Chapter 129: Growing up is like growing hair
"I now know why most psychiatrists are fools. The pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info "Bu Xiu said: "What you say is really far-fetched...... Oh~ I see, you're implying that I'm not really out of place, but that I'm doing it specifically to be out of place?"
"You've found out. I shrugged.
He pondered for a moment, then looked up and said, "You seem to have some point. I seem to be getting a little gloomy because of this. ”
"I think you're too lonely, step rest. You're just saying things like that to get people's attention. You behave like a person who abandons his conscience to put on a show in order to be famous, and like a stupid boy who pretends to be stupid and stupid in order to attract the attention of the girl he likes. ”
"I have not abandoned my conscience, I have never ...... I'm more like the latter. ”
"Of course I believe you, you're still very different from them. "I thought to myself: Would I have liked you otherwise?
"Wow, that's amazing. He looked at me and smiled, "A few words will wash me white." ”
"I just trust you. I'm sure most people are still willing to say you're shady. ”
"Deep, but not dark. Just because I know more about bad things doesn't mean I'm a bad person. ”
"You're still deep. I couldn't help but laugh and said, "As long as you do things obediently in the future and don't talk nonsense to help others understand these dirty things, there will still be many people who will like you." ”
He shrugged and said, "Looking at the way they don't know anything, I really can't help but say a few words." I remember playing cards once when two people were playing cards, and the other person immediately accused them, only to be scolded by the two people with foul language. Before I could say anything, the rest of the people banded together against the two unqualified people. ”
"What about you?"
"I, seeing their pure appearance, I was excited, and I helped those two people speak. ”
I propped my forehead and said, "You're sure you're stupid to tell them they don't play cards, right?"
"Uh... That's right. ”
"You're so stupid. If they play cards secretly, then no one has anything to say, who doesn't know the benefits of playing cards? But they play cards openly, who can bear this?"
"Uh..."
"Besides, those two people are still scolding, their quality is low, and they are obviously unreasonable, aren't you looking for scolding yourself?"
"They did turn around and accuse me of coming..."
"You deserve it! It's okay to be nosy, you don't help the side of the gang. ”
"..."Buxiu wiped his sweat and said: "It turns out that they are not Xiaobai, but masters, and they are unconsciously on the winning side." I just want them to know that the world is evil. ”
"Idiot. I rolled my eyes and scolded him for the first time.
"Okay, I'll try to say as little as possible about this kind of unpleasant offense in the future. Buxiu smiled: "Let them find out about those bad things for themselves." ”
"That's right, you said, not only will they not thank you, they think you are shady. If you are wise, you are wiser. ”
"So, you don't have to persuade me anymore. Buxiu suddenly changed his tone and smiled: "As you said, I can't understand these things? I don't understand what kind of image I have in their hearts? If I can help them, the bad people will be the bad people." It's just their opinion, I don't really care. If they don't understand me, or even fear that I'm afraid to be friends with me, then I'll not be friends with them. There will always be someone who understands me, just like you, just like Qing'er, just like intelligence..."
"It turns out that you went around in such a big circle just to tell me, 'I don't need to mention what they will think of you in the future, I have my own ideas, you don't have to worry about it'...... I was a little speechless, "I don't even know what to say about you, is it stubborn or open-minded? No wonder you always get involved in some disputes...... You're like this when you're in a national war, right? I'd rather bear the infamy of a lifetime than take the initiative to take the responsibility of losing the country. ”
"It's not as much as you say, I just want to tell you I don't care. In my hometown, there was an emperor named Liu Chan. He did something much smarter and more open-minded than I did - someone would always understand him. ”
"Good. I said weakly, "Whatever you want, I won't say anything about it in the future." Be as dark as you want, it's better to let the whole world misunderstand you!"
"In that case... I'm going to cry. His smile was beautiful, but it seemed to hide countless sorrows.
"I'm sorry. ”
"You don't have to apologize, let's put this topic aside, and if we continue to talk about it, it's the real depression. ”
"Good. I laughed and said, "I almost forgot that I was here to learn." ”
"What did you come up with?"
"Hmm," I said after thinking for a moment, "the first point leads to the main contradiction we are currently facing. "I remember letting them figure out their shortcomings at the beginning.
"What's next... Well, pay attention to guide them to think about the results I want according to a certain logic. Those contradictions were also summed up by the three school officers themselves. In this way, they will naturally be convinced of this 'result of their own thinking'. It's easy to get them to believe me, to believe in the questions I ask and to think about them.
"Anything else?"
"Provide him with rational faith, give him illusions, teach him how to think. "With faith, there is motivation to work hard. With fantasies, you have the ability to think on your own. And most importantly, instead of teaching him how to do it, teach him how to think. Because people have their principles, their way of doing things -- why do people who buy gambling addicts not stop gambling when they lose more and win less? Because that's their logic -- they think that they only lose because they're unlucky, and that gambling itself is fair. Therefore, teaching him how to think is the only way to change this ingrained logic.
These three aspects are what Bu Xiu Fang did to the three school officers, and they are also what he ordered the three school officers to do.
Thinking of this, I couldn't help but think: Buxiu he, did he brainwash me too? I carefully recalled most of the conversations between us, and found that there were, but they were all inconsequential things, and it didn't matter whether they were washed or not -- in reality, I was faced with this kind of inconsequential brainwashing problem almost all the time.
He even reminded me of the things that really mattered.
When I found out about that, my liking for him went even further. He was still very sincere to his friends, and I now understand what he meant by those words: when he was faced with a group of Xiaobai who had no subjective consciousness at all - that is, I had no feeling for this kind of brainwashing before, he deliberately controlled his words and deeds, and faced his friends with a sincere attitude, but unfortunately, I didn't know the sincerity he showed at the time - only when Xiaobai failed and understood what brainwashing was, I could understand this.
This is also the reason why strangers regard him like a femme fatale, but his bosom friends regard him as a confidant. After all, only a close friend can understand what kind of deep meaning is hidden in his every move, and only a close friend will feel worthless and pity for him.
He lives in a world of clarity, but the people around him live in a world of obscurity - out of place, so it is.
Maybe that's not all, just like the sadness he showed when he compared his hand to a pistol before, perhaps, he has a deeper level of loneliness.
Open-minded, open-minded, don't care, how can such a thing be done so easily? Even if you die once, you can't really see it...... Truly being free and at ease has never been something that can be achieved by martial arts or cultivation high enough, and what people have honed along the way is their own heart.
The kind of people who can play the dust and enjoy the world have great wisdom - they don't care about what others think, they don't care about any difference in thinking between themselves and others, they go back to basics... When necessary, they can even incarnate any kind of person, and they can be happy from the bottom of their hearts in front of anyone......
Maybe when I reach that state, I will understand everything, and then I will let go of everything and achieve true freedom, true freedom. But now I, now we, are still far from that realm.
The predecessors summed it up perfectly: there are three stages in a person's life: looking at the mountain is the mountain and seeing the water is the water, that is, the discovery stage, looking at the mountain is not the mountain and seeing the water is not the water, that is, the exploration stage, and looking at the mountain or the mountain and the water is still the water, that is, the stage of returning to the basics.
At present, we are still in the exploration stage. At this stage, we are good at and willing to discover all good and bad things, analyze their causes, analyze their psychology, and know the essence of everything.
One of our biggest drawbacks at this stage is that we don't have good control over our thoughts. When we find that the essence of the matter is much more unexpected than we expect or even a little disgusted by it, we cannot prevent the expression of this feeling. Therefore, in order to control this emotional drawback, we will more or less behave cold-blooded at this time.
Buxiu is the most classic case. As a fledgling, he was extremely young and clearly in the discovery phase. After that, through various events, he gradually entered the stage of exploration. At this stage, he inexorably shows a slightly extreme personality: sometimes very innocent, sometimes very pretending to be enlightened, sometimes very dark and naughty, and sometimes with extraordinary cold-bloodedness - people call it gloomy.
This stage is always full of all kinds of misunderstandings, which cannot be avoided.
Experiences always make people grow. Growing up is like growing hair, and there will always be times when it is difficult to see and make people want to give up. What we should do is try to be as tolerant as possible, isn't it?
As for the third stage, back to basics...... It's too far away and inexperienced, so I won't say more.