slap calmed him down, and I calmed down after he left, a man like him is not suitable for me!

Xiao Han: Can I ask you a question?

Bingqing: Something to say!

Xiao Han: If a man is not lustful at all, will you like this man?

Bingqing: Why do men have to be?

Xiao Han: Only then can we have the motivation to pursue women!

Bingqing: I don't care what other women look like, I can't accept it anyway!

Xiao Han: Then did you deal with your boyfriend again?

Bingqing: I've met a few more, but I haven't gotten along.

When my parents saw that I had become an older young woman, they wanted me to start a family as soon as possible.

Actually, I really don't want to look for it now, but when my unit organized a physical examination last year, I found that I had an irregular heartbeat, and my blood pressure was also high, I was really afraid that one day, I would be sick at home alone, and no one would know about it!

So I went online to ask for marriage, but I couldn't find a man who suited my requirements on the Internet, to tell you the truth, I was really disappointed, I don't know my life, can I find a harbor for me to anchor? Am I destined to be lonely all my life?

Xiao Han: You are so good, it is not difficult to find, but you ......

Bingqing: Just what?

Xiao Han: Don't talk about that. By the way, your best friend Yunmeng who has a habit of cleanliness, does she still want to find it?

Bingqing: It's not that she doesn't want to find it, she can't find a man who loves cleanliness like her, and besides, like me, she doesn't need a man physiologically.

Xiao Han: I want to give you an idea, so don't scold me after listening, okay?

Bingqing: Don't talk nonsense, just say it.

Xiao Han: I think Yunmeng is quite suitable for you!

Bingqing: I didn't hear clearly, you say it again!

Xiao Han: You live with Yunmeng!

Bingqing: What? Me with her?

Xiao Han: Yes!

Silence, silence!

Bingqing: Will that work?

Xiao Han: You are responsible for cooking, she is responsible for cleaning, taking care of each other, just right!