Volume 1 People Have Obsessions and Ghosts Have Affection Chapter 8 First Acquaintance with His Wife (1)
"How so? Wenwen is still the same with me, what do I have to hide from you? ”
I thought to myself, Wenwen is not enthusiastic about me anymore, you Xinya should be happy, right?
"Don't think I can't see it, a woman's sixth sense is more powerful than anything else."
When Xinya said this, her face was still facing the TV, and she didn't look at me at all, looking so determined.
It seems that if you don't make up a story that can justify itself, Xinya can't pass this hurdle.
"Actually, it's nothing to tell you." I made a gesture of being out of the box, but I was desperately trying to make up excuses in my head.
Xinya turned off the TV, pulled her body out of the single sofa, and leaned forward slightly to look at me, waiting for my next step.
"Didn't I tell you last Saturday that I had something to do, I had dinner and drank with a friend in the evening, and Wenwen was also eating there that day, and then Wenwen took a taxi to send me back."
"And come?"
"No then."
"! No, then Wenwen will be cold to you? No, is this worth mentioning? "If that's all there is to it, let alone Xinya, no one would be interested in this bland story.
"No, it's mainly because I drank the broken pieces, and I don't know what happened next."
"Got a broken drink? Did you do something to Wenwen......." Xinya leaned forward with her eyes wide open.
"I said I don't remember, but Wenwen later said that I didn't treat her at the time... Very disrespectful ......."
I wanted to make this story as close as possible to the version Wenwen said, and also eliminate the part of going to bed.
Xinya rolled her eyes, calmly but without a lie: "Honestly, did you break me up that day just to go out to eat with Wenwen and the others?" ”
"It's not! Definitely not! "To answer this question, I don't have to make a draft, I have a lot of confidence.
"So what did you do to Wenwen?"
"Wenwen said that I forcibly kissed her and touched her, but I really didn't ......"
"That's all?"
"That's all Wenwen said, and I don't ...... it"
"Forget it, don't talk about it. I'll figure out if it's Wenwen on a special date, but don't drink a lot in the future, especially don't drink alone with women. ”
I don't see that Xinya doesn't mean to continue to investigate, and those who know the times are Junjie, and they can get through the customs first, as for those prohibitions, there must be a way before the car reaches the mountain. The mood was also relaxed, so I joked with Xinya: "Your brother and I are both from here, I know what to do and what not to do, and you can't be too lenient as a sister, right?" ”
"Sister? Sling the bull. When will I become your sister? ”
It seems that Xinya has never recognized my role as a righteous brother in her heart, and she has indeed never called me brother.
I restrained my stunned expression and smiled wryly: "Okay, good, good, you're not my sister, not my sister." ”
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When there is suffering and grievances in my heart, the first person who comes to mind must be the person I feel closest to.
Carrying the pot Wenwen threw at me, I naturally miss my dead wife.
Although my wife is a few years younger than me, her mind is obviously much more precocious than me, and she shows unimaginable calmness and understanding in many places, so that from the beginning of my relationship, I have gradually formed a psychological and spiritual dependence on her, and I want to share happy things with her for the first time, and more importantly, when I encounter confusion in work, career and interpersonal relationships, I will unconsciously immediately find my wife, or vent my resentment in my heart, or ask her for advice or countermeasures, if I didn't know my wife at the beginning, I don't know what I'm going to get out of here.
However, my wife's sophistication and wisdom almost ruined our marriage.
When I was introduced to my wife, she had just graduated from college and I had just graduated from graduate school.
His wife was born in a big city capital, and his family background is knowledgeable, and his brother can be regarded as a pioneer in the reform and opening up to study in the United States at his own expense. Although she is not the kind of girl who is as beautiful as a flower, she has a virtuous, calm and elegant temperament, and the only thing I can get is a graduate diploma. The reason why a graduate degree can still be used as my only highlight is because it was not like it is now, and it has almost become the standard for higher education.
But I came from a rural area, I lost my father at a very young age, my family was so poor that when I was in elementary school, I couldn't pay the tuition fees and cried and rolled all over the ground. As for the appearance or something, it's not handsome and handsome, but it's also a dog-like person, and it won't be cheaper to pull it out.
Of course, I was happy that my wife was willing to continue dating me, but I still lacked enough self-confidence.
Poverty is not the root of my low self-esteem. My lack of self-confidence or low self-esteem started in high school and became more and more obvious after I went to college. This inferiority complex stems from the lack of knowledge and common sense, the narrowness of thinking, and the narrowness of vision compared to classmates at school.
When I was nervous, I asked my wife why she would want to date me, and she chose the blind date model not long after she graduated.
My wife's answer at that time not only did not boost my self-confidence, but made me more suspicious.
What she probably means is that the form and occasion of acquaintance are not important, and important things still need to be understood and discovered after acquaintance; Love at first sight can indeed bring you a momentary heartbeat, but it is easier to unconsciously magnify the highlight that initially touched you, thus ignoring the factors that can support the long-term relationship between the two people; The initial highlights will soon be dimmed in the trivialities of firewood, rice, oil, salt and parenting after the emotional climax, and the most touching marriage is to never abandon life and death.
I didn't think much about it, I didn't think that far ahead, and I felt that my wife was like a battle-hardened veteran.
My wife's words at that time gave me some psychological comfort and at the same time, I was a little more disappointed.
I don't think the gap between us is a little bit, it's not a fundamental gap, it's a difference in mind and cognition.
I joked: "I seem to have a big gap with you in addition to academic qualifications, and I met on a blind date for the purpose of marriage, do you feel that there is a lack of romantic elements, and it won't be long before you get bored and break up with me?" ”
A soil bun who counterattacked into the city with the road of the college entrance examination, the inferiority complex in front of girls in big cities is indeed difficult to avoid.
After saying that, I realized that this question was stupid.
My wife looked up at me, smiled and said, "Why do you think that?" ”
I laughed wryly and didn't dare to speak, because I didn't know what my wife was thinking at the time.
"Actually," seeing that I didn't speak, my wife continued, "both men and women have the potential and desire to pursue romance, but romance is not just a form, and the definition and standard of romance also vary from person to person. Some people think that being able to never leave is the most vibrant romance, and tolerating each other is the purest love. ”
I think so, I nodded my head in approval.
Probably encouraging, the wife went on to say her opinion: "In the novels of books, romantic love stories abound, but more often they express a kind of pursuit and yearning. ”
At this point, my wife asked me, "How many romantic love stories have you seen that start and end well?" ”
I smiled, I didn't need to answer for a while, the answer was already in my wife's heart.
"A lot of touching romantic love is intercepted from the fragment of the river in which people grow, and rarely gives the fate of love in a few years and decades, today the sea vows and mountains love to die and live, and really come together to face intricate temptations, contradictions and pressures, the former mountain alliance and sea vows may be forgotten in the back of the mind, and may be replaced by mutual complaints, attacks, accusations and abuses or going their separate ways."
I nodded pretending to understand.