The most comfortable relationship is that you don't have to guess everything

I like the saying: "Suspicion will turn all concern into ulterior motives." ”

I think the best relationship is one where you don't have to guess with each other.

The most tiring thing between two people is to say something without saying it directly, so that the other party can experience it, and people with good feelings often say what they think.

When you reach the necessary age, you will find that you don't want to please anyone at first, and you will be with whoever you are comfortable with.

If you are tired, you should stay away, if you are very tired, you must not go the same way, life is already so difficult, why not let yourself live more smoothly

The day before yesterday, an employee from a long time ago sent me a WeChat message, because we went home to get married and have children, we have not been in a city for a long time.

He told me: "Recently, I feel very tired at work, and I need to guess hard when the leader has a meeting or the instructions issued by the boss, which not only occupies my working time, but also needs to figure out what the leader's words are at today's meeting after work."

I miss working with you, I don't need to guess what you usually say, not only did it make me grow up very quickly, but it was very enjoyable, which I didn't experience at the moment. ”

One of the most disliked words that many people like to hear in their lives and relationships in the workplace is, "You can experience it yourself", "You think about it", "Think about it".

But I'm not you, let me understand you

Obviously things that can be asked directly, but they speculate and misunderstand.

Why didn't Andy choose the singularity in "Ode to Joy".

It was because of the cold pros and cons analysis and speculation on Singularity that the Singularity had something to hide from the first meal, and he took the subway to Andy's downstairs to invite her to dinner, and the whole process was full of precautions.

The second meal, Andy was full of trust in him, and even followed him to a remote private restaurant for dinner, but Singularity's performance was extremely disappointing, he tested Andy, and even asked a friend to check Andy's car.

When Andy left, he left a sentence: "Don't always observe me, test me, and test me." ”

The most important thing to get along with is to be comfortable, talk without purpose, and once you add suspicion, the taste changes.

There are no fools in life, everyone is a smart person, and when you figure out others, others are actually thinking about you.

Really smart people come with a lot of sincerity, because they know that only sincerity is something that cannot be refused.

And those self-righteous suspicions have become a slap in the face in the future.

If you like someone, you have to tell her, it's not round after round of temptation, it's not roundabout, hot and cold, so you can't figure it out.

People who can't guess eventually become memories, and those who accompany us to the end are those who can bring warmth.

Zhang Jiajia said: "Feelings are a formula that dissolves misunderstandings, eliminates doubts, merges expectations, and generates reunions.

There are so many lovers on both sides of the equal sign, but you can't calculate me, and I can't equal you. ”

The future is getting farther and farther, the past is getting longer and longer, love divided by time, the original is equal to memory.

When there are no eyes and only ears for feelings, you only believe what you guess.

Suspicion often begins with speculation, which is like one day when you see your lover going out to meet someone of the opposite sex, you don't say it, but you start to care silently in your heart.

You pretend to ask the other person simply, but she avoids it, thinking that her suspicion has been confirmed.

After that, the speculation became fermented, turned into suspicion, began to stalk questions, became hysterical, and finally proposed to break up one day.

forced the other party to tell the truth: "That boy came to me so that I could help him get his girlfriend back, because his girlfriend is my best friend." ”

You are dumbfounded, and you find that there are always some things that are inconvenient for others to talk to you.

Lovers can share with each other, but they don't have to report everything.

Give the other person some space, you must be able to share what you want to say, and I won't ask what you don't want to say.

The more space you have, the longer you spend with each other.

Michael Jackson once said, "When a world is full of hatred, we must still dare to hope."

When a world is filled with despair, we must still dare to dream.

And when a world is full of suspicion, we must still dare to trust. ”

It's the same in friendship, I don't have to worry about which words you say are aimed at me, and I don't need to deliberately interpret them.

We are comfortable with each other, and all the conversations and laughs are the most natural, and there is no need to cater to them.

Everything that needs to be maintained with all your strength is not worth nostalgia.

The best relationship is that we stand in front of each other without guessing, you do your self, I do my self, we are two independent and complete individuals, just collide with sparks, very compatible, no need to guess, no need to cater to whom, just put the self naked there, attract people who understand.