Zang Ye said: "The reason of love Love perception: look at love rationally and express emotions rationally. Please read the article with the editor, feel the strong love on the road of life, and understand the true meaning of love.

Love is a responsibility, a responsibility to accompany each other, in Western terms, it is "from today onwards to have and support each other, whether it is good or bad, rich or poor, sick or healthy, love and cherish each other, until death can separate us", in the language of the Chinese, it is "holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son".

Then, women in ancient China did not have love.

Women born in the absolute supreme feudal society of men are doomed to lose all rights or enjoy all rights promised by men, including love. They have no love, only marriage. The Three Principles and the Five Constants have a husband as a wife, and women exist as a form of male appendage, and from a certain point of view, women are also absolutely passive in marriage.

The girl was matched by the words of the matchmaker and the man when she first became an adult, and she put a red hijab on her parents' arranged marriage without knowing the other party's personality background and appearance. Most of the bride's cave room spend candle night to know the appearance of the husband (if the candlelight is dim, it will have to be another night), but the parents-in-law have long been familiar with the appearance of the virtuous son-in-law. Under this kind of marriage system, which is even worse than the "marriage" of parents to sons-in-law, a woman's lifelong affairs are only handled by her parents, and she is equivalent to a commodity that is marked at a good price, and her parents seek buyers, and the so-called "love" of women by men is just like the love of money by businessmen and the love of land by farmers---- premised on whether women are valuable or not. It is nothing more than marrying a dignified and virtuous main house to show off in front of others, or accepting a few beautiful rooms like flowers to satisfy selfish desires.

There is not much difference between the selection of goods and the careful selection of goods in the market. And from beginning to end of the whole process, women can only be passive in this deformed form of love and women's fate.

In order to avoid this fate, there are people who stand in front of their parents and say "no". But Liu Lanzhi's resistance was to throw himself into the river, while Du Shi Niang's resistance was to sink into the river. Judging from the moral customs and cumbersome frameworks, the feudal system does not allow free love to sprout, and the talented woman Tang Wan pretended to sigh with tears that "the world is thin, and people are evil"; The sister of the worldly fairy Shulin also died in anger because she had a lover and couldn't become a dependent; Although there is the beauty of Liang Zhuhua butterfly flying, it has also gone through the bumpy road of love.

And so there was obedience. Most women have become submissive or even catered to this form of love. This is also the greatest harm of the feudal idea of male superiority and inferiority to women on women's concept of love, although Li Bei'er was used as a tool, but instead "took suffering as pleasure" and competed for favor in the small Ximen Mansion; Hu Sanniang was slaughtered, but the whole family recognized the thief as a brother, and married a five-short person, but he thought he was lucky. Feudal thinking has exterminated the love cells in these women's brains, and replaced them with a kind of blind obedience and pandering that is almost reversed.

Marrying a wife and asking for a lady, the so-called "lady" is just a miscellaneous housekeeper, having children, husband and children, and men are the main body of society, the fighter of the career, the pillar of the family, and the lifelong dependence of women, and this kind of female role similar to "virtuous help" attached to men is not only the crystallization of the ideological shackles of feudal ruling ideology on women, but also the inheritance of thousands of years of bondage

The passionate and straightforward pursuit of love by Westerners has created a romantic form of love ---- romantic love. A kiss, a hug, a bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates, and a "I love you" every day are all expressions of romantic love. Sensual sharing, sexy coexistence, expressing each other's love in the most straightforward way, the most explicit love.

After Western culture opened the door to China, romantic love was gradually introduced into the steps of falling in love by the majority of infatuated men and women in China, and romantic love directly expressed spiritual love, in a sense, it formalized abstract love.

This is a flashy era, the rapid development of the economy has caused people's entertainment and materialistic pathological psychology, and entertainment and materialistic love has also become the product of this materialistic era. The flood of free love is like the yuan in inflation, and love has depreciated. It has become a game, a form, and even a means and a grandiose word for climbing the dragon and the phoenix, and the concept of love has also been infinitely distorted and deformed Tang Wan is a woman who values friendship, and the love with Lu You is a very perfect combination, but it was ruined by the wind and rain of the world. Although Zhao Shicheng re-applauded her feelings, after all, it was difficult for the sea to be water. In the emotional world of women, they are often more persistent than men. After Tang Wan was expelled from the house by his mother-in-law, he married Zhao Shicheng. At this time, Tang Wan was helpless, she may be trying to accept another person, but not because she loves him, but because she needs to love him, because only in this way can she exclude the person in her heart (Lu You). However, Tang Wan is finally a woman who can't let go, she always has a big stone in her heart, maybe she had a relatively peaceful life after remarrying, but later after Shen Yuan met Lu You by chance, the big stone in her heart surfaced again, and finally passed away because she couldn't bear the heavy life. Reminiscing about the past like water, lamenting the helpless world, the fire of feelings tormented her, making her increasingly haggard, depressed and sick, and turned into a fallen leaf in the bleak autumn season and quietly passed away with the wind, leaving only a sentimental one, which made future generations sigh......

At this time, Lu You, the career is proud. His literary talent was greatly appreciated by the newly enthroned Song Xiaozong, and he was given the birth of a jinshi. In the future, the career will be smooth, and the Baohua Pavilion service system has been achieved. During this period, in addition to his dedication to politics, he also wrote a large number of poems reflecting the thoughts of worrying about the country and the people. In his later years, he wrote to tell his old age and returned to his hometown with a golden and purple ribbon. Lu You has wandered the world for decades, trying to forget his poignant past with Tang Wan, but the farther away from home, the more Tang Wan's shadow haunts his heart. After returning from this tired trip, Tang Wan had already died, and she was in her twilight years, but she still had a deep attachment to the old things and Shen Yuan. The lonely old man often walked alone on the secluded path of Shen Garden, recalling the scene that was deeply imprinted in his mind, and then he wrote "Shen Yuan Nostalgia". The spring road is approaching, Lu You still remembers the deep affection that he once remembered, but no one said that the light was dim, this repentant heart, hatred, even today, as a spectator, we can still experience the desolation and melancholy~~.

The passage of half a century can make everything in the world wear away, but that longing is timeless, but it is a pity that some people and some things are missed for a lifetime! When you can't have it anymore, the only thing you can do is make yourself not forget.