Yang nodded approvingly when he heard this, "I believe that Old Man Cui would not do such a thing." I'm afraid that Cui Yu will unfairly favor his daughter-in-law. ”

"Mother, you don't know, Cui Hao's father can't be the patriarch, a big reason is the relationship between Mrs. Cui, how many years have never been helpful to the Cui family's clan, and the future patriarch of the Cui family will re-select candidates.

It may be that his second grandfather's house is the patriarch, who is in charge of Qinghe and the people in the capital respectively, and the second uncle Cui Hao may be the clan elder on this side of the capital, and the patriarch manages Qinghe in the capital, and the clan elder is responsible for the affairs of the capital every day. ”

Yang sighed, "You mean Cui Yu gave up the position of patriarch?" ”

They are all people with clans, and their centripetal force to the family is actually greater than their loyalty to the imperial court, and of course, no one is stupid to commit treason.

To be the patriarch of the family is a son's wish and honor, to do things for the family and lead the family to a new era and glory, which is part of the dream of life, no less than the glory of a man to be a first-class official.

You see the second grandfather and the third grandfather, who are full of gray hair, are still doing their best for the family reform, and when their bodies are still strong, they are ready to put down their power and select young talents to take over the family.

This sense of responsibility is a centripetal force and sense of mission that modern people cannot experience.

Giving up the position of patriarch of the family, this decision is actually very difficult, which is equivalent to giving up the mood of a first-class official.

It's not the same that girls will get married, and boys will never leave the family for the rest of their lives.

"Actually, I don't know the specifics, but Cui Hao said that I don't have to worry so much, his father can't be the patriarch, he will be the patriarch in the future, and there will be a transition between other people in the middle, but his father can't do it, this is what Grandpa Cui told him."

Zilan shrugged, she didn't know much about the Cui family, and she began to know it slowly from Cui Hao's mouth after the marriage.

"It seems that the Zhang family's relatives have not brought much benefit to the Cui family, the main reason is Zhang's own problems, maybe the Cui family doesn't like the Zhang family to be too weak, and the people of the big clan are very demanding of their daughters-in-law.

The Zhang family has only known the wind and snow for so many years, and the old lady of the Cui family is tired and half dead, and the clansmen see it in their eyes, although it is not good to ask too much about other people's housework, but they definitely do not agree with her in their hearts.

Once Cui Yu takes over the patriarch, it means that the Zhang family is the patriarch's wife, in fact, she is the clan wife, she is not qualified at all, how can the clansmen agree. So it is not surprising that he gave up the position of patriarch. ”

After hearing this, Zilan tilted her head and thought about how her two grandmothers did things, they were both very fair and objective, they would never be partial to anyone, and all kinds of troubles were handled in an orderly manner, obviously Cui Hao and her mother did not have this ability.

"The transition in the middle is also to prevent Grandpa Cui from being a hundred years in advance, and another Cui Hao may have to accumulate political achievements, ability, vision, and connections, and he may be very needed to be in charge of the Cui family in the future, what is the vision ability of the person in charge of a family, and it also means what kind of future he can lead the family towards."

"Yes, what you said is very right, you look at our family and then look at the Cui family is controlled by the old man, and the Qi family is also controlled by the old man Qi, basically it will not go wrong, let alone crooked, and the character and ability determine what the children and grandchildren are like.

But if you look at Li Qing, the person in charge of the Li family is a little anxious for quick success, which has a lot to do with personality, and it can be seen by sending the daughter of the Li family into the palace. If a family like ours is not forced to do so, the emperor will never send his daughter to the palace to fight for wealth and prosperity if he does not give an order.

You are like our family, your appearance and knowledge are also top-notch, and you can fight if you are sent to the palace, but your grandfather would rather give you a marriage in advance than let you enter the palace, not only love you, but also do not give your son any opportunity and idea to take shortcuts. ”

Zilan nodded, the two grandfathers are serious and upright people, they are the kind of characters who hate to be cautious and take shortcuts, no one dares to do this, and no one dares to do this, both study and work are done step by step.

There are two sides to everything, and it is not necessarily a good thing to be a relative of the royal family, for example, the Lin family, the queen mother's mother, in fact, there are many troubles, there is a queen mother and an emperor, after the new emperor takes the throne, his family still has to live with his tail between his legs, beware of his family.

Both mother and son are from the Lin family, how many connections do you have in the palace, how many forces are the dark lines of the Lin family, can the new emperor sleep in peace?

This is also why some court officials firmly choose the neutral party, no matter who is the emperor, it is enough for us to do our best, there are so many official positions in the court, the emperor can't all install his cronies, can't be favored and reused, and there is always my position, as long as he has the ability, the emperor is not too faint, he can always come out.

Therefore, the patriarch of the family, his ability, vision and mind all determine whether every decision he makes is correct and whether he can lead the family to new glory.

Of course, it cannot be absolutely determined that entering the palace is a bad thing, and sometimes it is a last resort, for example, the Lin family was determined by the first emperor to enter the palace, and they can only send their daughter to the palace if they can't resist.

"It's better for him not to be the patriarch, otherwise I'm worried. So I'm relieved. ”

Yang nodded.

"Mother, don't worry about me, I'm not that weak child, I'm not afraid of difficulties, just solve the difficulties, as long as Cui Hao doesn't give me anger, I don't care about the others."

"What you said is right, Cui Hao is not a person like Li Qing, otherwise it would be good for you to marry, the Xu family only agreed to this family business after asking the Li family, this is an exchange.

The son of the Xu family has some talent, and he hopes to go further, his family's foundation is too shallow, and he hopes that the Li family can promote his son. Otherwise, this family wouldn't have been able to take his turn. ”

"Hey, my daughter's life, I can't help myself."

Zilan also sighed with embarrassment when she heard it, it doesn't matter if the women of this era say it themselves.

"Isn't that what is said, the important thing for my daughter's family is to be strong, sensible and sensible, if the girl of the Xu family can hold Li Qing and persuade him to go up, maybe there is still a chance, otherwise I can only live by myself, or hope to have a son as soon as possible, and it must be a son, otherwise her life will be sad."

"What can you give birth to be like buying something, do you have the final say? Is it difficult for this strong man? There are no daughters, this son jumped out of the crack in the stone, is it...... Hearing such words is really rubbing fire. ”

Zilan is the soul of modern people, and she can't listen to patriarchal words, but the reality here is like this, her son is Jin Gui, and she can't be angry.

Yang also sighed, "A woman's life is bitter, who she marries doesn't count, she doesn't count if she says it herself, her belly doesn't count if she says it herself, her father and mother love her better, it's not bad to be like the Xu family, if you can marry into the Li family, even if the husband and wife are not affectionate, but if you have a child, you can still raise your status." After all, the status of the Li family's daughter is not the same level as the Xu family's daughter. ”

Zilan smashed her mouth and nodded embarrassedly.