Put cleverness behind the "blanket".

Sigmund Freud, the famous master of psychology, once told a very classic inspirational story.

John and Tom are the children of two neighboring families, and they have been playing together since childhood. John was a smart kid who knew everything a little bit, and he knew his strengths, so he was naturally quite proud. Tom's mind did not have John's aura, and despite his hard work, his results were difficult to get into the top 10, and he often showed a kind of inferiority complex in his heart compared to John. However, his mother always encouraged him: "If you always measure yourself by the achievements of others, you will be just a 'chaser' for the rest of your life." Although the galloping horses always roar at the beginning, it is often the camels that arrive at their destination with patience and perseverance. ”

The clever John prides himself on being a smart man, but his life is mediocre and he has not been able to achieve anything great. Tom, who feels stupid, enriches himself in all aspects, surpasses himself little by little, and finally achieves extraordinary performance. John was so indignant that he died of depression. When his soul flew to heaven, he confronted God, "I am far more brilliant than Tom, and I should be greater than him, but why do you make him the best on earth?" ”

God smiled and said, "Poor John, you have not been able to figure it out until you die: I have sent everyone into the world and put the same thing in the 'blanket' of his life, except that I have put your wisdom in front of the 'blanket,' and you have been so complacent at the sight or touch of your own wisdom that you have missed your life!" Tom's cleverness is placed behind the 'blanket', because he can't see his own cleverness, he is always looking up and looking ahead, so he has been unconsciously stepping up and moving forward all his life! ”

Everyone should always remember this truth, only a person who constantly surpasses himself is a truly intelligent person.

Life in the world, everyone has their own unique endowment and talent, everyone has their own unique entry point to realize the value of life, as long as you develop yourself according to your own endowment, and constantly surpass the stumbling blocks of the soul, you will not ignore the sun in your life, and disappear in the brilliance of others.

Hang on

Brother Chang is Taiwanese, and we met three years ago. One day he called me from Taiwan and said he wanted to order two hundred PetTrainingCollar. I felt inexplicable, I had just set foot in the pet supplies business, how did he know I was doing this? When he hesitated, he said that he was going on a business trip to the mainland on a certain day in a certain month, and asked me to prepare the goods, and then pay the money with one hand and deliver the goods with the other. Since he promised to come in person, there was nothing to doubt, and I waited for him to come with all the goods.

Half a month later, he called and said that he was playing with a few friends in Chenjiang, Huizhou, and asked me to deliver the goods to the hotel where they were staying. With a few friends? I was apprehensive, and I didn't want to let go of this opportunity, thinking about it, I felt that since it was on the mainland, there should be no problem, and a person had the courage to drive the goods over. It was only after meeting me that I realized that my worries were unnecessary. Brother Chang, who was in his forties and looked very kind, took a look at my goods and gave me the money without saying anything. Then we had dinner together and went to a nightclub to sing after the meal.

They sang a few Chinese songs, and then they sang Hokkien songs. I don't know anything about Hokkien, humming and chirping like mosquitoes, more like crying. They sang for a night, I was sad for a night, and the whole night I only vaguely understood the sentence "The path chosen by Ruan will definitely persevere until success". He asked me if I could understand what they were singing, I shook my head and learned this sentence, and he said with his thumb that he was a hero, as long as he persisted, he would succeed, and said that the song was called "Persistence". I see.

Later, Brother Chang would come to the mainland every two months to purchase goods, and occasionally ask me to get some goods, and gradually everyone became acquainted, and it can be said that he was both my guest and my friend. Every time we go to KTV, he is always thundered and wants to sing "Persistence" once. It made my ears callous, and then I couldn't help but complain about why he kept singing this song, humming and chirping to death. Every time I complained, he always smiled faintly, and the next time I came to the mainland, my nephew would still play lanterns, and he would still sing "Persistence". I continued to complain and said that you have been persisting for two or three years, and I can't hold on anymore, but he still smiled. I think he is not only singing in nightclubs in the mainland, but also in Taiwan's KTV, and you still feel like singing a song for a few years? He frankly said that there is, although it is the same song, every time I sing it, it is a different feeling. No wonder, I have nothing to say.

It wasn't until 2009 that I hired someone to develop a pet product by myself, and I lost all the money I had earned over the years, and I was in debt. I told him about my distress on the Internet, and Bao Qian said that he would not be able to supply him in the future. He asked me if I remembered that he sang the song "Persistence" every time he went to the nightclub, and I said that I remembered it until I died. He said that since you remember it, you should stick to it, and told me why he always sang this song when he kept coming.

In Taiwan's pet products industry, he and his company are more famous, and his achievements today are also the result of his persistence for ten years. Ten years ago, he also lost a mess and almost broke up with his wife, and at that time he also thought about giving up, but it was the song "Persistence" that made him grit his teeth and survive all the way. In the past ten years, every time he went to a nightclub, KTV had to sing "Persistence", in order not to give up and fall. I silently said how much courage and perseverance it takes to keep singing a song for ten years. The reason why he finally survived was not because he sang this song, but because he insisted on singing this song, and the new feelings and realms generated by persisting in singing this song, which was a new opportunity he found after every failure. On the other hand, although I have lost money and owed debts, my wife has always been with me through weal and woe, and when I come home after work every day, I can see the innocent and pure smiling faces of my children and eat hot meals. What do I have to complain about? In the face of difficulties, will we be promised every day? Will shouting and shouting help us? Although the sunshine of the policy is good, it will not shine on everyone, in the most difficult time of life, what better choice do we have than to insist!

Run out for your future

He was born in a poor family, facing the loess with their backs to the sky, and his parents could not provide him with superior learning and living conditions. But he is very sensible, and from the day he walked into the school, he never asked his parents for a penny. A few years later, with excellent grades, he was admitted to a high school in the city, because the school was far away from home, so he chose to live in the school every year.

That day, he bought a ticket for 9 yuan with the thought of his parents and got on the bus back home for the first time. When he got home, the village electrician was collecting electricity bills, and he leaned over to take a look, only to see a small "5" written in the number field on the receipt. Tan hurriedly took out 5 yuan from his pocket and handed it to the other party, blaming his parents for their savings. The electricity bill is 5 yuan a month, and my parents must be reluctant to even watch TV. Just then, the electrician handed him a few more pieces of change. He took it and counted it, 4 yuan and 5 dimes. Suddenly, he understood. It turned out that the parents' monthly electricity bill was only 5 cents! He stood there with his mouth half-open, unable to utter a word. He secretly calculated in his heart that the 9 yuan he spent in the car was enough to pay for his family's electricity bill for 18 months! He scolded himself in his heart, what an ignorant loser! He secretly swore that his parents' hard-earned money was only allowed to be squandered once!

When he returned to school, he was even more frugal. However, the house leak happened to rain overnight, and the mother could only lie in bed all day because of the compression of nerves in the lumbar spine due to fatigue. On the one hand, his mother, who was sick in bed and missed him, and on the other hand, he stood in the middle, isolated and helpless, in a dilemma. Finally, he came up with the best of both worlds - a way to run home!

The school is more than 60 miles away from home, and it takes him more than three hours to get there. Every time he went home, he didn't dare to rush into the house, but hid under the big tree at the entrance of the village and took dozens of deep breaths, so as not to let his parents see that he had run home. He has always maintained an optimistic attitude towards this kind of life, and even shared his experience with his classmates: jog, but you can't stop, let alone sit down to rest, and you must insist on running the whole distance in one go. Also, drink less water. His self-improvement influenced his classmates and friends. Everyone no longer compares, but learns, thrifts, and progresses. There was a time when a student cadre with a better family in the class mobilized his parents to sponsor him, intending to give him 200 yuan a month for living expenses. Although he was grateful for this kind of funding, he always felt ashamed of it, and was afraid that he would not be able to repay it because he had incurred too much personal debt. In the end, he was adamant that he would not accept such contributions again. At his insistence, the kind-hearted classmate had no choice but to give up the funding.

Seeing his poor and emaciated parents, he also had the idea of dropping out of school. However, a scene he saw during his part-time job completely dispelled this idea. It was 10 p.m. when I finished work that day. He returned to the workshop with his tired body back, and found that several people had books on their beds, and they had to look at them no matter how late they returned, and even two of them were insisting on studying for exams on their own. During a small talk, a co-worker told him, "Without knowledge, you can never change your fate." Just by working part-time, you will always earn hard-earned money. Since then, he has strengthened his determination to continue his studies. He encouraged himself to go on strongly, no matter how many difficulties there were, no, to run.

Yes, if you want to break through the hardships in front of you, you must 'run'! After evening self-study, when his roommate fell asleep, he ran in the ocean of knowledge; On weekends, when = classmates are immersed in the sweetness of returning home, he runs through noisy restaurants; On holidays, when his friends are visiting beautiful scenic spots, he runs on the dusty construction site......

His name is Yan Mingqiang, a peasant boy in the western mountains of Yuzhou, Henan Province. From home to school, and then from school to home, in two years, he ran more than 4,000 miles together. This is the miracle created by a rural high school student.

We have enough reason to believe that Yan Mingqiang's success will never be late, because he has a heart of self-reliance, self-improvement, and self-discipline, and is persistent and enterprising on the difficult road of study and life, running all the way!

Enough is enough, don't be greedy

There was a little kid who everyone said was stupid, because if someone gave him a coin of 5 cents and 1 yuan at the same time, he always chose 5 cents and asked for 1 yuan. A person didn't believe it, so he took out two coins, one for 1 yuan and one for 5 cents, and asked the child to choose one of them, but the child really picked a 5 cent coin.

The man thought it was very strange and asked the child, "Can't you tell the value of a coin?" ”

The child whispered, "If I had chosen 1 yuan, you wouldn't have played this game with me next time!" ”

That's where that kid is smart.

Indeed, if he chooses 1 yuan, no one will want to continue playing with him, and all he gets is 1 yuan! But he took 5 cents and pretended to be a fool, so the longer the fool belonged, the more he took it, and in the end what he got would be several times more than 1 yuan! Therefore, in real life, we might as well look up to the "silly child" - don't take 1 yuan, but 5 cents!

And more people in society often have a kind of greed that does not take for nothing, does not eat for nothing! As everyone knows, your greed not only harms the interests of others, but also makes others disgusted with your greed. Maybe others can tolerate your behavior and don't care about your greed, but if you know how to stop in moderation, they will have a better impression and evaluation of you, so they are willing to continue the relationship with you.

It is a pity that modern society is full of the following phenomena: interpersonal relationships are used up at one time, and business is earned at one time! I thought I was smart by doing this, but I didn't know that I was cutting off my own way! I don't want you to be so smart, but I want you to always have the same "stupidity" as that child, because it will make you more rewarded.

Is 10 more than 5 cents, or more than 1 dollar? Do the math yourself!

The insatiable desire constantly tempts people to pursue the highest enjoyment of material desires, but excessive pursuit of profit often makes people lose the direction of life, so everything can be done in moderation in order to grasp the direction of their life.

A few people are fishing on the shore, and a few tourists are enjoying the sea view. I saw an angler raise his rod and catch a big fish, more than a foot long, and after landing on the shore, it still jumped. However, the angler stepped on the big fish with his foot, unhooked the hook from the fish's mouth, and threw the fish into the sea.

The onlookers exclaimed, such a large fish could not satisfy him, which showed the ambition of the angler.

Just as everyone was waiting with bated breath, the angler's fishing rod was raised again, and this time it was a one-foot-long fish, but the angler still didn't look at it, and threw it into the sea.

The third time, the angler's rod was raised again, and he saw a small fish no more than a few inches long at the end of the line. The crowd thought that the fish would be released as well, but the angler untied the fish and carefully put it back into his basket.

The crowd was puzzled, so they asked the angler why he chose the big one and the small.

The angler replied, "Oh, because the biggest plate in my house is only a foot long, and the fish that are too big to fit in the plate will not fit when I catch it." ”

In today's economically developed world, there are fewer and fewer people like anglers who give up the big and take the small, but there are more and more people who give up the small and take the big. As the saying goes, greed for wealth leads to a short life and many disasters. Good character such as kindness and open-mindedness is the foundation of health and longevity. If you are greedy for a small bargain, you will suffer a big loss after all.

After the withdrawal of the French from Moscow, a farmer and a merchant searched the streets for their belongings. They found a large pile of uncharred wool, and they tied half of it to their backs.

On the way back, they found some more cloth, and the farmer threw away the heavy wool and chose some better cloth that he could carry. The greedy merchant picked up the wool and leftover cloth that the farmer had left behind, and the weight made him breathless and slow.

After a short journey they found some silver cutlery, and the farmer threw away the cloth and picked up some of the better ones on his back, but the merchant was too heavy to bend down because of the weight of the wool and cloth.

The wool and cloth of the hungry merchant were soaked with the rain, and he staggered and fell into the mud; The farmer, however, went home in a relaxed state. He sold his silver cutlery and became rich.

The world, thousands of temptations, wanting everything, will tire you to death, let it go, you will be relaxed and happy for a lifetime.

Greedy people are often easily confused by the superficial phenomena of things, and even difficult to extricate themselves.

At one time, a hunter captured a bird that could only speak 70 languages.

"Let me go," said the bird, "and I will give you three pieces of advice." ”

"Tell me first," replied the hunter, "I swear I'll let you go." ”

"The first piece of advice," said the bird, "is not to regret what you do. ”

"The second piece of advice is: If someone tells you something that you don't think is possible, don't believe it."

"The third piece of advice is: when you can't climb up, don't bother to climb it."

Then the bird said to the hunter, "Let me go." The hunter let the bird go.

The bird flew up and landed on a large tree, and shouted to the hunter, "You are stupid. You let me go, but you didn't know that there was a great pearl in my mouth. It's this pearl that makes me so smart. ”

The hunter was eager to catch the released bird again. He ran to the tree and began to climb it. But when he was halfway up, he fell and broke both legs.

The bird laughed at him and shouted at him, "Fool! You have forgotten all the advice I just told you. I told you not to regret something you did, and you regretted letting me go. I tell you not to believe anyone who tells you what you think is impossible, and you believe that a little bird like me will have a big pearl in its beak. I told you not to force yourself to climb if you couldn't climb it, and you chased me and tried to climb the tree, only to fall and break your legs. This proverb says of you, and for a wise man, a lesson is deeper than a hundred scourges for a foolish man. With that, the bird flew away.

People are often stupid because of greed, and they will do stupid things. Therefore, at all times, we must have our own opinions and the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and do not be deceived by false phenomena.

Greed is a stubborn disease, and people can easily become slaves to it and become more and more greedy. Man's desires are endless, and when he gets a lot, he still expects more. A person who is greedy for huge profits and never satisfied is tantamount to fooling himself. Greed is the root of all evil. Greed can make people forget everything, even their own personality. Greed leads to irrational behavior and foolish behavior. Therefore, the attitude we should really adopt is: stay away from greed, stop in moderation, and be content with happiness.

Survival of the fittest

The Indians have always been known for their strength and strength.

The reason why the Indian race was able to be strong and strong had a lot to do with the way they selected the next generation, that is, the "Tufa eugenics" that was spread among the Indian tribes.

It is said that in the Indian tribes, if a baby is born, the father of the baby will immediately carry the baby to a high mountain, choose a river with a strong flow and cold water, and place the baby in a special cradle, so that the baby and the cradle will float away with the river.

The newborn's father and his family waited downstream of the river, checking to see if the baby was still alive when the special cradle containing the baby floated downstream.

If the baby is still alive, it proves that he is strong enough to become a member of their tribe, and he is brought back to the tribe to be raised properly.

If the baby in the basket can't afford to toss like this, and misfortune happens, they put the baby and the cradle back into the river and let it drift away, like a river burial.

After such a rigorous selection, the surviving Indian children were, of course, all of them strong and strong.

This was only the selection method of the general Indian tribesmen, and the selection of warriors among the Indian tribes was even more severe.

The Indians have a so-called coming-of-age ceremony, when an Indian boy grows up to the right age, the tribe will hold a coming-of-age ceremony for him, after the carnival dance celebration, the boy will be tied to a big tree in the forest by the tribe himself, and spend the night of the coming-of-age ceremony alone.

The forest is full of poisonous snakes and beasts, and the boy who is about to become an Indian warrior must face all kinds of dangers on the night of the coming-of-age ceremony, and through such a cruel coming-of-age exercise, he will become a true warrior recognized in the clan.

Nature's law is "the law of the jungle, survival of the fittest." Although cruel, the Indians' "native eugenics" were also a means of strengthening the quality of the nation.

Confucius visited Luliang Mountain, where the waterfall was dozens of zhang high, and the splash of flowing water splashed for miles away, and soft-shelled turtles, Chinese alligators and fish could not swim, but he saw a man swimming there. Confucius thought that he was in pain and wanted to die by throwing himself into the water, so he asked his students to follow the current to save him, but he came out after swimming a few hundred steps, his hair scattered, singing songs, and strolling on the riverbank.

Confucius rushed up to him and asked, "Just now I saw you swimming there, and I thought you were in pain and wanted to die, so I asked my students to follow the current to save you."

You swam out of the water, I thought you were a ghost, do you have any special way to get into that deep water? He said, "No, I don't have a way." I started from the original essence, grew up in habits, and succeeded in fate. The water swirls, and I follow the whirlpool into the water; The water gushed out, and I followed it out of the water. I obey the activity of the water and do not make my own decisions. That's why I can swim. ”

Confucius said: "What does it mean to start from the original essence, grow from habits, and succeed from fate?" He replied, "I was born on the land, and I am content with the land, and this is the original nature; From childhood to adulthood, they have been accompanied by water, and they are content with water, which is the habit; I don't know why, but naturally I can do this, this is fate. ”

Survival of the fittest, this is the answer to all human problems. Trying to adapt the whole world to itself, that's where the trouble lies. Trying to adapt everything to yourself is childish and unwise.

The wise man allowed himself to adapt to the current, not to adapt the current to him. And just like that, the wise man succeeded. It's not a method, it's not a trick, it's a wisdom.

A wild deer that had straddled looked around uneasily. A tiger spotted the wild deer, which had been hungry for a day, and snuck behind the wild deer under the cover of the grass. Before the wild deer could notice it, the tiger suddenly shot out like a bullet and rushed towards the wild deer, and the wild deer realized that the danger had arrived, and instinctively dodged the tiger's attack.

The tiger pounced on the first turn, turned and pounced again, and the deer ran wildly and flashed into a bush. Chasing prey in the bushes was not the tiger's forte, it searched outside for a while, roared a few times, and staggered back to its original mound.

The tiger didn't catch the wild deer! Compared to tigers, wild deer are weak; In addition to the wild deer, there are many weak people in the grassland, but these weak ones still exist today. It can be seen that in the animal world, there is no absolute strong and weak. It's an ecological balance, we can say the same - in the animal world, the weak also have a piece of heaven! Like the animal world, in the human world, there are no absolute strong and weak, only relative strong and weak!

On the track and field, the one who runs fast is the strongest; In the exam room, the one with the highest score is the strongest! However, the strong person on the track and field is not necessarily the strong person in the examination field, and the strong person in the examination field is not necessarily the strong person on the track and field field! Therefore, the so-called "survival of the fittest" only describes a part of the truth, and this sentence is not the truth. If this sentence is mistakenly recognized, then the person who thinks he is "weak" will not have a bright future in his life! In fact, the "weak" can also be the "fittest".

In the jungle of human nature, if you know which is strong and what is weak, what is strong and what is weak in others, and skillfully avoid facing the strength of others with your own weakness, and actively face the weakness of others with your own strength; If you can flexibly use the strength and weakness of a third party and others to make up for your "weakness", or avoid being violated by others' "strong", then you are a "strong", not a "weak"!

You must know that many tragedies in life are caused by not knowing where your own strengths and weaknesses and those of others are, and not knowing how to avoid them.

When a person is unable to adapt to the environment around him, then failure and destruction will always be with you. Otherwise, you will be able to achieve success and perfection in life.

"In a word, survival of the fittest"