Nian Fu said: "Some people say that the loser is an old life and has a grudge, so he comes to the loser to collect debts......"

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "This thing can't be generalized, everyone has their own destiny, not everyone in the world is filial to their parents, and they work hard to make money without losing things and have a happy marriage." Everyone has their own life, and everyone is different. ”

Nian Fu smiled: "Then you mean a loser, not because he had a grudge in his previous life, or because he owed debts, and came to lose?" ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "In general, Buddhism will classify these as yin debts, and some people are not yin debts, his character is that kind of ingratitude, that is, he is born a loser." Not everyone's unhappiness is related to ghost metaphysics. Maybe it's related, maybe it's okay, but whether it's okay or not, do you think the repayment of yin debts can be transferred??? The country is easy to change, and its nature is difficult to change. In addition, those people are all cheating people out of money and paying off debts. Seeing that they are also ordinary people, it is not easy to make money. Find someone near your home. It's a few dozen dollars to watch it once. Look at a few more people and see what everyone says differently. When you go to see someone, don't pour bitter water and talk about your own business, but let the person who shows you say what he doesn't know, instead of following your words. ”

Nian Fu smiled and said: "Hehe, don't think that I want to repay my debts, I just suddenly talked about the ruined family and the prosperous family, and I remembered these things......"

Xiao Tianshu smiled: "Hehe, it's okay, I'm just making an analogy, but what kind of opportunity does your ancestor have, I really can't tell ......"

Nian Fu smiled: "Hehe, I'm not stupid, even if our ancestors offended anyone, if there is any chance, it is not something that should be able to be repaid, and if a person's fate is congenital, it has been planned like that, and it has been arranged like that, how can it be changed?" Even if it's a change, it can't be said that you can just pay off a yin debt in exchange, then everyone spends money to eliminate the disaster......"

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "Hehe, you are right in this sentence, the wisdom of life is only six words: know how to measure, know how to advance and retreat." In the final analysis of life, living is "proportion", and fighting is "advancing and retreating". Speaking of proportion, everyone will be happy that there are clouds in the ancient art of war: if you accidentally say a word, you will be ruined, and if you don't say a word, the whole army will be wiped out. Buddhists also believe that when people have a heart, they also plant cause and effect at the same time. If you have evil thoughts, you will also plant a curse, which will not only leave a calamity for yourself, but also harm your children and grandchildren. This is true in theory, and even more so in real life. If you don't have a good grasp of proportion, there are no taboos, and your mouth is not blocked, which will be annoying at least and will cause you to burn yourself. ”

Nian Fu said with a smile: "Measuring this thing is easy to say, but it is difficult to do." Because a person who pays attention to proportions is not only smart and diligent, but also has a deep insight into human nature in his heart. When doing things with people, they are different from person to person, and they know how to easily achieve the desired goal, achieve the actual effect of doing things, and leave a strong impression of their ability to do things; When dealing with problems, they are both principled and flexible, they know when they need to be sober and when they need to be confused, they are good at grasping the opportunity to deal with problems, and they can deal with problems with a knife and a knife. ”

Xiao Tianshu said: "Soldiers are impermanent, water is impermanent, and we must also be able to adapt to the situation and adapt to changes when dealing with problems. In the Book of Changes, it is said that "if you are poor, you will change, and if you change, you will be able to change for a long time", things will change at a point, corresponding to this characteristic of things, and you should also be measured and flexible. The rise and fall of life, success or failure, the intensity and urgency, are all seen in the grasp of proportion. Being a measured person is the highest state of life; Doing things with a scale is the greatest learning in life; Grasp the proportions of life, take charge of the scale of doing things, and accumulate over time, in order to seek the height of life in the proportions. Only by knowing how to advance and retreat can we go long-term

To be a man is to be measured, but also to know how to advance and retreat, "Zuo Biography" said: "When you see that you can advance, you can retreat when you know the difficulties, and the good governance of the army is also." In fact, knowing what to advance and retreat is not only "good governance of the army", but also in officialdom, shopping malls, workplaces, and love fields...... In almost all social life, we need to know what to advance and retreat. Liu Bang entered the three chapters of the Xianyang Covenant, Fu Hongmen feasted without saying goodbye, knew how to advance and retreated, and finally achieved a great cause; Xiang Yugu famously let Liu Bang run away, defeated the Wujiang River, there is a boat that does not cross, and would rather kill himself, not knowing how to advance or retreat, under the eternals, it is just for people to sigh lightly. Han Xin begged for the title of marquis because of his merits, supported the army and did not rebel, he did not know how to retreat and did not know how to advance, and was finally killed by Empress Lu, and died with hatred; After Fan Li helped King Goujian of Yue to achieve a great cause, he took the initiative to resign and took the beauty Xi Shi to go boating on the five lakes, so uncomfortable. Although he withdrew from the temple, he was diligent in business, and finally became rich and became the envy of the world. In the face of wealth, he also knows how to make trade-offs, he scatters his family wealth and earns a reputation for himself, which can be described as a winner in life. ”

Nian Fu said with a smile: "Hehehe, this makes it more clear that in ancient and modern times, those who have gone further, all choose to forge ahead at the right time and dedicate value to the cause they are passionate about; Choose to let go at the right moment, not greedy, not indulgent, let go of heavy fame and fortune, but get a happy life. Between proportion, advance and retreat, showing great wisdom, the success or failure of many things lies in whether we can grasp the "degree" between advance and retreat. ”

Confucius said in the Analects: "If you don't go in the middle and go with it, you will also be crazy!" The mad are enterprising, and the ruthless are not doing anything. The "Bank of China" here is the mean, it is an impartial, reconciled and compromise attitude, and its two ends are "madness" and "ruthlessness". ”

Xiao Tianshu said: ""Crazy" and "ruthless" have the same good and bad places, that is, the crazy are easy to pass, and the ruthless are not as good. If you do too much, you are easy to be bold and bold; If you don't do it, it's easy to retreat and do nothing. Only by judging the situation and doing what we can can can we advance and retreat freely, and we can pursue advantages and avoid disadvantages and achieve success. Between advance and retreat, it shows the great wisdom of life. How to advance and how to retreat is a means; When to improve and when to retreat is a kind of measure. Only by being a man of proportion and knowing how to advance and retreat can we reach the other side of success. ”

Nian Fu smiled and said: "I don't know, if people don't know how to advance and retreat, will they go crazy and crazy?" ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "Yes, a lot of people say that they are crazy, it's not that they don't know how many catties and taels they have, and they think that they are very powerful, and they have learned peerless magic skills, so in the end, they finally got mad, crazy, in the end, they still hurt themselves, they didn't grasp the scale, and they didn't grasp the proportions, isn't it good to be proportionate!" ”