Ling 024) sure that the younger generation has new ideas, and sighs that the young man is not ordinary

No. 5 Deng Yanshan's argument is: filial piety is a virtue inherited from the Chinese nation through the ages, and there is no doubt about the foundation of benevolence and kindness. Compared with the loneliness of old age in the West, our old people are happier in their old age, which is something to be thankful for.

Of course, everything is inseparable from cause and effect. Because our parents will devote a lifetime of love and energy to fully support their children to adulthood, it is natural that they also hope to get the same return from their children, which is also human nature. The yellow hair hangs down and teases the grandchildren, and the children are in the same house for several generations around the knees, such a vision is understandable.

In the Western moral outlook, the concept of family is relatively indifferent, and parents have their own independent life, especially when their children grow up, they do not devote themselves to their offspring, but have their own careers and achievements, relatively independent, and clear boundaries. In other words, adults are not forced to give up, or even sacrifice their lives and careers, for the sake of their children's future, and become high-minded and pitiful benefactors. When you are self-reliant, our responsibilities are accomplished, and we should maintain an appropriate sense of distance, each with its own space, independent of each other, and respectful of each other, without distinction between superior and inferior.

As a result, children will not bear the huge pressure of favor from their elders, bear too much guilt, and even guilt, so that they can easily experience the love from their parents. Children's own life and growth are inseparable from the advice and guidance of their parents, but they will not rely too much on the experience of their parents, and even fight for their parents than their family background, and are more willing to rely on themselves and be proud of their own abilities. This kind of growth process will be more natural and smooth, although it seems to lack family affection and warmth, but life is also much more independent and free, the character is more real and full, there are not so many choices in filial piety and autonomy, and it reduces their own depression and entanglement.

Looking at Western education with the concept of the East, that is: the mother is not kind enough and the son is not filial, and no one cares about the miserable old age, and everything is deserved. The concept of family is too indifferent, and family affection is as cold as sushi, let alone kindness. You get as much as you give, that's a certainty.

In fact, this is the result of different cultural backgrounds, and it is difficult to say which educational philosophy is more advanced or superior. Straight and long, no questions asked. Success or failure turns empty, the green mountains are still there, how many times has the sunset been red? Without decades, hundreds, or even thousands of years of history as proof, who dares to say that the good is good or bad?

There is no debate about who is right and who is wrong, only how to choose. If we are to become parents in the future, how should we choose?

No. 6 Mo Xueer's argument is: Mother's love and filial piety, and gratitude in return, was originally a matter of course, but the tangled situation also has its origins. The hard work of parents in raising their children stems from their natural responsibilities and is a voluntary act of giving, and as a young child, there is no choice at all. And the party who pays should not lose your independent space and your own entertainment life, unless you give up on your own initiative. As a child of the accepting party, you don't have the ability to force you to choose, and you are completely passive to accept. Therefore, they are not obligated to bear your losses.

The reality, however, is that children are often forced to take on those responsibilities.

As a spiritual and psychological compensation, parents will demand complete obedience and dependence on their children, and the criteria for judging are: whether they are obedient, sensible, and filial. The phenomenon of sacrificing the other party's independent personality and independent thinking to compensate for the sacrifice and loss in the process of parenting is worthy of in-depth discussion.

Many parents don't consider whether the other party can afford it when they give love, and they have to accept it when they give. Children who are unbearable in life, burdened with huge human responsibilities and psychological pressures, if they are unwilling to be silent and obedient, will often go to the other extreme: rebellion.

In fact, everyone will have a rebellious character, but whether it will break out in the end depends on the weight of the stone.

This is probably what parents call a rebel, and it is also the reason why adolescence and menopause often occur in our families.

In fact, the so-called rebellion is nothing more than that when children grow up, they begin to think independently, and have their own opinions and ideas, which are often not quite consistent with their parents' ideas due to differences in environment and education. As a result, some parents don't understand and are not calm, so they stand on the high ground of morality, and use the big stone of filial piety and kindness to restrict different modes of thinking, suppress dissent, and force unanimity.

The child is naturally very wronged, either he is submissive and becomes a docile and obedient mother, or he resists and becomes an unfilial rebel, or a prodigal son, so he is judged to be a white-eyed wolf who is not sensible and not humble and kind enough.

In fact, when those strong parents are not calm, they might as well think about what they were like when they were young? Do you also want to escape from the big stones of your elders, and have your own ideas and choices, even if you will suffer a loss and bleed once? Peeking at forbidden books in the bed, pretending to be sick and skipping class to watch movies, and handing small notes to admire classmates to confess, are all trying: disobedient. However, this does not affect you to become a humble gentleman with good views and a successful career, or a strong woman in the industry.

The conclusion that mothers have many children is not accidental, and proves that not every perfect effort is 100% reciprocal. It's not necessarily that the child doesn't want to reciprocate and doesn't know how to be grateful, it's just that it's far from enough And what the elders think of as selfless dedication and dedication, when imposed on children, is likely to become invisible pressure, guilt, debt, debt, and even shackles and guilt, which will make them feel innocent and wronged by imposition. In order not to be morally condemned, they have to give up themselves, or act as rebels.

Mother and son filial piety is a very beautiful family relationship, but it should also have a degree, measure, and a sense of boundaries, rather than you and I are called love, and sacrifice yourself for filial piety.

If the elders can't accept the child's independent thinking, independent personality, and can independently choose their own three views, hobbies, future, and even surname orientation, then is this kind of care and dedication a kind of control and domineering in disguise? How to earn true filial piety? How else can you expect to reciprocate? Even if some children make an obedient and obedient filial piety, it is also forced by social opinion, responsibility and morality, not necessarily out of sincere love and admiration, sincere feedback and gratitude, is this the "filial piety" that parents want?

If the skin does not have hair, how can we judge whether they are "good" or not by such a vague standard to measure "filial piety"? Therefore, the filial piety of "100 goodness and filial piety first" must first be under the equal personality, and sincerely repay the filial piety of the elders. Thank you!

The argument of the seventh official Langyue is: filial piety is gratitude, in addition to gratitude to those who give grace, of course, it can also be passed on to other people. Just like Jean-Argent in "Les Miserables", in order to thank the bishop for repaying his grievances with virtue, he helped more people after he became developed. A set of stolen silver candlesticks awakened the goodness hidden in the heart of a prodigal man under the rough appearance, awakened the conscience, and finally was able to benefit the people, and even shook and moved the mortal enemy of his life.

Giving grace without expecting anything in return is the highest state of goodness, so it conveys more kindness, which is where the greatest love lies!

Filial piety is not only to guard the parents and elders every day, to calm the province in the morning and dusk, but also to give back this kindness to the society and warm more people. There are many people who have to leave their families and go to other places to take on responsibilities in order to pursue their careers, the country and society. For example, the soldiers of the garrison and border guards, the medical staff on duty on holidays, the firefighters who are always vigilant for fires, and even the courier boys who stick to the city during holidays are all respectable people.

Don't tell me: they work on holidays and earn three times as much. This is not a sense of responsibility that money can buy, you can't do it, it doesn't mean that others can't do it, you work overtime for bonuses, not necessarily others. This is called the heart of a villain, the belly of a gentleman, narrow-minded.

Many behaviors cannot be bought with money, in exchange for you, you may not choose to spend the holiday like this. It's not that they don't want to go home, it's just that they have a responsibility to tell them that they can't yet. What they insist on is a sense of social responsibility, which is greater goodwill. Therefore, we can't say that they are unfilial, let alone that they are not good, right?

Filial piety is the basic concept of Confucianism, which has long been deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese nation and has become one of the traditional moral standards of the East. However, there are three major systems of morality that are most common in the East, namely: Confucianism, Buddhism, and Taoism. There are still fundamental differences between the three of them, what they are talking about is: the three different realms of the vulgar, the immortal, and the Buddha, and filial piety is just the grassroots of them. This is another topic for discussion, so please excuse me for not going into too much detail here.

"Then, can you further compare what is the most essential difference between Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism in terms of filial piety? Today's discussion is here, so let's just interpret it again. Professor Meng himself seems to be more interested in this deeper point of view, and encourages Qi Guan Langyue to continue to do further analysis.

"Good! My opinion may not be mature, just for reference. Qi Guan Langyue put down the manuscript and generously improvised an explanation:

Confucianism, the philosophy of joining the WTO, has strict hierarchies, pays attention to general ethics, and emphasizes self-denial and revenge. For the sake of faith, you can sacrifice your life for righteousness, and your life is far less important than virtue and morality. A person lives a face, a tree lives a skin, and the honor and disgrace of the face are more precious than the life of the family. The eldest husband should cultivate his self-cultivation, respect the way of fathers and sons, kings and ministers, and rule the country and the world together. And a woman's lack of talent is virtue, a husband and a child, and abiding by women's morals is important. The man is the master of the house, and the temple bears the load, so he can have a monogamous and multiple concubines, and open up branches and leaves for the ancestral family; Women must follow three from the four virtues, from the father from the husband from the son, without distractions, becoming a vassal is the right way, advocating widowhood and chastity to establish the archway. In fact, there is also a double standard for the morality of men and women. Just like Du Tianchun's argument, filial piety is in line with the Confucian system of ethics and morality, hierarchy. That's why it's highly respected by the children, especially the big men in power. In this way, the moral order will be solid, the society will be relatively stable, the common people will keep to themselves, obediently do things, and the emperor's clan and parents will be at ease.

Thanks to the fact that we were born at the wrong time and did not live in the ancient feudal society, girls like us are fortunate to be respected and have a fair voice today. Sisters, let us rejoice, we are hundreds of years late. (The girls applauded!) ）

(To be continued!) ）