Nian Fu smiled and said, "Hey! is also said, why do you think that after you apprenticed with Lu Dongbin, the aura, magnetic field and understanding of this whole person have been greatly improved, which is fundamentally different from that of children of your age, or do I have a psychological effect? ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "Life is in the world, but I want to live transparently." Foresight is a kind of sensitivity, from the small clues of the moment, groping for the upcoming big changes or storms, and adjusting one's direction in time. Actually, I don't have any understanding and any kind of psychological effect, sometimes it seems that just in an instant, you understand a lot of truth. ”

The thief smiled: "What is the truth? It's so mysterious, as if you're talking about philosophy, I admire you, now this kind of mature, steady and old, look, you really gasp when you praise you for being fat......"

Xiao Tianshu smiled: "You are the one who wants to praise people, and you are the one who wants to scold people, so what do you want me to do?" Besides, what I said was the truth in my heart, and I felt at the time, how can I explain it to you, it's like you like someone, and you know that the destiny is like this, you don't have a chance at all, that feeling of despair all of a sudden, you will have the idea of wanting to escape into the empty door......"

I don't know if people understand and understand themselves, and they have said so much to others, some things can not be understood by saying them, many sage ancestors in the world have written a lot of famous sayings and sentences early, but how many people can do it according to this meaning? Everyone listened to it and said it and wanted to say it, but when they actually did it, how many of them really heard in their hearts, there was no official happening, and there was no immersive mention of this situation, how can we understand these prescient words!

Nian Fu smiled: "Alas, I don't understand or understand, I think you can be as mature and stable as this, which also requires more careful comprehension and the courage to make trade-offs." Self-knowledge is a kind of emotional intelligence, and only those who know themselves well enough will find the true meaning of life. ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "I know that you don't understand, I have said so many things to yourself for a long time, as if I am playing the piano to a cow, in fact, I don't change my original intention by the praise and disapproval of the outside world, I know which is the real self, and I am not swayed by others." These two kinds of "understanding" are the abilities that everyone should have. ”

Nian Fu said, "Oh? What two kinds of understanding, sounding, seem to be very organized? ”

Xiao Tianshu smiled: "That's natural, I've been thinking a lot lately, maybe it's the reason to keep up with the master, even if I can't be called master, I can only call the grandfather, I can also be regarded as my master, foresight is wisdom, foresight is the wisdom of being able to see the subtleties, and I am good at judging the development trend of things through details, and make choices that are beneficial to myself." When a leaf falls, everything in the world is not isolated, it is connected, and the butterfly effect exists everywhere. Life is like chess, one step is a mediocre person, one step is a normal one, and one step is a wise person to think ten steps. ”

Nian Fu said: "Well, that's right, I agree with what you said, everything is prepared for a rainy day, it is always not wrong, a prescient person has a wise mind, a keen eye, insight into the world, and a clear sense of things; Everything can be seen accurately, clearly, and far; Always prepare for the rain, and dig wells without thirst. ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "Well, in the early years of the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yuanzhang had just sat down, and once wrote a poem: I got up first before the hundred officials got up, and I didn't sleep when the hundred officials slept."

is not as rich as the Jiangnan rich man, and the day is still five feet high. The first two sentences of this poem describe themselves as diligent and serve the people, and the last two sentences are envious of the living conditions of the rich people in Jiangnan.

After this poem was spread, ordinary people listened to it and did not have any associations, but a wealthy businessman, Wan Er, heard the sound of the strings and felt that disaster was coming.

He entrusted his property to his slaves, bought a large ship for himself, and left with his wife and children. A year later, Zhu Yuanzhang ordered that all the family property of the Jiangnan clan be confiscated from the officials, and many wealthy people were exiled to the army, and only Wan Er was able to die a good death because he foresaw the disaster. Zhu Yuanzhang initially decided the world, because of years of war and the emptiness of the treasury, he had long planned to attack the rich people in Jiangnan to solve the urgent needs of the country, so it was revealed in the poem. ”

Nian Fu said: "Hehe, it's really predetermined, this person is really smart, I can see it at once, Zhu Yuanzhang in this poem, the envy and jealousy of the rich businessmen in the south of the Yangtze River ......"

Xiao Tianshu said: "The second kind of self-knowledge is maturity, simply and in layman's terms, self-knowledge is to know how many bowls of dry rice you can eat. Self-knowledge is a sign that a person is truly mature, and lack of self-knowledge can sometimes lead to jokes. In ancient times, there was a person who wrote poorly but felt good about himself, and liked to give inscriptions to others. One day he met an acquaintance, and when he saw that the other party was holding a white paper fan with no words on it, he hurriedly grabbed it and asked for an inscription. The other party's face turned pale, and he knelt down with a thud, refusing to get up. Seeing this, he smiled and said, "Why don't you just write a few words, why bother with this big gift?" The other party said with a sad face: "I'm not begging you to write, I'm begging you not to write!" "People are self-aware", people don't know themselves, just like "can't see eyelashes", people's eyes can see things a hundred steps away, but they can't see their own eyelashes. ”

Nian Fu said: "Alas, I have a little understanding when I hear you say this, life is like a flower, everyone wants to be delicate and colorful, fragrant, but not everyone can become a flower." When you can't be a flower, you might as well make a green leaf; When you can't become a green leaf, you might as well make a small grass; When you can't be grass, you might as well make a thick piece of dirt. A self-aware person does not lose himself in a fog for a cheap compliment; Don't be afraid of a blind accusation and change course. ”

Xiao Tianshu said with a smile: "This makes sense, it seems that your understanding is still very high, hahaha, a self-aware person is never good at being ambitious, nor is he arrogant, he is not surprised, and he is not shocked by gains and losses." People have no foresight, there must be near-term worries: foresight is to say such wisdom, in the process of doing things, take a long-term view, the thinking will be more broad, and many troubles can be foreseen in advance. Those who know people are deep, and those who know themselves are cautious: knowing how to deal with different people is the embodiment of high communication skills, and knowing their true level and knowing the direction they want to go seems to be cautious, but it shows a person's reliable and down-to-earth mature charm. The combination of the two is a very practical emotional intelligence principle in daily life, which is worth learning from everyone.