A few days after the start of the winter vacation, Xi Fan's phone rang.

Looking at the city address displayed on the phone, the corners of Xi Fan's mouth hooked slightly, and he picked up: "Hello, I'm Xi Fan." ”

After a pause, he said, "Hello, I'm Fang Zhan's mother, Shi Xia." ”

"Hello Aunt Shi, you called me to ask, how will you treat Fang Zhan in the future?"

"Yes. We have consulted several well-known psychiatrists on his problem, and the results we have obtained cannot be ignored, and we hope that we can send Xiao Zhan for treatment as soon as possible. I wanted to let him go, but his father didn't think it would be a good effect, and I was worried about whether sending him there would be more pressure on him. We're in a mess right now, so I wanted to ask you, maybe you can give us some advice on what we should do to him. ”

"In fact, in a situation like Fang Zhan, going to the hospital system for treatment is the best choice. However, I can understand that you don't want him to go. Then we can try not to go to the hospital now, give him positive guidance in the outside world, and stabilize his emotions. If it doesn't work, we consider taking him to the hospital. ”

"So what should we do?"

"Give him freedom."

"His father and I have never stopped him from doing anything, even if he wants to go to school in L City alone, we haven't stopped him, isn't that free enough?"

"When I say freedom, I mean psychological freedom, not just physical. I think you have also communicated with your uncle after you returned home, what is wrong with Fang Zhan in the fifteen years since he grew up. ”

Faced with Xi Fan's question, Shi Xia seemed to be very confused, and she said in a somewhat uncertain tone: "That's right, we did communicate, but we still don't understand why praise can also cause Xiao Zhan such a serious psychological problem." Because those doctors didn't see Fang Zhan to communicate with him, they couldn't tell me why. ”

In fact, praise is only one aspect, what makes him sick is contrast. Contrast with your youngest son. I reminded you last time, think about Fang Zhan and then think about your youngest son, can't you understand? ”

"What we didn't figure out is this, obviously he did so well, he was more obedient and stable than Xiao Che, we almost never accused Xiao Zhan, on the contrary, we always said that Xiao Che was not as good as Xiao Zhan, how could he ......"

"That's the problem." With a sigh, Xi Fan continued: "Your excessive expectations are a kind of harm to Fang Zhan, is it possible that excellence can be obtained without paying?" Which genius in the world can be decathlon, has a good character and personality, treats people gently and never loses his temper, is this still a real person?

Isn't it sad that he wants to maintain your praise, to keep working towards it, and to suppress his true nature for the sake of your polite, calm and reliable character?

Not only does he have to work hard to maintain his personality, but he also has to take on his brother's share of responsibility, isn't that a lot of pressure?

But your youngest son doesn't need that. He can be naughty, he can do everything he likes to do, and after getting into trouble, he only gets a few words of blame from you, but more of a spoiler, this strong contrast, isn't it a kind of harm?

Another point, I have to remind my aunt that Fang Zhan has now broken out with psychological problems, but your youngest son also needs to pay attention. Not only was Fang Zhan a victim of contrast, but Fang Che, too, rebellion might be the signal that he was about to explode. ”