Leaving behind nothing is better than learning to be self-reliant

From ancient times to the present, the vast majority of wealthy people generally leave all their wealth to their children and grandchildren. But among the rich in the United States, there is a new fashion in recent years, that is, not to leave too much property to future generations, lest they be happy and become unsupportable. Practitioners of this fashion include the famous Microsoft founder Bill Gates and investor Warren Buffett.

The reason why the modern rich have such a concept may be due to the lessons left by Ross Sund. Rose Child was a wealthy man of Babbitt's older generation, and he left all his fortune to his son Raphael. But Raphael was found dead on a sidewalk in New York two years after inheriting the estate, due to drug overuse, at the age of 23.

The Carnegie Foundation in the United States once conducted a survey that 20% of the children who inherited more than $150,000 gave up their jobs and indulged in eating, drinking, and having fun all day until they went bankrupt; Some are lonely all their lives, have mental problems, or do things that violate the law and discipline.

Indeed, life is between heaven and earth, and self-reliance and self-improvement are the most important issues in life. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a great educator of a generation, has a poem that is well written: "Drip your own blood, shed your own sweat, do your own things, rely on heaven and earth and rely on Lao Tzu, you are not a hero." "What can you rely on most in life? It is knowledge, wisdom, and sweat. People often say, "Rely on people to plant the land and grass, and rely on people to serve a bowl of soup." It is impossible for parents to rely on them for a lifetime, let alone others? Therefore, the most reliable in this world is not others, but yourself.

At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Zuo Zongtang, a feudal official, returned to his hometown and built a large number of buildings in Changsha, intending to leave a luxurious mansion for future generations. He was always afraid that the craftsmen would cut corners, so he personally went to the construction site with crutches to supervise the work, touching here and knocking there. An old craftsman saw that he was so uneasy, so he said, "My lord, don't worry." I have lived for such a long time and built many mansions in Changsha City. The house I built with my hands has never collapsed, but it is not uncommon for the owner of the house to change hands. After Zuo Zongtang heard this, he was ashamed and sighed.

is also a famous minister, Lin Zexu is much more open-minded in dealing with his children and grandchildren. He once said, "If my children and grandchildren are me, what do you want money for?" If you are virtuous and rich, you will lose your ambition; What do my children and grandchildren do if they don't want money? Foolishness and abundance of wealth increase their faults. "It is better to leave more knowledge for children than to leave wealth, and future generations may not be able to retain wealth, but they must use knowledge to create wealth.

It follows that wealth is precious, but even more valuable than wealth is knowledge.

Therefore, you who are wise should understand that it is better to leave behind knowledge than to leave behind wealth, so that future generations can learn to be self-reliant. Don't think you can't live without someone! Only those who are self-reliant will have a way to save themselves.

There is such a story in ancient Greek mythology:

When Hercules, the son of Zeus, was a child, he met two goddesses, one called the goddess of virtue and the other called the goddess of evil. The goddess of evil said to him, "Son, come with me!" You have endless glory and wealth! Whatever you want, I will definitely satisfy you! ”

The goddess of virtue said to him, "Son, come with me!" I'm going to teach you how to move forward! And you will be strong in the process of overcoming the odds! ”

Hercules thought about it and resolutely followed the goddess of virtue. Since then, he has been born and died, and in the process of defeating countless poisonous snakes and beasts, he has become extremely strong, and has repeatedly performed miraculous feats for mankind, becoming the greatest hero in Greek mythology! Moreover, it was precisely because of this that he married the goddess of youth - became the husband of the goddess of youth!

I really admire the profundity and profundity of the ancient Greeks, it turns out that "you have what you want" is not only not happiness, but also a kind of evil! On the contrary, only consciously challenging the tribulation is the most rational choice in life!

A happy life of what you want can give you sensory comfort, but it will not give you anything to gain in terms of ability, talent, morality, and other vitality.

"Tianxingjian, a gentleman strives for self-improvement." The objective world is constantly moving forward, and society is constantly advancing, so those who have aspirations must constantly improve themselves and constantly renew themselves.

As Wen Tianxiang said: "The reason why a gentleman enters is that he can't, and he just walks in heaven." ”

Tsiolkovsky (1857-1935), the father of Soviet rocketry, was 10 years old when he contracted scarlet fever, which lasted several days with a high fever that caused serious complications that made him almost completely deaf and deaf. He silently endured the ridicule of his children and the pain of not being able to continue his schooling. His father was a forest ranger and traveled all day. Therefore, the burden of teaching him to read and write fell on his mother. Through his mother's patient and meticulous explanation and step-by-step counseling, he made rapid progress. However, while he was studying on his own with confidence, his mother fell ill and died, and this sudden blow caused him great pain. He didn't understand, why is the path of life so difficult? Why did so many misfortunes fall on him? What should he do from here? The father stroked his head and said, "Child! Be ambitious and rely on your own efforts to go on. "Yes! The school doesn't accept it, others ridicule it, and you have to rely on yourself in the future! The young Tsiolkovsky thus began a real path of self-study. He read from primary school textbooks, middle school textbooks to university textbooks, and taught himself physics, chemistry, calculus, analytic geometry and other courses. In this way, a deaf person, a person who has not received any professors, a person who has never entered a secondary school or higher education, because of his consistent diligence in self-study and assiduous study, finally made himself a learned scientist and laid the theoretical foundation for rocket technology and interstellar navigation.

It's unrealistic to rely on others for happiness, and that will only make your future bleak. No matter how far the road is, no matter how thorny it is, as long as you go by yourself and bravely overcome the thorns and thorns, you will definitely be able to reach the destination.

Face yourself

When an orphan asked a monk for advice on how to attain happiness, he pointed to a stone and said, "Take it to the market, but whoever wants to buy it, don't sell it." "The orphans came to the bazaar to sell stones, and on the first day and the second day no one cared for them, and on the third day someone came to ask them. By the fourth day, the stone had been able to fetch a good price.

The monk said, "Take the stone to the stone tool market and sell it." "On the first and second days, people turned a blind eye, and on the third day, people came around and asked, and in the days that followed, the price of stone had been raised higher than the price of stone tools. The monk said, "Then you can take the stone to the jewelry market and sell it......

As you can imagine, that happened again, and even in the end, the price of stone was higher than the price of jewelry.

In fact, everyone and everything in the world is like this, if you think you are an inconspicuous stone, then you may always be just an ugly stone; If you firmly believe that you are a priceless gem, then you may be a gem.

Faith is hidden in everyone's nature, and the monks are actually tapping into the faith and potential of orphans.

Faith is a tremendous force, and a little bit of faith can have a magical effect. Faith is one of life's most precious treasures, and it can save you from disappointment; to make you throw away those gloomy thoughts that come out of nowhere; Give you the courage to face the hardships of life. On the contrary, it is a very sad thing to lose that confidence. The door to your future seems to be closed, it blinds you to the prospects, you are indifferent to everything, and you mistakenly think that you are incorrigible.

Faith is a human instinct, and there is no force in the world that can compare with it. Therefore, a person who has faith will also encounter setbacks and dangers, but he will not be discouraged.

Self-confidence allows you to feel what you are capable of, and its role cannot be replaced by anything else. People who stick to their ideas and have the confidence to follow their plans have an advantage over those who give up at the first setback.

There is a top insurance business manager who asks all the agents to look at themselves in front of the mirror for 5 minutes every morning before they go out to work, and say to themselves: "You are the best insurance salesman, you have to prove it today, tomorrow will be the same, all the time." After the arrangement of the business manager, every salesman's husband or wife, before their lover left for work, said goodbye to them with this paragraph: "You are the best salesman, and today you are going to prove it." ”

Man is born for faith - a kind of faith that is deeply needed, and once we lose faith, we go against our own nature, everything is uncertain, and life has no roots.

Destiny is always in the hands of the strong, maybe you have lost, but after losing, you have learned to cherish; Maybe you've failed, but after failing, you've learned to be strong; You may be mediocre, you may not be good at anything, but you should not feel inferior, maybe there is amazing potential in some way, but you just don't realize it. Face yourself squarely, dig deeper into your potential, and believe that I am born to be useful, and if it is gold, it will definitely shine.

You should not complain, and you have no reason to complain about fate, the difficulties and setbacks you encounter are a test of fate.

Maybe you are not outstanding, but ordinary is also a kind of beauty, not burdened by the world's fame and fortune, contentment and happiness, to face every day of life optimistically, whether happy or sad, life can have a few rounds, spring to autumn, flowers bloom, why look for troubles, waste time?

Rivers are never higher than their headwaters. The success of life and career must also have its source, and this source is dream and self-confidence. No matter how high your talent, ability, and knowledge level are, your career achievements will never be higher than your self-confidence. As the famous saying goes, "He can because he thinks he can; He couldn't because he didn't think he could. ”

On one occasion, a soldier returned from the front and handed a report of battle to Napoleon. Because of the rush on the road, his mount collapsed before it reached Napoleon. After reading the war report, Napoleon immediately handed it to the soldier and told him to hurry back to the front on his own mount.

The soldier looked at the majestic mount and its splendid saddle, and blurted out, "No, General, for an ordinary soldier like me, this mount is too noble and too good." ”

In this world, there are many people who always think that all the happiness of others does not belong to them, that they do not deserve it, that they cannot be compared with those who have a good fate. However, they do not understand that such inferiority and self-erasure will greatly weaken their self-confidence, and will also greatly reduce their chances of success.

Without self-confidence, there is no success. A man who has achieved great success, first of all, because of his self-confidence. Some people say that self-confidence is half the battle, but it is not the whole story of success after all. If you don't fully realize this, one day you will lose even half of what you were. Confident people rely on their own strength to achieve their goals; People with low self-esteem can only rely on luck to achieve their goals. The failure of a self-confident person is a kind of tragedy in life, although defeat is still glorious.

When you're always asking yourself: Can I make it? At this time, it is difficult for you to extract the fruits of success. When you say to yourself with confidence: I will succeed. At this time, the harvest season of life is not too far away from you.

Self-confidence makes the impossible possible and makes the possible a reality. Lack of self-confidence makes the possible impossible. One point of self-confidence, one point of success; Very confident, very successful.

Please read all the questions first

There was a conceited and intelligent student who took the test. As soon as the test paper was sent, he roughly skimmed through it, and there were 100 true or false questions except for the words "Please read all the questions before starting to answer" on the first line of the test paper. With his strength, he can answer in about 30 minutes, and he confidently picks up his pen and starts answering the question.

After two minutes, someone handed in the paper with a smile on his face, and the smart student smiled in his heart: "It's the guy who handed in the blank paper again." ”

After another 5 minutes, seven or eight more people handed in the papers, also smiling, and it didn't look like they were handing in blank papers. Seeing that he had only answered a few dozen questions, this smart student quickly sped up and buried himself in answering.

When he answered question 76, he was surprised to find that the question said, "You don't need to answer this exam paper, as long as you sign your name and submit the paper, you will get full marks, and one more point will be deducted for answering one more question." ”

He raised his hand suspiciously to ask the invigilator, only to see several candidates looking around in confusion at the same time.

The smart student looks at the instructions on the first line of the paper: "Please read all the questions before you start answering." He couldn't help but hate the speed with which he answered.

In the course of our lives, it is not difficult to see similar situations, self-esteem is too high, and not listening to opinions, which is a common mistake made by ordinary people. Especially on the road of learning and growth, the mentality of returning to zero is the first thing we must have. Only by pouring out the moss-covered stagnant water in one's heart can one accept the newly injected sweet spring in the learning process.

And emptie the cup more than once, because each time you learn something new, it will quickly fill the cup in your heart again. Therefore, you must have your own wisdom reservoir, and never forget to pour the water in the cup into the reservoir, so that the cup will always be hollow and ready to take on new things.

It is recommended that when you are faced with any life situation, you should recall the requirements of question 76, follow the instructions in life answers, and go to zero to get a comprehensive understanding of the whole situation, and do not pretend to be smart. Maintain a zero-return mentality in the development of business. This should be true in interpersonal communication, getting along with husband and wife, and educating children.

It's better to complain than to change

After graduating from university, I applied for a job in the planning department of a company, and there were four people in the planning department, including the manager. Because of my good writing, I quickly received the attention of the manager, and some of the company's activity plans were handed over to me to draft. Under normal circumstances, the activity plan I drafted, the manager made a slight change, and reported it directly to the top of the company, and most of them can be approved and implemented, but sometimes they will be readjusted due to the sudden change of thinking of some company leaders.

Once, the company wanted to carry out an activity to send warmth to the grassroots, and the work of drafting the plan naturally fell on my head. I first communicated with the place I was going to to to understand the local situation and the needs of the other party in detail, and then quickly drafted a plan to complete the whole activity according to the specific situation of the company. After the plan was sent, it was praised by the company's senior leaders, and it was a good plan that was both detailed and thoughtful, but also economical and practical. I've been secretly proud of this for many days.

However, on the first night of this event, I had already fallen asleep, and my mobile phone rang in the haze, and it was the company secretary Xiao Wang calling. She told me that the company's leaders had changed their decision at the last minute, that the activity plan needed to be revised, and that she wanted me to return to the company immediately. When I looked, it was already one o'clock in the morning. "When is it?" I was reluctant to pick up a coat and walk out, complaining in my heart about how the company's leaders could change their orders so suddenly, and completely ignoring the feelings of employees, and saying that people are people-oriented. When I arrived at the company, I saw that the manager was also there. Although I quickly completed the revision of the plan, everyone sensed my unhappiness.

I don't know why, since this incident, my psychology has undergone subtle changes, complaining began to increase more, a little thing will be taken care of, slowly, the emotion of complaining gradually occupied my heart, even I can't believe it. Over time, my colleagues began to look at me differently and even slowly distanced themselves from me. The manager also stopped asking me to take on the main job, but told me to cooperate with other colleagues.

In distress, I remembered my good friend Su Li, and confided in him about my situation. Su Li entered the workplace earlier than me, he is now the vice president of a company, after he heard it, he smiled faintly and said to me: "There is a good saying, if you can't change the environment, you can change your mood, it's better to change if you complain." After listening to his words, I thought about it carefully, yes, if I blindly let complaints haunt me, it will be detrimental to my work.

In the blink of an eye, the Spring Festival is approaching. In order to celebrate the upcoming Chinese New Year, the company decided to jointly hold a large-scale party with 3 other companies. Originally, the party was in accordance with the planned activity plan, and the awards and prizes were all prepared. However, during the party, the company's boss saw that the performance of the employees was very good, and as soon as he was happy, he asked for the first, second and third prizes to be added to the number of commendations.

Although it was just a word from the boss, it added a lot of burden to our work. To increase the number of commendations, it means not only to buy prizes and honorary certificates again, but also to mark a series of things on them. However, at this time, there are only five programs before the end of the party, and it is time to present the awards.

Faced with this sudden change, the manager was anxious, and the other two colleagues couldn't help complaining, and even suggested that they should be reissued the next day.

At this time, I took the initiative to say to the manager, "If we prepare separately, it should be too late." The manager nodded. He asked a colleague to buy prizes, and a colleague took pictures on the spot, and then handed over the most laborious task of preparing the certificate of honor to me. I didn't dare to slack off, so I went to the commissary next to the company to buy the certificate of honor as soon as possible, and then immediately went to the office to print the contents of the certificate, and by the way, even the label of the prize was printed. After a lot of busyness, at the end of the last program, all the newly added certificates and prizes were ready.

Afterwards, the company's CEO was also a little sorry for the trouble caused by the temporary increase in the number of commendations, but he was very happy to see that we were so efficient in dealing with the sudden change. For this reason, the company also gave our department a written commendation.

After this incident, I gradually learned to manage my emotions, and when temporary changes occurred, I overcame difficulties and found ways to complete them. The manager also regained his trust in me and gave me some important plans to draft. My relationship with my colleagues has become better again, and my productivity has improved.

This experience has taught me that there are always more solutions than difficulties, and in the face of sudden changes, instead of complaining, it is better to face them with a positive attitude and try our best to solve them. Moreover, dealing with sudden changes can also exercise one's ability to deal with crises and accumulate experience for one's life experience, so why not?

Live in the moment

There is a little monk who is responsible for cleaning the fallen leaves in the monastery every morning.

Waking up early in the morning to sweep the leaves can be a chore, especially in autumn and winter, when the leaves are always flying in the wind. It took a lot of time every morning to sweep the leaves, which gave the little monk a headache. He'd been trying to find a good way to make it easier for him.

Later, a monk said to him, "Before you clean it tomorrow, you should shake the tree vigorously to shake all the fallen leaves, and the day after tomorrow you will not have to sweep the fallen leaves." The little monk thought it was a good idea, so he got up early the next morning and shook the tree vigorously, so that he could sweep away the fallen leaves of today and tomorrow at once. The little monk was very happy all day.

The next day, when the little monk went to the courtyard, he couldn't help but be dumbfounded. The yard was covered with fallen leaves as usual.

The old monk came over and said to the little monk, "Silly boy, no matter how hard you try today, the fallen leaves will still fall tomorrow." The little monk finally understood that there are many things in the world that cannot be advanced in advance, and only living seriously in the present is the truest attitude towards life.

"The past and the future are not things that 'exist,' but things that have 'existed' and 'could have been.'" The only thing that 'exists' is the present. ”

One day after breakfast, someone asked the Buddha for advice. The Buddha invited him into the inner chamber and listened patiently as the man talked about his doubts for several minutes, and at last, when the Buddha raised his hand, the man immediately stopped and wondered what the Buddha was going to tell him.

"Did you have breakfast?" The Buddha asked.

The man nodded.

"Did you wash the breakfast bowls?" The Buddha asked again.

The man nodded again, and then opened his mouth to speak.

Before the man spoke, the Buddha said, "Have you dried the bowl?" ”

"Yes, yes," replied the man impatiently, "now can you help me?" ”

"You've got the answer." The Buddha replied and then invited him out.

After a few days, the man finally understood what the Buddha had said. The Buddha was reminding him to focus on the present – to be fully focused on the present moment, because that's the real point.

Living in the moment is a way of life that is fully engaged. When you live in the present moment and there is no past behind you and no future to pull you forward, all your energy is concentrated in this moment, and life has a strong tension because of it.

This is the only way to make life abundant. Other than that, people are "poor". They may have all the money in the world, but they are "poor". There are two kinds of poor people in the world – the rich poor and the poor without money. The feeling of fulfillment has little to do with the amount of material possessions you have, it often has to do with the way you live, the quality of your life, the joy of life, and the nature of your life. And all these things can only be felt through meditation.

"Present" gives you a chance to dive deep into the water of life, or fly high into the sky of life. But there are dangers on both sides – "past" and "future" are two of the most dangerous words in human language. Living in the present between the past and the future is almost like walking on a rope, with danger on both sides of it. But once you have tasted the sweetness of the moment of "now", you will not worry about the dangers; Once you're on the same page with life, nothing else matters. Life is everything to you.

When you come to the end of your life, you ask yourself a question: Do you feel that you have no regrets in this life? Do you think you've done everything you want to do? Have you ever laughed and been truly happy?

Think about how you've lived your life: when you were young, you desperately wanted to squeeze into a top-notch university; Then, you want to graduate and get a good job as soon as possible; Then, you can't wait to get married and have children, and then you look forward to the children growing up quickly so that you can lighten your burden. Later, when the child grows up, you want to retire quickly; In the end, you're really retired, but you're too old to walk...... Just when you want to stop and catch your breath, life is coming to an end.

Actually, isn't this a portrayal of most people? They have worked all their lives, worrying about life all the time, preparing for the future, and planning what will happen in the future, but forgetting to focus on the "present", waiting for time to slip by minute by second, only to suddenly realize that "time is not for me".

Buddhists often advise people to "live in the moment". What exactly is "now"? To put it simply, "now" means: what you are doing right now, where you are staying, and the people you work and live with; "Living in the moment" means that you focus your attention on these people, things, and things, and accept them, taste them, invest in them, and experience them wholeheartedly.

You might say, "What's so hard about that? Haven't I always been alive and in their company? "That's true, but the question is, are you always in a hurry, whether it's eating, walking, sleeping, playing, you are always impatient, anxious to get to the next goal? Because you feel that there are greater ambitions waiting for you to accomplish, and you can't waste your extra time on things like "now".

It's not just you, most people can't focus on the "now", they are always thinking about it, they are absent-minded, thinking about tomorrow, next year, or even the rest of their lives.

Some people say "I'm going to earn more next year", some say "I'm going to get a bigger house in the future", and some say "I'm going to get a better job". Later, the money really earned more, the house was changed to a bigger house, and the position was promoted several levels in a row, but they did not become happier, and they still felt dissatisfied: "Alas! I should have earned a little more! A little higher, find a way to live more comfortably! ”

This is not "living in the moment", even if you get more, you will not feel happy, not only not enough now, but will never be enough in the future. Forget that true satisfaction is not "later", but "here and now", and that those good things that you want to pursue do not have to wait until later, you already have them now.

If you spend all your energy in the unknown future, but you don't see what is in front of you, you will never be happy. A writer once said, "When you set your heart on finding happiness, you often can't find it, but if you allow yourself to live in the 'now' and concentrate on the things around you, happiness will come uninvited." ”

Perhaps the meaning of life is just to smell every beautiful flower around you and enjoy the bits and pieces along the way. After all, yesterday is history, tomorrow is unknown, and only the "now" is the best gift that God has given us.

Many people like to advance tomorrow's worries and want to solve tomorrow's worries as soon as possible. If there are troubles tomorrow, you can't solve them today, every day has every day's life homework to be handed in, try to do today's homework again!