Touch human nature

There are many people who do not have outstanding talents and achievements, and will only sing high-profile songs all day long saying that they do not meet talents because they will never flatter others, despise or even criticize the existing achievements of others, but in fact, most of these people are people who cannot get ahead.

There are very few people who hate being slapped on their own faces. Even if there were, it would not be the same as it was intended.

Napoleon, who was once the most powerful man, had such a history.

Napoleon hated being patted on the back. Once, one of his attendants said to him: "General! You're the one who hates people slapping you the most! Napoleon smiled and replied: "Yes, not bad at all!" ”

In fact, isn't this a resounding "sycophant" from that attendant?

Complimenting others and complimenting others is even a "sycophant" to others! In fact, they are all the supreme "lubricant" of interpersonal relationships, and this beautiful speech is provided for free; Why not do such a thing that "is beneficial to others and beneficial to oneself"!

Compliments are one of the most effective ways to win and maintain favor. It is also the strongest stimulant that encourages people to continue to work hard, which is determined by human instinct. Friends, if you want to succeed in asking for help, you must learn this trick.

An American entrepreneur described Carnegie as "a man who will hold your hand, encourage you, and praise you." In my life experience, I have not met a person who can catch up with him, and there are many people, although they have power, but they do not praise people's grace, but only ridicule others, how can they achieve greater deeds like this? ”

In fact, this entrepreneur is the one who best understands the spirit of Carnegie.

It has been said that in the hands of this entrepreneur, complimenting others has become an unusual driving tool.

When the entrepreneur became the director of the shipyard, the masses of workers were aroused by him, and his biography reads:

"From the manager to the workers, he generously rewarded the staff for their skills, so that the recipients felt that it was more valuable than the monetary reward."

The shipyard's warship, the Tuojia Tiger, was completed in 27 days, and all records in the shipyard were broken. The boss summoned the entire crew to deliver a speech congratulating the achievement, and presented each with a silver medal and a letter from President Wilson. Finally he turned to the overseer, took a gold watch from his bag, and handed it to him as a small memento.

Giving praise to others is like giving food to a hungry beggar. In many cases, it is like a vitamin, one of the most effective foods.

Some people are more strict than they reward "silver" enough, and they are stingy in praising others, which is a practice that goes against human nature, and the result is that some "horse boys" often make trouble in secret or simply "leave." These people need to reflect on themselves.

In this society, people who can speak flattering words seem to be more popular. When a person hears the flattery of others, his heart is always very happy, his face is full of smiles, and his mouth is full of words: "Where, I'm not so good", "You are really good at talking!" Even if I calmly recalled it afterwards, knowing that what the other party said was flattering, I still couldn't erase the joy in my heart.

Therefore, flattery is a necessary skill for asking for help, and flattery is said appropriately to make you more charming!

Shoot when it's time to shoot

The term "patting the horse's ass" originally meant that it was best to pat the horse's butt before riding, so that the horse would be meek enough for people to ride, otherwise, not only would they not be able to ride, but they would also be thrown down. Later, it was extended to specifically say flattery and flattery. People ridicule those "sycophants" who are brazen and only flattering their bosses in order to get promoted and make a fortune.

Self-employed people who set up stalls are the most common tactics when talking to customers.

They say how beautiful you are, how good they think you are. Because it is human nature to love to listen to flattery, and vanity is the weakness of human nature. When you hear the other person's praise and praise, you will have a great sense of superiority and satisfaction in your heart, and you will naturally happily follow the other person's advice.

I'm sure you've also bought clothes from a private stall, and when you try them on, the seller will definitely come to you:

"Ahh It's beautiful! You wear it very well, plain, generous, and personable. You're a few years younger than before. ”

You didn't want to buy that dress, but you bought it back.

The next day, you get angry, but after less than two hours of wearing, one of the stitches breaks and a big hole opens. That's when you call him a "liar". But what does it do?!

In life, it is common to brag about you and praise you and then take advantage of your dizziness to dig into your pockets or take advantage of you.

The vanity of the megalomaniac is the heaviest, and they often like to be praised by others at any time and in any place.

This is the case with many promising people. For example, the oil magnate Rockefeller and the steel magnate Carnegie, they liked to be complimented, and a famous writer Keley once reported:

The oil magnate was often overjoyed when someone praised his family's finances, and he liked to hear how enthusiastic he was about charity and schooling, and he was immediately excited when he heard such words; Once, when I complimented him on a conversation he made to a group of children at school, he was immediately overjoyed. ”

Carnegie added: "Carnegie, the Iron King, can easily lead him to answer questions that he would not normally answer, if you compliment him on how useful and moving his speech is." ”

He added: "Complimenting Carnegie or Rockefeller on their business leadership skills will never interest them, and they will come across as insincere." However, 'family finance' and 'public speaking' are the vanity of their fetishness. ”

Such a famous figure can be said to have seen a lot of the world, and it is generally necessary to invite him to give a speech or attend a meeting, which is simply impossible to invite eight sedan chairs, but a seat can be successfully solved by touting without money. It can be seen that if necessary, it must be filmed.

If you want to get ahead as soon as possible, you must first clarify your subjective consciousness and develop the habit of complimenting others at any time as soon as possible. As the saying goes, "Habit is second nature", "Habit becomes nature", "Habit becomes nature", when complimenting others has become your habit, your success is just around the corner. At that time, the people who have pointed fingers at you behind your back, or even criticized you, will be impressed by you.