Asking for people also has skills, using morality or people's hearts to conquer the other party, whether to beg in every possible way or skillfully through "unscrupulous means" as long as the goal can be achieved, it also requires enough patience, perseverance, enough thick skin and strong enough self-esteem.

Before the start of the new semester on September 1, a certain principal must go into hiding in Tibet. What to hide? He hid in his hand and pinched a certain secretary, a certain director, and a certain director to write a "note" to the related households.

Although the principal is young, he manages the school well, the quality of the school's teaching is good, and the promotion rate is like a thermometer in the sky, even overshadowing the key schools. The fame is outside, and the gods from all walks of life are uninvited, and they want to send their children to be cast into "dragons" and "phoenixes".

So, the problem arises, there are many small bodhisattvas in the temple, whose children are good to accept? The master faced by the principal has a background, a backstage, and can all go through the sky, and they can't be provoked. There is only one way left - hide!

During the day at school, he asked two very responsible guards to block all the related households. But the phone couldn't be blocked, so it was stipulated that all calls to the principal would be replied, "The principal went to a meeting."

Once, the principal's wife called the principal, and the answer on the phone was: "It's time for a meeting!" "The principal's wife said;" Meeting? How don't I know? The other party said angrily: "How old are you?" Does the principal have to report to you when he has a meeting? The principal's wife said, "Of course." Otherwise, he doesn't want to eat? The other party is obviously not very bright-headed: "Joke! Can you afford the principal's meal? The principal's wife said: "It's been more than ten years!" The other party seemed to have realized: "You, who are you!" The principal's wife replied confidently: "I am his wife!" ”

Seeing that the school was heavily guarded, impregnable as a fortress, and there was no gap to drill, the related household turned the direction of attack and went straight to the principal's house.

Begin. The principal is too paralyzed and underestimates the enemy, and still uses "evasive tactics" in the school. As soon as the doorbell rang, I asked my wife or daughter to open the door, and when I saw that it was an unfamiliar face, I always replied: "The principal is not at home, I have something to look for at the school!" Then, with a bang, shut all your worries out.

However, soon I met a young man with a hard spirit, and when he heard that the principal was not at home, he smiled: I sat at the door and waited for him. After speaking, he really sat on the steps of the staircase.

The principal's wife didn't take it seriously, closed the door, and did her own thing. When the TV station broadcast the "Good Night to the Audience" preparation, the principal's wife noticed movement outside the door, opened the door and saw that the young man was still sitting on the steps.

"Why aren't you coming home yet?"

"Wait for the principal, I think, no matter how busy the principal is, he will have to go home and sleep."

"Sometimes, though, you don't come back." The principal's wife thought that this sentence might discourage the young man's determination.

"That's okay, anyway, I won't see the principal today, and my wife won't let me go home and sleep."

The principal's wife realized the seriousness of the matter, closed the door, and reported to the principal.

Obviously, if the young man is really allowed to sit outside the door all night, then it will naturally have a bad impact on the neighbors, not to mention, almost all of the people living in this dormitory are the principals of various schools, the director of teaching and the like, and it will damage the image of the principal. If you let the young man in, it is not appropriate, not to mention that you have deceived the principal of the house is not at home, and you have made the family sit at the door and wait for hours, and now suddenly sit at home like a rain from the sky, isn't it fun for the family? Besides, we haven't figured out who this young man is behind yet, so it's a shame to ask someone to grab the handle.

What to do? The headmaster was in a dilemma, going back and forth in the house, like a caged beast.

Finally, the principal had an idea and came up with a way to fall down from the balcony, the principal's house was on the second floor, and he was lucky, he fell and arrived in the courtyard. The principal patted the dirt under him, picked up the briefcase thrown down by his wife, clipped it with his arm, and walked around the yard twice, and then climbed the stairs as if he had just gotten off work. Seeing the young man sitting on the steps, he pretended to be surprised: "Hey, what are you doing here?" ”

When the young man saw him, he burst into tears: "Headmaster, I've been waiting for you......"

As mentioned above, this young man achieved his goal of asking for help by "sitting on the ground". "Sitting on the ground", also known as "wheel tactics", "fatigue tactics", and "mushroom soaking", is one of the most effective tactics commonly used by people to seek help.

"Mushroom picking" is a special kind of man-seeking technique. It can strive for positive effects in a negative form, can show its determination and perseverance to not give up until it reaches its goal, put pressure on the other party, can also increase the opportunity for contact, and more fully express its own attitude, thoughts and feelings, so as to influence the other party's attitude and achieve success. This tactic seems simple, but there is a lot of knowledge in it, and not everyone can do it well. Therefore, it is necessary to tell you the following tips:

Good at self-control and patience

Enough patience is the premise and foundation of "Pickling Mushrooms". When there is a stalemate when access is blocked, people's immediate reaction is usually irritability, frustration, annoyance, or even anger. However, this does not help the matter to be resolved. You should control yourself sensibly and adopt an attitude of patience.

At this time, patience is an understanding of the other person's situation, an expectation of a turning point, and confidence in the success of the other person, and with this state of mind, you can mentally put yourself in a strong position. Be able to mobilize all your ingenuity and find ways to break through the deadlock. Even if it takes a certain amount of time, it will not hesitate.

From another point of view, "pickled mushrooms" consumes time. And time is precisely a weapon. Time is precious to everyone. The last thing people can afford is time. Therefore, if you are patient enough and put on a posture of "fighting a protracted war" against the opponent, it will have a psychological deterrent effect on the opponent. "Bubble" versus "drag" is enough to urge them to change their intentions and speed up their work. So, you have to hold your breath and patiently sacrifice a little time, but you can buy more time.

The construction of a college building urgently needs 20 tons of asphalt. The school sent an assistant to the material department to ask for it, but the director in charge of the matter said that he was busy with work and would have to wait two months to pick up the goods, and the assistant was very anxious, how could he wait two months? When he learned that there was a spot in the warehouse, and he was only dragged because he didn't "pay tribute", he was even more angry.

But he struggled to control his feelings and think of a solution. He had no money and nothing, and besides, he didn't want to come to that. He was determined to "bubble" with the director.

From the next day onwards, he came to the director's office every day, patiently pleading and complaining to the director. The Commissioner was annoyed and ignored him. If you ignore it, he will sit aside and wait, open his mouth at the first opportunity, be polite, not noisy, and plead to speak. The director is in a hurry, and he can't push it and can't run away. On the fifth day of "soaking", the director couldn't sit still, and he exclaimed: "Alas, I have convinced you." Take care of you this time, give it to you in advance! ”

Whether there is enough patience is also related to the strength of people's self-esteem.

Some people are too thin-skinned and have too much self-esteem to withstand the blow of the first rejection. As soon as they are hindered, they blush, feel humiliated, and angry, and either quarrel with others and fall apart, or they go away without looking back.

It seems that this kind of person has a lot of "backbone", but in fact, this is an excessively fragile self-esteem, which leads them to only care about face and do not want to do everything possible to achieve their goals, which is not beneficial to their careers.

Therefore, when we ask for people, we must have self-esteem, but also do not have excessive self-esteem, in order to achieve the purpose of communication, sometimes the skin may as well be thicker, touch a nail, the face is not red and the heart does not beat, not angry and annoyed, still smile and deal with people, as long as there is still a glimmer of hope, we must strive for it, and never give up until the goal is achieved.

Be good at seeing opportunities

To "soak mushrooms", you must not only be able to "soak", but also be able to "soak". In other words, "bubbles" are not to passively consume time, nor to play scoundrels with others, but to be good at taking positive actions to influence and influence the other party, and promote the transformation of the situation in a good direction.

Section Chief Zhang of a certain city insurance company went to a township to carry out insurance business, but because the masses did not understand the nature of insurance work, they were afraid of suffering losses and were unwilling to participate, and the village chief was the most stubborn. Section Chief Zhang was determined to capture this fortress, and he traveled dozens of miles every day to propagate and mobilize them, but the village chief was afraid to see him, so he hid and left. Once, when he heard that the village chief had gone to a relative's house in a neighboring county dozens of miles away to help build a house, he chased after him by bicycle. After finishing the work, he also grinded with the village chief.

In order to find a time for a long talk, Section Chief Zhang simply got up before dawn, rushed to the village in the rain, and stood outside the village chief's house for two hours. Even 'God' has to raise your hands and surrender! ”

As soon as the fortress of the village chief was breached, the situation of the village's participation in insurance work was opened.

As the saying goes, "The human heart is made of flesh." No matter how big the distance between the two parties is, as long as you are good at proving your sincerity with actions, it will prompt the other party to think, and then understand your painstaking efforts, and jump out of the stubborn box, then you will "bubble" out of hope.

There is a young man and a woman who love each other, but the woman's mother thinks that the young man is young and disagrees. Although Xiao Wang is not good at words, he is very scheming and diligent. He often came to her house to help with the work, and he didn't care about the old man's eyes, and he didn't care about the cold bench. Seeing that her briquettes were gone, she took the initiative to pull them, and she went to pick them as soon as she ran out of water. Once when it rained, I saw a leak, and immediately braved the rain to go to the house to plug the leak. Her mother was sick and didn't have a car, so he ran to the hospital on his back, and the old man was moved to tears, saying, "Xiao Wang is such a good boy, I agreed." ”

Skillful in language

Sometimes when you ask someone and the other party pushes you not to do it, it's not that you don't want to do it, but because you have practical difficulties or doubts. At this time, if you only rely on actions to "bubble", it will be difficult to work, and even the other party will be "bubbled" and annoyed, which is not conducive to doing things.

In this case, the work of the mouth is very important. Be empathetic, grasp the crux of the problem, and skillfully use language to attack the heart.

In the early eighties, there was such a true story of the famous Luan into Tianjin project: the troops who were responsible for the construction of the tunnel were once unable to supply the tunnel, and faced a shutdown and delayed the construction period. The leader was so anxious that he sent Company Commander Li to a chemical plant in northeast China to ask for help.

Company Commander Li rushed to the supply and marketing department of the chemical plant day and night, but the reply he got was only one sentence: There is no goods at the moment! He looked for the factory director, but the factory director was busy and didn't have time to listen to him explain more, so he followed up and said a few words when he had the opportunity; He was soft and hard, but the factory director was unmoved, and said to him firmly: "There is no goods at the moment, and I can't do anything." ”

Speaking of which, it seems that the road is blocked.

The factory director poured him a cup of tea and persuaded him to find another way. Company Commander Li didn't give up, he took a sip of tea, and found a new topic when he saw this water: "This water is so sweet!" Tianjin people are bitter, drinking bitter water from the Haihe trough, each depression, without putting tea is yellow. He caught a glimpse of the factory director wearing a watch made in Tianjin, and then said, "You are also wearing a Tianjin watch?" I heard that now every ten tables in the country have one piece of Tianjin, and one out of every four people uses Tianjin's alkali, you are an expert in industry, and you know the relationship between water and industry best. It takes a ton of water to build a bicycle, 160 tons of water to make a ton of alkali, and 200 tons of water to make a ton ......of paper. Without **, the project will have to be postponed ......"

He said it very emotionally and reasonably. The factory director was a little moved and asked, "Are you from Tianjin?" "No, I'm from Henan, maybe when the water is opened, I won't be able to drink the water of the Luan River!" The factory director was completely impressed, he grabbed the phone and gave an order: "The whole factory works overtime for three days!" Three days later, Company Commander Li pulled a car of ** and returned victoriously.

Words are the key to happiness. When you get to the point, you knock on the door of the other person's heart.