Ning Yi had to ask, "Oh, what about you?" Is it easy to be deceived? ”

"Me? I have friends, Zhao Tao is a boy, and there is a big brother, and there are some senior brothers and junior brothers, I have contact with boys! ”

An Yi explained seriously, and did not feel that there was anything wrong with the question raised by Ning Yide.

"Zhao Tao? He forgot it. Is your big brother awake? He's about the same age as your uncle. ”

An Zhi said: "It's not him, you don't know, he doesn't often be in Nanyang City." But, does my eldest brother have anything to do with the disappearance? ”

An Zhi's slow brain finally reacted that something was wrong, how could the two people who were originally talking about the missing people talk about their eldest brother? I have always heard that Ning Yi has to be rigorous, but she can tolerate such a digression?

Ning Yi said nonchalantly: "It has nothing to do with the disappearance, just accompany others to idle and relieve your tension!" ”

An Zhi felt that he had something to say, but he couldn't figure it out, so he simply stopped thinking about it and said directly: "Professor Ning, I'm not idle, I suspect that the disappearance of these girls is related to their easy deception." Perhaps, the reason why they were deceived was that they pursued perfection too much! ”

Ning Yide gently removed the smile from her eyes and said, "Your basis is their perfect resume?" ”

An Zhi thought for a while and said, "Not exactly, in this formation in school, I have inquired with my brothers and sisters about the four girls, and they are all well-known for their perfect control." ”

"Perfect control? You're saying I have a problem with my aesthetic? Are they perfect? Ning Yide didn't ask like a joke, what he said was quite poisonous when he heard people's ears, and now An Zhi is used to it.

Compared with Ning Yide's perfection, even An Dasheng, who can be called the pride of heaven in the eyes of outsiders, is just an ordinary student in front of him. It is estimated that he doesn't know ordinary people at all, maybe he has no interest in understanding at all. But the problem is that it is ordinary people who are missing now, and from this point of view, An Zhi, who is also an ordinary person, has more right to speak.

An Zhi rubbed his nose and said, "Professor Ning, the perfect control that ordinary people say may be a little different from your understanding. It's not only people who are perfect in themselves who are qualified to become perfect controllers, it is precisely because they feel that they are not perfect enough, so they will work hard in pursuit of perfection! ”

"You're saying they're the perfect controller for beauty?" Ning Yi had to ask.

An Zhi nodded and said: "Yes, looking for beauty, happy to be tired of persevering in the search for beauty!" ”

Ning Yide asked a little disbelievingly, "Why?" Why is perfection so important to them? ”

An Zhi sighed, and said in a slightly heavy tone: "Professor Ning, because ordinary people will feel that people will be loved because they are excellent." And excellent means perfect, no mistakes, no negative emotions, and no flaws! Only such a person is entitled to the unconditional love of others! ”

Ning Yi snorted in his nose, a faint sneer appeared on his face, and he said disdainfully: "Venus is still a broken arm, no one will think it is imperfect." Good and bad are all that make up a person, can love be such a utilitarian thing? ”

Yasuyuki nodded, and immediately shook her head again, she didn't know how to answer the question.

Maybe it's because she's ordinary, so she doesn't want to agree with this idea in her heart. Back then, she became friends with Zhao Tao and Li Ming, not because they were excellent, but because they were good to her, not because of her excellence. After so many years, the friendship between the three people, the kindness of the eldest brother to her, and all the love she felt couldn't make her agree with this idea.

However, from high school to Ontario, there are many, many people around me, who are showing all the time that only excellent people will be loved. Because excellence will be loved, it is already a fact in many people's hearts, she can't resist and can't refute it, she can only rejoice that she can be loved unconditionally.

Ning Yi saw that she didn't speak, so she continued: "If how much love a person can get depends on how good the person is, then the degree of excellence is equal to one's own value, which will determine the way we treat each other. According to this kind of thinking, if you are excellent, I will be close to you and recognize you, otherwise, I will snub you and belittle you, is this called love? This is clearly emotional abuse! ”

His words made An Zhi a little excited, these are exactly what she thought: "Yes, I also think that this is not real love, it is a very utilitarian aesthetic." Professor Ning, do you know? There are many people in Ontario who find it difficult to be satisfied with themselves and the people around them because they always feel that they are not good enough. After a lot of hard work, when they still can't achieve the desired excellence, they will be tightly entangled in a kind of despair and fear, and they will not be able to get out. ”

"That's why there will be students who have accidents!" Ning Yide said.

An Zhi nodded desperately, and under the guidance of his question, the unreasonable thoughts became clearer and clearer, and she said: "Well, these four girls are notoriously perfect control, on the other hand, their hearts may be more lacking in love, and they are more eager for stable love and warmth!" ”

Ning Yide said: "They are easier to be deceived like this!" ”

An Zhi looked at him with some admiration and said, "Professor Ning, do you also read the gossip posts on campus?" ”

"Don't look! Why do you ask? Ning Yide replied.

An Zhi said: "A while ago, a girl in the school had an accident because she was talking about a breakup, and many people in the school wrote an analysis post, which specifically pointed out that the girl who is easily deceived is the perfect type of this kind of lack of love in her heart. They don't have a clear understanding of themselves and don't understand what they need in a relationship. ”

Ning Yide nodded and said, "Yes, if a person needs to work hard and show excellence to attract love, then this person is likely to have never been purely loved." A person's existence is a value in itself, and it has the conditions to be loved. If the other party loves the person's excellence, then the person is objectified, and he is not treated as a person. ”

An Zhi said: "Professor Ning, the "Wu Da Niu" of psychology in the school also said the same, and he also said that excellence is not the reason for being loved, but the result of being loved. There is only one truly excellent motivation, and that is to feel your own special and precious in being loved and appreciated, and to work hard from the heart. ”

Ning Yide said confidently: "That's right, you must always believe in your true self, be worthy of being loved and good things, and want to make yourself excellent and better, just because you are worthy!" ”

"Professor Ning is so powerful, you know all about psychology? It's too strong! An Zhi said flatteringly.

Ning Yide was still expressionless in the face of her praise, and motioned casually to continue to discuss the key points of the problem. An Zhi thought for a moment, and then said: "Also, every girl disappeared for about a year, which is very much like a freshman curse on the campus of Ontario. ”