Wen Sibo said: "The concept of love is people's fundamental views and attitudes on the issue of love, and its content mainly includes: what is love, the essence of love, and the position of love in social life and personal life, mate selection criteria, how to deal with broken love, etc.

The concept of love is a reflection of the outlook on life. The concept of love has different contents in different historical periods, due to the influence and constraints of different economic conditions, social systems, and ideological and cultural states, and continues to develop and change with social development

And the topic that is always new, it touches the hearts of countless people. The understanding and opinion of love still arouse people's debate and thinking. Rushing through the smoke of high school, stepping into the ivory tower surrounded by the sacred and romantic aura of the university, he has become the pride of heaven with high hopes from people. However, after the sense of glory and novelty faded, the ensuing university life made us at a loss: the relaxed management gave us a broad space to play, but a lot of spare time made us feel lost; Living away from our parents and family gives us the freedom to be independent, but the limitations of experience and knowledge make us constantly frustrated. The large group of peers who live together gives us unlimited opportunities for interpersonal communication, and the polite but lack of sincere and enthusiastic communication methods make us feel that no one listens; The portraits of the pairs of lovers on campus give us vivid inspiration, but the real suitable life partner is not easy to find

How to find a lifelong partner who suits us, how to find true love, and the most important thing is that we must have a correct view of love. I believe that the concept of love is the concrete embodiment of a person's world view, outlook on life, and values in the issue of love and feelings, and a correct view of love will guide people to a healthy, happy and beautiful life.

Let's look at the meaning of love first. The definition of love in the electronic dictionary is: the feeling of love between a man and a woman. There's nothing to say about it, but the English that follows: personal affection is a bit interesting, private love or private illness. About love is a product from the West, in the end, it is the essence of what people say, if it is handled well, it is love, and if it is not handled well, it is a disease!

We recognize love as a feeling, as an emotion. Feelings and emotions themselves are a very mysterious thing, and as the most complex one of them, love is even more indescribable. However, we can look at the role or task of love.

Love has about four major functions: one is to make both men and women happy and can live happily; second, it is further sublimated to marriage and procreation; third, to inspire and give birth to new art; Fourth, relieve the loneliness and loneliness of life. In the author's opinion, every role of love is great, and every role is the greatest consolation to life! However, not every love can play all four roles, or not every love contains these four functions. Therefore, we urgently need to establish a correct view of love in order to grasp the inner laws of love, so that we can have a healthy love history!

First of all, correct your attitude towards love. Strengthen the education of love for college students, so that college students deeply realize that love is not only a right, but also a responsibility and obligation, and must treat love with a highly responsible attitude. The rights and obligations of love are inseparable, and feudal marriage only emphasizes the feudal obligations of marriage, ignoring people's right to love, which is embodied in arranged marriages, such as "three obedience and four virtues", which is the enslavement of human nature and must be denied. However, if we go from one extreme to the other, emphasizing only the right to love without taking the responsibility of love, we will fall into the quagmire of irrationalism, and this kind of reckless behavior that only seeks to enjoy and is irresponsible is to be blamed. An educator once taught his son: "Remember, love means, first and foremost, taking responsibility for your cherished fate and future." Those who want to have fun through love are womanizers and degenerates. Love, first of all, means to give, to dedicate one's spiritual strength to the lover and create happiness for her. This unity of rights and responsibilities of love is the foundation of the love life. Love is affection, and it can only be loved with feelings, not with reason. "Love is a special emotion of human beings, of course, it can only be loved with feelings, which is not wrong, but as human beings, people have both natural attributes and social attributes. In addition to emotional factors, people should also pay attention to rationality and conform to social laws and moral norms. Irrational love is blind and dangerous, and the result is likely to be a tragedy.

Secondly, it is necessary to correctly deal with the problem of the presence and absence of love. According to Marxist theory, all high-rise buildings must have an economic foundation, and everything must be carried out under the premise of having enough to eat. As the highest human emotion, love is definitely a luxury. Since it is a luxury, it must be the development of social productive forces to a certain extent that some people can enjoy it, not everyone. Therefore, if we have no love in our lives, we must face it calmly and not be sentimental. In fact, this is the problem of blessings that our ancestors often talked about! Do more good deeds, accumulate more virtues, and there will be one in the next life!

Again, there must be a suitable love expectation, which cannot be too high or too low. Imaginary love is often a prince to Cinderella, and real love is a good match, depending on whether the knowledge, occupation, and family background of both parties are comparable. Let us not expect aristocratic love, for we are commoners; We should not expect love like Liang Zhu, because we were born in modern times; Nor should we expect to marry a prince with a celestial immortal, because our lives are only worth so much.

Finally, in the process of communication, it is necessary to achieve mutual respect, care, help and understanding. Be a man with your own principles, don't change the whole self because of the lover in your heart, you should be in line with the principle of "independence, mutual respect, and harmonious coexistence", consider the problem from different angles, take into account the feelings of the other party, and try to avoid hurting the other party's self-esteem and not making them feel embarrassed.

In addition, we should also pay attention to our own methods and behaviors in the pursuit of love.

!” Because there was no response from upstairs, the boy kept shouting. Soon, his shouts alarmed some of the students upstairs, at first a few dormitory boys ran to the balcony to watch the excitement, and a few naughty ones began to whistle and coax. Soon, the whole building was alarmed, and they all ran to the balcony to watch. Seeing such a "feat" of boys, many classmates shouted: "You are so brave!" I admire you!" Someone else filmed this scene with mobile phones and DV.

About ten minutes later, one of the boy's classmates came forward to persuade him to leave, but the boy refused to listen to the dissuasion and knelt on the ground and refused to leave. At this time, under the leadership of several boys, more than 2,000 students upstairs gathered on the balcony and windows, shouting in unison "Come on, come on" to show encouragement, and the shouts resounded throughout the campus, just like that, the man has been holding on downstairs for more than half an hour, but there has been no response upstairs, and finally a building manager stepped forward and persuaded him to leave with the help of the man's companions. Afterwards, the girl whose name was called said that she was not in the dormitory at the time and did not know that this had happened. She didn't want to say anything about the boy's public courtship.

How to choose how to show love to the girl you like is a matter of private domain, and individuals have a high degree of freedom. But even so, it is important to understand that freedom is always relative. For example, courtship can be done spontaneously, but it must not violate public order and good customs; In the wilderness where no one is around, there is nothing wrong with kneeling and begging, and it is unknown whether it has become a classic; On campus at night, privacy becomes a public issue, and the personal freedom attached to it is gone.

Love is a one-way street, there can be no turning back, and there is no choice. You've taken this one-way street, and turning back is a violation. The vehicles coming and going on this road are the people who come and go in life, and once you get on this one-way street, the speed, road conditions and driving distance are only in your own control. There are times when you think, turn around and go back. But don't forget, this is a one-way street, and you can only choose again until you reach the end, no matter how uncomfortable you are, you still have to reach the end. Since you are embarking on this path of believing in love, you must be clear that this one-way road requires you to give up a few things.

Great sorrow without tears, great enlightenment without words, laughter without sound.