The marriage part of the older generation seems to be a promise, and there is nothing to pay attention to. The two of them met a few times on a blind date and got married when they thought it was suitable.

We can't say that such a marriage has no emotional basis, perhaps because of the difference in times and ideas. Parents have been together all their lives and seem to be happier than when we marry love. Of course, I can't say that all of them are happy, but at least my parents are happy.

The two of them can't avoid quarrels together, and some even reach the point of getting started. But my parents have been together for more than 20 years, and I don't think I've ever seen them fight.

The rare quarrel was all for my father's health, and it was a family war.

During the summer vacation of 2014, my father's hemorrhoids for many years became more and more serious, but whenever he got a large amount of blood, he would keep bleeding, and no matter how much medicine he took, he didn't get better. But my father's mentality seems to be very optimistic!

At first, his mother persuaded him to have surgery, but he was reluctant to do so, so he put it off again and again. His mother was extremely unhappy with his attitude, and it was a cold century.

However, this is only the beginning.

His mother hadn't talked to his father for a few days, and his father had always been silent, and he felt that there was nothing wrong with him, which was even more serious. The cold century lasted for more than half a month, and finally ushered in the outbreak period!

It was a fine day, and none of them went to work. My father went fishing in the river on his motorcycle early in the morning, and my mother got up and packed up and went to work in the fields.

My father came back very early that day, more than I could have imagined! Because every time I went out fishing, my father would not come home until five or six o'clock in the afternoon, unless there was something at home.

At first I didn't think there was anything wrong until my mother came back the next day. I was angry from the moment I entered the door, because of the long-term sun and became rough and yellow, and my face was gloomy like a prelude to a rainstorm.

After sitting on the couch for two minutes, it exploded, "Turn off the TV!" "I didn't understand what was going on, but I obediently turned off the TV.

Just when we were confused, my mother pointed at my father and scolded, "Do you want your life anymore!" That hemorrhoids and blood flowed like that, and I was reluctant to see it! ”

As he spoke, he wiped his eyes, "It's all like this, and you're still going fishing!" Is it your life or the fish that is important! If someone hadn't found out, I'm afraid you'd faint to death by that river yesterday! ”

Speaking of this, the mother patted the table in front of her father excitedly. "It doesn't matter if you see it yourself, have you ever thought about what I'd do if you really fainted to death by that river?! What about the two brothers and sisters?! What about our family?! ”

Gradually, I understood what was going on, and asked softly, "Dad, did you faint from the river yesterday?" ”

My father smoked a cigarette, "Well, it's fine. ”

Seeing my father's fearless face, my brother and I were also angry, and we joined our mother's camp without hesitation.

"Dad, you're too messy like this!" I took the cigarette from my father's hand and said, "Smoke less!" ”

My brother said earnestly, "At first, my mother called you to go to the hospital, but you said that you don't need to go if you have nothing to do, and if you don't go, you won't go." But now you're all down by the river, it's not nice to say, then it's a loss to fall by the river, if you accidentally fall into the river?! What are we going to do if you have a bad one? ”

The father crossed Erlang's legs, lowered his head and said nothing.

The mother sat opposite her father and choked up, "Don't be long-winded with me, the problem is that it's all like this, and you don't care at all!" Do you not care about your body or do you care about our family! ”

In this way, the air froze for a long time, and every minute and second passed so long and tormenting. My father took out another cigarette and lit it, and although I didn't like him smoking, I didn't want to stop him at this time.

Because I think my father is also struggling to make choices at the moment. He took a puff and put out the cigarette in the ashtray, and I knew he had made a choice.

He looked at his mother hesitantly, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I'll go to the hospital in two days." ”

I laughed, which reminded me of the story of Fan Yunfei, the prince of the sand fox in the Western Western Regions, and the ice general Li Xueyang in the anime "Fox Demon Little Red Lady Sand Fox Chapter". The ending sentence, "I'm sorry, I won't dare next time!" What a courageous phrase to say.

It's like what the anime says, in fact, sometimes, it's not important to struggle to argue the truth itself, as a man, you just need to shout resolutely and domineeringly: "I'm sorry, I won't dare next time."

Too often, what a woman needs is not what you explain, all she wants is a sincere apology from your heart.

The mother wiped her tears, "Wait two days!" Go tomorrow! ”

The father smiled tactfully, "Okay, listen to you." ”

In this way, they reconciled, and early the next morning, my father and mother took some changes of clothes and others to the hospital in their hometown, because they could be reimbursed for medical insurance.

On the first day of my father's surgery, my mother injured my arm in order to help him get to bed.

At the end of 2019, not long after my mother's surgery, my father found out Yueyi Yuequan's inflammation. The doctor suggested that he have an operation to cure it, but his father's old problem has been committed again, and he is unwilling to live or die.

His mother persuaded him to have surgery, but he actually said, "It's a big deal, if you die, you will die." "I actually said death so easily, although my mother was a little angry, she still didn't say anything, after all, she was used to being together for so many years.

Although Yueyi Yuequan inflammation is not a serious disease, there are too many people around who have died of Yueyi Yuequan cancer at the age of fifty or sixty, and my mother still can't help but worry.

Persuading my father to go to the hospital can't be rushed, and we can only wait for the opportunity. When I took my children to visit them, she whispered to me, with helplessness and worry in her words.

I figured out my rhetoric that night.

After breakfast the next morning, I asked him, "Dad, are you Yueyi Yuequanyan?" ”

He also pretended not to hear, "So? ”

I said aloud, "Do you have a moon spring flame?" "The words are clear.

He groaned, "It's nothing. ”

I rolled my eyes, "It's okay, it's okay in your eyes." If we are not in good health, we will go to see it and treat it, and the doctor will say that 30,000 yuan will be used to do an operation to cure it, so we will do it, and we should take 30,000 yuan to buy a life! ”

I held the child in my arms, "If you die, you will die, you should die so easily." Your granddaughter is just over a year old, and now my brother is about to finish college, and in a few years you will only have a little loan, and you will not have any other burden. ”

The father smoked a cigarette and said lightly, "That's so much that I don't have to pay it, and the loan is almost repaid." ”

I said excitedly, "Well, you know that you will soon have no burden at all, and the day of happiness will come soon." Naha, if you want to fish, fish, you want to plant orchids, you just buy a suite to raise orchids, and no one cares about you. Then why are you pretending to be safe now? ”

I sighed, "Don't be too talkative, girl, we're all for your health!" I said to my daughter, "Grandpa lived to be eighty or ninety years old, and we have more than ten years of grandpa shouting, right?" She smiled happily and ducked into my arms.

The father was smoking, as if he was thinking about something, and after a while, he put down the cigarette in his hand and opened WeChat to ask others if there was any "way to live".

I laughed, although he didn't answer me whether to go for surgery or not, his behavior has said it all, if you want to have surgery, of course you have to have money.

Although I don't know if he has had surgery or not, it doesn't matter if he is like this later, I have time to talk about it.

Mother is very pleased, how many years of getting along, she knows that arguing with him will not get results, it is better to return to others to talk about it.

Compared with our younger generation, they are really much calmer about the trivial things in life.

Our love before marriage died and came back to life, but when we entered the grave of love, we were too self-centered, and we might go to the Civil Affairs Bureau the next day after arguing. For us, marriage is really too child's play, but in their eyes, marriage is almost a lifetime.

I really like Fan Yunfei's words, "I'm sorry, I won't dare next time!" "Whether it is a man or a woman, someone will always bow their heads when they do something wrong, and of course they can't be ignored.

Sometimes I really yearn for this kind of love from my parents, plain and real.

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