Your life can change

In society, there are some people who have a difficult life, and they are occupied by bad thoughts such as complaining, hating, and hostile all day long. They think that this society is unfair to them, or that the boss of the company does not value them, or that their parents are powerless and powerless, but they do not think about the subjective reasons. In fact, it comes down to their own reasons, but it is always difficult for people to realize this. People don't and don't want to think carefully about what their lives are so bad and what they have to do with their subjectivity, and they don't think about what they should do next.

I once met such an "unfortunate person". When he reached fifty, his wife divorced him and lost his job. I just found a job delivering milk, and I was fired after working for less than a month. His drunken laments often won the sympathy of many strangers.

However, in fact, he used to be a lucky person in the eyes of people, working in a large company, his wife can't talk about the country's beauty and fragrance, and he is also a small jasper, and he is knowledgeable. In the minds of others, they feel that his life is very nourishing and envious of others.

Why is this the case now? It turned out that about three years ago, he was addicted to drinking and gambling. The company stipulates that he will go to work at 9 o'clock, but he rarely arrives before 11 o'clock; While others slept, he played outside until dawn; He never looked at his son's homework, his wife was sick in bed, and he was chatting wildly in the tavern; He often loses his work and loses everything, and a criticism from the leader often attracts his ten rebukes...... Whenever I saw him, people who knew him always shook their heads and sighed.

His current situation is indeed unfortunate in the eyes of others, but who can blame him?

I remember someone once said, "The lucky man must have something extraordinary, and the poor person must have his own problems." The boss of a company liked this sentence very much, and often said it to his employees. At that time, a young employee of the company was quite disappreciative when he heard this, and even a little disgusted, thinking: You are rich, you have a happy family, a successful career, and you are happy, but I don't see what you are good at? We workers are not as good as you, but what is wrong with us?

More than 10 years have passed, and this staff member has been engaged in advertising, editing and other jobs, and has come into contact with a large number of people. These people are divided by the most secular criteria, and there are two main categories: those who succeed and those who fail. Of course, successful people are not necessarily those who have a lot of money, but may be those who have achieved something in their careers, have a harmonious and happy family life, and are happy with themselves; The losers are not all poor, but their self-perception is invariably "Why am I inferior to others?" Am I unlucky or incompetent? Looking at these various people, the clerk often remembered what the boss said, and suddenly felt that this sentence was simply a truth, and it was applicable everywhere.

Someone once asked me, "Why are you so happy when you have endured so much misfortune?" I told him, "Misfortune will eventually pass, and nowhere has it been said that misfortune will stay forever." ”

In a way, everyone in life will go through hardships to a greater or lesser extent, and although no one wants to go through them, almost everyone has become strong because of it.

Therefore, when you deal with daily affairs, you should realize that everything is not easy, such as Fred? Allen said, "The world is like a whetstone, and life is the knife to be sharpened." "Comedian Louie? Anderson once said, "Nothing is worth listening to the words of those who covet comfort." ”

Born in the United States, Pragman did not even finish high school, but became a very famous novelist. At his novel award ceremony, a reporter asked, "What was the most critical turning point in your career?" It is estimated that he may have answered that it was his mother's education in childhood, or the special cultivation of a certain teacher when he was a teenager. Surprisingly, however, Pragman replied that it was during World War II that he had served in the Navy. He explains:

"One night in August 1944, I was wounded. The captain ordered a corporal to take a small boat in the night to bring me, who was seriously wounded, ashore for treatment. Unfortunately, the boat got lost in the Sea of Naples. The corporal at the helm panicked and wanted to pull out his gun and kill himself. I advised him: 'Don't shoot, even though we have been wandering in the perilous darkness for more than four hours, alone, and I'm still bleeding...... But we have to be patient......' Honestly, even though I kept admonishing the corporal, I didn't even have the slightest faith in myself. But before I could finish my sentence, suddenly the explosion of anti-aircraft guns fired at the enemy aircraft on the shore ahead of us flashed brightly, and then we realized that the boat was less than three nautical miles from the pier. ”