Chapter 107: The Rules of Marriage
I took a taxi and turned around and returned to the store, as soon as I entered the store, I saw a middle-aged man sitting on the sofa, this person looked like he was in his fifties, I walked in quickly, Zhang Mu saw me come in and immediately got up and introduced to me: "Li Hao, this is Mr. Qian, he is going to marry his child." After finishing speaking, he turned his head and said to the person sitting on the sofa: "This is Li Hao, my junior brother, just look for him what you want to do." β
I smiled at the man in front of me and sat down across from him. The middle-aged man surnamed Qian looked at me and said, "I have long heard that Li Hao of Fuqing Hall is not very old, but he has a real ability, but when I saw me today, I really didn't expect you to be so young." β
I picked up the teacup on the table and took a sip and said with a smile: "Hehe, the size of the ability can't be reflected in the age, I'm not old, but it doesn't mean that I can't do things, right?" The middle-aged man looked at me: "That's just as well." "Let's get down to business, I heard my senior brother say that you want to have a secret marriage with your own child?" After listening to my words, the middle-aged man nodded: "Yes, my son passed away some time ago, and then gave me a dream that he was too lonely to be alone below, and wanted me to find him a partner. β
It turns out that this is the case, and it is still very common for a dead person to say something to the people in his family, and many people who have passed away in their family should have had this experience. After listening, I didn't agree immediately, but asked, "Then have you found the woman's house?" Do people agree? "The reason why I asked this is not that it is too much, but that this kind of thing must be agreed by both parties, and if there is only one family that agrees, whoever likes to take it will definitely not take this kind of work anyway.
"Of course, I have already found it, the woman's house is our village, and they also want to find a companion for their daughter who died young, so both of us agreed." The middle-aged man had obviously expected me to ask such a question, and he answered it without even thinking about it.
"In that case, there's nothing to say, so I'll help you do it in a week, after all, getting married is not a trivial matter, and I need a certain amount of time to prepare, and there is a lot of preparation to do. Also, you have to prepare a few things as well. β
It's not that I'm lazy and don't want to do it right away, it's just that this kind of thing does require a lot of preparation. You must know that the ritual of yin kissing is a mixture of red and white etiquette, and the form varies greatly depending on the proposition of the parties.
Generally speaking, the yin marriage should be introduced through the matchmaker, and the two parties will pass the portal post, and the dragon and phoenix post will be obtained after the marriage. The "goose cage", "sea of wine", dragon and phoenix cakes, elbows, and fruits sent by the man to the woman are all real, but the clothes and jewelry are papier-mΓ’chΓ© vessels, and finally incinerated at the door of the woman's house or on the grave. The dowry sent by the woman is generally paper work, and after being sent to the man, it is only displayed in front of the "groom" photo or tablet for half a day, and some are only carried around the man's courtyard for a week, that is, led by drum music, and sent to a nearby open space for incineration.
The wedding ceremony is indispensable in the yin marriage, and it is also necessary to set up a tent banquet and carry a sedan chair in front of the door. The wedding room is dedicated to the "hundredth" gods. A low table is set up on the kang opposite for the "groom" photo or tablet, and several plates of apples and dragon and phoenix wedding cakes are set up in front. And there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon on the book: "groom" words. The woman's "boudoir" is offered a photo or tablet of the "bride", as before, and there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon, and the words "bride" are written.
After the sedan chair arrives at the woman, the "bride" photo or tablet is taken down by the wife, and the wife takes it over and releases the sedan chair. At this time, the father and mother of the "bride" will inevitably cry loudly and chase them out of the house. It's not a happy atmosphere at all. After the sedan chair returns to the man, the wife still takes out the photo or tablet of the "bride" and puts it on the offering table on the kang of the wedding room, which is juxtaposed with the "groom". And tie up the two photos with a red head rope (take the meaning of the old moon pulling the red line), and reuse the red and yellow colored silk. "A cup of wine", "dumplings for children and grandchildren", and "longevity noodles" should also be offered in front of the tablet or photo of the "newlyweds". In the future, choose a good day to break the ground and bury, the woman should be buried next to the man's grave at the appointed hour, and the two coffins should be next to the trough gang, so that they can be buried together.
If the "newlyweds" have younger siblings or younger siblings, brothers-in-law, etc., they will be called out and kowtow to the photo or tablet. The two in-laws congratulated each other. Until the above ceremony is completed, choose a "zodiac auspicious day" to break the ground and bury a good day, the woman can get up. According to the time designated by Mr. Yin and Yang, after the coffin was lifted, he immediately poured a bucket of water in the pit and threw down two apples. At the same time, raise the red paper money high. The man digs a hole on the side of the grave, exposes the groove of the "groom" coffin, and buries the "bride" in order to achieve the purpose of "husband and wife" burial. After the burial, wine and fruit are displayed in front of the grave, and the red paper money is incinerated and a wedding sacrifice is held. The father, mother and other family members of both men and women (i.e., the two in-laws) weep and say "great joy". Since then, men and women have been treated as in-laws.
These things can't be solved in a day or two, so I said that it would take a week to prepare, and then I told the middle-aged people some precautions, such as what is paper, what is real, and how the woman should marry, and so on.
The middle-aged man listened as he took notes on these precautions in his hand, and after finishing speaking, I picked up the cup on the table and drank it down, and then said, "You remember everything clearly, right?" This is no joke, if one thing goes wrong, it is one thing for you to get married, in case it affects the dead and the people who are still alive in the sun.
I'm not alarmist to scare this person, you must know that the matter of marrying a ghost marriage is a particularly big thing in itself, and it needs to be reported to the Yin Division, as long as the two people are married, they will appear in the book of life and death, and from then on, it will be a family in the eyes of the underworld. So this kind of thing is really sloppy, and if something goes wrong, the consequences will be very serious.
Just think about it, the underworld gave you a testimony that the two of you got married, but you got the procedure wrong, isn't that equivalent to slapping the underworld in the face, the underworld is not like our department in the yang world, these people are basically meticulous in their work, in short, it is a sentence, it must not be wrong!
I said that the middle-aged people are tired and tired, and it is almost noon after saying these precautions, and only then can the middle-aged people open their mouths to talk to us about money. "That little master, I've memorized all the things I paid attention to, so how much do you need to charge for this?"
The middle-aged man surnamed Qian was completely persuaded by my mouth, and even the title changed, I laughed for a while and said: "The matter about remuneration should have been talked about by my senior brother to you, but this business is different from usual, so the specific amount of money is not what we want from you, but after the marriage is over, you give me a red envelope, and you can handle the amount yourself, we are not good at talking, this is also the rule since ancient times when Mr. Yin and Yang do this kind of thing for people." β
"Huh? What else is there to say? The middle-aged man asked suspiciously after listening to my words. Hehe, of course, you know, we eat this bowl of rice, and what we do is the work of dealing with ghosts, but this kind of thing, if we collect money to do it, it is somewhat of a ghost to buy and sell, of course, this is just a modern popular saying, but if you give us a red envelope after the fact, the meaning is different, it becomes the meaning of gratitude, can you understand? I explained to the middle-aged man and continued: "Another point is that this red envelope must be issued by both men and women. This is important to keep in mind. β
The middle-aged man nodded: "Okay, I've written it down, let's prepare first, as for the remuneration, the two of you will definitely be satisfied." After saying that, the middle-aged man got up and stood up and prepared to leave. I didn't move, but Zhang Mu sent the middle-aged man away. After Zhang Mu returned to the store, he sat down on the sofa and lit a cigarette for himself: "I didn't expect that there are so many precautions for getting married?" I looked at Zhang Mu with disdain and said lightly: "What do you think? Why do you think it's as simple as you look at Feng Shui? Just flicker! β
"Damn! What a word! How can I fool around! Lao Tzu, that's a real skill, isn't it? When Zhang Mu heard this, he shouted at me as if he had been stepped on by his tail. I smiled: "I'm kidding you, I know that you have a lot of rules in your business, let's be busy with this matter in the past week!" Don't do anything else. After teasing Zhang Mu, I looked at him seriously and said.
As soon as I said this, a question suddenly occurred to me! "It's broken!" I said with a fear of the head. "What's wrong?" Zhang Mu looked at me and asked suspiciously. "I fucking forgot the most important thing! I forgot to ask the old man how his child died, and how the girl died! β
"Does it matter?" Zhang Mu scratched his head and said. "must be important! I ask you if you say that this man was burned to death by fire and the other woman was drowned by water, do you think they could be married? Zhang Mu thought about it and said, "Yes! If you get married, you won't have to fight every day! β
"Hurry up and give that person a call and ask." I hurriedly said to Zhang Mu. Unexpectedly, as soon as these words came out, Zhang Mu cried and said with a sad face: "I forgot to ask for that person's phone just now." β