In fact, when I was in school, I encountered a lot of things that can be called 'human nature', and after graduating and joining the workforce, I saw even more of them.

Especially after arriving at the ZBJ.com unit, the nature of the work dictates that it is often necessary to run out alone and face one or more customers or suppliers alone, that is, 'going home' or 'going home'.

Regardless of whether the final cooperation with these upper and lower families can be successful, whether we will sit at the same table and have a good time, or we will not be in touch with each other for a long time, we are all opponents in the negotiation stage, and we need to maintain twelve points of energy to deal with each other, especially when we meet for the first time.

So gradually I also summed up some rules, there are commercial, human, and for me, the more interesting thing is about human nature.

It's true that if there is no special reason, everyone will try to make a good impression when they first interact with other humans.

As for how to make a good impression on the other person, for the social environment I am in, there are only two ways, one is to magnify my strengths, the other is to hide my shortcomings, or both.

In short, it is to make yourself as good as possible in front of each other.

Needless to say, it's good to try to perform hard because of the importance of magnifying your strengths, and when it comes to hiding your weaknesses, some people are very funny.

As a higher creature like a human being, everyone mainly relies on language to communicate, so sometimes in order to hide their shortcomings, they will take the initiative to say some lies.

"I'm a very real person." Most of the people who take the initiative to describe themselves like this when they meet for the first time are really not there, and even they are so hypocritical that they realize that they are not real enough, so they need to emphasize it very deliberately quickly.

Similarly: "The most annoying thing for me is to get cheap people", "I'm a real person", "I like to do things the most", "I don't like to worry about pounds the most", "What I hate the most is to worry about money, isn't it just money?" ”

There is even more ruthless, that is, even the other party is pulled into the water together: "I can see that you are a real (happy) person like me", "You can see at a glance that we are all the kind of people who don't like to care"...

Saying these things is nothing more than two purposes, one is to hide your own shortcomings, give the other party a good impression, and at the same time make the other party relax their vigilance against themselves; The second is to imply to the other party, subconsciously hoping that the other party can become the kind of person he describes.

And often the people who say these things, their real character, is completely opposite to their self-description.

Having said all this, I just want to say another thing, and that is about the selfish nature of 'maternal love'.

Many people often say that mother's love is the greatest and most selfless love in the world, why? Because most mothers can do anything for their children.

Emphasis added: It's the phrase 'for your own children'.

It's just because it's her own child that she's desperate.

She can ignore her quality and allow her children to show their lack of upbringing in public. Making loud noises, cutting in line, throwing things, and even using it as a toilet anywhere, even when someone else is eating next to the restaurant.

She can ignore the law, steal food, steal toys, and beat and scold others.

They comfortably indulge their children and themselves to do things that affect or even hurt others, because there is one word that can pay for their selfishness and uneducatedness, and that is "maternal love".

It's a morally deterrent word, and as soon as it appears, it means that the matter cannot be carried out according to normal logic, even if the incident itself has even broken the law, and in the eyes of most people it should be pardoned.

Because she's a mother, she's just loving her children, she's just doing this because she loves her children, how great is a mother's love, what's wrong with her?

If a person's greatness is based only on her personal preferences, then this is selfishness.

If you love your children, you want the whole world to let you, because you are a mother, you are for your children, not for yourself, so you are not selfish but great?

What kind of outcome does such a mother often cause?

That's a failed mother, a bad family, a child who is spoiled and spoiled as waste.

Aunt Li is a typical example.

She has been 'loving' her children in the way she thinks is right, and under the infiltration of her 'love', the mother-daughter relationship is extremely bad. Although her child has poor survival ability, he has a big temper, and he is still asking his mother for it reasonably.

Aunt Li didn't mind, because she still felt that this was what great motherly love should do.

The only thing that is more fortunate about Aunt Li is that her husband is more likely to make money during his lifetime, otherwise if she doesn't have so much money to give to her children today, she will definitely not even bother to look at her daughter's virtue.

How should the word 'selfish' be explained? In short, it is for one's own selfish interests, and does not care whether others will be harmed.

That's what Aunt Li is.

She thinks that everything she does is for the good of her children, so she is straightforward and stubborn in everything she does.

So when she was working for the welfare of her children from the perspective she could think of, that is, in terms of feng shui, she could initially think of buying the house she lives in now and turning it into a 'big tomb in the sky'.

When she came up with the idea, she didn't think about how her neighbors would feel.

Similarly, when she understood the feng shui logic that she would break her fortune if she moved in, and her children would get rich, she even took the initiative to try her best to break her fortune, including the two rather extravagant 'banquets' that I was invited to eat.

And even if she understands that 'ruining' her wealth to me will cause me harm, she doesn't care, even if it does, I will also be ruined, bad luck, she doesn't care, she won't have any mental burden.

Because everything she did was for her children, not for herself, what a great mother's love, and she didn't even mind hurting such an innocent and good boy with an infinite future for her own children.

Aunt Li's maternal love is very selfish, and most mothers' maternal love under the banner of 'greatness' is also very selfish.

Of course, fortunately, not all mothers' love is like this, and some mothers' love is really great and positive.

How to distinguish between the selfishness and greatness of maternal love is mainly reflected in upbringing, and it is clear whether the mother's child is bearish or not.

"Because only bear parents can raise bear children."

Brother Chao explained to me his 'mother's love and selfishness' in a long paragraph, but I didn't feel anything when I heard it, because I didn't feel the kind of maternal love he said at all.

Of course, I still can't refute the fact that I am a handsome boy with a bright future, after all, the facts are there.

Brother Chao told me this, in fact, he wanted to convince me to let me have less contact with Aunt Li in the future, so as not to continue to be cheated.

But limited to Aunt Li's 'pit' for me, at least for now, it is only manifested in the aspect of 'breaking money' on me, so I don't care too much.

So I tried my best to bring the topic back to my curiosity, which is the matter of community feng shui.

In fact, Brother Chao also knows a little about this, he basically told me what he knows, the distribution of coffin-shaped buildings, the house type of 'grain does not exist', anyway, from the feng shui he knows, his point of view is the same as Aunt Li's, that is, this community is not good for the living.

As for whether it is a descendant of Wang, he is not sure, but he can ask an uncle in his hometown, compared to him, his uncle really understands this aspect.

After chatting about feng shui and talking about Aunt Li's wife's 'coming back', Brother Chao thinks it's just four simple words: become sick because of thoughts.

This mainly stems from the details described by Aunt Li that her wife came back for the first time.

According to Aunt Li, she was inexplicably very tired that day, and then there was a scene where her wife cooked for her.

According to Brother Chao, it is entirely possible that Aunt Li made the meal herself, but forgot it, or that Aunt Li was in some kind of unconscious state when she was cooking this meal, such as sleepwalking.

Because she has no memories related to cooking, and she has no other thoughts, she thinks that her wife has come back.

The evidence for this conclusion is that Aunt Li was tired for no reason that day, which is likely to be similar to the result of working in a sleepwalking state, but she didn't remember it after waking up.

It was only then that I suddenly reacted, and my views on these matters were exactly the opposite: he believed in feng shui and did not believe in ghosts and gods, and I believed in ghosts and gods but did not believe in feng shui.

After another small talk, Brother Chao and I decided to ask him about the feng shui pattern of my community, and then hung up the video.

After hanging up the call with Brother Chao, my mind was still quite messy.

Although his statement seems to explain the situation of Aunt Li's wife's 'resurrection', I always feel that it is a bit far-fetched, but I have no more convincing actual evidence to refute his statement.

Distraught, I decided not to think about it for now, and to see if my 'fortune' was really going to end.

I took my phone again and dialed the phone from the factory where I supplied it, but there was still no answer.

I started making all the phone numbers I could find related to that factory, from business, to customer service, to reconciliation finances, to office numbers, to the 400 number that was displayed on the product box.

Except for the 400 call that prompted an empty number, the other numbers were not answered without exception.

QQ, WeChat, messages do not reply, videos do not answer.

This factory... Did the boss run away with his sister-in-law and all the staff?

Vaguely uneasy and unwilling, I began to rehash the information of Baidu, a brand that claimed to be in Shanghai.

There is no new news, it is just their official advertisements on various related platforms.

You can't really quit all of a sudden, right? Without warning!

Distraught, I threw my phone aside, and instead of thinking about how to contact the factory, I started thinking about what to do next.

It's really hard to do it, and the current routine operation mode of my industry is too conservative compared to this era.

To put it a little bit of an 'hindsight', I was actually mentally prepared for today from the first day I had to do this.

After all, when I followed Zhu Bajie, I kept encountering this kind of small factory closing down and running away.

But what's next? Looking for an alternative brand? Or get money from somewhere else?

Suddenly I remembered what Chen Zhonghai told me before, maybe I should focus on helping him find the vehicle that caused the accident, after all, if I really got the thing done for him, he would definitely not treat me badly.

And... This doesn't count as a dog for people, does it? My parents shouldn't scold me if they found out, right?

No, it's just cooperation, well, it's just cooperation.

After comforting myself, I got up and went downstairs and went straight to the underground garage.

It was about the same as I expected, although there were only three cars of the same type, but none of these three cars were in their original location, not even where I saw them the second time, could the cars in this community really be parked at will?

With doubts, I took the elevator back to my home, and in the elevator I was still thinking about how to quietly ask Lao Gu about the ownership of the underground parking spaces in the community.

As soon as I got home, suddenly the mobile phone rang, I thought it was someone from the supply factory, and I excitedly took out my mobile phone to see that it was Chen Haobei.

I picked up the video with some disappointment, and asked without any energy: "What's wrong Brother Hao?" What's the matter? ”

Chen Haobei in the video looked at me with a serious face, frowned and said, "Qian'er, my brother can't figure out something, can you help my brother think about it?" I said, "There's a fart." ”

Chen Haobei really didn't beat around the corner, and asked directly and seriously: "Qian'er, what do you think Mei Tian'er and Mei Di'er... Who's better? ”

I was stunned for a moment, and then I couldn't help laughing, hehe, this is the only bright color in the depressed time all day today, right? When I heard him ask me, I understood that I couldn't figure out who I liked better.

But this question does make me a little difficult, how can I say it? A royal sister and a lady are both very beautiful, and their temperaments have their own merits, so it is really difficult to compare two different types of women.

After thinking about it, I simply kicked the ball back and asked, "What do you think?" ”

Chen Haobei didn't answer me, but paused for a while and then asked a question that made me almost want to strangle him: "Qian'er, then you say, in terms of appearance, who is more worthy of me between them and sisters?" ”

I resisted the urge to vomit blood and gritted my teeth and scolded: "It's really shameless, why haven't you looked in the mirror in the past ten years?" Who is worthy of you, not you? Does anyone have anything to say? I'm hung up when no one talks. ”

Seeing that I was really going to hang, Chen Haobei hurriedly said: "Don't! Qian'er, can you do my brother another favor? I asked, "What's the hurry?" ”

Chen Haobei said very seriously: "Qian'er, brother wants to confess." ”