Chen's mother couldn't help but touch her daughter's head. Patiently explained: "I know that you are indifferent by nature, do not like to socialize, and can push other people's invitations." "However, it is your responsibility to socialize as necessary to help your husband." ”

"My daughter knows." She understands the reason, but she really doesn't like the process of a group of unknown women getting together to compete for beauty with a purpose, deliberately pleasing or enjoying being pleased.

"It's one thing to know, it's another to do, right?" Mother Chen nodded her forehead helplessly.

"My daughter just thinks that their invitation is just curiosity at the moment, and I am not obligated to satisfy them."

"You're right, but it's not well thought out." Chen's mother wants to teach her daughter a lot, and she analyzes it to her at this moment: "Have you read it carefully, those posts that invite you are all young ladies from various families, and there are no court wives." ”

Li Yi nodded, indeed as Mother Chen said.

"The ladies who have not left the cabinet are different from the ladies of the court, and it is not so utilitarian to communicate with them, so you can take this opportunity to make a few friends. You need close friends to share your feelings and exchange information. There will always be all kinds of ties in life, and you can't be like an island. ”

Li Yi in modern society has no friends.

She has family, colleagues, and lovers, but she has no real friends.

Because she doesn't like the way girls communicate with each other: the content of the chat is always idols, clothes, cosmetics, skin care products. If there is a target, they will add content that complains or shows off their boyfriend. Poor and boring, she couldn't eat in the girls' pile for a long time, and other girls thought she was very good.

Until she learned and flexibly used three sentences: Your new clothes are so beautiful, where did you buy them? I really envy you for having such a good husband/boyfriend; Your kids are so cute, aren't they?

As soon as these three sentences are spoken, the other party will start to talk endlessly, as long as she says some amazing words with appropriate cooperation, she will feel that she is very friendly and happy to chat with her.

As a result, she has good colleagues, but no close friends, and the problem lies with herself - she withdraws her feelings and uses her skills to socialize, not her heart. Occasionally, she also wants a confidant to talk to, but there is really no one who makes her feel suitable.

Later, she gradually got used to the fact that she didn't have a girlfriend, and accepted this fact, but she didn't expect that here, someone reminded her that she needed to make "friends".

Modern society has always instilled in everyone to love themselves and accept their imperfections, and she also persuaded herself with such encouragement: she just doesn't fit in, there is no need to change herself, and living comfortably is the most important thing.

Being forced to change is not a good experience, but she also realizes that she needs to make a change, and staying in her comfort zone all the time can make people feel comfortable with the status quo and not want to improve.

"Thank you for the reminder, I won't reject all those posts."

Mother Chen's well-behaved answer to her daughter was both distressed and gratified, she knew that her daughter was sensible and understood the meaning of what she just said, so she was forcing herself to do something she didn't like, and her daughter needed to change a lot if she wanted to become a qualified princess. All she could do was remind: "You don't have a lot of people around you who know this." ”

"What manpower?" Mother Chen's topic jumped a little quickly, and Li Yi didn't react for a while.