The temperament and hobbies of the giver can be seen through the gifts

Someone often receives some gifts during the Chinese New Year, and he always writes down these gifts and the name of the giver every time, in order to use them as a reference for returning gifts.

Over time, he gradually realized that the person's temperament and hobbies could be observed from the gifts given by the other party. If the other party sends you aged wine, it actually means that the giver also has a preference for wine; If you give an elegantly shaped tea set, the giver must be a person who has a penchant for tea.

In this way, everyone's choice of gifts, often unconsciously reveal their preferences, even if the price is quite high, will produce "this is also their favorite" this kind of psychology, do not care about the price of the price.

However, it should be noted that no matter how high the giver's own preference for something is and how good the evaluation is, there is no guarantee that the recipient will actually like it. Even carefully chosen gifts to please the other person can sometimes have the opposite effect. Therefore, the gift itself has the color of forcing a part of the self to others, so as to lose the choice to control the other party in return.

Giving gifts to powerful or social status people often has a bit of a tendency to be attached to the situation, and this kind of psychological pressure often brings some oppression to the giver. Some gift-givers deliberately take advantage of this psychological pressure to make the recipient feel "embarrassed", so they cannot ignore the request made by the giver.

Therefore, remember: self-selling gifts will lose the meaning of gift-giving, and only giving what the other person needs and being able to truly express their sincerity is the true "art of gift-giving".

To return the gift given to the other party, you may wish to refer to the gift given by the other party, and then return the same series or similar gifts, which will make the other party feel "intimate" and receive unexpected effects.

Give generous gifts to subordinates, and it is easy to get a deep impression

Generally speaking, it has become a custom for gift givers to give high-priced items to the upper level and ordinary items to the lower level based on the social status. For example, the difference between expensive foreign liquor for superiors and a few domestic cigarettes for subordinates is really not small.

In fact, it is not uncommon for the weight of a gift to be proportional to one's position in the other person's mind, so it is inevitable to weigh oneself when accepting a gift.

Therefore, as a boss, you should try to break the gift giving routine, and you may wish to be generous when giving gifts to your subordinates, and give the gifts that the other party needs and expects, and you will definitely get unexpected returns. At the same time, if the gap between superiors and subordinates is larger, the higher the degree of feeling valued, and the relatively higher the reward.

You know, when you give a gift that exceeds the other person's imagination and expectations, not only will the other person feel valued, but on the other hand, it will also raise the opinion of others, and there is nothing more pleasing than the value of others. This feeling of heightened self-awareness satisfies the sense of superiority of the self more than the price of money in goods, and at the same time, it is also very easy to feel good about the giver. On the other hand, if the other party is a boss, it is difficult for the subordinate to blindly give high-priced gifts, but it is difficult to receive this effect.

It is worth mentioning that if you want your boss to be happy to receive a gift and expect to achieve a valued effect, it is best to choose something that has nothing to do with monetary value - such as art, or "our own melon ...... in the countryside", "a relative's own chicken ......", etc., which can often achieve unexpected results. Because, for a boss or a person of high social status, giving something expensive is just a "icing on the cake" and will not have any special effect.

The value of the gift depends on the status and relationship between the two parties, and when you receive care or favor from others, you must give it as a token of gratitude. However, gift-giving has caused a lot of trouble for many people.

A friend who is very fond of helping others, but is deeply embarrassed by the gifts given by the recipients, because many people whose families are not wealthy, but they give very expensive gifts, and they often feel ashamed of it, and he often sighs and says, "Actually, you don't have to give such a big gift." ”

To put it bluntly, those people just want to "slap a swollen face and become fat".

Not everyone thinks of giving a good gift to each other when they receive a favor. For example, a good colleague starts with a blind date, that is, he gives constant assistance, from planning dating to wedding introducers, but the groom does not give him a particularly heavy thank you gift, usually only expresses his meaning as usual. However, if you want to ask the general manager to be the introducer at the wedding, you are more likely to buy expensive things, especially if the other party is of prominent social status.

The amount of the gift is often determined by the impression of the recipient. On the eve of the holiday, many couples can be heard whispering in front of the gift counters in many shopping malls, such as "whether it is too rude" and "not worth giving such an expensive thing". On the other hand, from the recipient's point of view, if the recipient receives much less than expected, he will be greatly displeased, and even more angry than if he did not give the gift at all. You may blame the other party for "not knowing the times" or "being rude", etc., and there is an anger that your status is degraded.

Giving your family something they like more than their own will strengthen their affection for you

When the American film "E. T" and caused a sensation in society, a gentleman went to visit his friend and bought a "E. T" model was given to two 3-year-old and 5-year-old children, and the children were so happy that they called him "Uncle E. T" ever since, and every time they went, they were welcomed by the family.

Many people have seen and even experienced such situations firsthand.

There is a saying: "Capture the thief and capture the king", which may not be very appropriate to describe this situation; But the truth is that sometimes giving the other person something he likes is better than giving something that his family likes, which can strengthen the other person's good impression of you.

In particular, this kind of gift-giving for family members can sometimes have unexpected effects such as a qualitative change in the relationship with the other person.

Because the relationship between you and the other person may be an informal interaction due to work, and giving gifts to the favor of the other person's family can break free from this form of interaction, and then establish a more intimate personal friendship.

However, it is worth noting that the content of the gift should be somewhat unexpected, otherwise the effect will not be too long. For example, if you visit each other during the Chinese New Year, and give the other party's children New Year's money, it will become a ceremonial gift, without any surprises, and of course, it will not make the other party have unexpected surprises.

Accepting freebies for no reason can create a psychological barrier to use

In contemporary society, human affection is extremely weak, and nine times out of ten people will guess that it must not be a good thing, and even think that the other party has bad intentions, so they dare not use it.

In celebration of the anniversary, a hotel held a free coffee coupon giveaway, but thousands of hospitality tickets were handed out. There were not many people coming, which made the hotel very troublesome. The propaganda made in order to attract customers has been unexpectedly failed, and I don't know what to do?

In fact, as long as you change the method slightly, you may want to use a questionnaire and give a coffee voucher (of course, the simpler the content of the question, the better), and it may be acceptable to everyone.

People have the habit of being greedy for small and cheap, and when they encounter a big auction, they rush to buy it, regardless of whether the purchased items are practical or not. However, activities such as tastings and tastings often make people worry about whether they are safe and reliable. Just like the free tea on the side of the road in the past, although it was liked by the public in the past, but now I am afraid that no one dares to touch it! For free things, when using them, there will inevitably be strong psychological resistance.

As the saying goes, "there is no such thing as a free lunch", if you often accept items from others for no reason, it will produce a psychological burden, and the so-called "no merit is not rewarded" is this truth. In case the other person asks you to help with some difficult issues, it will be difficult for you to refuse.

It is important to remove the psychological burden. Give the other person a valid reason, such as an interview, a questionnaire, etc. can sweep away the user's doubts and make them gladly acceptable.

In order to avoid the resistance of "no merit", when giving gifts, add a normal reason, and there will be no rejection.

When people are in trouble, they feel especially grateful for receiving a small amount of funding

An oil painter who is currently active once revealed that he lived a very difficult life when he was young, often skipping three meals. Once, he took a painting that he didn't even believe in to a dealer, who looked at it for a long time and paid him what he thought was a lot of money at the time.

In the case of the painter, the dealer did not buy the painting, but gave him a future. After that, he finally managed to get through it.

Is that a lot of money? Not really, but to this day, the painter must still feel that this amount is very large. When a person is in distress and depression, someone extends a helping hand to him, which can make people feel a lasting sense of gratitude. For a painter, the dealer's money is indeed the foundation of his future, so if the now famous painter has a satisfactory work, he will definitely give it to the dealer and sell it for the ordinary price.

People's standards for money often vary greatly depending on the situation, so "sending charcoal in the snow" is far more meaningful than "icing on the cake".

When Japanese Prime Minister Kakuei Tanaka was the secretary general, he was busy presiding over the election affairs, however, he did not forget to send condolences to the homes of the unsuccessful parliamentarians, and encouraged them not to be discouraged and come back next time.

For the legislators who were not elected, Kakuei Tanaka's encouragement has deeply touched them, and the sending of condolences has deepened their gratitude. After that, more and more people supported Tanaka, and a "Tanaka faction" was formed.

It would have been a different matter if Tanaka had sent the same amount or gift to the home of the elected member of parliament at this time, and those gifts and gifts would have become the icing on the cake, not at all special, let alone effective. True friendship can only be achieved by reaching out to others in distress. After all, Kakuei Tanaka is a person who has really suffered in order to understand the subtle psychology of human beings.

Spending money at someone's wedding or at an ascension banquet is better than reaching out when someone is sick or a friend is in trouble.

Fifth, drink at the wine table to make friends

Asking people to do things and inviting them to dinner is a very common and normal thing among the common people, and as long as they do not have too much contact with officialdom affairs, and do not use this to win over and corrupt state cadres with ulterior motives, there is nothing wrong with the suspicion of indiscriminate corruption.

In fact, for thousands of years, Chinese have always been good at using banquet venues as a battlefield for communication and public relations, because the problem of eating has long been a big problem in Chinese life. "People take food as the sky", even when they usually meet and greet each other, sometimes they greet each other like this: "Have you eaten?" ”

In the process of asking for a meal, there are at least three functions: first, before asking for someone, it can cultivate relationships, contact feelings, and lay the foundation for future requests; Second, at the banquet, there are fewer constraints between people, and when the wine is hot, it is not easy to be rejected if there is something to ask for; The third is a kind of reward for thanking the other party for their generosity, which is a kind of etiquette in the "exchange of courtesies".

However, it is not easy to invite guests to dinner, ** entrepreneur and writer Ms. Leung Fung Yee once expressed such feelings, she wrote in an article:

Entertaining guests is really hard work, and the manpower mobilized is many times more than the material resources that can be seen by the naked eye.

A guest list alone requires a group of people to deal with it, from formulating the list, designing invitations, arranging mailings, to following up, etc., it is completely up to a team to deal with it.

In deciding which guests to invite, it is a set of knowledge, and if you invite A Jia, you must invite A Yi. knew that Ah Bing would not attend, but if he didn't send him an invitation, it would be disrespectful, and he would have to send it. It is a trouble to ask someone whose status and reputation are too different, and it will be difficult to climb and bend, the former will make the other party misunderstand that you are using him to decorate the scene, and the latter may make him uncomfortable if he is in the banquet. There are also some customers, if you only send him an invitation, but don't give him a phone call or write a note, he thinks you are not doing a good job. For others, don't put pressure on him, otherwise it will ruin the relationship, so just send the post out.

In short, how complex the interpersonal relationship is, how difficult it is to get a treat.

Hospitality is not only a matter of intricacies, but also reflects the various forms of life, human affection, and skill in handling things from the action of entertaining, which is not a very valuable manifestation of courage and thought.

I remember when I was working in the exchange, I hosted a banquet for VIPs from dozens of countries and the city's financial and corporate circles. Not to get rid of the sea of suffering, but to learn a valuable lesson in life, one of my colleagues said:

"Evil makes up for a lesson in the art of interpersonal relationships, like living ten more years all at once."

It is no exaggeration to say that in reality, there are often dangers to test yourself, so please invite a big guest. It's the same as an experience......

From this point of view, there must be a lot of money.

Guests should be invited in this way

As a kind of etiquette in the interaction between people, inviting people to dinner is the first step, and appropriate invitations can provide conditions and lay the foundation for the smooth and successful behavior of asking people. To do this, we should:

First, choose the right object.

Determining who you want is what the first line of the invitation should address. The choice of the invitee must be based on the purpose of the communication. In general, chess should be played with a chess friend; Invite a dancer to dance; Invite a golfer when playing; Housewarming and funerals invite relatives and friends to get old; The opening ribbon cutting should be conducive to the development of work, business contacts, coordination of community relations and media such as communication......

If you encounter this situation, you should carefully arrange, choose the invitee, according to the nature of the person, the need, and the size of the banquet, etc., follow the principle of first main and secondary, first close and then estranged, to delineate the scope of invitation, and determine the invitation list in turn.

In addition, due consideration should be given to the differences in knowledge, age, status, personality and relationship between the invitees, so as to prevent inviting people who are not others, destroying the harmony of the relationship between the invitees, and bringing inconvenience and trouble to your interpersonal communication.

Second, adopt the appropriate approach.

The way to invite should be analyzed on a case-by-case basis, depending on the nature and object of the communication. Scholars, experts, leaders, etc., most of them are busy with work and tight time, so it is best to meet them in advance so that they can make work adjustments and time arrangements; It is naturally better to make an early appointment with a lot of leisure time and easy scheduling of work, and even if you are invited to something, you can generally be on request; For the dignitaries of a certain group, open invitation, or even with the help of the media, can not only reflect impartiality and fairness, but also help attract attention, promote publicity, and expand influence; Confidential conversations with friends are carried out quietly, which is more conducive to avoiding the eyes of others and ensuring the concealment of social activities. For ordinary correspondence, ordinary relatives and friends, it is enough to say hello, make a phone call, and send a message; For more important work contacts, business relationships, public relations affairs, etc., it is necessary to use the corresponding official document format, such as sending letters, sending invitations, etc. Or according to a certain specification to send a special person to convey, personally come to the door, to show attention, solemnity and respect. In short, the way of inviting should vary from case to case and from person to person.

Third, pay attention to "action", "clarity", "convenience" and "sincerity".

The "line" is the feasibility of the invitation. Someone set up a restaurant, opened and cut the ribbon, and had to invite a certain mayor to come in person to decorate the façade and make publicity, but who knew that he couldn't invite him for a long time, and he delayed it again and again, and finally he didn't invite it, wasting time in vain. Therefore, the invitation should be done according to one's ability, neither making it difficult for others, nor doing what it cannot do.

"Ming" means to be clear and understandable. Before the invitation, be sure to clarify the time, place, activity content, and inviting object of the banquet, so that you can have a good idea of the invitation. It is also necessary to convey the above matters to the invitee so that he or she can accept the invitation, take on the corresponding role, and attend the appointment on time.

"Convenience" is to think about the invitees as much as possible and provide them with convenience in terms of travel and transportation. Boss Wang wanted to ask Professor Zhang to help him solve a scientific problem. Professor Zhang was old and acted unusually, so he originally planned to refuse, but he didn't expect Boss Wang to send a special car to pick him up and take care of him. Professor Zhang was very moved and changed his mind. In this way, it is convenient for others, convenient for yourself, and beneficial to others.

"Sincerity" means to meet sincerely, not to be hypocritical, not to breach the contract, not to lose trust. Someone once invited a few friends to his house as guests. My friend believed it, but who knew that he was hypocritical and perfunctory, so that his friend was closed. His faux pas made his friend very angry. After many years, when it comes to this matter, my friend is still haunted. If you have deceived others and lost your friends with such an invitation, wouldn't it hurt others!

Etiquette at the wine table

When it comes to drinking, almost everyone has experienced it firsthand, and "wine culture" is also a topic that is both old and new. Modern people have increasingly discovered the role of wine in the process of communication.

Indeed, wine plays a unique role as a medium of communication, welcoming guests, gathering friends, communicating with each other, and conveying friendship, so exploring the "mysteries" on the wine table can help you succeed in your communication.

Everyone is happy and happy, do not whisper that most of the guests at the banquet are more, so you should try to talk about some topics that most people can participate in, and get the recognition of most people, because of different personal interests and hobbies, knowledge, so the topic should not be too biased, to avoid self-respect, the world and the sea are north, the gods are boundless, and there is a phenomenon of digression, and ignore everyone.

In particular, try not to whisper to others, giving others a sense of mystery, which often produces a jealousy of "just the two of you", which affects the effect of drinking.

Aim at the guests and grasp the overall situationMost banquets have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When going to the banquet, you should first look around at everyone's expressions, distinguish between priorities, and don't just drink for the sake of drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, let alone let some grandstanding drunkards mess with the host's intentions.

For example, there was such a banquet; As soon as Xiao Zhao came to work in the agency, in order to deepen his relationship and enhance understanding with his colleagues, he invited his colleagues to have a dinner.

At the wine table, Xiao Zhao wanted to use the opportunity of toasting to express his mood and ask for the care of his colleagues, but his colleague Xiao Li was noisy, always grabbed the wine bottle, and claimed to be the wine chief, became the commander-in-chief, and the colleagues were completely intoxicated with wine, no one realized that Xiao Zhao, who was holding his stomach, left one after another, and Xiao Zhao's hospitality was completely dissipated by Xiao Li. Such guests are still not invited.

Proper language, witty and humorous wine table can show a person's talent, knowledge, cultivation and communicative demeanor, sometimes a witty and humorous language, will leave a deep impression on others, so that people invisibly have a good impression of you. Therefore, it is important to know when to say what to say, and it is important to use the right language and be witty and humorous.

Once, a certain unit asked the master Lao Zhang to debug the equipment, and after the incident, several comrades from the technical department of the other unit invited them to the hotel for a meal in order to express their gratitude.

Lao Zhang is the oldest at the wine table, out of politeness, everyone first gave Lao Zhang a glass of wine, they were afraid that Lao Zhang did not drink well and began to persuade him to drink, among which the technician Xiao Wang raised the wine glass and said to Lao Zhang: "I must let you lie down and go back tonight!" Lao Zhang was startled when he heard this, and said that he would not drink anything, and then Xiao Wang immediately said: "I said that I will let you lie down and go back, I mean that I have already bought a sleeper for you, and I want you to lie on the sleeper and go back!" ”

Hearing Xiao Wang's explanation, Lao Zhang laughed and then drank another glass, happily ending the banquet.

Some people always like to use the wine field as a battlefield, and try their best to persuade others to drink a few more glasses, thinking that it is not true if they do not drink the amount.

"Talking about heroes with alcohol", it is okay for people who drink a lot, but it is difficult for those who drink a lot, and sometimes it is difficult to persuade them to drink excessively, which will completely destroy the original feelings of friends.

For example, in a certain unit, Xiao Tan's family renovated the house, invited a few friends to come to help, and after finishing the work, Xiao Tan invited a table of banquets. At the wine table, Xiao Tan relied on his own amount of alcohol, so he toasted desperately, and no one could drink it, causing a big fight between friends, but Xiao Tan was admitted to the hospital, and his friend left angrily.

Toasting in an orderly manner, with a clear distinction between priority and priority, is also a science. Under normal circumstances, the toast should be ordered by age, position, and the identity of the guest and host, and the order of the toast must be fully considered before toasting, and the priority must be clearly distinguished, even if you drink with unfamiliar people, you must first inquire about the identity or pay attention to how others call it, which should be known in your heart to avoid embarrassment or hurt feelings.

A banquet was held in the office of a factory, and the participants were the secretary of the party committee, the deputy secretary, the secretary of the Youth League committee, etc., and one person from the adjacent table came to toast in the banquet.

Seeing this scene, the party secretary obviously showed dissatisfaction. At this time, the deputy secretary immediately said: "You are very good at doing things, people often say that you toast the secretary of the party committee to relieve your strength, and after toasting the secretary of the Youth League Committee, you have a long-term consciousness!" One sentence amused everyone, which not only eliminated the embarrassing scene of Mei, but also kept the banquet in a good atmosphere, and the toaster also felt his mistake.

Therefore, when toasting, be sure to grasp the order of toasting. If you have a request for a guest at the table, you should naturally be more respectful to him. But be careful: if you have a higher status or an older person present, you should not only be respectful to the person who can help you, but also toast the Venerable Elder first, otherwise it will make everyone embarrassed.

(6) Observe the face and understand the people's heartsIf you want to be appreciated by everyone at the wine table, you must learn to look at the faces, because to communicate with people, you must understand the people's hearts, and you can play a good role at the wine table.

For example, there was a time when a certain unit invited a leader to a banquet, and Xiao Zhang went to accompany him for a drink. After three rounds of drinking, everyone was almost drunk, but a leader had not drunk well, and he was embarrassed to take the initiative to say that he wanted to drink.

Xiao Zhang saw what the leader meant, took out a bottle of wine and said: "I drank very happily today, and the leaders are also very hard, I will play a game to help the fun, even if anyone speaks, they can't say the word 'no', and whoever says will be punished for drinking!" As soon as they heard it, they thought it was interesting and agreed.

At this time, Xiao Zhang tried his best to lead the topic to the leader, but he said a few "no" words one after another, drank several more glasses, and felt that he had drunk well, and everyone left happily. After that, the leader and his colleagues all boasted that Zhang had a good trick.

The edge gradually shoots, sit firmly on Mount Tai banquet to see the occasion clearly, correctly evaluate their own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to retain some wine power and speaking proportion, neither let others underestimate themselves and don't show themselves too much, choose the appropriate opportunity, and gradually radiate their edge, in order to sit firmly on Mount Tai, so as not to give others the idea of "this ability", so that everyone dare not underestimate your strength.

For example, there was a wine banquet, and Xiao Wang was the east. At the beginning, Xiao Wang didn't say much, but after three rounds of drinking, everyone proposed to sing to help the fun, and some people rushed to perform first. When it was Xiao Wang's turn, he sang a song "Toast Song", and combined with the environmental conditions at the time, he changed the lyrics, and it was set off at once. People raised their glasses one after another, praising Xiao Wang for hiding deeply and winning later.

(8) Avoid the real and the false, skillfully turn the spearhead on the wine table, you should remember to use wine to convey love, take love as the priority, arrange all kinds of relationships on the wine table, and skillfully resist the "attack" in all aspects, which will not affect the effect of drinking, but also give full play to your communication skills, which is the most critical.

For example: Xiao Gao invited his classmates to a reunion, and the waiter at the wine table brought a red bright carp, and the fish head was just facing Xiao Gao, Xiao Gao knew that the fish head would drink more than anyone, but Xiao Gao knew that he was not strong enough to drink, so he secretly came up with a trick to deal with it.

When someone proposed to drink fish head wine, Xiao Gao immediately said: "Today's class reunion, in order to relive our friendship back then, this fish head should be facing our old class leader, only when he drinks this glass of wine, can we show that we in the past and now respect the old class leader!" ”

The words were unanimously agreed by everyone, and the old squad leader also drank the glass of wine happily. Xiao Gao's spearhead turned cleverly and just right, which made the friendship of the students deeper.

There is not much wine, but it is strong when it is loved; There are not many words, but when you click, you can get through. It is a rare opportunity to make friends through wine, and I believe you can control all kinds of scenes at the wine table and make more friends!

(9) Don't favor one over the other, although people have different social roles and social status, they all need to be respected, and the spiritual needs of maintaining face are the same. If you forget this fact, when you interact with them, you add three layers of courtesy to "important people" and leave ordinary people out in the cold, you will stab the latter's self-esteem and face, and lose a large number of people.

There is such a family feast; At the banquet sat the male host, the section chief, and several colleagues of the male host, and the wine and food on the round table had been placed with a sense of wholeheartedness, but the housewife in the flower skirt still served the food vigorously, and said bluntly:

"There's nothing good to eat, please deal with it!"

The man stood up, removed the half-empty dish in front of the section chief, took the hot dish and put it in front of the section chief, enthusiastically served the section chief with food and wine, and just said "please" to other colleagues perfunctorily.

In the face of such a "distinction between respect and inferiority" hospitality, imagine how several colleagues of the male host will feel? They were so embarrassed that two of them became angry and took their leave before the feast was over.

At a banquet like this, the male host only sees the section chief in his eyes, and treats others slowly, which damages the self-esteem and face of his colleagues, and instead of enhancing the friendship between the host and guest, it will cause estrangement.

Although people need to prioritize and prioritize in social interactions, it is impossible to exert force evenly and uniformly. But smart people, when ensuring the "focus", never ignore the "general". For example, there are a few people at the banquet, they haven't seen each other for a long time, and one of them is the one who is eager to find help for help, how do you deal with it? Do you catch one person and ignore the rest, or do you take care of them one by one, make a warm noise, and then explain the situation to the others to ensure the focus? That's a trick.

For example, when colleagues and leaders of the unit come to your house for dinner, do you only stare at the leader? Or can you show a warm attitude and say a kind word or two when you "serve" your colleagues after you have to pour tea and wine for the leader first? Here, in addition to the fact that skill is required, the fundamental issue is to treat everyone equally, "the lower eyelids must not be swollen".

Bit by bit, see the courtesy

When guests come to the house for a banquet, you, as the host, must be thoughtful in your hospitality etiquette, reflecting your enthusiasm and diligence in every bit.

Welcome

Be prepared to invite friends to your home. If you know in advance that there are guests visiting, you should clean the courtyard in advance to welcome the guests, and prepare tea sets, smoking sets, drinks, etc., and you can also prepare fruits, sugar, coffee, etc. according to your family conditions. Guests should go out to meet them in advance when they arrive at the appointed time. If it's too late to clean up the room. Apologize to the guest and don't rush to clean the house and get dusty. At the same time, it is necessary to pay attention to the neatness and neatness of the appearance, avoid unkemptness, if you wear underwear and underwear, you should change into casual clothes in time, and it is very rude to wear underwear and underwear to welcome guests.

If you are not familiar with the local area, it is best to pick up guests at the station or alley entrance. When guests come to the door, they should be warmly welcomed. First-time visitors should introduce each other and then give up their seats and hand out tea. If it is winter, you should go to a warmer room, if it is summer, you can hand the guest a cool towel, and prepare an electric fan or turn on the air conditioner, and the guest should also ask if he has eaten. If you are a regular customer, it is best to greet you at the hall door, and when the guest arrives, you should warmly say, "Please come in", "Please sit", etc.; If you need to change your slippers, you can tactfully say, "Please change into slippers for more comfort." ”

Flexible when the guest happens to meet himself to go out to do business, it is necessary to treat it separately depending on the priority of the matter, if it is really important, you should explain the situation to the visitor, and you can come back another day; If you are a distant guest, you can wait in the house for a while, and go home immediately after finishing your errands. If you go far away, you can only ask for forgiveness or be accompanied by family members.

Hospitality

After giving up your seat and introducing guests into the house, you should give up the guests to a prominent seat, not sit in the middle and let the guests sit on either side.

If it is the first time for the guest, the family should be introduced and greetings should be exchanged. Then make tea, hand out cigarettes, or bring out fruits, snacks, etc. to entertain guests. If you invite a guest to eat, you should ask if you want to wash your hands, and if you invite a guest to eat watermelon, you should have a plate and towel for the melon seeds, melon rinds, and a towel.

Tea ceremonyIn family hospitality, tea serving guests is an important part of hospitality. When guests sit down, try to wash the teacups within the customer's line of sight. Even if you have a clean teacup that you usually have to spare, you should re-blanch it with boiling water. Make the guests feel that you pay attention to hygiene, and avoid the embarrassing situation of reluctance to import the tea cup because of uncleanness.

To make tea with boiling water, if there is no boiling water, boil a small amount immediately for emergency needs, and say hello to guests, please wait for a while. Boiling water to make tea is conducive to overflowing the fragrance of tea, and at the same time, it is beneficial to import tea after sinking to the bottom. Do not use warm water to make tea, so that the tea leaves float to the mouth of the cup, which will hinder the conversation and make the guests reluctant to drink.

Teacups should be handled gently. Don't be reckless, don't spill the tea water, make the coffee table wet, even if it is wiped with a wipe, it will affect the atmosphere of the guests. If it is splashed on the guest, it is even more embarrassing.

Serving tea is also a etiquette that should be noted. Tea should be served to guests with both hands. For cups with ears, it is common to grasp the ears with one hand and hold the bottom of the cup with the other, and give the tea to the guest, followed by "Please use tea" or "Please drink tea". Do not pinch the rim of the cup with your five fingers and send it in front of the guest, it is neither hygienic nor polite to serve tea.

The pouring of tea should be gentle and gentle. At the same time, be careful not to pour too much at once, and form a rush overflow. If there is a lot of herbal tea, you should pour some and pour it again. Pour tea should be timely, when the guests talk about the excitement, do not pour tea frequently, when the guests stay for a long time, the tea is too light, to re-add the tea brewing, it is best to use the same kind of tea when rebrewing, do not change the variety at will.

Tobacco salutation is a custom of family hospitality in China, and it is a etiquette that cannot be ignored when hospitality. Once the guest is seated, you can open the cigarette case, pop out a few cigarettes (the part of the cigarette is exposed) with your hands, hand them over, and ask, "Do you smoke?" Please! "Please draw your own. If the guest says that they do not smoke, they should not be forced to smoke. Treat familiar guests, you can also hand over the open cigarette case, let the guest take one, if you can smoke, you can take one later, and then use a lighter or match to light the guest, in the process of toasting cigarettes, do not persuade the guest to smoke one after another, so as to avoid the guest in the helpless situation reluctant to smoke.

banquet

When you invite guests to dinner, you can prepare the dishes more deliciously, but you must master them properly and not be extravagant and wasteful. The reception should be mainly narrated, supplemented by the banquet, which mainly reflects the sincere emotional exchange between the host and the guest, rather than the high-end and noble dishes.

In advance, you should understand the customer's eating habits, generally in the southern coastal areas like Fujian, Guangdong people love to eat sweet meals, while the northerners have heavier tastes, and the dishes should be salted a little more, Sichuan people prefer spicy, a meal is not spicy, he will feel unpleasant. If you really don't know, you can ask the guest directly, or the guest can order the food themselves.

In the banquet, you can't force a person with a small amount of alcohol to drink a large amount of alcohol, but you can accompany him for a while, and he will not be angry. In addition, in the process of drinking, you should pay attention to controlling the amount of alcohol, so as not to get drunk in front of the guests and make a fool of yourself.

When entertaining, no matter what status the guest comes, you should receive it warmly so that the guest feels at home. At the feast, respect the old and love the young, when respecting guests, we should first respect the elders, then give children, and then respect the guests of the same generation according to the order of seating, so as to show that they are treated equally. When toasting, be both enthusiastic and moderate, and don't force people to make things difficult.

After eating, you should have tea and heart-to-heart talks. At this time, the host should talk with his heart, or listen to everyone's conversation, do not look left and right, absent-minded, let alone look at the watch, yawn, even if he is tired, but also cheer up, and always maintain a hospitable mood until the guest is sent out.

Drop-off

When the guest leaves, the host should be polite; The guest insists on leaving, but also when the guest leaves, the host will stand up to see him off, do not let the guest say that he wants to leave, the host will stand up to see off the guest, which will make the guest feel that you just left him false.

The host would like to express his gratitude for the gift from the guest and ask the guest not to break the bank in the future. At the same time, you should give back some suitable gifts for guests to take away. You can't be indifferent to the guest's gifts.

When sending off guests, you should get up and greet your family that the guests are leaving, so that the whole family can send them off warmly. Make the guest feel that the host and the whole family value him, and should not just owe it.

If the guests drink too much during the banquet, please remember to send the guests home after the meal. One is for the sake of politeness, and the other is for the safety of the guests, and they must be responsible to the end. It's also a great opportunity to bond with your guests.

You don't have to "pinch it"

Asking people to do things, pulling relationships and friendships, you don't necessarily have to eat and drink. With the development of society, many people are aware of this, in order to contact the relationship before asking for someone, or to repay the other person afterwards, there are many other ways to achieve this purpose, at this time, you must be familiar with the other person's interests, hobbies, and grasp their family background, surrounding information, so as to play a role when needed.

If the other party is a baseball fan, then the situation of the Sino-Japanese baseball game is the best news that makes him refreshed.

If the other party is a person who attaches great importance to the atmosphere, inviting him to a certain scenic spot after work, or taking advantage of the sunset to climb the city's tallest building to watch the night view, it is the best way to satisfy him.

If the other party likes Peking Opera, Yue Opera or other old dramas that make people doze off, even if you are not interested, you must behave with relish, cater to his appetite, and occasionally ask him to give him some unique tips.

Sometimes you may have to play a few rounds of mahjong with the "nobles", and there are some things you should pay attention to when playing mahjong:

Playing mahjong is undoubtedly the best opportunity to understand what kind of personality the opponent belongs to, but you must not use an eagle's aggressive gaze to stare at the opponent's every move. This kind of gaze may freak out the other person.

Ask for the other person's opinion beforehand, decide how big the cards to play, how long to play, and don't have too many laps, otherwise it will be boring.

Don't put too much water in order to please the "noble", deliberately let him everywhere, once the other party finds out, it will be very unhappy. So even if you want to let the other party, you must do it without showing a trace.

Sometimes invite the other party's guests to play some popular entertainment and sports activities, such as golf, billiards, bowling, etc. Please note when playing:

First of all, you must abide by the established rules and etiquette, and you must not exceed the etiquette and make the other party offensive. When the opponent is playing, you can't practice on the sidelines, or chatter non-stop, so that people's ears can't be quiet. People play a good ball and praise a few words; It's okay to break it, comfort him, take your time.

After playing a ball, you should not pacing around or chatting with others in a lazy manner, but should stand next to the "nobleman" and show concern for his ball.

Don't talk about asking for help while you're playing. The other party is interested in playing, and you just don't know how to put forward your own requirements, which makes the other party feel upset, and you will definitely not have a good face for you, and you will secretly think that you are really uninteresting and annoying. Then whether your goal of asking for someone will succeed is a bit dangerous.