Dear Natsu, Mom and Dad decided to separate.

Do you know what it means to be together and what it means to be separated? When together, mom and dad will live in the same room and will share a lot of time. When separated, Mom and Dad will live in different rooms, usually give each other a lot of space, most of the things will be solved by themselves, and many things will not be done with each other again.

There are many reasons why Mom and Dad decided to separate, and some even go back to Mom and Dad's experience when they were young, and here Mom wants to tell you about one of the most critical reasons.

That is, my mother has changed a lot from myself a few years ago.

A few years ago, my mother was still a girl who was sometimes happy, simple, sometimes melancholy.

In life, my mother's expectation is to be loved by my father, and at the same time, she has a great pursuit of a high and elegant posture.

At work, my mother also cares about the opinions of other colleagues, sometimes she is very confident, sometimes she has a little inferiority, and her work status is sometimes good and sometimes bad.

After being with your father, my mother seems to have injected a warm current into her heart, and the whole person has stood more stable, savoring the stability of a home every day. Because of having a home, the pace of my mother's life has slowed down, and everything is based on living with my father in a relaxed and happy way. At the same time, Mom also tried to understand and guess Dad's wishes, hoping that she could help him realize his wishes.

At that time, my mother was still a clear and jumping literary girl in her heart, hoping to be relaxed and easy, and at the same time to be satisfied by everyone and achieve outstanding results. Your dad, in particular, is the audience that mom cares about the most.

When you and your dad were just together, mom's career was in its infancy, she was a high-profile star in the company, and among a lot of old grandfathers, your mom was the youngest and most beautiful female executive. Dad was a clerk at that time, and his salary was about half of that of Mom, but he was also a promising young man, and he was very trusted and liked by everyone in the company. At that time, although my mother was in the limelight, she often blocked the car with her mantis arm and couldn't handle the communication skills she should have at work. Mom and Dad just got married, Mom is not mature enough, she is very strong, and it is easy to hit a wall everywhere at work, so she often goes home to complain and complain to Dad.

Dad is a very understanding person, he can't understand Mom's thoughts, and he doesn't understand why someone can't cooperate well with others. So Mom and Dad will keep arguing about who is right. Mom thought the whole world thought that Mom was not doing a good job, but Mom needed at least one supporter, and that was your dad. But it just so happened that my father also stood in someone else's position to criticize my mother, so my father and mother had a very fierce conflict when they first got married.

In the middle of the anxious relationship between Mom and Dad, Dad's long-time good friend, a beautiful aunt, and the way he communicated with Dad, also provoked Mom's nerves. The way the two of them get along is, in the eyes of their mother, a little too close. Dad's incomprehension of Mom's work made Mom very eager for Dad's affirmation, but at this time, Mom saw the tacit understanding between Mom and her friends, far more than between Mom and Dad, which also made Mom very sad.

So there was an escalation of the quarrel. Dad thinks that Mom not only doesn't understand human feelings, but also interferes with his personal freedom. Mom thinks that she has not found a confidant in life, and at the same time thinks that Dad is a person who has no sense of interpersonal boundaries. He is still self-righteous and insists on his own views after his actions affect family harmony. In fact, at that time, Mom and Dad had the idea of wanting to separate.

At this critical moment, a person appeared, and her appearance suddenly calmed down all the uneasiness and quarrels, and made our house, which was crumbling like a biscuit, suddenly soaked in the tenderness of warm milk. Guess who this angel is?

That's right, it is you who will come in the midst of trouble, you are the messenger of love from your parents.

When my mother just found out that she was pregnant, she often quarreled with my father, and that tense atmosphere made my mother even think, is your arrival really right? But every time I go to the hospital to check your condition, my mother especially hopes that the doctor will tell her that you are normal and healthy. Later, when you are already moving around in your mother's belly, your mother likes to play with you across the belly. If you fall asleep, your mother will also pat your belly and wake you up, and it will be very interesting to see you rolling around in your belly, and protruding a piece of your mother's belly on top of your belly for a while, and a piece of bulging out of it for a while.

Because of you, Mom and Dad really quarrel less, Dad will accompany Mom more at home, and Mom will try to do things very virtuously, so that Dad feels very happy and has a sensible wife.

Mom is a woman who is not squeamish when she is pregnant. Mom remembers that when she had a big belly, she would pick up her father from work, wash her father's feet, and take most of the pregnancy tests by herself. At that time, my mother was very proud of her virtuous and independent appearance. Dad will also cheer for Mom, saying that Mom is an obedient and gentle wife.

By the way, mom wants to tell you that pregnancy can really make it easy to have an upset stomach. Mom has been throwing up almost all the time since she conceived you until you were born. Despite the physical complaints, Mom is still super happy to have you, and it is because of you that Mom finally feels the feeling of being a family with Dad, and the feeling of being surrounded by love is really great.

But then mom changed.

Mom's change is almost instantaneous, not slow. This change in my mother did not let my mother see the bad things about my father, just like when my mother and father quarreled before, my mother always said that my father couldn't understand my mother, and I always said that my father had a problem. But after the sudden change of my mother, all this changed, and my mother could suddenly see the sparkle in my father.

Dad was a very practical, very intelligent person, and he single-handedly built our home. He kept pulling you and me towards the goal that Dad wanted. Dad is a very good guy with a clear goal and a strong sense of execution.

So why did mom and dad separate from it?

Because my mother always has a wish in her heart, the kind of wish that only a tall and literary girl can have, hoping to find someone who appreciates herself and can accompany her to her vague but always desired goal. At the same time, Mom is a very good and strong person, Mom doesn't want to be taken away by Dad, before Mom has fully reviewed Dad's life goals, Mom doesn't want to blindly follow Dad, Mom needs a lot of respect and a lot of equal deliberation, Mom needs "right to vote" and "right to vote".

Mom's change made Mom see the advantages of two people at the same time in an instant, Mom is a person who has the ability and wants to live independently and casually, and Dad is also a person who has the ability and goals. But Mom and Dad didn't combine the wishes of the two people, nor did they turn the goals of the two people into a common goal. In the end, my mother found that these two excellent people only have one thing in common, that is, we love you very much.

Mom found that if she and Dad were still together, then two people with strong gravitational pull would absorb each other's goals, and at the same time, pull each other's wishes, and finally make the goals and desires deformed.

As much as we want to see you every day, we want to be able to pull the gravitational field apart and love you in the way we are comfortable with. Our love for you will always be there.

Mom and Dad love you very much, and you are the angel who truly makes us a family.